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D-reloaded!!!!!! You made me choke on my drink. I even spilled some on my keyboard

@ post
Ifyalways has pretty much said it all. I've heard people say men are naturally cheats. Just like he-goats.

@ poster

Please i think you should give your hubby some space. Just let him be for a short while,he may come round sooner than you expect. I think i know what this feels like. Study hard, finish your schooling and get yourself a job please. Most people do not know it,but ''jobless'' women are a bit of a ''burden'' to their husband's eventhough he may not say it. It only takes time and all his feelings and frustration boils up like a volcano. Most often than not a man who sees his wife as a liability reacts funny sometimes. Please, give him sometime.
How come you do not ask him for money My dear, i work full time and my husband foots bill and pays the kids bills too!!!!! So your not asking him for money does not make issues lighter.

Let him know that you do not really mind if he is not able to do 'big' things,ride big cars and all that.

Do not just throw in the towel my dear. I know it seems like it's the only way out,but just give him some time.
All the best.

You are quite welcome Ayo.

have a good evening.

@ busta

Is everything okay dear? Why are you shouting typing Debo's name like this?

@ western
Is your caps lock broken?

@ wise_1

where are balls sold??
You say ''get some balls'' like they are sold on liver pool street.

Yes my dear,Nigeria will be better some day. The Lord is on the throne. Don't despair,everything will okay.

Il faut essayer. Beline a dit quelquechose tres important. Si vous voulez parler comme les gens francias, regardez la television ou bien ecoutez la radio. Les chaines comme TV5, RFI doivent vous aider.
Moi,j'ai deja oublie ce qu'on a apprendre al'ecole. Il fait plusiers annees.
Bonne chance.

@ Dalby
You see,i am married. I know that lots o'women out there are just like i am-loving with their whole being. The reason why i don't get why guys or husbands can cheat and say they love their wives or girlfriends, honestly i do not understand. How can you cheat on someone and turn around and say you still love them?? My elder sister whose hubby cheated on her with impunity could say ''but i still love you,i never stopped''. How does one explain that pls?

i cannot love you with my whole heart and you cheat and say,you love me!!!! Cheating is of various kinds. No matter the kind cheating is cheating. The last straw that will break the camel's back is when sex is involved. A girl who met my Husband( then fiance) was calling the guy.This girl was in the US,and we were in 9ja then. She was even planning to come to the town we were staying to see him. She used to call him at odd hours of the night,small hours of the morning and even when we are together. We were planning our winecarrying and she was always calling him. They used to discuss so many things from her periods to Goodness knows whatelse. Is that not cheating? I noticed it but was keeping my cool,till the thing got out of hand. The mumu sent him her pics by DHL. That wedding was almost called off. All he kept saying was'' i love you,i'll always love you bla bla bla.

I do not just get it. How can you love someone and then do all sorts of things that will hurt them. Some guys even have the nerves to flaunt it.

Na wa sha!!!!!

Anyway,the poster has corrected himself. It was the ''arrow'' he shot that made me click on the thread in the first instance.

@poster
You must remove the log in your eye,before looking for the speck in the next person's eye. You do not sound particularly ''intelligence'' so how on earth would you ever meet an ''intelligence'' girl? Hmmmmmmmmmm

A guy your height is not tall, i must say. At 5'' 8, i don't think i can be described as tall.

Brush up,learn to speak properly and before you know it,the ''intelligence'' girls will come your way.

sabasabi thanks my brother/sister for this. I was actually getting sick of the whole Obama thing. I know on the day of the US elections, people will be greeting'' happy US elections '' in 9ja.It was that bad during the last election.


Anyone who whispers 'obama' here will be fined. Then if you type it, consider yourself banned for all time.

The proceeds from the fine will be used in organising a banquet for all nairaland members here in London. So if you want to be fined like £650 just mention type Obama.

Sabisabi,i tip my hat.

Yes,a man can love his wife,girlfriend or whoever and still cheat._{so they say.} That does not excuse the fact that he cheated anyway. For me,cheating is cheating, even if you love me more than yourself. The fact remains that you have cheated.So you get ready for whatever i'll throw your way.

In fact cheating on me and then telling me you love me will just worsen issues,so better shut up and start begging for forgiveness once you've been caught. That day,my pot of hot okra soup will end up on your head.That is if i don't leave the house for you and your mistress

Men can handle so many emotions at the same time. But it's not the same for women. Once i love,i do so with my whole heart,body and soul. I do not understand why you say you love me to bits and then go about inserting your third leg in other people.
In answer to your question dear poster, they said they can love you and cheat on you at the same time. Though i find it hard to comprehend.

@ poster

What on earth are you doing with another woman's husband? Are you not ashamed? Have you not heard that the broom used in sweeping the first wife away is on the roof waiting to do same to the next wife? And to imagine that you are the one doing the sweeping.

Please you better retrace your steps if you want to be happy.Firstly you had no business whatsoever in another woman's home. Second and following, it is totally wrong morally and otherwise to date a married man, not to talk of being '' in love'' with him.

There are lots of decent single men out there. What did you see in a married man? How would you feel if you are the one in these shoes?

YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF .What advice do you now want? You have caused a fellow woman such pain and you come here to ask questions.    Be careful,lest your future home be broken just as you have broken this.

Almondjoy has said it all. Thanks girl.


@poster
I'm not scared of growing old.It's a natural process,and no matter how scared you are,you WILL get old,unless you die young. I am getting older. When i look at my kids,i just smile to myself and that reminds me how old i'm getting. So pray to grow old and to be a blessing to others even in your old age.

Josh did you travel? Aunty nko? You have been a bit scarce. Shapey is not well. She had an ectopic preggy and is recovering from surgery.

Take care you and enjoy your weekend.


@poster
This thread is stale,and you must have done whatever you wanted by now. Yes almond has said it all. Look within yourself. If you think this situation can yet be saved,pls try hard to do that. In marriage,we all (all of us) have to bend backwards for it to endure. DO some soul searching,and make sure you make a decision you will not regret.

@poster

Please,i think you should be careful.It 's not wis coming on a publice forum as this asking just anyone to give you an invitation letter. do you not even think for a moment that you may be given fake docs and that will jeopardise your chances of ever getting the visa or any other one for that matter? A stranger has asked you to contact him. You must be careful so as not to play into the wrong hands because you ''want to know what iceland looks like''. Do you even think that people will be willing to give you a invitation letter without knowing you at all Please,think it through once more. BE WISE.

@ others

What's this craze about BEGGING people whom you have never set eyes on to give you this and that to travel out?? Can't vacations be taken in Africa or anywhere else? I heard Calabar is now a nice place to visit. I'll be going there myself when next i visit Nija. Let's be very careful with such things pls.

R-dynamite
I take it that you did not see my post. I said anyone who posts on this thread,shall be fined £500. So my a/c num is HSBC, send me your email,i'll send the a/c number to you.
Same goes for you 4HIM. £500. I'm waiting.

This topic has been floggeg a number of times here. I guess that' why you have no responses. You may want to google it at the bottom of the page and check out the different views on it.

Oya Almondjoy, R-dynamite, It's game over. This thread is closed and it's now a locked topic. I'm Seun's rep here yeah Oya make una come dey go house. I don do.

GOODNIGHT LADIES!!!!!! BE SURE TO DREAM OF ME GIRRRRRRLLLLLLLLLSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.


The nextpost on this thread shall be fined £500 only.Kenn has cordially invited us to his pre-nups. The colour code is black tux for guys and mint green ball gowns for ladies.
BE THERE.

@ poster
It'll be almost impossible to find someone who is willing to put everything on the line for a total stranger. On one of my trips to Nigeria,i gave someone an invitation letter and almost got myself into trouble. She left my house saying she was going back to Nigeria,went to Scotland and got caught. If not for Christ's sake, i'd have been in a big mess. So for me,if you did not come from thesame womb with me,or suck the same breast, Please,stay on your own.

2ndly,why do you have to leave? It's not as easy as guys think. So think it over.If you insist, then i heard people trek across the sahara to get to Spain.You may as well give it a shot.

Goodluck.

Thanks again Ozi. You have taken the words out of my mouth.

It a very sad situation. How can someone pay through his nose to get a degree and at the end of the day it's rubbish?

A Nigerian in my office told of her experience when she just got here. She has a degree (BSC) in microbiology. She was told that Nigerian university degrees are not seen as degrees here. It's so sad.
ASUU is not helping matters. How can we keep hearing of strikes all the time? I'm so scared for Nigeria. THere can hardly be a atraight academic year without a strike. Education in slowly grinding to a halt.

Ozi,you will be richly blessed for this reply to this guy.

smile4kenn dearie,a word is enough for the wise. If you decide to go ahead,just know that there are lots of hurdles to overcome.  There is nothing more to be said.

Almondjoy why we no go reach there?? we don reach am pass i tell you.

Marriage is a very very very big puzzle.Everyone just has to learn to solve it in his/her own way. There are times when i feel like packing up and running back to my parents, There are times when you ask yourself'' what on earth am i doing in this man's house?''

On the other hand,there are times when you feel you cannot survive without him. Na wa for marriage o. Like people have written here, patience,tolerance and prayer are the ingredients to a happy marriage. We must get there.

Smile4kenn
please dont get so touchy now.Almond has apologised. You have to consider this so carefully. Marriage is not one big joke okay. There is no need to regret posting this here. Inasmuch as there are jokers here,there are also those ones who have a good head b/w their shoulders.

Ken,think it over. Do not come back here with your decision. there are a few points to consider- Is a 19yr old ready for marriage? Truth is she may turn around to blame you for the oppurtuinities she'll feel you deprived her of.I have a friend who cries 24hrs of the day saying she regrets marrying her husband when she did. Do not make a hasty decision. Is she pregnant? Please tell us, then our advice may turn out to be different.

You are 23.Do you have an income? how do you intend to cater for her and any kids that may come by? Are you emotionally mature for marriage? You alone can answer that. There are many thing to take into consideration. Like my mother told me when i announced my husband had proposed to me, Marriage is not just about love making. there is alot more to it.

All the best.

Chika98 whya re you doing this to me? PLease,i'm trying to get over the good time i had in mama calabar and you want to send me back?

Anyway to your question on nkwobi, I'll find out.I think it depends on the part of London you are talking about. I think there used to be one in surrey,but i'm not sure anymore.I'll get back to you on this. While you're waiting,pop into burger king and grab a bite.

A marriage needs sex to survive ofcourse.

NO, I am not in a sexless marriage. One thing that keeps marriages going is sex,so if that is ruled out,then there'll be one big fire on the mountain. It's a different thing if the union is sexless for a good reason eg one half is ill, or is not just disposed to have sex at a given period. But for the marriage to be enitirely sexless?

I know that is a ground for divorce. So the couple may agree not to have sex,but in the end they are either cheating on each other,or doing it unnaturally.