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yhermmie: Abeg,i no want exposure.. I'm a very private person. And thanks for noticing me;-)

Sounds like a Goldfish finding a hiding place... Good luck on that lol...

Harmonyemerald: It is not about being romantic, it is just do you care enough to act like a gentleman. If you care about the person in question. I swear you would go above and beyond to make things easy for her and that is what people call being
Romantic

Well, read my post again. I was not dating the person, she just threw the word "Romantic" out of no where because i refused her bizarre request. And yes Gentleman is a similar word also lol.. Thanks for bringing it up...

voodoo85: your comment is really pointless. don't understand why u even bothered

You rather should have asked the meaning.. I intentionally used those words so it would it be pointless to NON-Nigerians... Not rude tho...

Harmonyemerald: After reading what the op wrote, I had to pause and go through his profile and can't seem to stop laughing. He doesn't understand romance yet all his topics are in the romance section. Na who dey deceive who?

Doesn't it make sense to you that i stay here alot because i do not understand the topic? I find it interesting when people write about it though and i try writing about my experiences too but it's a different story out there in the real word.. You see people trying to make you do crazy stuffs on the basis that they expect you to be a Romatic. Okay lemme go check out your profile so it'll be fair play...

yhermmie: fine u?

Look at this beauty too... Never knew NL is loaded...

voodoo85: sure? am disappointed maybe id like that

Do you find voodoo fascinating?? I'm a Babalawo

This thread just smoking out all the fine fine girls on NL like rabbits in their burrows lol...

Hahaha It's crazy.. They know the power of tool.. no be small.

The thing pain me no be small...

I have been thinking about this a lot and i have concluded that Maybe they are right, maybe I am not a Romantic man. Off late i have been getting what i should call "Blackmailing" from ladies about how unromantic I am. For real though, I have never taken my time to check the true meaning of it and i believe most of the guys here haven't either. We grew up hearing the word romance, romantic and all that and we have been victims of these fancy words for a long time.

So today something happened between a female colleague and I and i decided to check the meaning of the word ROMANTIC. Here are My findings;

ro·man·tic
rōˈmantik,rə-/Submit
adjective
1.
inclined toward or suggestive of the feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.
"a romantic candlelit dinner"
synonyms: loving, amorous, passionate, tender, affectionate; informallovey-dovey
"he's so romantic"
relating to love, especially in a sentimental or idealized way.
"a romantic comedy"
synonyms: sentimental, mawkish, saccharine, syrupy; More
2.
of, characterized by, or suggestive of an idealized view of reality.
"a romantic attitude toward the past"
synonyms: idyllic, picturesque, fairy-tale; More
antonyms: practical, realistic
3.
of, relating to, or denoting the artistic and literary movement of Romanticism.
"the Romantic tradition"
noun
noun: romantic; plural noun: romantics
1.
a person with romantic beliefs or attitudes.
"I am an incurable romantic"
synonyms: idealist, sentimentalist, romanticist;

Abeg Nairalanders, can anyone tell me how the definition above relates to taking a girl out for lunch, she requested Pizza, I got it for her and she requested that I carry it to the Taxi for her while flinging her pedicured fingers on my face. I got so mad at her effrontery and left both her, the Pizza and headed back to the Office. Few minutes later, I saw her walking in with the Pizza, thinking she would realize her mistake and tell me sorry for the public embarrassment. Guess what she said " You are not romantic at all Andy... Dumping a lady at a restaurant cos of a simple request" she said this where other colleagues are ... They were staring and some of the guys couldn't believe i could dump the hottest chick in the block.. I guess most of them have been "Romantic to her" cos this is actually my first time of taking her out.

Now for real, I think this "Romantic" thing is one big hoodwink for the Ladies.. they have mastered the art of using it to their absolute benefit and i think it's wrong. Most guys should really check out the meaning of "Romantic" before trying to be. I realized that we have been Mumuing ourselves all these while, while they sit among themselves and laugh at our silliness.. Ohh God!!

rozzay: Hmm mm

Her skin tone is just flawless..... So clear the Opeke knows how to take care of herself...

rozzay: Wats d purpose of d meeting

You are not bad at all Rozzay

And most of them guys no fine lol.... The girls on here are cool tho....

It's so complicated in my head. Shouldn't have eaten from da devil's calabash, i feel like bursting up!!

So my thread turn to battle Zone, googles u for call me to come fight for u instead of bending down like that,

It's funny cos i'm talking from a personal experience. My EX heard Rumors about my character with girls on campus  before i met her but i succeeded in making it seem like it was only a Rumor until she caught me Pants down,  that was 3 months ago. The breakup was so painful but i moved on by the grace of God and after deleting all her contacts.  Now i've gotten multiple Options of Opekes and the girl done found out. She's been stalking my fb page and is always the first to tell me what somebody wrote on ma page despite the fact that i deleted her, I told her to give up on this so we can move on, that was yesterday. Today she sent a text to me saying that "If the girl i'm seeing  now has filled the space she left in my heart, i should let her know". now this girl knows it will take like months for anybody to achieve that and she's using that as a weapon.  What is the best response guys? And don't talk about ignoring her cos that didn't work,  If i told her Yes like i want to do, will it not hurt her more? I've done enough already to her, I just want her to move on

Serious Question!!,

I have seen girls Running back or seeking the attention of their EX once they get the slightest hint that the guy is doing well without them and even running another beautiful girl despite the terrible things the guy did to them. And also i have seen girls stick to the fact that they've broken up with their Ex and will even be flexing with their new BF in front of their Ex once they know that the breakup had a huge impact on the guy's life so it's been difficult for him to adjust and move on despite the fact that the break up was as a result of  a little mistake on the guy's side.

So I'm asking, why do girls call a relationship off -  It's it because of the guy's actions or because they want the guy to feel bad too??

Anything u feel will be a gud reward and will also make 190 jealous, I'll be cool with it.

Goggles if u dey pay wetin u dey pay, remember the thread opener oohhhhh

To me the Most important thing is creating a connection first of all. either by creating an eye contact and then smile or by complementing  her friends shoes/bag if she came with one. What ever will make it not seem like i snuck up on her , then i go like, "I enjoyed my assessment  but I think it's time to upgrade on dat by officially introducing myself",  At the end of the day how comfortable you say it will determine if it will go well or not,

I'm not that much of a good cook myself but i think i like cooking when i've got nuffin to do But i hate going to the Market, So once the stuffs are there, i don't see any big deal cooking it. If the stuffs weren't there, the girl would have gone to the Market, That doesn't negate the fact that it's crazy to think men shouldn't cook. I mean WTF, cooking can be fun if you're not too much of a proud man

If he's really serious, He'd have told the girl that he's tired of being just a friend to her, than posting her picture here. mtchewwwwww

Sorry oo Bro, Break ups are Painful , When i broke up with my girl i tot it was the end of the world until i met a girl with the biggest butt ever, Any time tots of my GF flash my head, I just neutralize it with my plans of Conquering that bakassi and it worked really well, At the end of the day, i didn't c the bakassi again after that day but only God knows how helpful she was for me. I still have her Number but i've not called yet, It'll be a special Occasion. hahahahaaha, sorry oo

Ol'boy do u know that it's somebody's picture u're posting here? Eiii Na wa ooooooooo,

3ndy u again, mm Ok. I've got no probs with girls and I'm kinda cool with them. But what i find amusing is folks posting tips on what to do to have girls lol,    For all we know,  those book maybe be a vicarious attempt to being a Player on the part of the writers and they are making money from it,   The best attempt to getting a girl is going out to relate with them and show them your natural Charm,  if you don't have that, I'm sorry you are wack,  No amount of tips will give u that hot girl you lusting over,  and to think that another brother out there is sleeping the hell out of her without even reading those Bullshiit makes it more pathetic . 

What is most important in getting a girl is You,  If u're wack, You're wack!!  And believe you me , Wack people don't change they remain like that forever. Yes they might be lucky to get one person who will accept them the way they are But that doesn't change the fact that they're wack. So if u're wack and wants to get a girl, My advice to you is to stop thinking too much about girls and concentrate more on ur life and business, cos you will never get the girl you want!!!  It suks to be wack yea i know, So sad, Disability is a Biatch,

Hmm 3ndy I've never looked at it from the psychological point of view. I don't even think she did all that consciously, even the game she was playing, we spent more than half of the time she used Kissing and stuff, So If she did all that consciously, wow cool!!!

Why are you guys focusing on the trust part ehh? I'm not saying she will kill me or anything just saying that it's her first time spending the nyt in my house and i'm not comfortable enough to make her cook for me, Maybe my choice of word was wrong. And as for you 3ndy, You're Happy ehh? what makes u think she's ma Match? Thanks my dear goggles, at least the shame is leaving me small,