From experience, once the boss sleeps with the secretary, part of the compensation is power sharing. The sec now assumes authority over the entire staff even those better qualified and higher than her in the power hierachy. The result: the company looses good staff who become fed up with her false power antics. The company thus takes a nose dive. Honestly, I have seen this scenario at least two times in 2 different places in my time. I blame the bosses who abuse their power on this poor ladies who in turn are desperate to keep their jobs.

Neoteny:

@albato

i wouldnt call IAL "just another vampire movie", and the story crtainly was captivating. the movie is a remake of two other remakes which in turn are based on a very well written novel (though all movies bear little resemblance to the novel except perhaps omega man) . the concept of one man left alive as a hum,an after a ravaging epidemic is to me interesting. sometimes i close my eyes and imagine myself a robert neville. imagine how silent the world would be, how lonely one could feel. its a bit like 28 days later except in that film they went to the country side.

My God! Listen to yourself. Contradictions. I said the film lacks creativity and you just confirmed it. Read the highlighted section of your statement above. A film that is a rip-off (re-make) up to three times is creative in your opinion? How many times have wee seen this "single bloke stranded in a lonely neigbourhood" setting? What is creative in washing a pig and dressing it. It remains a pig. I think the film has effectively launched a platform for a good video game. Watch out for it. You know what I mean. One of those gun totting, blood thirsty games where one guy shots up the world in order to save it.

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in the movie its safe to assume he pilfered his equipment in the daytime from the city hospitals and businesses. lord knows there are enough of those in new york, and 3 years is not enough to finish suppiles given the vastness of the city. as for electricity, in the novel he ran off gen, so we can assume he did too in the movie though i would have loved to hear its chugging in the background (which could alert the vampires to his presence?). my only gripe is who pumped him water? [/Quote]

Thanks you at least agree with me there was no logical reasoning in the settings.

There was a rumour she was having a lesbo affair with one of her close friends that often appear on the show. Can you blame people for saying this? No way. We dont ever see any dudes around her. All the same, I like her for all the good things she has done. I watch her show on those lazy mornings when I gat nothing else to do.

It's good to appreciate what you have especially your loved ones. Especially during this val's day. don't wait till the opportunity is gone before you show love. So I will leave ya'll with Janet Jackson's Got Till Its Gone.

Oprah Winfrey - my thoughts?
She is outrageously rich. She should try and get a child to enjoy her wealth with or better still a man in her life. Anyone heard if she has a man?

I am a Legend is just another vampire movie. I came up with "what was that about?" after watching it. In fact, the only attraction there is Will Smith, who is incidentally a huge box office draw. The story line was boring and lacks creativity. The producers just cashed in on Will Smith's image (which is why the movie sold very well).

Look at this for example, The whole of new york (or wherever the film is set) is meant to be deserted and turned into a jungle with animals roaming the streets. Where did Will Smith get electricity and state of the art equipment to conduct his experiment to find a cure for the plague? If he was cut off from the world, where did he get supplies?

Honestly, 5 minutes into the movie, I wanted to yawn and sleep.

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The richest female musician is Maddona.

Where true love exists, cultural differences will become secondary issue and will be resolved with time. Several Nigerians live happily with English ladies. I had this friend who is married to a "whitie". He admits he is lost for what to say or do when he attends parties with his wife among her people but one way or the other he always gets through it. His wife has admitted to the same thing. Attending Igbo functions with the husband is a drag too because she cannot understand half of what is being said. What matters is that this couple have lived for many years together. The best part is the half caste kids they got. The greatest joy is when you have beautiful children.

2pac's Be the last Mother***r breathing (featuring outlaws)

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Chorus and first verse:

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Chorus
Stress, but busta free
Enemies give me reason, to be the last motherfucker breathin
Bustin, my automatic rounds
Catch 'em while they sleepin, now I'm the last motherfucker breathin


Woke up with fifty enemies plottin my death
All fifty seein visions of me shot in the chest
Couldn't rest, nah nigga I was stressed
Had me creepin 'round corners, homie sleepin in my vest
Shit, I'm like a hostage on this troubled block, call the cops
A thug nigga screamin Westside, bustin double glocks
Hittin corners in my Chevy Surburban
Liquor got me drivin up on the curb, hand on the steerin wheel swervin
Bless me Father I'ma sinner, I'm livin in hell
Just let me live on the streets, cause ain't no peace for me in jail
Gettin world-wide exposure
with a bunch of niggaz that don't give a Bleep, ridin as my soldiers
I just release 'em on a war path, not your average dealer
Westside Outlaw; Bad Boy killer, huh
Complete my mission my competition no longer beefin
I murdered all them bustas now I'm the last motherfucker breathin
[/center]

it stems from a feeling of insecurity

There is a difference between religious beliefs and the culture of a place. People have combined/confused the two in Africa with the result that even our way of dressing, eating and doing things have now been classed as "unholy". Absolute stupidity if you ask me. A whole tradition that survived for hundreds of years before the first white man came to Africa is now paganism and "coming not from above". Its a shame some of us cannot even speak our native dialect without adding English.
What is wrong with Afrcan Religion? Its been abused and grossly misrepresented.

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Am afraid we may have lost the glory days of Nigerian football. These new bunch dont have any commitment to national assignments.

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I'll go with Genny anyday

From all indications, he died of drug abuse. These guys live life like there is no tommorow. Talk of burning the candle from both ends

tenhap:

I am truly tempted to subscribe to the fact that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
But damn, OBJ stands out!!!
That guy looks like a tortoise!!
Oops! Gats to watch my mouth.

or have your arse whacked by EFCC

Segun Arinze (damn! that dude wowo!)
On the other hand, who is the most beautiful/ handsome?

Thats exactly the problem. The post is for all those who can afford to have patience and ask the right questions before jumping into marriage

While parambulating the net, I found this interesting article. (source: mens health magazine. Written by By Ted Spiker) For those still floating in indecision as to whether to budge or not. These are the yardstick finally.

Ed, my buddy, got divorced because of golf, baked potatoes, and blackflies. See, Ed liked to play golf, which was no big deal—until he and his wife, Amy, started having money problems and she'd remind him that he'd blown $500 a month "whacking a little ball around."

Ed also was a slow eater, while Amy tended to gobble her dinner down rather quickly.

By the time he'd buttered his baked potato, his wife had finished her meal. Which was no big deal—except that it reminded them daily of how different they really were.

Finally, Ed's job was transferred to Bangor, Maine, which was no big deal—except that Amy was a Texan who "couldn't deal with blackflies," she said, and, unlike Ed, came from a big, very close family that she missed just a little too much.

These tiny hitches mutated into one festering, ugly, insurmountable problem, but that's not the really sad part about Ed's story. Instead it's what he asked me 10 minutes before he took his marriage vows: "Do you think I'm doing the right thing?"

The time to ask questions is before you go diamond hunting. We asked scores of marriage therapists and both married and divorced men to suggest key questions you should ask her (and yourself) to gauge compatibility and to reveal potential hot spots in your relationship.

Check out the questions linked on the left side of this page. Getting four or more answers that don't jibe with yours should give you pause. It's how you resolve your differences that will guarantee a long and happy marriage.


1. Money
Ask her:
What would you do if you won $100,000 in the lottery?
You must find out her financial priorities.

"One of the biggest problems couples have is money and, specifically, differences in styles of spending and attitudes about their budget," says Karen Sherman, Ph.D., a couples psychologist in New York City. You'll learn how she views money, saving, and long-term investing.

Will all of it go toward cars and trips, or most toward retirement? It's not essential that you share the same investment strategies. What's important is to use the conversation to prompt a discussion about financial behavior: how you pay bills, invest the year-end bonus, or decide on major purchases. If your attitudes don't mesh, now's the time to get the issues on the table and build a consensus.

Degree of potential difficulty:
HIGH



2.Her Family
Ask her:
What's your favorite holiday? How does your family spend it?
It's important to learn about her family roots.

Where you spend the holidays can be a huge political issue. "The underlying issue is whose family comes first, and that stands for who has the power in the relationship," says William Doherty, Ph.D., a professor of family and social science at the University of Minnesota and author of Take Back Your Marriage.

Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM to HIGH


3. Religion
Ask her:
Do you believe in God?
This helps you find out how compatible your faiths and religious rituals are.

In a Syracuse University study of 120 married couples, those who shared religious holiday rituals reported more marital satisfaction than the pairs who practiced holiday rituals separately.

It's not necessarily the religion itself that's key—though the particular religion you practice can certainly be a huge issue with her family—it's all the things that go with it. "When you engage in celebrations and rituals, there's usually a lot of planning involved, something to look forward to that's meaningful to discuss," says Barbara Fiese, Ph.D., a professor of psychology and coauthor of the Syracuse study.

Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM to HIGH

4. Her Work
Ask her:
What's your dream job? Where would you most like to live?
You need to know her goals, and how far she's willing to go to reach them.

Just asking shows support for her career, an important factor. A George Mason University study of 117 married couples found what the Wonderbra people have known for a long time: Those who felt they had more support had greater satisfaction than those who felt unsupported.

It's also a good time to find out how far she's willing to move away from her family. "It's a very underappreciated area of stress—where are you going to live, whose family are you going to live near—yours or hers?" says John K. Miller, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist at the University of Oregon.

Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM


5. Your Work
Ask her:
What was your dad's work schedule like?
You need to find out whether she's already lived with a man who had the same work ethic and schedule as yours.

Maybe her dad worked a 7-to-3 shift every day of his life, came home and played with the kids until they went to bed, and never worked weekends. Maybe he owned a business and set his own hours so he was always home for dinner.

But your job—or your future job—may require late meetings, 60-hour workweeks, and business trips. And that can put stress on a relationship.

"Working until 9, 10, sometimes later, night after night, is a constant source of stress with my wife," a friend of mine in publishing told me. "She still doesn't understand that this is the nature of the business at deadline time. It's not the life she was used to."


Degree of potential difficulty:
HIGH


6. Interests and Dreams
Ask her:
How do you envision your life in 5 years?
This will help you find out whether she wants to be a career girl or a stay-at-home mom or a mom with a career.

You should know whether she expects to live in a big house in the 'burbs, an apartment in the city, or a farm in rural Kentucky. More and more research shows that the "opposites attract" notion is a myth. Successful couples usually have more similar priorities than not, says Leslie Parrott, Ed.D., author of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts.

A couple has to have similar goals and a long-term plan, worked out together, to reach these goals. And, even more important, a similar tolerance for risk and sacrifice. If you don't share the same values, they'll be a constant source of conflict in terms of how you spend your time and money.


Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM

7.Discipline Style
Ask her:
What do you think of spanking as punishment?
You need to hear her thoughts on disciplining kids.

We assume you've worked out whether you both want children, and maybe even how many. (You have done this, right?) But how you'll discipline them is a topic that's often overlooked. Bring it up the next time you see an unruly child at a restaurant shooting jelly packets across the booth. Ask her how she'd handle it and how she was disciplined as a child.

"Either we tend to follow the way we were raised, or, if something was objectionable about the way we were raised, we do the opposite," Doherty says. Different parenting styles can cause the most strain on a marriage because they can be a daily, even hourly, source of conflict.

"It's chronic acid on a relationship," says Scott Stanley, Ph.D., codirector of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver and coauthor of Fighting for Your Marriage.

Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM to HIGH


8. Genetics
Ask her:
What do your parents like to drink?
It’s important to know if there's a history of alcoholism in her family.

"Health problems like depression and alcoholism have a strong genetic component," Doherty says. "If her mother had depression or her father was a chronic alcoholic, there's a good chance it could creep up and become a problem."

It's not a relationship killer (unless you use the terms "defective gene" or "your terminally plastered mother" when discussing it), but talking about hereditary health risks early will make it easier to discuss the same conflicts should they pop up in your relationship.


Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM

9. Your Potential In-Laws
Ask her:
How have your parents reacted to your previous boyfriends?
You should find out whether they'll think the current boyfriend is good enough for their little princess (and whether they'll pay big bucks for the wedding).

"If her parents don't approve, there's a potential problem," says Sherman. Not that that's necessarily a deal breaker. Who are you marrying, her or them?

What's more important is to learn something about your girlfriend by how she responds. Is she the kind of girl who wants to please Mommy and Daddy? Or is she secure enough with herself to make her own life decisions?

Here's a way to look for clues: Bradbury suggests asking how her parents have responded to her previous serious boyfriends, and trying to elicit how she reacted to her parents' disapproval. Did they make a big deal over the last guy's prison record? Will they care about yours? If she supported her past boyfriends in exchanges with her folks, she's probably a keeper.


Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM

10. Her Father
Ask her:
What was your relationship with your father like?
This helps you find out her attitude toward men.

Especially toward the one who mattered most (before you). If her father was distant and cold, she may seek male approval. If her father was abusive or a cheat, she may have trouble trusting men.

"If there's any unfinished business in her relationship with her father, it could manifest itself in your relationship," says Sherman. "When people get into serious relationships, they tend to look to their mate to give them everything they need. Couples get into trouble when they don't look closely at these tendencies early on."

You also should consider her relationship with her mother, which could have the very same implications. If she can't pee without calling her mother to tell her all the details, that's not going to change after you walk down the aisle.


Degree of potential difficulty:
MEDIUM

11. The Most Important Question

Finally, you need to ask yourself this: "Can I ask these questions and have an honest, intelligent conversation with this woman when we disagree?" Because if you can't, none of her answers really matter.

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Whaat
Lucky you it did not explode.

Preachers on buses are a nuisance. Yes, the word should be spread to all nook and cranies of the world but should it be forced down your throat? God gave us choices and coming on board a bus with people from different spiritual backgrounds and shouting on top of your voice for the entire duration of my journey would scracely make me convert.

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Being single can be interesting until you get into your late thirties. Then if you continue to be single, there is something wrong. Being single then becomes a liability. Its always good to have company. To be "hitched" or "taken" as they say.

Kechybee:

Please I'm really sorry diverging, but "please how do I send a topic for discussion?"

From the home page, on the top side, choose the category you want to post in. Then click on New Topic. You should see the text box for both the subject of the message and the message itself. Welcome aboard. 

These young actors and drugs. Fingers crossed but I will not rule out an overdose. The rate these people guzzle chemicals is appaling. Look at Amy Winehouse, Britney nko? What a waste. Just 28. Anyway RIP Heath Ledger. He was wonderful in the Patriot, A knights Tale. He was a terrific actor. What a waste