₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
It seems you didn't bother reading the post before responding at all. What aspect of the story about a woman who claims she has two men in her life — a husband and a baby daddy— wanting a sister wife makes you think this is something about Big Love & polygamy?

Kobojunkie:
Na woman dey marry wife for man? If yes, which of the two men is she trying to marry the sister wife for or to?

Kobojunkie:
She is obviously not being serious. What else do you know about the lady whose Facebook page you got this from? 😏😏😏

SmartPolician:
Your cousins are right. Keep the communication channel active. Tell him that your father said that the moment he recovers he would come over and see him. Your family cannot afford to lose those two brothers at the same time.

Apogee14:
There used to be this myth that white women are so soft and gentle and that they never give wahala when you marry them. That's the biggest lie from the pits of hell. Every black man married to these white women are going through intense hell and suffering. These white women are very evil and very unstable and neurotic. They are like men. Very overtly assertive and extremely aggressive. They are psychos. You are better off marrying a snake. No black man married to them is ever happy. The guy Jonathan majors had to quickly fashi that white woman and run back to black women. They are just very evil cold and mean. A few of our Nigerian brothers have been kpai by them. I remember obumseli or whatever his name was. The secret is out, these white women are not soft loving creatures. They are the devil in person 😅😅

frog12:
if e no wan union, the best thing is to improve the working conditions of the NIGERIAN workers.

Apcshit:
I don't understand how this is champions league inspired

Watch the video.

It's really nice and I'm sure a Nigerian will soon surpass it

Inosky:
He might pay them for some months and the rest is history. Omo, but PENGASA is a strong union to bring dangote to the table.

frog12:
e be like say these INDIANS get interest for the thing.

when dey spill the beans later everyone eye go come open like kolanut

GloriousGbola:
you are teh one who is funny if you think that a business man who is yet to finish repaying his dollar loans will spend money like that

GloriousGbola:
lets assume the salary is minimum 500k per month

that is 6m per year

that is 800 workers x 6m - 4800m per year as salary
roughly 5 billion

so dangote offered to dash away 25 billion naira or 16,666,666 million dollars

only the uneducated twats who have never actually run a business will believe this ridiculous lamba

and 500k is what low level contract workers are earning in the industry

so salaries should be higher than this - though then again - this is dangote who is trying to pay people peanuts

Berankis:
That's a scam! Dangote is a confirmed Scammer!!
No one can pay 800 people salary for 5years while they sit at home.
Even the Government of Nigeria cannot do that.
Dangote is a very cunning man and this is just one of his whims.
You people will come back here to lament that I said so...

Tochi3:


..you see the type of creatures that surrounds tilumbu & Apcish..very deceptive, liars and double faced creatures..

..this man did worse in his role as NLC president..never backing down...it is like associating with tilumbu and Apcish retard backwards..

..come to apcish..& your sins will be forgiven..while your senses will be taken away from you..

datola:
The situation, according to the engineer, escalated after the circulation of reports that while Nigerian workers received modest increases, Indian expatriates’ salaries were doubled from $13,000 to $26,000 per month.

Indians receiving 26,000 USD per month at Dangote Refineries

BIG LIE!

Hemanwel:
Good day Nairalanders and Happy Independence!

So, I got this new girl I started dating lately, and I am also considering settling down with. Things have been going on smoothly between us since we started. However, few days ago, I overheard her on the phone telling her married younger sister not to allow her husband to purchase a property in his name. She advised her to "press his mumu button" and convince him to purchase the property in her name or in their daughter's name.

Ever since, I kept wandering what kind of a person would advise her sister as such. So, I thought I should bring it up here.

1. Was she right to give her sister such advice?

2. Is this a red flag for me?

I would appreciate your sincere input.

cc lalasticlala, nfpmod, seun, mynd44

Richtaiwo:
Alaba Rago, a market dominated by Northerners, was demolished few weeks ago, no one has been heard crying foul.

Over 2000 shops were demolished in Anambra few months ago, no one raised an eyebrow.

Some things are just damn irritating.

It seems he has some favourite states in the south (outside the SE) that can't do without these commiserations.

It's always Lagos, its always Edo state....the two most cosmopolitan states in the whole South, where people and all religions usually live peacefully together.

It's seems I need to leave this Lagos ooo, as I can't stand visitors coming everytime to mourn

mascot87:
The issue here is that the initial carrier of the news just want to be the first to break the news. They also try to paint a bad picture about the terrible state of insecurity in the FCT. People are terrible in this country I just say

Shimbo96:
Can we call her case Accidental suicide because jumping from a three story building is more or less a suicide mission. Just my opinion.

kingthreat:
Intentional or non-intentional, the act of taking one's own life is termed "suicide".

Diana, Zambia

“Life was difficult,” recalls 19-year-old Diana, one of four children whose parents farmed maize, soybeans, and groundnut for a living. She loved her family but remembers how they struggled to get by, often eating just one meal a day.

So, three years ago, at the age of 16, when an older man named Jacob started paying her attention, it was a draw. “I was excited about dating him, like when I asked him like I need something, he used to give me,” including money, she says.

A few months into the relationship, Diana became pregnant by the then 20-year-old and decided to move in with him in a nearby village – which in her community equates to marriage – telling her parents she was visiting her aunt then ceasing all contact. “I was afraid that if my parents know that I’m pregnant, they will kill me,” she tells CNN.

Under Zambian law, marriages under the age of 18 are illegal, but this omits informal unions like Diana’s, which experts say bypass legislation, making them more challenging to address.

Diana says her life stopped being fun once she moved in with Jacob. She had left all her friends behind and was too afraid of her parents discovering she was pregnant if she went to school, so she quit. Jacob also feared her parents finding out, Diana says. “He was afraid they would arrest him.”

The teenager also “started seeing things changing” in Jacob, she says, recalling that he made her do all the housework, drank alcohol excessively, and became verbally and physically abusive.

“The way we used to live when we were dating” completely changed, Diana explains. “Everything was hard, he was not working, so life was difficult for us.”

At six months pregnant, Diana says she was fed up and decided to return home – despite the consequences she could face. That morning, she told Jacob she was going to fetch water and left quietly, walking the eight-kilometer (five-mile) journey home.

Once home, and visibly pregnant, Diana explained everything to her parents, who at first, she says “were angry with me. They shouted at me.” But after pleading with them to “forgive me for what I did,” she was relieved to be accepted.

When the young mom gave birth, Jacob was not in the picture. With the support of her parents, she returned to school, where she received a mixed welcome. “Some of my friends, they used to give me good advice,” she says, while others “laughed at me” and said “bad words.”

Before she became pregnant, Diana dreamed of becoming an engineer. Now, she says, she’ll take “any job” available.

Rehana, Bangladesh

“When I got married, I was very scared. I was only 14 years old,” says Rehana, now 17, who lives in an urban slum in Bangladesh. Here, marriage this young is common, she says, despite child marriage laws in place since 1929. The young bride recalls having to sleep in a new house with a new family soon after the wedding, having always slept with her mother at home until then. “My mother is like a best friend to me,” Rehana says.

Rehana explains that women and girls face regular harassment on the streets where she lives and one way families believe they can protect their daughters is to marry them young. But conversely, she tells CNN, many young girls run away and get married themselves. Research shows this is often due to the fear of child marriage, with some girls choosing to elope with boyfriends of their own age rather be forced to marry an older man. Rehana’s mother, Farida, says that to prevent this, parents like herself feel pressured to marry their daughters even younger.

As a child, Rehana enjoyed studying and hoped to someday go into business, which her parents encouraged, until they received a proposal from an influential family in the community. They wanted her to marry their 17-year-old son. The union was a good opportunity for Rehana’s family, whose sole income came from their father, a rickshaw driver. They struggled to make ends meet, says Farida, but never compromised their daughter’s education.

The wealthy family seemed to offer good prospects and, importantly, the prospective in-laws promised Rehana’s parents their daughter would be taken care of and have her education funded. They also assured them she would not have to live with their son until she turned 18. The future mother-in-law agreed to all conditions, says Rehana: “Whatever we said, she said yes.”

A Muslim wedding took place within three weeks and the family say they altered documents to increase their daughters age and register the wedding legally. A local Plan expert confirmed this is commonplace.

Recalling the day, both Rehana and her mother become emotional. Rehana explains that she didn’t want to get married but would do anything her parents needed. Farida, also with tears in her eyes, describes how beautiful her daughter looked, how people remarked, “she’s so pretty. She’s like a doll.”

But soon after the union, Rehana says the promises were broken and the psychological abuse and harassment began.

Rehana says the family kept her at their home for long periods and barred her from attending school, questioning why she needed an education when they would not let her work anyway. Soon they also stopped her from seeing friends, pressured her to wear a burqa and intimidated her into complying with their expectations, using their connections to monitor her behavior and journeys while out.

“It was very tough for me,” Rehana says. Her husband also abused her physically and mentally, leaving her feeling trapped, she recounts.

Her mother says she realized within a few months that she had made the wrong decision for her daughter, but the idea of a divorce terrified her due to the stigma Rehana would face.

But as the one-year anniversary of the marriage approached, Farida decided enough was enough. She didn’t want to leave Rehana alone with her husband’s family anymore, and divorce papers were served. The in-laws tried intimidating Farida, she says, but she was determined to secure her daughter’s freedom. “They were very angry about it,” Farida says. They said many false things about Rehana and that “she’s in contact with someone else,” but Farida says at that point, “I didn’t care about anything.”

The mother and daughter didn’t leave their home for at least a week after the divorce was finalized, they explain, to avoid verbal abuse as rumors about Rehana spread within the community.

Now almost an adult, Rehana has finished secondary school and is continuing her education. She has also set up a small business selling jewellery. Her mother says the divorce was a life-saving decision.

“I have learned a lot from my daughter… I have done a lot of bad things to her,” she adds, but says she is thankful she was ultimately able to bring her daughter home.

MrIcredible:
Would you prefer your own to do only fans instead?

Iamsane:
All of a sudden we are all in the know of gypsies culture and how morally suitable it is for their way of life. Hypocrite Una!!

I hope you say the same about nomadic Fulani!!

Anyway I don't think anyone was being definite and condemning it outrightly.

She is 16, and if I had married the first girl I was messing around with at that time, we certainly would be divorced and miserable, as I had a lot of the world to experience and growing yet to do.

But that is me ooo....it's just a bit strange that with all the wealth and exposure her father has, they are still behaving in that nomadic lifestyle where everyone is free to do what they want to.

Also, she might even be pregnant sef, which would change a lot of people's argument on it sha....see how funny we all are

ChiefOloye:
You asked a question 🤔 then answered it yourself. Muslims ☪️ can marry at age 5.