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tohyorsih2:
I can't reply your DM now

OK! RSVP...

tohyorsih2:
I'm still here. I'm in shanghai university

Oh! Got couple of peeps there in that year.

I sent a DM.

tohyorsih2:
Are you in China?

I'm back in Nigeria. Are you still there?


Tsinghua University

tohyorsih2:
we gonna rock it as usual

Please, let's rock together. I'm all available this weekend ...

tohyorsih2:

Yes o! Hope you're enjoying your day. How's this weekend gonna be na?

tohyorsih2:
I'm more concerned about his handsome face and his nice stature

You should be more concerned about mine.

ISLAMABAD sounds more like and I sense it as.... ISLAM IS BAD

My laptop powers on but it doesn't booth.

Please, help.

Marriage is serious business, you are committing to each other and to building a life with each other 'for better and for worse'  - for the rest of your life. Nobody enters into a marriage with the intention for it to end prematurely. Therefore, this commitment of marriage should be carefully considered. So that your marriage can stay strong, and you can enjoy your life together for as long as you may live.

Part of ensuring that your marriage is strong, and can last the test of time lies in understanding who and what you are committing to. So to prevent any little, or large hiccups along the way, here are some things to know about each other before marriage.  


1. How do you negotiate together

Negotiation is number one on the list of things to know about each other before marriage because it should be a priority. After all your whole married life will involve negotiation. Starting with the little things such as 'if you put the toilet seat down, I'll stop leaving my hair clips in random places on the floor, all around the house'.  

To serious negotiations such as those involving money, property, locations and child raising (the real-life challenges).  If you can't negotiate well together, and can't learn to, then one of you is going to get their way over the other, and that is not conducive to an empowering relationship, or a strong marriage.

2. What are each other's expectations of the married life

If one of you wants to go and live in Antarctica, whilst the other the Caribbean there's going to be problems.  If one thinks marriage is being together 247 and the other doesn't there's going to be problems, and so it goes on. Understanding what you both expect, and negotiating together to find a common pathway, will clear up any problems that might rear their ugly heads at the wrong time. 


3. What would each of you find difficult to handle

This is a great thing to know about each other before marriage, and a good way to understand each other's boundaries, and to negotiate any that might be too stifling, or relaxed for the other party. This way, you all know where you stand.

4. How do you think you will work through those differences

Ideally, you'll be able to negotiate and compromise, but if you can't you'll walk into problems.  

5. How do you both handle stress, individually and together

This question helps each other to know what to expect in a worst case scenario, and to understand why your partner is behaving or acting a certain way. So that you can adapt and support each other, or at least just understand.  Making your marital life smooth.


6. Identify your communication styles and how can you improve them

Time to be honest about what's working and what's not in your communications with each other.  Communication is essential. and therefore this is an important thing to know about each other before you move into married life.

7. Repetitive patterns of behaviour

This question offers a clue about any problems that might crop up naturally. If there's been a history of addiction, it will open the floor to discuss how to handle that if it occurs in later life.  Similarly, if one party is possessive, insecure, or even aloof and not very tactile due to past issues, understanding this will help you both to realise what to do, how to respond and in some situations, avoid internalizing that the problem is you, or your marriage when it's not.


8. What are your thoughts about children

A really important thing to know before marriage, if one party wants children and the other doesn't there's going to be problems. The same goes if one party wants ten children and the other only one.  It's also useful to briefly talk about how you would feel if there were problems in conceiving. So that you can remind each other of your commitments (although it's worth saying that you may change your ideas as time passes – it's important to understand that).

9. Discuss children

If you have children, how do you imagine that you'll bring them up, what's important to you both. It's better to straighten this out from the offset, to avoid problems later.


10. How do you handle change

Some people don't mind switching things up and hate being stuck.  Others hate change with a passion. Of course, change is going to happen, but understanding where both of you are with that will help you to make life decisions that suit both parties.  

Whilst this list is not exclusive, it does highlight some of the important things to know about each other before marriage.  So that you have a chance to understand and communicate with each other clearly about what you want. And so that you can ensure that your idealistic pathways for life are not moving in opposite directions from the offset.

Doctors in Zimbabwe say they are being forced to use condoms when performing examinations due to the shortage of gloves.

The doctors who have been on strike for three weeks are demanding that the government address what they describe as a critical shortage of critical medicines as well as surgical and medical essentials.

Similarly, they are asking for payment of salaries in United States dollars after the government ruled out payment of wages in US dollars while negotiations have failed to yield good results.

The Treasurer of the Zimbabwe Hospital Doctors Association (ZHDA), Prince Butawo, said, "We are forced to compromise and (beyond) our limits, and doctors ask as to when will this bush medicine we are practicing will end," said Butawo.

"We have what we call the DRE procedure in which we are expected to wear gloves, but the gloves are not available.

Butawo who spoke with journalists on Friday during a protest by the doctors at Parirenyatwa hospital in Harare lamented that "instead of using bare fingers we have now resorted to the use of condoms for us to perform that procedure.

"There are a lot of things; for instance, gynaecology in women, we now have to use condoms instead of gloves.

EVILFOREST:
They will never know peace

They will be thrown into the evil forest.

SEPTEMBER 14........

macof:
Actually Orunmila was originally from Ado (although not called ado then)...

Oodaye if real, existed long before Ire...ire is a contemporary of Ife Ooye.

one thing I'm not sure of is, if Ife was never centralized before Oduduwa what areas constitute Ife Ooye? can we say all major yoruba centers of that time was part of Ife Ooye

Are you referring to the capital of Ekiti State?

MissNifemi:
Hello Akell, you sent me an email. Kindly drop your gsm number plz

Thanks for reaching out. I'm sorry I don't drop digits here. I'll inbox it to you.

Thanks for your thread. I have interest in setting up the water factory. But I seem to be a green horn in it.
How much does the machine(s) cost?

Hello wonderful people, please I need people who are already in the know or who has ideas to put me through on the various steps in starting up a satchet water factory.

How much do the machines cost?
Where can I get them in Lagos?
Etc

Heniola1:
+969- 91494550.... Am a Nigerian in oman

Happy birthday to you. Sorry it's coming late

Great! When will I attain FP?

Idof:
Pls I need address to any branch at yaba.

I know of the Ebute Meta branch. There's also one at Oworonshoki.

@bidexgarl , how many ears have you? Please run away from summerflame ..... � run run �
Don't join his group.... Be warned!

Cylovee:
The Nigeria Police Force has started recruiting.... Hurry up and fill the form

How do we apply?

Hello gurus in the house, please I need help. My Z30 gives the error message "Process com.android.systemapps isn't responding" when we I open an android application. I will have to reboot the phone before I can open the application.

Please What's the way out.

Since I dropped my phone number, I haven't been added to any group. Is this for real?

okachie1:
While it's really a good idea to reject fulani herds men is because of Buhari's body language as regards the recent killings.

I can't believe the man hasn't said anything meaningful nor rebuke the act by his kins folks nor even visited the victims perhaps, through his inaction he has polarized Nigeria more than he met it.

Note please. The rejection isn't because of the killings alone. It is because the Fulani are a very cunning people. They will ask for a grazing colony, but they'll eventually take over your land. The Fulanis met the Hausas in the North and conquered them. Till date, the Hausas are being subjected to oppression by the Fulanis despite the fact that the Hausas are the dominant group in the North. We have just about 5 million Fulani in Nigeria. They are power hungry people.... They don't deserve any grazing colony in any part of the country save the North.