Omoawoke2:
The question is what made you a single mother.

It is not by becoming a motivational speaker, some single mothers deserves all the frustrations they can get

I know two single mothers currently that their husband left them because of cheating, one even brought a bastard child to her husband and he found out, now she don turn to motivational speaker

Since you have a biased mind already, I dare to say that what made me a single parent is none of your business.

You are one the people I spoke about that one should be deaf and blind to.

While some single parents are the architects of their situation, some are not (argue with your keypad or do your research).

Let's assume they did make a mistake, you are not Assistant Jesus or their God to judge.

Don't help them to be crying over spilled milk let it rest and find a way forward.

I am speaking to serious minded single parents who can sometimes get overwhelmed with the situation but want a better future for them and the children.

I am sharing some of the nuggets that helped me, that I would have appreciated if I had seen earlier.

If this does not concern you in anyway, please Waka pass.

Shokoloko:

That is good advice from OP.
OP clearly stated that she doesn't allow males in her home and she doesn't have time for a relationship.

But let me tell you, sexual abstinence is best but how many Nigerians are real Christians? Most of us are religious (church or mosque going), not real Christians or Muslims. Not real change inside, mostly hypocrites. (I always say that Nigerians who are crying about the corruption in this country only do so because they haven't had the opportunity to steal from the National Cake).
Some of us do not have religions. Some are traditionalist.
She is saying - "I am going to abstain but if you are a false follower of a religion" like many Nigerians are please use protection so you don't create more children missing one parent.

How many single fathers do you know that can lock up for 6 months?

You totally understand my point sir/ma, Thank you

godwon01:
All these story are defence mechanism. A lot of those that decided to separate from their husband were regretting doing so. Two people loads you carried them on your head and you thought you didnt feel the pain on your neck. My sister that did it nearly ended up in psychiatric hospital if not the intervention of the whole family . If you had tasted the joy of a good and caring husband you will not like to be a single parent.

Eyah, in your mind now everyone that's a single parent planned or wanted it.

Exceed15:
My sister, I enjoyed your piece because of one thing: You never showed any bitterness, hate, anger against the father of your children or play victim and blame the other partner. You simply shared how God has helped you handle journey so far. I Salute your doggedness, determination and healthy minds you have built. May you see your lovely children grow to bring you joy always .

Thank you so much, I appreciate this. I sincerely also pray it helps someone.

YoshihideSuga:


Read her diaries, OP was married. You have NEVER been married. What do you know?! Are you not Mercychen aka Blessedchen, the 40 year old prudish and sanctimonious virgin who planned marrying a 41 year old man whose salary is 100K?

What the fvck do you know about marriage, eh?!

Thank you @poster, I wonder what he understands about marriage and this is actually me speaking to single parents who understand what I am saying.

phemmyfour:
Go back to your husband, and all these epistle won't be necessary

Very funny I am just seeing this after a year of my post.

I would have preferred if you had asked about what caused the whole rift before asking me to go back to a situation that you don't know what is involved.

Anyways, it's been 7 years of being without him,still having great relationship with his family who used to be my in-laws amongst other blessings.

So thank you for your advise, but no thank you sir. I take from my advice in the initial post, only me understand what transpired not you.

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Dear Single Parent,[i][/i]

I am writing this to encourage you not to give up on the child(ren) that for one reason or the other have become your sole responsibility.

Few years ago, I was totally at a loss too and my only drive was to ensure that whatever was wrong would not affect these young ones because they never asked to be born or be in such situation.

I actually did not realise how far I had come until I started analysing and it occured to me that I might not be there yet but I am also not where I used to be. I was amazed.

I have tried to highlight below some of the nuggets that helped me navigate the early years of single parenting,( it gets better as they grow older)I hope it helps and encourages someone.


It's ok not to understand everything fully, one step at a time with a focus on the future is all you need.

*Selective deafness & Blindness: When you are a single parent you need to decide who to listen to and what you want to see. Some people will say things that will make you question your integrity, intelligence, moral standing and so much more, some would make you feel guilty for what was not even your fault, No one understands your story like you do, let them talk but never let them deter you from reaching your destination.
And if you made a mistake , forgive yourself, ask for forgiveness and move on, it's up to you not anyone(After All, they are not Assistant Jesus or God's P.A)

Who are you talking to & who is talking to you, whoever you are listening to that is giving you the vibe of Never, it is finished or you're such a dissappointment, please leave them. Don't be talking to people who do not have your interest at heart or believe any good thing can still come out of your Jerusalem.

Remember, single parenting is not the end of life and does not mean you should forget your dreams.
You may need to sacrifice for the children to get stability before you face your aspirations but never forget it. For example, I went back to school for my B. SC, got certification from my professional body and now I am saving towards having a M.sc. (The money is still not complete because one of them usually have one expense or the other and I have to spend it again)

PLAN,PLAN & PLAN: Have a financial budget, time budget, work schedule, house chore schedule for the children, food schedule, schedule for almost everything and achievements.

Never forget to be futuristic in your decisions, long term is always better and I cannot overemphasize ensuring that your children are well trained, don't overburden them but don't also over pamper them. single parenting becomes easier when the children are taught to be responsible, independent and can make intelligent decisions by themselves with little or no guidiance.

NO OVERSABI: My brother or sister, this is not the time to do OVERSABI or try to keep up with the Joneses, if you have to enrol them in a public school and support with a private tutor please do, don't have heart attack every new term which is every 3 months, don't join groups or clubs that will demand time or finance you can't give, aso ebi might not be feasible for some time, you might need to supplement meat with egg or garri for cornflakes, these are short term sacrifices to fulfill your long term goals.

DON'T DECEIVE YOURSELF: You see that mantra of what a man can do a woman can do better,na lie, we are created to balance each other out.
You can't be a father and mother at the same time, there is a part of a child's life either is supposed to fill, in the absence of a willing spouse, get support of family or friends, get them to interact with children with "complete" families for their mental, psychological and mental well being, at a point I sent my daughter to go spend a full school session with my sister who has kids her age and whose husband dotes on his kids, she was the youngest and I noticed she was beginning to have daddy issues. My brothers ( their uncles) fill in so they can have role models around, we sometimes go for family outings together, sometimes they drop them in school or stand in during PTAs, basically just try to fill in the gap with the right people, they can't take the place of the father but they can cushion the effect till they are mature enough to deal with it better.

MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS &SEXUAL DEMANDS:
While I understand that we all have emotional especially companionship needs and sexual demands, I beg you manage them away from the kids if you must indulge. Don't be introducing every man or woman that you get along with to them because it may come to nothing especially if you have children that want you to have a partner because of some reasons(sometimes funny reasons depending on their ages), don't mess up their emotions and sexual/ moral orientation, don't add pepper to injury, most of them dont know the meaning of just friends. Personally, male visitors were not allowed in my home, colleague ,church, business whatever until now that they are older. Especially if you are attractive (looks, intelligence or finance) and you are still getting attention from the opposite sex.
(I cannot help you on love matter biko , everyone wants a companion but my plate is full enough as it is with trying to sort our lives, I don't like the hypertension, self love is the beginning of true love.

sha don't forget to use your brain and maybe condom too in case you have the stamina for hearts issues)

Take your children's emotional and mental well being seriously, their self esteem is important, don't let them feel less because they are from a single parent home or they have less than anyone, paint a picture of a bright future for them to run with always.

Look out for the negative emotions that can lead to depression, frustration or transfer of aggression on the innocent children because you are angry at yourself, the situation or your estranged spouse.

Lastly, decide what you really want out of life and for the children, that will guide you in making long term decisions and give you strength for the short term sacrifices.

Finally, I am not sure you can survive without God. Love God and love yourself .
Remember, your life is not a rehearsal , you only live once.

Voy:
Wch primary sch u attend bro? I wan start sch afresh

I'm female ooo

KimberlyWest:
Your posts are disturbing. It's always about women not being perfect. It's common knowledge. Ain't there fake men, too?

Anyway, that's not what I'm concerned about. My problem is, don't you think of money, food, vacation spots and other good things in this life?? Why make women your primary focus?

His name tells you WHY, he's a LOST CHILD

If there is a way you can get tight evidence and expose them anonymously please do, try as much as possible to expose them because marriage won't stop the amorous relationship it would only give them unsuspecting reasons to see each other more often.

Who knows if they were even dating before your friend met her.

Just don't let them know you're involved because the way of a man and a woman you cab never know, you can't be too sure how it would pan out but you would have cleared your conscience

Wahala for some people
Man says he needs space
You keep giving him fresh slots... You think he would refuse ni
He would continue eating
And should not even have guilty conscience over it
Because to told you plainly

MufasaLion:
Whatever decision you take, never marry an extremist if you ain't one.

I get attracted to ladies of other religion. I prefer them.

Why please, maybe their.character, believe or.value.system

Try to inculcate dry health foods that do not need cooking usually for breakfast.

Cereal
Bread and butter
Sandwich

You can also get fries, the ones already sliced and packed from stores so you just fry in the mornings and microwave sauce with it

If you're not comfortable with live -in house helps, get those who come in on specific days, clean and then leave. Just be careful, it is well

Please share your experience, challenges or the positive sides.
Thanks.

I don't understand why they can not just let people that want to be on their own go.

The annoying thing is it is politicians that are causing trouble, and Nigerians we now carry the matter on their head like gala.

Whether they go or stay, how does it affect the ordinary man on the street in either of the regions.

Politicians are there doing what's best for them, like insisting against State police, you people are here speaking against each other.
Continue.

On the Career woman:
The woman need be careful before she turns workerholic.

Though men get attracted to them because of the potentials of no being a liability, no man wants a woman that won't have time for them all in the name of job.

As much as possible, let your ambitions be well communicated such that it doesn't portray you as a wife that would end up being arrogant or cannot submit.

The need for respect is in every man's DNA, whatever feminism is trying to teach, if you cannot respect a man , don't go into relationship with him.

Date the man you value and feel deserve your respect, that is not being mumu it is secret of blissful relationship.

PS: Respect is reciprocal, a man that deserves your respect would respect you also because he is perceptive enough to recognise your value and vice versa, just that what a man calls respect might be a bit different from what a female perceive as respect and truth is men feed on respect more than love while women feed on love more than respect.

NgoziLovelyn:
You really tried to copy it? But that's wrong naa. It would have been a copyright violation you know..

Nope, not if I quote the source and original owner of the work

Ayoleeboy007:
I miss those days of nairaland when someone will click in and paste the complete story there thereby infuriating the op the more.

I really tried to.copy and bring it back to you guys, but it wasn't possible.

I'll summarise: The gang leader wanted to have sex with the wife, she said no despite death threats. Saying she had vowed to keep.her body for.her husband alone, story cut short, robbers were surprised and touched, Acollected the 2200 and went away, wishing them blissful forever love .

The story is nice though, and the site has other great stories
Kindly bless another person's hustle, please click

MrBrownJay1:


sex is also about COMMUNICATION so dont be shy to be fully honest with your spouse in the bedroom. sit her down, have a few glasses of wine then ask her all these important questions.

btw: have you ever asked her what she likes? have you ever asked her what she would like you to do? have you ever asked her to be in charge? if you wanna know what your woman fancies in the bedroom, you gotta give her that space... here is a clue: as you are making love to your wife, whisper in her ears "do you like it?" "do you want more?" " do you want it slower/faster?" " where do you want me to caress/lick you?" "how do you want me to take you?" " do you want it rougher or more gentle?" etc etc etc

your job is to DISCOVER and unleash the tiger you have in your bed...and so far, you've only met the reserved shy kitty cat!

stay away from all these drugs to last longer in bed...

I was just wondering if he had tried discussing the issue with the wife before bringing it here.

If your wife tells you the problem, then.people.would be able to suggest more effective solutions.

There is a man for every woman
One man's meat is another's poison
Just manage the way you were created the best you can and live your life the best you can

I personally detest distant marriages, you said you have a business, except the salary is what would sustain your family, I do not subscribe to it. You want to grow together not apart

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EVILFOREST:

WITH the kind of LADIES we have these days, I wouldn't blame any man again changing them like wrapper..
Be it a Pastor or BISHOP... Your Happiness and SAFETY shouldn't be compromised at all.
IF this New Bride also messes up, he should show her the way straight up.

Stop being one sided Bros, we have bad women , good women, bad men , good men