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The whole village should come.




On a serious note,your wife's mum should come first. She may not be comfy having your mother bathing her, or seeing her naked. So her mom hs to come to do all the necessary things, then your mom can come later.

Congrats on the new addition.

You shouldn't have cjecked her phone in the first place. That is called snooping and in my opinion,it hurts and threatens relationships.
You probably didn't trust her before you went snooping did you? So my dear deal with it. On the other hand, it may not be what you think. If it is a relationship, then it's in the budding stages. Of that i'm sure.

both i think. Just like my cousin,i did not marry from my tribe. My older sis in law is a natural busybody. I promise you,you've never met one like her.

If i was from their tribe,it would not have been that bad. I've got issues in my control now as far as they are concerned. I fought hard (like zik) for my independence from them. My husband was not really close to his family, but when he got married they thought it was time to get close to him, but it did not work that way.

@ D-reloaded

I purposely left that out, but since you asked well, here it is then.

In the beginning, i thought my in-laws were so good. As the months rolled
into years my dear, i started seeing them differently.
When i say them, i mean my 2 sisters-in-law and my father-in-law. 
When we were still back in Nigeria, my sis-in-law sent me a maid when i told her i had none. I really did not like the idea but all the same,i played along. This maid was to be her ''eyes'' in the house. She knew absolutely everything that went on in my home. I shocked the day she called me and asked ''so you are now big enough to contribute money to your father's medical treatment.'' I hope my brother knows.  
My dear, it's a long story. They brought out their true colours and when they saw their brother was not ready to play their game, i became a devil who in their own words had '' locked their brother's heart''.
Abeg leave inlaws you hear. I fought for my rights single handedly, till my husband saw i was not just trying to make wahala bw him and his people. The day he saw it, he almost had a heart attack. Shapey was bold enough to tell hers to the whole world.

As for in laws,if they are nice,  then please, be nice to them if not,  He he he.Show them the real meaning of wickedness too. Prayer is the key does not solve it here. My cousin saw hellllllllllllll. I have learnt how to handle such cases for myself ,because i do not get how a married woman will want to run another's home,even trying to dictate the school my kids will attend, and how much my husband should give me as allowance. RUBBISH MEN!!!!!

If they do not realise that brother of theirs is now married and is now a man of his own then toooooooooooo bad. They are also married. Let them mind their own homes.   D-reloaded have i answered you now?


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Mmmmmmmmmmmmm nice thread indeed.


Okay,let me see,
it's sweet n bitter to be a wife. honestly. Happily in my own case,the highs are way more than the lows. Knowing how to handle issues, being patient, tolerant, submissive (sometimes sha o) all helps to make you a happy wife and your hubby, a happy one.

For women, knowing that giving in sometimes is not always defeat too. You do it to keep the peace in your home, and have your peace of mind too.

As for being a mum. That is a big blessing to me. sometimes when your husband annoys you, you 'bone' his side and face your kids squarely. I make it a point of duty, no matter how tired i am to spend time with my kids, and read to the older one at least thrice a week. It helps bonding.

In a nutshell,there are great big challenges in everything. In marriages there'll be mega major fights, and then there'll be very very good times. FOr me, when i'm hurt, i remember the so many good times and try not to react in anger. That has worked lots'o wonders in this house,honestly.
To all those aspiring moms and wifes, all the very best. It's a rough ride, but how you handle those bumpy parts of the journey makes you a good wife.

Abbey10
We are all good my dear.
Shapey had a tubal preggy and had one tube removed . Is still home and has stopped work for now. I'll be with her this evening. Hope your family is good too. Thank you so much,and i wish you all the best.

@ De-reloaded.
It was a janitor as i heard. i did not bother to find out,i just carried the guy and they have been calling me to ask why i withdrew him. I'll be going to the school with my husband this friday. It's easier to hear such things as stories. I left the fees for them, i will rather not listen to any silly explanation.

I like this thread--sooo refreshing.

Daddy,
I may not be your favourite (if you have any) but i love you all the same. I was not close to you while growing up,cos i saw you as one who would ''hala'' at the slightest provocation. When you used to ask me,why i did not like you, i'd keep quiet,not knowing what to say. I had alot to say. I was just scared of you.

I'm all grown up now,and i can see that all you did was in my own interest, eventhough it could have been done in a more gentle fashion.

Nonetheless,daddy, thankyou for being there,for contributing in whom i have become today. Thank you for everything, i love you dearly.

Smile4kenn where is your wedding cake? We'll like to toast to you and your new wife.

The poor poster asked a simple question,una don carry the discourse go another side?
Ehhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!

Easybaby,tbk417 Una nor get YIM

I don hole whip, anybody wey talk wetin nor dey the topic go hear am for im back.

I heard recently that it happened in my son's school. I withdrew him as fast as i heard it,not minding that i had paid for the month.

It is more rampant than we know. The thing is trying to avoid such occurences. I tel my boy as often as i can to tell me when anyone touches him inappropriately. Try to make the kids aware of ''good'' and ''bad'' touching. It'll help to check that such incidences are held at bay.

I hardly allow guys carry my daughter. My neighbour's experience was frightening. her chidminders son was caught with his fingers in her son's diapers.
If i caught my nephew doing that, there will be serious trouble o!!!! Between both of us one person will must end up in the ER.

Almondjoy !!!!!

Your liver done well well, i must say. Got on a flight without telling no one!!!!!!!!

What did you do with your kids?? Just thinking of that makes my heart pound.

@ topic

On what basis must i do that? Does he help me do the job that earns the pay? NO.

I do not even see any cheque. My acc is credited. So handing my pay cheque to anyone doesn't come into play here.

@ Alomndjoy

What is IGBANDA?

Thanks so much poster.

We have to work so hard often to keep body and soul in one piece.
Will keep this in mind.

@ ASL33

Are you saying there are no decent girls here in London? i don't think so.You probably have not searched hard enough.

Search well and pls invite us to the wine carrying when it ''ripens''.

All the very best.

LOL @ topic.

THis is a serious command.

As for me and my house,we shall remain right here.!!!!

I have been here for about 7yrs.Even when my hubby was posted to 9ja for a short trem assigment, i did not go. When he left for Accra,i got there before him. It gave me the oppurtuinity to visit home from a ''close'' distance.

When he was posted back to London,i ran back b4 he could even get here with my children. When one stays away for a long time, going back is not easy,i must say. We are in a society where everything works-constant electricity, water, good roads, good transport system, etc. and suddenly,you go back to 9ja where there's hardly any security, nepa fails like no man's business, okada is ready to break your legs if you are not careful. Even the way motorists horn is so scary.

My dear, it'll not be easy to just up and go. I'll eventually go back, but not before my kids are able to stand on their own two feet. I am not coming back with them.