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Are they all wearing same hair?

Facebook......totally avoided facebook, feels like a market place

Then I block strangers esp work related from viewing my status and gossips too, I block them

Then I love going to the cinemas alone, its one of the fun things I do most weekends. I met one of my friend from Uni while waiting for a movie he asked who I was with and I said I came alone, then he nodded in disapproval.

I'm like what is wrong with going to the cinemas alone!!!!

stubbornman:
I get your point but most ladies think the world will wait for them to love and get over it... Most relationship trust it's men doing 70% of the workout..... Ladies just sit there and wonder why he no longer calls often or takes her to the movies anymore etc.... When it gets boring for a guy it shows!!!

only 10% of guys will call a lady for a meeting and explain the reason for there break-up....the guy respects her..... that kinda guy is rare (we are just 5 in the world with one getting married this Saturday, I was hoping you would choose me before I get taken)

Happy married life but go and cheat no more, this one you are making excuses for cheats

stubbornman:
See ehn it shit happens but what's more important is respect and loyalty in a relationship... we all have cheated while in a relationship ,we didn't get caught doesn't mean we are badass .... ability to respect your partner and keep your track clean that's also the greater part of love.... The girl just has Ego, the "I don't wanna give him all the attention" kinda..... Seriously I'm the kinda guy if I call you 3 times and you don't return my calls ,that's the end of Solomon grandy

You didn't read through properly. The only problem I saw on her part was a failed relationship she was afraid to admit. We girls are always guilty of such, we see all the signs but keep hoping things will change because we love. Meanwhile on the guys part, Solomon grandy has already been buried

stubbornman:
Shut the fvck and let others who has sensible things to say step forward....

The Op is selfish or did you not read the part where she said there was no trace of unfaithfulness in the guy even though he has many female friends, he is not gay so off course he should have female friends.... my problem you girls in this part of the world is that y'all are very very terrible at keeping up when it comes to relationship.... You wait for a man to call you, buy you gifts ,love you or even breathe for you while y'all just sit down like flower pots doing nothing...

That guy has a very very great courtesy and respect for inviting her over and explaining things to her rather than breaking up with her on the phone as I would have done even 6 months into the relationship.... You girls need to up your game in not just dating but every other relationships...your level of self entitlement and nonchalant attitude stinks to the Heavens!

Forget that no trace of unfaithfulness part. You will be shocked how some guys can cover their cheating tracks and lie until caught red handed.

He is ready to switch to the side chick, let him be.

djoe21:
It's so unfortunate that just November last year you were giving ladies tips on how to make their men happy. Did you not follow the tips?

She is an introvert doesn't make her less fun or human.

Your true man will never stress you, let him be! If he is your he will come around but I pray you will be taken by then.

Ifyjos:
It’s not a big deal if we cannot afford her school fees , she will stay at home until the money come but God will provide for us

My dear go and carry sand and ensure that child is in school don't direct your wickedness to her

Ifyjos:
No I don’t know because I’m not in her shoes and I don’t want to be in her shoes too , I regret my actions and I wish I didn’t do it in the first place , that’s why I came here seeking for advice because I do care and love her so much , I just want her to be happy again

Flimsy thing. Just get out of the site already and go do the right thing .

Yustash001:
Hmmmm..... It's really complicated..

Compliwhat.....Op is just plain useless and heartless and stupid. You will reap the consequences of your action soon.

Wait, school fees and other bills will soon come calling. You will soon know who the enemy is, your sis or boy friend?


Silly thing, make sure you inform her about how you ruined her relationship now to see if there can be remedies.

Hain? Your sister? I wonder what you will do if were a friend. . So things like this happen? I'm �

We know how!

Buhari will say the same too

Chukapage:
Why are the Afonjas crying more than the bereaved here? The now suddenly care about Imo state ?? Because Rochas their idiot was kicked out Kudos Ihedioha the Stupid South Africans can't kill our people and we still rename our roads and landmarks after their useless corrupt Buffon!

Don't mind the hypocrites here, they have forgotten the attacks. Silly

Sonnyboom:
But foolish Igbo claimed rain washed away all road constructed by Okorocha how come rain didnt wash this away n beside why can't this fool build his own road n name it anything he likes ?!

Guy there is presently no road in IMO state. The man has started building roads so let him do what ever pleases him.

donbachi:
Is this one now our problem?

Nna eh

Pregnant ke this story is getting messier. Evil would be mother- in- law and son.

Biafrareform:
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Who is even talking of paying up. I don't want him near my baby girl

Allow emotions to run now. But later the family can allow her see him on the condition that he has something to offer like continuing her tertiary education...in a private Uni or abroad not 9ja federal or state uni.

If he has nothing to offer, I bet the girl will know what to do since she has been told the story.

But please watch them closely to avoid negative influence because some ppl can be wolves in sheep clothing's he migh not be sober as he claims.

An eye opener!!! Ppl get numerous invite to see one pastor or another. Not all are true pastors but they use the word because they know everybody is seeking for ways to solve their problems including non existent problems.


If you are truly seeking the face of God, Knee down in your room or a sanctuary and pray.

In the Catholic church, no priest will call you for prayers, they can only direct you to the blessed sacrament to pray yourself out and join you in their prayers.

Happy Birthday sir, he owned living in bondage. He was so graceful in the movie.

R2bees:
AMARACHI IS THAT YOU??

No its Sochi

Ahh, baby factory

Glorylynn:
No matter how we advice people like you in this same situation you still won’t listen..

I will listen, I'm done!!.All I needed was this Platform to vent, I feel better now. Thanks guys

BigIyanga:
The problem is the guy never lied cos he told you from the jump that he was not looking for something serious, but you wanted more from him. Relationship is consensual agreement btw 2 people, but in your case you were sort of in relationship with him without his consent.
Why did you go around snooping on his photo collage.... where there is no relationship?? It’s all in your head that you were cheated when relationship was never agreed upon by both parties... let alone exclusivity. You cannot change the rules to satisfy your emotional clinginess; and to justify your self-imposed sense of victimhood. He aint told no lies from the begining.

When I tried to cut communications with him because of same highs and lows, he came to my house unannounced demanding to see me. He still asked me how we could make it better at the peak of the argument. And you say he ain't no lies that its all in my head?? Asking me to move in with him and I turned down and you say there was no relationship??

He knew It would be over if he admitted and ofcourse the lies just made it worse.

foleskay:
So a guy u used to get intimate with blocked you on WhatsApp for three days incommunicado, and you still thinking he loves you? Wft. He never loved you from the onset, he just wan use you as body count ni.

Move on sis. But it seems the guy is classy more than you, hence your clingy.

I'm far from clingy. Let me tell the truth he has a super job, but has never given me a penny. I most times sort him out when he or we are stranded. Though he pays back after reminder. I've even given him a Christmas present before all this drama.

He has his good part no denial, he can be selfless when he wants to be. Nobody is perfect I know. But what I didn't expect were the lies and him being clingy when he isn't sure of what he wants.

I have told him off severally, and this is not about the sex, we rarely did it.

dawnomike:
Sorry about that dear... just let him be. He'll come around if he is serious.

Thank you

I've been seeing this guy since we got introduced to last May. First off he asked me if I was in any relationship and I said no. So we kicked off got intimate within 2weeks. Happened he was a virgin and that was his second relationship.

He is into me for reasons I can't figure out, but he is very unstable and unsure. Before we got intimate, I felt we were already dating, but after that the constant highs and lows made me ask him again and he said he cares about me, but he is not ready for something serious now. I love to respect peoples decisions and not clingy so I let him be.

He kept coming around, he always needed one help or the other cuz he was new to the area. Sometimes when he ask for help, he says he will pay but for where, I just felt he didn't want to raise my hopes.

I told him off severally, but he kept coming, same high and low, we get intimate once in a while. Personally, I love this guy but couldn't say if it was mutual.

So fast forward to last week, he gave me his tab to help him do some work. So in the course I playfully went to his photos and saw nothing but as an old girl in the game, I went to his recycle and saw romantic pictures with a girl at the beach. The only thing is they didn't kiss but everyother thing termed romantic was in the pictures. That same beach event, but alone, he tagged it on Instagram as " create time for love".

I asked him who the girl was and he told me it was his friend from Abuja that just came him so he was showing her around town. I'm an outdoor freak, I've suggested to take him to the beach but he turns down that he doesn't like the beach.

He also claimed the girl is his friend's girlfriend and that his how they all play with their girlfriends.

Another, was a post of a delivered cake on Instagram to someone in Abuja. Quote" I owe you roses for every breath you take" he said it was to his cousin that she was having a bad day.

At the peak of the argument he said i should stop calling him a liar and I can think whatever I want he doesnt owe me any explanation.

I even had to call his close friend who introduced him which I have never done before to know if he was in a relationship but he said no ofcourse I didn't expect him to say otherwise.

So later the day I sent him a text of appreciation for the decit because he never wanted to commit and never wanted to go.After reading, he blocked me. Its three days now, he is yet to unblock me.

I really want to know if I should just move on or apologise for calling him a liar. Or was I wrong to have concluded he was in an affair.

I want genuine suggestions please I'm still heart broken.