While the love of my son made me to pay lot of visits to my ex dad house in Ajegunle alongide Sango road ,i find out my son stayed 2 months at home before registering him into 1 mushroom school and his mum never allowed me to know what class he was .He spent just 1st term of his Nursery 2 with me and was doing fine before his mum decided to shock me .The visits made us to had things together again.
Before the kids holiday started ,she came around once and we did stuff together and immeaditely the school break started ,she brought my son and in all,i would say we have stayed almost 3 weeks together.(She went back to her place at Ajegunle on friday , .She never returned any of the items she packed. I find out her siblings and dad got a room for her .So,she got the room filled with all my belongings .If i ask her about it ,she tells me to forget about it and i didnt even complain.To say the truth ,the love i have for her have diminished a lot and it is up to the level that i dont feel anything for her if i dont see her .I only develop feeling for her if i see her with my son .
Now,my son have been with my younger sister since 15 days ago and i find out that boy cant even write or read but could only fit for Nursery 2 instead of Basic 1 he was supposed to be promoted to if his mum didnt take him away .My sister is a teacher and she is good at teaching very well.From the lesson she enrolled him and her sons ,i was made to know that boy cant even cope in Basic 1 .Even ,he will only manage to be in Nursery 2.
I had to shed some tears on hearing this .I called my elder sister and told her i will not allow him to go back to Ajegunle.I plan to create time for him when school resumes .I am enrolling him into Nursery 2 and also get a teacher for him .I will make sure i close early from work to do my own part .
About his mum,i am not interested any longer .She have really done a lot of damages to my life mentally,financially and emotionally .The worst of it is my son eduaction .She have messed me up so much .I was supposed to get a new accommodation before she packed away my stuffs but i spent all the money i saved to get new items .I started over again and thank God ,i am moving out of this house latest september ending .
I am so devastated and i pray God give me the strength to teach my son the way i want and may God bless his brain too .I have decided to live alone woth him so i can train him the way i want and in God way .He is 5 years and 3 months old
Relax, he might turnout to be a genius. My son is 6+ n just learning to read and talk clearly but you need to listen to his reasoning n logic, very brilliant!
mysticwarrior: Weak military backup, the weapons I saw the Niger Delta Militants submitted to the Nigerian army as part of the amnesty during Yaradua's administration is far more sufisticated than what these troops are brandishing.
This guys don't have an idea of what ECOWAS military strength is capable of with what they are showing here. They need to check African countries military strength ranking n allotted budget strength before the war.
Do you know that there is a new trend with companies especially these small scale "One man businesses"
Companies schedule interviews with people they have no intention hiring, They take advantage of frustrated job seekers, ask them questions usually around business development to steal their ideas.
Job seekers who went through pain or spent a lot, some even borrowed to arrive at the interview venue. This is very wrong, NLC should look into this exploitation
Most Nigerian jobs posted on LinkedIn are fake, companies do this to create publicity and a faux appearance of growth,
Applicants beware!!
If you ever attend an interview like this, please visit this post and tag the company.
You are right!
I have been there before where you share your business idea(trade secret) at interview point because you were desperate. After all promises, they let you down for reason(s) best known to them. I did it once and I told myself never to do it again.
Ofadaman: Most jobseekers aren't good enough for the job, no employer is frustrating them, this way of thinking is what makes applicant find ways to justify their incompetence ,instead of looking for ways to upskill and do better at interviews they find ways to throw the blame at the employers, just to feel good about themselves. Most of them will respond positively to this post as a way to confirm their bias and feel good about themselves.
You don't even understand what he is saying. I am employed and I have been there before where you share your business idea(trade secret) at interview point because you were desperate. After all promises, they let you down for reason(s) best known to them. I did it once and I told myself never to do it again.
DamianDd: My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.
I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.
But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true
Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"
It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.
What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.
What's your thoughts on the matter?
I don't know what those encouraging are up to but you are very wrong and you need to meet him and knee and apologize. A lot is running through his mind and bigger than all these things you wrote.
You can make your point by not disrespecting him the more( as if coming late to a house headed by a responsible man is not disrespectful enought).
I am way older than you(twice older than you) but any time I visit home, I don't go home late. If I know I would be late, I would rather inform my dad that I would be staying over at a friend's place.
Revolva: The Nigerian entertainment industry is known for its vibrant and talented celebrities who captivate audiences with their immense talent and charm. Unfortunately, this year has witnessed the untimely departure of several beloved Nigerian celebrities, leaving a void that can never be filled. In this article, we pay tribute to these remarkable individuals, celebrating their achievements and the legacies they have left behind.
These are the list of Nollywood celebrities who have passed away this year 2023
* SUNDAY AKINOLA
The death of veteran Yoruba nollywood actor Sunday Akinola aka Baba Feyikogbon was announced on Monday, January 9.
For several years before his death, the 80-year-old struggled with renal failure, hypertension and memory loss. • PEACE ANYIAM-OSIGWE:
She was a renowned filmmaker, founder of the Africa Movie Academy Awards (A.M.A.A) and former president of the Association of Movie Producers (AMP). She died on January 9 after a brief illness. She was 52 years old. She was a recipient of the Officer of the Order of the Federal Republic (OFR) award.
• MURPHY AFOLABI:
He was a Nollywood actor, producer and director who died on May 14 at the age of 49. He reportedly slumped in his bathroom and was buried the next day in his uncompleted house in Ekorodu, Lagos state. He had been sick for a while before his death. He featured in movies like ORmo Ghetto, ORmo Ekun, ORmo Mushin, and ORmo Alhaja.
* Femi Ogunrombi
Femi Ogunrombi, the actor and music instructor who played Papa Ajasco in the WAP TV comedy series Papa Ajasco and Company, died on Saturday, January 14. He was an accomplished multi-instrumentalist, composer, music and video director, and voice coach. During Abiodun Ayoyinka’s absence from Papa Ajasco & Company, Ogunrombi filled in as Papa Ajasco.
• CHIKEZIE UWAZIE:
a beloved Nollywood actor known for his memorable performances, tragically passed away in a faraway land—America. Uwazie’s demise sent shockwaves through the entertainment industry, leaving fans and fellow actors grieving the loss of a talented individual. The specifics surrounding his death have not been revealed, adding to the mystery and sorrow surrounding his untimely departure. The news of the actor’s passing spread rapidly, prompting an outpouring of condolences and tributes from friends, colleagues, and fans alike. Uwazie’s untimely demise serves as a stark reminder of the fragility of life and the profound impact he had on the Nigerian film industry, leaving behind a void that will be difficult to fill.
• MUKAILA ADEDIGBA
Nollywood was thrown into mourning on the morning of Saturday, May 13, 2023, after the announcement of the demise of veteran Yoruba actor, Mukaila Adedigba, aka Sikiru Adeshina.
Famous Nollywood actor and movie director, Kunle Iyiola Afod, who announced his death via his Instagram page, said the legendary thespian died in the early hours of the day.
• SAINT OBI:
He was a popular Nollywood actor, film producer, and director who died on May 7th 2023 at the age of 57. He reportedly suffered from a protracted illness and relocated to Jos for treatment. He was known for his roles in movies like Candle Light, Sakobi, Goodbye Tomorrow, and Heart of Gold.
IN CONCLUSION: As we bid farewell to these talented Nigerian celebrities, it is important to celebrate the legacies they have left behind. Their contributions to the entertainment industry have touched the lives of millions, inspiring and entertaining generations to come. While their physical presence may be gone, their memories and achievements will forever be etched in our hearts. Let us remember these extraordinary individuals for their remarkable talent, unwavering passion, and the joy they brought into our lives. May they rest in eternal peace.
Forrkke: Now, members of the family have been calling my cousin to call her all sorts of name. They said if anything happens to the guy, she’ll be held responsible for it.
My question is,
How can you lie against someone, more so your own cousin without any remorse?
How come it’s after 8 years that you’re feeling guilty and depressed for what happened?
I’m not supporting my cousin; she deserves whatever castigations are coming her way. But is it okay to let this humongous character assassination slide?
The sad thing is nobody is interested in hearing her own side of the story; it’s the guy they believe because he spoke first. I believe my cousin because she told me about this issue back in December last year, before it became known to everybody. She could have easily lied that she was forced or raped just to save her reputation. But she confided in me and said it as it was… that it was her who agreed to it.
From what I know, this guy has been a failure and has disappointed his parents many times; he’s just playing some antics and isn’t depressed. He’s using this story to draw sympathy because no one in the family likes him due to his waywardness.
Someone they said was depressed was heard on the phone laughing to a skit when my cousin called one of her aunts explaining. The boy was there but didn’t know the aunt was on phone with my cousin. Also, my cousin doesn’t have the boy’s number and has not been allowed to speak to him and confront him for all the lies against her.
My cousin has a fiancé, but now her father’s people her saying she’s wicked that after destroying someone’s life, she wants to settle down. They’re asking her what will happen to the guy whose life she has destroyed? This girl hasn’t been herself for weeks now. She has been thrown under the bus, so much that her one elder brother has disowned her.
What do you guys suggest she does going forward?
My cousin and I have always been very close, and I’m like the only person in the family that understands her now, even though I condemn what she fell into years ago.
Someone is suggesting my cousin sue the boy, how’s that feasible? We’re talking about a family member here. And one thing is certain; this boy will not be able to tell all these lies in the presence of my cousin if confronted.
The same boy once wrote a love letter to another of his cousins during that period, telling her that he found her attractive and would love them to he togther
Kobojunkie: All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***
You read the story so? Read am again slowly in between the line.
KunleAkingbadeh: He should be arrested rather than celebrated for frying garri in such a very filthy sewage environment. That Garri is already full of germs & microbes.
Show us the picture of where they fry the 1 you drink.
Please i put up this post basically because of my elder brother. I sincerely want to know if i was wrong talking to him, or I could have just let him be. I wasn't myself ever since i talked to him, and i was somewhat having guilty conscience since then.
I have an elder brother, he's 38 years old and also the first son. I am the fourth child in the family of five. The second child is a female and she's married. We lost our third child, that's my immediate elder brother some years back, while i have a younger brother. I came from a humble background. Lost my dad while i was in JS 3, even before his death we had been hustling on a daily basis for survival, and we live happily as one big family. My mother, siblings and i do hawk daily before we could eat. All thanks to public school in Lagos, my family wouldn't have had the opportunity to basic education. We hawk daily after school, weekdays and weekend. My family was bred and brought up in Ajegunle.
Few years after the demise of my father, we struggled to pay house rent. We had to leave Ajegunle to a local and developing area. I didn't allow my family conditions deter or weigh me down. Never! I believe I'd make it in life legitimately without venturing into crime, fraud, theft etc. After my secondary school, i was into all sorts of labour work. I worked in factory, building site, cleared bushes, laundry man , just to save up and further my education. I worked for 6 years after my secondary school, bought a bike from the little savings i had and proceed to school through jamb. I gave the bike to someone who often deliver #6,000 weekly for the upkeep of my family. I was in year 2 when i let go of the bike, it was on a higher purchase and the agreement we have had elapsed. I hustled my way through school and graduated. I'm done with service last year but couldn't land a job, probably due to my age. I'd be 29 this year and most graduate trainee often request for age below 28. Although, i had a 2.1. I'm only managing in a pure water factory to make ends meet, keep soul and body together and support my family
I sat my elder brother down and talked to him. He has been hustling like every other person in the family but i don't understand what's happening. He didn't futher his education nor learn a handwork. He's 38 but still live under his parents roof. He has been doing conductor work for many years. The family had talked to him several times to look for something else. It's fine you are hustling as a man for survival but doing conductor for many years without thinking of what else to do is wrong. A family friend of ours who later got to know what he does for a living had advice him also.
The bus he was following, the driver had misunderstanding with the owner and he collected his bus back. My elder brother had been idle for months, doing nothing. He claimed he has gone virtually everywhere in search of bus he could be working with but couldn't get any. This is a family that we all had to bring something no matter how little to survive. I was talking to him as a younger brother. I asked him why didn't he heed to people's advice when they were advising him then to stop the conductor work and look for something to learn, if perhaps he doesn't want to further his education? He doesn't believe in Nigeria education, because he could count graduates without job or those with petty job. My elder brother wear almost rag as clothes. I had to give him some of my little wears I'm managing. He has just one slippers. We don't wear same size of shoe or sandals, we could have been sharing that also. He sold his phone to feed sometime ago and had been without phone. I was initially saving to get my mum a small phone but i had to give him the phone instead.
He was crying when i was talking to him. I understand the situation of things in the country, which i myself is going through. I was just trying to know what other things he could come up with. I am not happy seeing him sitting idle doing nothing. The fact that he's the first son and found himself in this condition at that age breaks my heart daily. My mum had been so worried about his condition. I had to convince her that things will be better. I don't want her to develop high Blood Pressure that could lead to her untimely death.
Please guys was i wrong talking to my elder brother?
Why can't he get a driver's job in Lagos. At least they pay 50-60k. I can refer him to somewhere currently recruiting if fast and has a driver's licence.
DebbieBianca: In the open and full glare of cameras, citizens and security officials watch a serving PDP Commissioner in Bauchi in vote-buying fracas.
But how did he get the new notes that much? I bet you, this vote buying thing would be hard to stop oo! See how people are struggling to be in line to collect cash.
cococandy: @ bold, I don’t. That’s the nature of broken relationships. Everyone tells it their way. But some things can be observed. Such as if he were involved, a few people would have seen him do it.
"a few people would have seen him do it." True but these few good people has to(or most likely) come from Tonto's side before we can give it attention otherwise it will look natural (siding your person).
But don't expect the above to happen from Tonto's side. We both know how this runs except God is specially interested in your case.
cococandy: Does he make efforts to be part of the son’s life and tonto stopped him? If not then he has no excuse.
There is a part of the story that she said that they had to beg her for the child to do 1st birthday with him. If you read in between the lines, you will notice she was indicting herself. Don't expect her to be *completely* truthful.
Nairaobserver: Popular Nigerian crossdresser, Bobrisky, has went on social media to show off the foodstuffs he got himself despite the scarcity of currency in Nigeria.
destiny4luv: Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?
U did the right thing but still call and apologize to her. She must have learnt 1 or 2 things from your correction.
To add bros, it is better for you for your mum n wife to be at peace than to be quarreling.
Also, I hope your wife is not trying to manipulate you against your mother. If that is the case, u might be in a bigger shit than you think. U need serious wisdom as your wife seems to have seen your weakness. She knows what to do exactly to make you angry.
CallmeTrinity: You are a coward , weak man and a coward 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Foolish man confusing fear with spiritual advise. That was your cowardice talking ... Weak willed coward 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
You are a so weak and a coward. You know who is killing your flock and you are too much of a coward to defend your investment 🤣
Even the Nigerian law recodnizes self defense. The moment someone steps foot on your property and is killed the law recodnizes your right to defend your life and properly and won't persecute you so you are talking.trash..
You are just a coward who has been bullied and his investments wiped off because you are too weak and cowardly to pick up a machete and lay a trap...
Foolish man ,trying hard to make his cowardice look like a virtue ..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Please how old are you? Do you even know the law? Pls be careful with this your half-baked knowledge cos the law does not recognise ignorance as excuse o.
Slime7: Hi guys, I need your advice on this. It is causing issues in my 2 years relationship. I came to Lagos in 2018 after my NYSC. Prior to that, I had plans for my older sister to come stay with me, considering how difficult things were. Note that my married eldest brother was in Lagos before then. I understand that maybe he needs his privacy, but he didn't help in any way (he didn't have to).
When I got the apartment, I met my girlfriend while she was serving in Lagos. My older sister has yet to move in with me, but I have mentioned to her not once but twice that she will soon come and live with me.
I will also like to mention that my elder sister was living with her boyfriend before I came to Lagos. This doesn't seem right to me or to her.
She moved in, and we were living together peacefully. Along the way, she broke up with her boyfriend. About 6 months later, she got into another relationship. The man seems interested in marrying her. And they were making plans for settling down. Unfortunately, she got pregnant out of wedlock for the man. She had to move in with the man.
Now this is where the issues begin. After a few months (after her childbirth), they always have issues. They go on and off. Two times they had issues; she carried her bag and came to my place. Two times it happened, and she stayed with me for not more than two months put together. This didn't go well with my girlfriend. She complained that my sister is always in the picture, and she doesn't like that.
The third time, the man abused my sister, and he beat her up. I went to the man's house with my "married eldest brother." We fought with the man and threatened to arrest him. He pleaded, plus the neighbors and the landlord too. That night, we took my sister away from him. My sister chose to stay at my place until she gets an apartment for herself and her kid.
This really annoyed my girlfriend. She always says things like, "My family does not respect me." That's why my sister can move in to my house knowing that I am in a relationship. "Why does she like to stay with me and not my brother?" "Why do I have to always be the one to bear the burden?" Note that my sister works, and she can take care of herself and her kid. She just needed a place to stay until she got her own apartment.
She feared that my sister could just move in with her bags when we get married, which I have assured her is not possible. She claims she likes her space and all. She claims she doesn't like the "on and off" as sometimes she may want to spend a "lone" time with me. Spend weekends... and this won't be possible when my sister is around. She claims that she has never seen a scenario where an older sister with a kid is leaving with younger brother. She always give instances where she has never seen guys in relationships allow their older sister to come stay with them. She claimed that sometimes I should "man up" and say NO to her.
Is she overreacting? What did I do wrong in all of this? Am I being manipulated? Is her anger justified?
N.B My sister has gotten a place for herself and has moved out.
peepydelano: Their next agenda is to rubbish the DNA tests so they can enjoy hoeing around in peace, it won’t ever work. She never talk truth . Or the baby was swapped at birth but I no trust that gender at all.
U too get sense. I was just thinking this. I have read 2 other similar stories this week. Ko le work mehn.....(1) Why the secret test in the first place. (2) why paying attention to the character of the child, if not guilty?
Her birth mother only wanted to see her just to have that memory till she dies. She was never interested in being in her life.
Also, how dare you blame her for reacting harsh to her mother? Do you know what it feels to be abandoned by your mother at birth? Do you know what it feels to learn that you're a product of incest? Do you know what it feels to have many questions but still couldn't ask when you have the chance? Do you know the psychological and emotional impact of her story on her?
Her decisions has made her a successful woman already. There's no need for future tense.
Make una dey calm down. The guy was just speaking his mind WC is fine. U have a strong point but picking querrel over someone's opinion is not logical to me( my opinion too).
I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old. We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.
Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands. I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day. I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.
I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child. She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.
She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth. But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.
It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.
Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.
Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.
I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.
Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married. Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses. I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.
I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?
Sit her down n ask her what she wants while u let her know sending the girl to her grandparents is not an option. If she choose to leave, let her go. But be ready to ignore a lot of rubbish from her.
Family / Re: I Am So Worried About My 5-year Old Son by albert2512: 9:44pm On Aug 21, 2023 
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