Allegory:

Lol who is chasing you? I agree with him though, spending all your money relocating to a country that might end up not giving you PR is terrible. High bp will set in when your visa is about to expire. I think the UK people should have a plan B. In the past 2 years, Canada has gone from a solid plan A to a shaky plan B. I envy the people that applied earlier and got PR in 2-6 months.

You still don't get the point, nothing stops you from pursuing PR countries from wherever you are and the process is easier plus you get to enjoy the perks that comes with living in a first world country. The UK cannot chase people out if their stay is legal. From my own experience, I started thinking about moving to Canada in 2019 and was about to evaluate my degree before Covid struck. Everything Canada was put on stand still but I got to know about studying in Poland. Long story short, I will be completing my tuition free masters studies in June and I was given a lifetime contract by my company which made me process a 3 year residence permit instead of the usual 1 year. I'm still interested in getting a Canadian PR so I've not given up on Canada but in case the doors close, I have a working plan B. Moving to other countries in the meantime doesn't detract from your Canadian dreams

ednut1:
which other country dey that gives PR Used to be australia and canada. Both are now doing anyhow. Truth is no other country dey, i don't trust uk with all the student visa issuances. Work visa only favours some certain few occupations. I hope things get better for this express entry o.

The most important thing should be to get out of Nigeria, any other thing is secondary.

Iamtwo:
the word notarized…is it that like a public seal or just the signature of the sponsor?

It's a notary public seal

Homeboiy:
We too Dey quick use that word LOVE

You meet person today wey you no know

The next thing is

Baby I love you all my life

Mtcheeww

Very annoying

DominusPrime:


So because of the rubbish people will say she shouldn't divorce him? If you ask me I'd say she should. When he realises he lost a good woman he will be the one explaining to people why she left him and asking them to beg her. There is no reason she should tolerate that nonsense.

You people are too angry in that country
I was just making a statement of fact, no swallow me abeg. I didn't drop any advice because I doubt op will divorce her husband with the way she's making excuses for him

Trendingbiz042:


So she should care more about what people would say than her peace of mind and happiness. Don’t ever live a life worrying about what people think about you. Live your life as it moves around you. I guess you’re still young and not well exposed to life to have made such comment.

Stop making false assumptions, I was just making a general statement

odinson1:
The truth is,you are no longer attractive to Him. You are probably Fat and Getting old,or you don't dress seductively Anymore.

I don't condone cheating except one is being denied sex by his partner,then he has all Justification to cheat. Now my question is,do you Deny him sex?




Are you trying to deny the Fact that Women generally "grow wings" when taken to Abroad?

This woman's issue is clearly not a case like that,so don't use it as an excuse to Justify those Ungrateful women

You don't know if the cases of those other women were similar so rest in Jesus name

If you divorce him like he deserves now, people will say you used him to go abroad and grew wings upon getting there. God help you ma'am

ColdHunter:


For the most part, women think about
- the expected glamour of the upcoming wedding (not necessarily the financial implication)

- the thrill of having their own home

- child birth

- and the hope that the man will always desire them.

Lalalsticlala

As usual, you're not a woman but you're already making delusional conclusions about women

This one off me

MrBrownJay1:


a drug addiction in marriage is NOT a life challenge, it is a spouse giving up on their family and giving their lives to drugs AND deciding to live a selfish life in hell (rather than to care for their familiy). the minute you choose drugs, you are a goner, and until these addicts hit rock bottom they will never let go... and nobody wanna follow a drug addict down that path!

What if she took it to remedy a genuine illness and has become addicted? A wife/husband is still family and marriage is still for better or worse

Occupying space until the IJGBs come

Even if he divorces his wife, he'll still marry another woman and give birth to the plenty kids that he wants. On this, there's nothing you can do really except stop paying his kids fees

Blessed

You people should rest, marriage is not the beginning and end of the world

One chance

Keep wasting your time until you see his pre-wedding pictures with another woman

Raalsalghul:


Aha, it's another one: "my mother, my father".

We wan hear una own story not your parents'.

I'm not married

My father had an accident where he couldn't walk for months because his spinal cord was slightly weakened. There was no way he could attend to the needs of the family as he couldn't work but my mother stood up to the challenge and bore the burden of taking care of a sick husband and five kids.

Her sacrifice was admirable and the fact that she never quit on us even when my father eventually abandoned us is the reason why I will make sure the remaining years of that woman's life is soft, God help me.

Kobojunkie:
And whose fault is that mostly?

The men should work on improving themselves to meet up and even surpass the women they meet abroad instead of settling for women they think would be low maintenance. Success minded men should not be looking for females to rescue, they should be looking for partners but what do I know? Nigerian men and charity cases are like 5&6

PoliteActivist:


You just assume quality independent women abroad are lined up waiting for some hustling struggling Nigerian man to marry. Has it ever occurred to you that the quality ones marry their own men, and what's available to the Nigerian man are the "rejects"

Lmao
Omo with the way Nigerian guys abroad act, you'd think the reverse is the case. Condolences to all parties involved

Cry me a river

You were looking for a woman to subjugate and subdue instead of looking for a partner. She played her cards well and pretended to be what you wanted until the tables were turned.

Like someone said, you cannot measure a woman's submission when she's broke and reliant on you for help. You saw tons of independent women abroad and chose to go 'home' because your small mind was intimidated by their success. You and your wife deserve each other abeg

Kobojunkie:
Ok

Kobojunkie:
Is this some personal grudge of some sort against the OP?

Can't hold a grudge against someone I don't know, just buttressing my point to you since you took the pains to quote me

Kobojunkie:
I am myself not a follower.... I don't simply do things because I see others do it. I like my actions to come from a place of wisdom - I question the value and worth of everything I do or engage in - , so I sort of see where the OP may be coming from.

Soliciting people's advice online is also being a 'follower' Easier to address her as whatever and let it end there than coming online to make a fool of yourself

Kobojunkie:
Isn't it possible that she is asking this question here so she can at least be certain she is right even in this assumed stiffness?

Consider that, traditionally, a baby mama is relegated to position of concubine/gal friend and not that of wife either. So, following traditional beliefs, she is not wrong in insisting the the is not a wife. However, Op, by asking this here question, creates an opportunity for us to outline how even traditional ideas don't hold ground where Christianity is concerned.

She's asking to get support on her sanctimonious stance. To be frank, it's not her business. If everyone calls the lady a wife, it takes nothing for her to do the same

Kobojunkie:
It is good to discuss these things so we understand the truth of God separate from the lies peddled out there in His name.

Yes but let's take a chill pill. We are the most religious set of people in the world yet the one thing true service to God entails, we lack it. Love your neighbour as yourself is everything Christianity is about. If op loves her neighbour like she's supposed to, she won't be acting stiff and sanctimonious about what she perceives are her flaws

Mummytoo:
Hello nairalanders


Now this is very common where I come from, when a man is dating a girl, everyone calls her his girlfriend, but immediately they notice that she is pregnant, almost everyone automatically changes the word "girlfriend" to "wife" they start calling her our wife without paying any bride price.

And they feel very comfortable doing that, most couples pay dowry when they are old and some don't even pay at all. I don't feel comfortable calling someone's girlfriend "our wife" just because she has kids for him.

That's where some people argue with me, that is only natural for me to follow suit, I said I won't.

Elders and pastors in the house, is it right to call a girlfriend - "wife" ?

Does the Bible accept that?

It's none of your business pepper body

Call her whatever others call her and do not judge

Poverty mentality and desperation, very bad combo

Just say you're looking for sex


Relationship coach isonu

White women and doing things upside down

Get rid of that user, he doesn't and will never love you or your child.

The kind of men some females date sha

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