Gooci:

abdulslutsky: A o pade leti odo
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Donfamous: yes

Donfamous: I've ansad chek it sir. But some ministries don't upload deirs. But d foreign once are certain. Chek ma ansa in page 2

Donfamous: just downloaded pilgrim progress. I'll try to search for d oda one also.need films dat'll add value to ma spiritual life. pilgrim progress. Is a film Jesus himself will endorse

blink182: TB Joshua can not help? God can not help? The impunity with which people like you insult God is appalling like He is just another human being. Have you been to the SCOAN or have empirical evidence that Joshua is a fraud? I am very sorry for you and the path you have chosen.

Now to the discussion. Who told you no one is born dull? I am rather shocked at the number of people who agree with you. It is like you live in this bubble created by your imagination. I have a friend that is dull actually I have friends but I will focus on this one guy because all his siblings I know are dull and unable to pass exams on their own. We were in the same primary school together, same class with me and his younger sister in the same class with my younger sister and my younger sister was in touch with even younger siblings that did poorly in class. Their dad was a full time politician and mum was a full time house wife. There was nothing their parents didn't do to help them learn. Even as a kid I could notice how hard their parents tried to help them learn. Their problem was not the inability to learn but the ability to retain what they had learnt. It cut across all spheres of their life where they had to learn then remember after some time. Now what do you say to that? My friend and most if not all his siblings are currently in the uk and really do not need to bother about making their own money like most of us.

That is just one case. I know a 16 year old girl who just wrote her primary 6 exam with little chance off passing, she has a cousin like her too-the cousin has actually stopped trying to be in school and her parents understand. This girl I know has a 12 year old sister under the same roof with her in JSS 2. Who do we blame in this case?

And what is this talk about using derogatory words. We are Africans not Europeans or Americans. That is what africans do to prevent a person doing the wrong thing to correct itself. Why do you think so many nairalanders bash and laugh at people when they are down when they should be giving encouragement? It is built into our psyche, that is how africans-true africans think. We do not pamper failure with the hope it will correct itself. When you fail this term and get flogged by your dad followed by mouth bashing from mum which often lasts a term and get reminded of your failure whenever you miss any house chore. Next term, you will struggle to out do yourself.

No wonder so many new parents are failures with raising up their kids.

We shouldn't deceive ourselves with vocational training, if the boy can't learn in class, he most likely can't learn anywhere. He doesn't seem like someone who wants to learn at all. I wonder how he got this way. Does he know how hard it is to survive in society when you have nothing to offer.

uboma: No one is a blockhead. And calling your Uncle's child one will not help matters at all. No matter what a child does, don't call him/her derogatory names or compare them with other children who may be doing better.

If you really want to help, you need to have a heart to heart chat with your Uncle's child. First, gain his trust, so he can open up to you. It could be that something went wrong during his formative years (6-10 years). Please answer these;

Did this child grow up with his biological parents or with a relative?

During his formative years, did his parents play an active role in his life? Did they play together as a family? Was the father/mother always around to LISTEN and talk to their child? During his early years in school (nursery to primary) were his parents interested in his school activities? Did they guide him with his homework? Did they find out from his teacher(s) the performance of their son? Or was it just the *enrol your child in school, pay his fees when due, buy school materials? Is this the cycle they followed?

I always tell parents that *children are what we make them*. Once you miss it during their formative years, then you've lost out big time. It is simply not enough to just send your child to school and leave them at the mercy of their teachers. Parents need to play an ACTIVE role in their child(ren)'s life.

And mind you, if you are sure that the parents played their role during his formative years, then the child may be better off learning a vocational skill. If having listened to this boy, and its obvious that he just doesn't like school, then find out his hobby or the skill he's interested in and build on that.

Look around the world today, not all the well to do men actually completed their schooling. But they have excelled in their chosen fields.

There's so much to say but time... I wish I could have a chat with your Uncle's child. Are they in Abuja?

NB.
Calling a child derogatory names only serves to worsen him, make him more reserve and won't bring out the best in him/her. No one was born a dullard. Please take note.

Luckygurl: Irony of life.
But then, what makes someone the wrong person and why must the wrong person be the one loving aright.

Atimes, to me, it's a matter of not being contented with what we have, always on the lookout for options that appear more promising than what we've got at hand.
At other times, I'd say perhaps we're still on the move, in search of true happiness and thorough satisfaction.
Whatever the reason is, we've all got to thread with caution.

ritababe:

never too late

jayseehe: now, what we have is life made easy...

I sure prefer PS4 to suwe, ten ten... if they were so good, they wouldn't have gone extinct

fittty: So you no see betta people to draw?

jayseehe: summary please

ITbomb: You are telling us that you now have a spiritual wife , so what do u want us to do?

Abbey2sam:

so you want to do everything men do

oyah stand Dey piss

Blebleswag:
Dnt mind him joor

OmoAlata1: people already attacking the Op lol, i guess the truth hurts

NaLaugh: I think it is about time the apes took over the world.

Olekumaster: i really don't play games. I will rather think about my tomorrow