₦airaland Forum

Riskie:
I really think having the underwear line showing is more tacky and indecent than wearing a thong.

Exactly!  Pantylines are so last century!  

@xerxes

I don't think you understood my point.  

I'm not interested in discussing the gender wage gap.  

What I said is that equality does not exist as long as men expect their wives to feed them.

eldee:
I thought you lot were all about financial independence?

"You lot"? I'm not sure which "lot" I'm being put into here.

If you want to know how I feel about a man giving me money, please read my posts here:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=17478.msg2360197#msg2360197

I wasn't discussing that in this thread. All I'm saying is that, if you want to talk about which gender has it better, we need to consider the fact that you boys are still going to want to sit back and have your wives take care of you like little babies with their mamas once you get married. So quit complaining and go spend that money on your girls!

Ha, it's funny you should mention it because I work on pay equity and the gender wage gap for the government.

But anyway, I'm not saying that equality shouldn't exist.  I'm saying that it doesn't in most homes.

Until you men are doing laundry and dishes and changing diapers just as much as your wives, you have no right to whine and complain when you pay for our dates!

@xerxes

There is no equality.  Yes, us women earn paychecks just like you men.  But then we have to come home and do a second full-time job - taking care of husbands and children.

Equality?  What a joke.

I conclude that dating is an investment for the MEN and us women are getting screwed.

@buzy

Likewise, if my man was going through a hard time financially and needed a bit of help, I would be there for him.

I don't see what it has to do with being treated like a lady, though.

I'm 15, what about you?

@buzydiva

If I were expecting money in exchange for sex, I would feel like a prostitute. If I'm expecting sex and love in exchange for sex and love, I feel like a girlfriend (or, in my case, a wifey).

I don't equate being treated like a lady with having money thrown at me.

Nope, I'm a whitey and will never hear the end of it on this forum!

I'm with you, Antidote.

If I were dating, I would like it if a guy would take me out or buy me presents. But I would feel a bit like a prostitute if I expected it.

just curious - I read in the other thread that you're not Nigerian.

perhaps you should try dating women instead of girls

where are you from, antidote?

buzyDiva:
My dear . . am at work and swamped . . yet, I still gat time for Nairaland.
talk about addiction huh?

Work?  Is that what we're supposed to be doing at the office?  

@sheniqua

change is inevitable but that's not really what we are discussing.

I would cringe if I heard a man say that his wife needed to be trained and I cringe when I hear a woman say that husbands need to be trained.

sheniqua:
_{no wonder the divorce rate is above 50% in the USA,everyone is set in their ways}

I'm getting so fed up with all this blablabla about Americans have no morals and westerners have no respect and the divorce rate is so high -  So what if I'm white?  So what if I'm a westerner?  Does that make everything I have to say completely illegitimate?

sheniqua:
does it take a rocket scientist to figure out that the word "train" in my post was tongue in cheek.

I got that but I just think it's a bad idea to try and change your partner. It will only frusterate both of you. Better to learn to live with him the way he is (and take your time fnding the right spouse to begin with).

The reason I have it is that it is the most effective form of birth control on the market right now, and it has fewer side effects than the pill and others.

It doesn't mess with your hormones, it doesn't cause cancer, It's actually very safe.

due to the fact that I ended up marrying one of those African classmates of mine, I then became exposed to pretty much every Nigerian or Ghanian at the school, and many outside the school (you know how it is - small world).

I admit that my sample size isn't large enough to make statistical inference.  But it's large enough for me to have formed an opinion.

Perhaps it wasn't the reason they left in the first place, but it's certainly the reason they're in no hurry to reunite!

I have yet to meet an African with a wife back home who isn't running around screwing everything that moves.

But my sample size is small so I admit this is not a scientific survey.

me too, sista!  My ass is flatter than a pancake

@debosky

Perhaps the women you date are insecure.

After I gave birth, I had a few extra pounds.  My husband told me, "I want you to get back your old body".  I said, "yeah, I want that too".  So simple.  No lying or screaming involved.

Several of my classmate in graduate school were Nigerians or Ghanians with wives back home. They all had girlfriends, friends with benefits, and even got other women pregnant.

So I agree that for most of them, it's because they want to have the benefits of married life combined with the freedom to hump everything they see.

the "does my ass look fat in this?" is not an appropriate example. We do want honesty but we want it to be accompanied by tact.

@eldee

god forbide your wife would become educated!

My daughter slept in bed with us for the first year so we restricted our lovemaking to the sofa or other places around the house. I don't think I could get in the mood if my child was lying next to me!

Of course we show plenty of affection in front of her. But not sexual. No making out or smacking butts.

My husband, although Nigerian, is very affectionate. He gives many kisses to both myself and our daughter.

It is unethical to say that women force men to lie.

Take responsibility for your own actions.

I can understand wanting to date someone with a similar level of education but why despise someone who hasn't had the same opportunities as you?  Maybe his father died when he was young and he had to leave school to help take care of his siblings?  Is that not noble?

you want to murder people who weren't given the chance to learn to read and write?

What about volunteering to teach them instead?