₦airaland Forum

selemo:
Even she is pregnant she can still abort it...

I don't advise abortion

When he's supposed to tell you exactly when the wedding is taking place as he's giving you the ring...


Some girls una too mumu

For your mind now you're engaged. You better go on your knees and pray to whatever you believe in that you're not pregnant so you can easily throw away that chain and walk away.

Quite insightful, nice one op

Ephort:
I guess you have never met acutely stingy men that are even stingy to themselves too, or thirsty and insatiable babes that are never content. At no point should you generalize.

So true

One red heels for NGN500 in Oshodi b/stop... Haven't worn it once and don't think I will with the way it's looking right now


Money that I'd have used to eat sharwarma mtcheeew!


Speaking of sharwarma...

I bought one in Ozone cinemas Yaba the other day... NGN1300 for the most brittle and unappetizingly flavourless Sharwarma I'd ever tasted on God's good earth.

That has to be the waste of the year.

What a sensitive world

You cannot say anything without sparking one form of outrage or the other

And who is he blaming for three girls?


He must be rip-roaring mad

Lets even overlook the fact that the sex of the children are his purview, what success has he made for himself that prospective sons can inherit? If Barrack Obama and Dangote are satisfied with their daughters, it's one John Doe in the hinterlands with no money that is looking for a male child to carry on his obscure family name...nonsense and Buhari

You have still not taken responsibility for your life and your life decisions, it's a shame...


You're 32, wallowing in self-pity and still blaming forces for the negative choices you made

Sorry to say, you're not ready for success yet.

You should know better than quote that brainless troll

bukatyne:
Everyone has the freedom to want whatever they like; the wanted also has the freedom to determine who deserves them.

It is not your call.

Just look at the epistle you typed just because you've not gotten over your exes.

Pro tip: Stop being insecure and maybe the next relationship will last

Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner.

If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own. Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in todays world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in othe areas. Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it. Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

Noseme:
Amanee you applied for one of those Bank GT right

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Noseme:
Lol....i think i have gotten a little idea about what you are saying

Lol, I'm curious, what's your idea?

If this M&A happens, I'll be so grateful to God because what seemed like my biggest L in 2020 is turning out for my good...

He has to be an interesting person... I hate hanging out with somebody and feeling awkward because we have run out of things to say.

LadySarah:
You have herpes. Keep praying

Please can you share the link to this post?

You don't want another man to raise your children so you probably want another woman to. Madam carry your cross and keep treating STDs until you finally die of one, since you cannot use your brain to decipher the handwriting on the wall after 12 years, I doubt you ever will in this life.

Op you are 100% right

Lucid1:
This our huge scoreline is really peppering some people

As in, they won't sleep well tonight

Ladies donate their eggs for far less than 1.5m in Nigeria...

The highest amount being 120k

Don't discount the high rate of poverty in Nigeria, many single mothers wouldn't mind this deal and I think payment is split monthly

TheArchangel:
1.5m with all the dangers associated with pregnancy and birth not to talk of C-section.

1.5 m for pregnancy induced conditions you will never know you have until you are pregnant.

1.5m for all the unforeseen labour and puerperal complications which may arise. Based on the fact that Nigerians cannot be trusted, once the baby is out and she develops complications, there is a 100% chance that the lady will be left to her fate as the baby's parents will prefer her dead so that she will not come back to forment trouble or milk them dry.
1.5m should in case in the process of birth, there is a need to remove the womb cos of complications?
1.5m, when she will continue to have C-section as medical experts do not advocate for vaginal birth after C-section. Do note that most surrogate pregnancies ends in C-section.

Are we talking artificial insemination or good old procreation method? 1.5m to be touched and prodded by God knows what.?
And what if the sperm is swimming around without a Rhesus factor thereby exposing the surrogate mother to a life time agony of dealing with rhesus isoimmunisation and incompatibility. A lifetime of not being able to have a child of her own


This is a poor business deal. Ladies donate their eggs for a price close to this amount talk more of the whole deal.
7.5m will be OK.
2.5m for the surrogacy and treatment of any unforeseen pregnancy related ailments.
2.5m to keep quiet and disappear.
2.5m to establish a business.

yettymine:
I understand that this decision is disappointing. Kindly note that it is never easy to make admission decisions. But the decision was reached through a thorough and thoughtful review. Your application was evaluated in the context of the entire applicant pool. Please understand that this is in no way a judgment of you as a student or as a person, since our decisions have more to do with the applicant pool than anything else. Many applicants present strong records of achievement and good results in the admission interviews. We hope this final decision will not deter you from any of your personal aspirations.

 

I wish you every success with your further education!

 
THE REPLY I GOT FROM THE MAIL I SENT

Okay...

Sounds kind of generic but I think you should work on making your application documents tight and error proof especially the letter of motivation, then you can refire your application to another school

I wish you all the best

yettymine:
I got a rejection mail from Taltech today. Can I reapply to the same school before application close. I mean can I reapply to Taltech or try another school .

What course were you applying for and class of degree?
Can you send them a mail to ask why your application wasn't successful and what you can do to get positive results, going forward?

This thread is a joke

Kay100:
You can't get the type D visa here in Nigeria...you've to travel to either Egypt or turkey to visit the Estonia embassy..and how come you've almost completed your application without knowing this...didn't you do your research??

The most funny thing is, that's the theme of this thread.

Mstick:
I am so irritated right now! Not because you’re having a girl meanwhile you and your husband are being ungrateful but because two adults are bringing in a FIFTH child! Into this world despite having financial issues!

Gbam

I wish I could like this comment a million times, I'm just so disgusted by the actions of the op and her husband. Gosh! Bringing to the world children you cannot cater for because you're looking for a male child in this 21St century is downright insane!

justnock:
Do your research. I see a lot of guys here, talking about Estonia.
I believe you have sense, don't just follow what people are saying. Research thoroughly.

I've done my research for over two years now, if you think its not a good study destination, I want to know why and in what way

justnock:
Estonia is not worth it guys. Look for better countries, except you plan to use it as a stepping stone.

Why do you think so?

DNA testing is not necessarily done with only blood samples, there are other samples that can be used to establish paternity...

Where did she get her statistics from?


Uncertified and unverified information that someone is using as yardstick and making blanket statements just to cause an uproar


Next of Kin are usually people that you think will be alive when you are no more...it's the prayer of good parents that their children would outlive them, so if people decide to put their kids as next of Kin, its just common sense

If something you're eating drops on the floor, don't pick it and eat because Satan has eaten it...


Orishirisi

toplinetrtrend:
You that is telling us about your sugar daddy, aren't you also looking for attention?

I don't entertain nitwits

Bye