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polimaf:
What do you mean by lekki conservative area? is it the one by chevron?

glimpse:
Baby boy clothing's and a baby bed ( even if its used). I am in pH.

yvelchstores:
Lovely, cant help but notice mummy loves playing the role of queen B. All pics have her as D center of attention. I forgot D youngest child in most of D pics.

Joyfulgal:
Good morning everyone,
Let me start by saying I am not a perfect person. I will try to be as honest as possible. On the 29th of August I got a nanny. Here's a brief description of her. She claims to be God fearing, around 50 years, separated from her husband, has 5 kids. She calls me daughter and I call her mama/mummy.

The first three days she came, she was sick , but was treated (malaria ). Two weeks into her stay, she complained of body itching note she has a room and toilet to herself. Drinks good c - way water and bathe of course with clean water. Diagnosis was allergy. Just yesterday, she started complaining of neck pains. When she told me her age, I told her at this stage, she needs retirement but she says no one to provide for her needs. Meaning she needs the job and salary. She will be paid #30,000 monthly. Remember she's a stay home nanny.i provide her meals and medicals and may occasionally buy her clothes.

She lives with me and hubby. My hubby washes his clothes and car. So the only thing needed from her ìs a nice meal at the right time. I also told her, he doesn't joke with his meals. The first week,we had issues with her . She forgot the egusi at home and went to the market. Sure there was issues. The meal wasn't prepared on time. Two days later she messed up moimoi, it was on a Saturday after long hours of waiting for the meal , she served a meal that was half cooked. Hubby told her to cook again. And left the house angrily. I returned and ate the meal and also complained that the meal wasn't properly cooked.she said it's my tongue. I was bitter with her. Can you serve a visitor what you gave us or sell what you gave us? Her response was, she cooks and sell moin Moin and people don't complain. Ok I knew we were in for it. First week, I usually stay with her in the kitchen and guide her on her to prepare our meals. The following day Sunday, I told her hubby will go to church later so u can go for first service and return to prepare lunch. she returned from church(RCCG that closes before 12pm) few minutes to 2pm. I calmly told her,if my husband returns and his food is not ready it won't go well. She responded loudly that she's angry with me.i didn't bother to call her to find out her where about. I told her I see you as an adult and believe when dealing with adults things should go smoothly. Lunch was served by 4pm. I told her, if sincerely you see me as a daughter, you won't be doing all this. That passed. She kept a straight face.

God knows I have been trying to make her happy. I tell her to take a walk when she feels like. Give her money for snacks and ice cream. Make her feel like family. Watch tv together and allow her retire to bed when she feels like but the electronics must be properly turned off. Don't wake her up when I need to do some chores in the early hours of the day. I play ludo game with her when free and engage her in long gist to make her happy and don't feel lonely.

HERE IS THE PROBLEM
I told her, soon I will connect the dstv to her room but she can flex with the tv and dvd now. But when she needs to watch the almighty android tv in the sitting room I will help her turn it on .The tv is complex, requires update and to know when to connect it to ups /stabiliser. Yesterday afternoon called me, I was sleeping and honestly my phone was on silent. When I woke up, I went to her. She said there was light and she was calling and I didn't pick and she wanted to watch tv. Later in the evening, with our epileptic light, light came and off course her usual routine, please turn on the tv I did. PHCN struck around 10.21pm. She came knocking but I was in the convenience. When I came out, I didn't see her. So I went back to sleep. Remember no issues yesterday.

This morning, she requested for a meeting with me. Here was the discussion
Mama : I take u as my daughter, when I notice some character I don't like I have to tell u .maybe when oga comes the three of us will sit and u will tell me where I have gone wrong in this house. Your attitude towards me, I don't understand. I have noticed that on four occasions when I call, u don't pick(even days she went to the market ) i always return her calls.yesterday I knocked u didn't answer. That this suffer work when person dey do." She don tay for this job" .e be like I dey find person to replace her or she fit go.


Me: is that all my offence ? Do I wake u up early morning to do chores? I allow u wake up at your time. What do u think u do in this house? Sweep and mop once a week, go to market and cook and wash only my clothes and wash the kitchen utensils. What else? I have been a housewife and working class for some time now. It seems u are tired of this job or you are bigger than it. Please give me one week notification. I respect u so much the reason why I will stop here, had it been u were younger, I would have hit u real hard for all these u have said.

My observations
medically fit:40%
A good cook: 30%
Keeping the house clean:30%
But I intend to keep for some time until I have exhausted all options. I know she needs the money/salary. Tendency of her poisoning food is low or bringing in armed robbers or kidnappers is also low.

Please I need help on how to manage her or make her happy. I have been interacting with her as a family member and I think over familiarity is raising unnecessary issues. Please drop some tips for me.








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Plz if you are still looking for a help contact me. I personally vouch for her.

Ishilove:
Annihilation is senseless? Senseless ba wo??

Kuku say you don't understand the movie, not that it is senseless.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

noeloge82:
If u are having in mind to raise Christmas birds this year and u don't have any structure on ground (brooder/pen,feeders,drinkers) I think this is d time to start building and gathering materials to avoid in necessary pressure to meet up

zaynie:
Might be time for pullups sha
That's what one very fat baby with us uses, although he's losing weight now cos I ration his food, struck all his sugar out and make him walk around and not sit all day like he loves too.

lululuv:
Please how old is your son and which diaper 're u using @d moment

Hyphee:
Thank you for this ma, at least this is an answer to my question, pls how much did you get it?

zaynie:
Be patient with him , Ambient.
If he is still standing in front of you after all those seizures, then there's a reason and purpose for his being.

Giddyperson:
Jaysmama who annoyed you, why are you quiet these days.

Ambient forgot to ask, how is your baby now