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To be honest, anyone familiar with that axis knows Alaba Rago had become a notorious spot after Orile towards FESTAC. For years, it was left unchecked while different administrations turned a blind eye, allowing the place to deteriorate into chaos. At some point, something drastic was bound to happen. It’s sad for the traders who have been there for decades, but the truth is the market had grown far beyond control. Anyways, it’s not an area I pass often, so I can only imagine the level of disorder that people around there were dealing with.

okrote4real:
Lagos State Government Demolishes Alaba Rago Market and Mosques After 50 Years

The Lagos State Government has demolished the Alaba Rago Market, a well-known commercial hub largely occupied by Northern Nigerian traders who have conducted business there for over five decades.

Authorities explained that the decision was taken because the market had expanded excessively into the city, creating congestion and disorder in the surrounding area.

Traders, however, expressed outrage, lamenting that they were not given prior notice before the demolition. “We have spent more than 50 years building this market. We struggled to establish our businesses here. Yet, in a single day, everything was demolished without any notice. We counted no fewer than 40 mosques destroyed,” one trader said.

The demolition has triggered intense emotions and raised pressing concerns about compensation, resettlement, and the impact on ethnic relations in Lagos.

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I hear the pain in your words, my brother. What you’ve discovered is not only heartbreaking but also deeply disrespectful to your role as a husband and father. It’s natural to feel betrayed, angry, and torn—especially since children are involved.

Here’s a way to look at it:

1. Acknowledge your emotions first. Don’t suppress your hurt or pretend it doesn’t affect you. Take some time to breathe, pray, and think clearly before making a decision in anger.

2. Confront the issue with honesty. Sit her down and have a calm but firm conversation. Let her know what you’ve seen, how it makes you feel, and how it’s damaging the family. Don’t shout—clarity hits harder than noise.

3. Draw your boundaries. Every marriage needs rules. If she’s crossing them, you must decide what you can and cannot tolerate. Tell her plainly: “This is betrayal. If you want this marriage, you must stop and rebuild my trust. If not, I cannot continue like this.”

4. Think of the children. They are innocent and deserve stability. Sometimes staying in a toxic marriage is even more harmful than divorce because kids absorb the tension. On the other hand, divorce also has its scars. So your decision must weigh both carefully.

5. Seek support. This is too heavy to carry alone. Talk to a trusted elder, mentor, or even a professional counselor—someone neutral who can guide you and maybe mediate.

6. Ask yourself the hard question: If she refuses to change, can you live with this version of her for the next 10–20 years? If the answer is no, then it may be wiser to separate than to destroy yourself slowly in silence.

Truth is, respect is the backbone of love. If your wife has chosen money and other men over loyalty, it’s not just “mistakes”—it’s a choice. You can forgive once, maybe twice, but if she continues, then she’s showing you who she truly is.

Your kids need a father who is strong, wise, and at peace—not one constantly broken inside. Whatever decision you make, let it come from a place of clarity, not anger.

Solved55:
I caught my wife chatting with men in romantic ways, she apologized , like twice . As a result , I link her Whatsapp and discover she's still continue even sending nudes. Just because of money . How can I handle this,I consider divorce but divorce will affect us ,we have 3 kids, 3, 5 and 7 years. Her character has not been good to me anyway and now this

1. Marriage Customs Were Different in the Bible
In biblical times, “marriage” was not always a church wedding or legal contract as we know today. For example, in Genesis 24:67, Isaac simply “took Rebekah into his mother Sarah’s tent, and she became his wife.” There was no elaborate ceremony recorded. The act of sexual union itself often sealed the marital bond.
This shows that sex and marriage were closely linked, but not always in the modern sense of waiting for vows at the altar.

2. Promises Were Binding
While it’s true that men sometimes make false promises today, in the Old Testament, a man who slept with a woman was expected to take responsibility. In Deuteronomy 22:28–29, if a man had sex with a virgin, the law required him to marry her and never divorce her.
👉 The issue was not premarital sex in itself, but whether the man acted with responsibility and integrity afterward.

3. Polygamy and Concubines Were Common
Many biblical heroes had multiple wives and concubines (Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon). For instance, David was “a man after God’s own heart” (1 Samuel 13:14) yet had several wives and concubines. This does not mean God endorsed every act, but it shows that sexual ethics in Scripture were more nuanced than a simple “only after marriage” rule.


4. Jesus’ Teaching Focused on the Heart, Not Just the Act
In the New Testament, Jesus raised the standard by teaching that lust in the heart is already adultery (Matthew 5:27–28). This means the true focus is not merely whether sex happens before or after marriage, but whether relationships are built on love, faithfulness, and purity of intention.

5. Paul’s Advice Was Practical
In 1 Corinthians 7:9, Paul says, “If they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
- This shows Paul acknowledged human weakness. His advice was less about an absolute prohibition, and more about encouraging order, self-control, and avoiding sin through responsibility.

In conclusion: The Bible honors sex as sacred, but it also shows us that the real issue is faithfulness, responsibility, and respect for God’s design. While Hebrews 13:4 warns against adultery and promiscuity, the Scriptures also reveal that sex itself is not sinful when handled with commitment and integrity. The challenge is not just when sex happens, but how people treat each other and whether they honor God in their relationship.

jesusjnr2020:
Sexual Purity: Why You Shouldn't "Do" Before You Say "I Do"

It's because saying "I will marry you" is different from "I have married you".

That's one of the major tricks men have used to lure several women into their beds - the promise of marriage.

But when they've gotten what they wanted from them, they would leave them for someone else.

Therefore be careful and ensure you don't "do" before you say "i do", so you don't end up having sex with someone you won't get married to.

God made sex only for married couples.

Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

God bless.

What's a "cheat code" you discovered in real life that actually works?


Laziness saves you from being punished with more work, selfishness saves you from being used, craziness saves you from tried 😅😅😅

Happy Sunday

While the recognition of Prince Donatus Okonkwo with the Distinguished Impact Leader Award for Innovation, Empowerment and Humanitarian Excellence is commendable, it is important to situate such honours within a broader context.

Nigeria is a country where awards and recognitions are sometimes handed out generously, often raising questions about whether they truly reflect long-term impact or momentary visibility. Although Prince Okonkwo’s philanthropic gestures such as widow support schemes, scholarships, and investments in sports are laudable, critics may argue that individual acts of charity should not replace the need for structural change. For instance, scholarships help a few, but how many indigent students across Nigeria still struggle without access to quality education? How many widows remain unsupported in rural areas?

Furthermore, the culture of celebrating elites with awards often overshadows countless unsung heroes at the grassroots — teachers, health workers, volunteers, and community organisers — who make daily sacrifices without resources or publicity. A humanitarian award should ideally provoke deeper conversations about sustainable systems of empowerment rather than reinforce the visibility of already powerful individuals.

This is not to diminish Prince Okonkwo’s contributions, but to highlight that philanthropy, while noble, must be complemented by policies, institutions, and transparent accountability mechanisms that address the root causes of poverty and inequality. Otherwise, awards risk becoming ceremonial gestures, detached from the actual struggles of the people they claim to honour.

While the National Single Window (NSW) sounds promising on paper, Nigerians have learned to be cautious whenever new reforms are rolled out with fanfare. President Bola Ahmed Tinubu’s administration has indeed made bold moves, but it is important to separate lofty policy announcements from the realities on ground.

Take the NSW itself. Yes, it was officially launched in April 2024 with the promise of going live in 2026. But Nigerians have seen similar projects launched before – in 2009, 2010, and 2012 – all of which failed due to bureaucracy, corruption, and poor implementation. The question is: what guarantees do we have that this time will be different? Promises alone cannot build confidence; tangible results must follow.

Even the government’s bigger economic decisions remain controversial. The removal of fuel subsidies, for example, has been praised by the administration as a bold step to save trillions, yet millions of Nigerians feel the pain daily at the pumps. Transport costs have tripled, food prices have skyrocketed, and inflation is eating deep into household incomes. The government points to roads and infrastructure being repaired, but ordinary citizens are asking: are these benefits visible in their daily lives, or are they just statistics in Abuja?

On foreign exchange reforms, yes, unifying the exchange rate closed the gap between official and parallel markets – but at what cost? The naira has faced freefall since then, with the burden again falling heavily on Nigerians who can no longer afford basic imports. Businesses are struggling with high interest rates, reduced access to foreign currency, and rising costs of production. Investors may be more comfortable on paper, but the Nigerian worker is paying the price.

As for inter-agency collaboration on the NSW, it is commendable that Dr Zacch Adedeji is working hard to bring agencies together. However, Nigeria’s greatest challenge has never been about launching initiatives – it has always been about sustaining them beyond political cycles. With 2026 as the set deadline, who ensures continuity if the political landscape shifts? Will this project outlive the current administration, or will it be abandoned like its predecessors?

The truth is: Nigerians are not against reforms. They want reforms that translate into lower food prices, cheaper transportation, stable electricity, and better jobs. Until then, praising policies for their intent without measuring their impact risks sounding like political propaganda.

President Tinubu’s administration may indeed have a vision, but Nigerians are asking for proof in their pockets, not just promises in press statements. The National Single Window could be a gamechanger, but it should not be celebrated until it is up and running, saving Nigerians time and money in reality, not in theory.

You’re 28, just finished NYSC, and honestly—it’s normal to feel confused at this stage. A lot of people don’t admit it, but the transition after service year can be very overwhelming. The good news is, you already have what most fresh graduates don’t—600k in savings and a skill (graphic design). That’s a solid foundation.

Here’s some advice that can help you move forward without feeling stuck:

1. Don’t rush into using your 600k
That money is your cushion. If you pour it all into a business you don’t fully understand yet, or into an expensive tech course, you might end up stranded. For now, keep it safe as your “peace of mind” fund.

2. Maximize what you already know
You said you have graphic design skills. Instead of discarding it because it doesn’t pay much now, think of ways to scale it. For example:

Learn branding & UI design (they pay higher than just flyers/posters).

- Create a portfolio online and start reaching out to small businesses who need branding.

- Offer “design + social media” packages to businesses that don’t know how to present themselves online.
Sometimes, it’s not about learning a totally new skill, but deepening the one you already have.

3. If you want to switch into tech, do it smartly
Many tech skills (UI/UX, product design, digital marketing, data analysis) don’t require you to pay 400k+ for training. There are affordable courses on Coursera, Udemy, or even YouTube that can get you started. Later, when you’re sure of the path, you can invest in a structured program.

4. Use your money as leverage, not the main tool
Instead of thinking “what business can I start with 600k?”, think: “What skill can I grow that will make people pay me repeatedly?” Skills are assets that pay forever, businesses can collapse if you don’t have experience.

Your money should support you while you grow your earning power, not disappear into trial-and-error businesses.

5. Give yourself clarity, not pressure
You don’t need to have everything figured out immediately. Take 2–3 months to explore—deepening design, learning an adjacent tech skill, freelancing. From there, you’ll see clearer where to go.

Simple Roadmap You Can Try Now

Keep your 600k intact.

Start freelancing more aggressively with your design (expand into branding, UI design).

Dedicate a portion of your time (2–3 hours daily) to learning a tech-related skill online for cheap.

By 6–12 months, you’ll either:
a) Be earning more from design, or
b) Have transitioned into a higher-paying tech path with little financial stress.

Bro, you’re not behind. You just need clarity and consistency. If you treat your skills like seeds and water them daily, you’ll look back in a year and be glad you didn’t waste that 600k chasing quick wins.

Shadowpyper:
Hello nairalanders, please I need advice on how to go about this.

I’m 28 years old and recently completed my NYSC service. Honestly, I’m not sure what to do next, I'm just confused . During my service year, I was able to save 800k. I’ve already spent 200k to get an apartment and buying essential items, wnd I'm left with 600k. I’m now considering the best way to make use of it, maybe starting a business or learning a skill, I just confuse. I know the amount may seem small, but I just want to start from somewhere.

I have graphic design skills but I don't earn much from It.

I'm thinking of learning a tech skill but my money won't be enough to enroll for it and still take care of myself while learning

I just confuse, please I will appreciate it I can get useful advice here

It’s good that President Tinubu has shown some willingness to address ASUU’s grievances, but we also need to look at the broader picture. Clearing arrears and increasing salaries sounds fair, yet the bigger question is sustainability.

Nigeria is already struggling with a stretched budget, heavy borrowing, and competing demands from healthcare, infrastructure, security, and social welfare. If we keep increasing salaries without restructuring the system, we’ll only be postponing the problem.

The real tragedy is not just that a professor can’t afford a Toyota Corolla — it’s that universities are still producing graduates who lack the skills to compete globally. That’s not purely about salary; it’s about accountability, modernization of curriculum, research funding, and efficiency in how universities are run.

If government simply clears debts and raises salaries without demanding reforms from ASUU and the universities themselves, the cycle of strikes, arrears, and poor-quality education will continue. Nigeria needs to fix the foundation — not just patch the cracks.

kingi777:
President Tinubu has tried in at least listening to ASUU by being magnanimous of paying them earn allowance and some months out of the 8months owed them. He should please clear the debt of 3 and half month left please. He should increase their salaries too. The value of education and the lecturers especially the professors that drag bike and Keke with students is dwindling. A Nigerian professor can hardly buy Toyota Corolla 2005 with his annual salary. This is pathetic.

Honestly, life is messy, and relationships even more so. People will make choices that hurt others, but holding onto anger or jealousy only creates more pain. If we can learn to accept the reality of human flaws, cheating, snatching, heartbreak, we free ourselves from unnecessary stress. It doesn’t mean we approve of bad behavior; it just means we choose peace and understanding over endless conflict. In the end, tolerance and perspective keep families and communities from tearing themselves apart over things they can’t fully control.

pocohantas:
No wahala.
They should also embrace other men sleeping with their women. After all, na person wife Yul Edochie snatch. Snatch the pikin join. Now Mr Obasi dey cry for TVC news. A married man's sidechick is one single guy's serious babe. So let's all tolerate ourselves and live as one big happy family.

Northernblood8:
Number one rule, Don't bring your bad behavior close to your family.

On the news, I think one major thing polygamy will eliminate is a Man spending his later days in pain and agony.

The trend of mother's brainwashing their children to hate their Dad or not regard him started when men started marrying only one wife.

My grandfather and Uncles that were and are polygamous never experienced such. Those children still respect their parents and take care of them equally till today

I get where people are coming from when they say polygamy can help maintain family unity or prevent loneliness later in life. But the reality is, it’s not always that simple. Family harmony isn’t guaranteed by the number of wives—it’s built on respect, trust, and clear communication.

Even in monogamous families, love and loyalty can thrive if everyone is treated fairly and openly. And sometimes, polygamy can actually create competition, jealousy, or confusion among children if it isn’t handled carefully. At the end of the day, it’s not about how many partners you have—it’s about the values, example, and care you bring into your family life.

I get where you’re coming from, and honestly, it’s frustrating when trust is broken in a relationship. But here’s another way to look at it: responding to cheating with cheating might feel like “evening the score,” but in reality, it rarely brings peace—it usually just adds more pain and drama for everyone involved.

Choosing to address the situation with self-respect, setting boundaries, or even walking away if needed actually takes more energy and strength than mirroring the betrayal. It’s not about low self-esteem—it’s about valuing yourself enough not to compromise your integrity.

We are in 2025, yes, but modern doesn’t have to mean vengeful. Energy can be spent on growth, healing, or building a stronger relationship—not just on tit-for-tat games.

FameGlory:
If my husband should cheat on me.

I will cheat on him back.

I don't have energy for drama in the house.

Cheat for Cheat.

Everybody will rest.

It's only low self esteem women that will be fighting their husbands for cheating on them.

This is 2025.

Wake up ladies.

We are not in the days of our grand mothers.

E For Energy.

You get energy for cheating?

I go show u say my own energy pass ur own.

Drsmiles:
After geh gehs class, now promiscuity ambassadorism for men!!! Women really don suffer this month

Men can be faithful if they are focused on growth and raising a wonderful family. Nothing really dey inside cheating like that

Bimbo Akintola isn’t just speaking for shock value—there’s some real context behind what she’s saying. Infidelity in Nigeria doesn’t exist in a vacuum; it’s influenced by cultural norms and historical practices like polygamy. For generations, many men grew up in households where fathers had multiple wives or side relationships, making certain behaviors feel “normal” rather than taboo.

It’s not about excusing cheating but understanding patterns. When fidelity is portrayed as a foreign ideal, it clashes with lived realities, creating constant tension in relationships. Women often enter partnerships with expectations shaped by movies, social media, or Western ideals—expecting exclusivity while navigating a system where male infidelity is normalized.

Her point about being realistic isn’t cynical; it’s pragmatic. Awareness allows people to make informed choices rather than repeatedly being hurt by unmet expectations. Recognizing the cultural roots of cheating can help women and men approach relationships with more clarity, accountability, and less self-deception.

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I need support and advice from like-minded people in this group.

A close friend shared an idea with me and another person, and honestly, I was wowed—it really makes sense. For now, the idea is confidential, but I can say it’s an app that solves real-life problems and bridges important gaps.

The thing is, we’re not from a tech background, but we’re already taking some crucial steps. For example, we’ve started talking to a UI/UX professional who is willing to support us.

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Nigeria is tough, but with discipline, planning, and wise choices, you can still build stability and even thrive.

Gerrard59:
To thrive or be stable in Nigeria going forward, it's pretty simple.

- Ensure you have a consistent, sustainable (growth options) and legitimate sources of income
- Have fewer children. This is the ultimate. The average Nigerian family need not have more than two children.
- For financially stable bachelors, avoid ladies who have too many siblings, especially if the siblings are still young or teenagers. The alternative is to check if her parents would be fully responsible for their care till they become adults. Too many Nigerian men take up the responsibilities of their in-laws whereas they should focus squarely on their new families
- Have fewer children.
- Avoid unnecessary expenses and keeping up with the Joneses. Shoe get size. Don't do follow when your power no reach.
- Have fewer children

Five years ago, I created a thread on managing expenses as a Nigerian: https://www.nairaland.com/6035550/nigerians-poverty-certain-acts-perpetuate

You’re right that the economy is tough right now, and many families are feeling the pressure. But it’s also important to remember that not every broken home is because of Tinubu’s policies. Some marriages were already weak before the hardship came; the economy only exposed cracks that were there.

There are also couples who are going through the same hardship yet growing stronger together — they adjust, support each other, cut costs, hustle smarter, and still find joy in little things.

Blaming government alone sometimes shifts responsibility away from personal choices, values, and commitment. Yes, policies can make life harder, but love, patience, and unity are what keep homes standing when storms come.

The truth is: hard times don’t break every home. They reveal the foundation it was built on.

sweetkev:
Many homes have broken due to Tinubu bad economic policies.

Not entirely true, my guy.
I’ve also seen the other side on the streets.

There are single guys who look “financially okay” on the outside, but when you sit with them, they confess the weight of loneliness is heavy. One even told me, “I have money, but every night I return to an empty house. No one to share it with, no one to build with. It’s depressing.”
I also spoke with a young lady working in tech. She earns well above average, yet she admitted how this regime has made her shoulder all family responsibilities alone. Her younger siblings look up to her for survival, her parents depend on her monthly, and she cried saying, “Sometimes I wish I had a partner to at least split these burdens with.”

And there are plenty of single men who are “financially okay” today, but terrified about tomorrow. Inflation, unstable forex, fuel costs — they confess that one wrong move could wipe away their savings. Some even envy married men who, though struggling, at least have a partner to encourage them and brainstorm survival strategies.

Truth is, happiness is not about single or married alone. Under this economy, both sides are agonizing in different ways. Some married men feel trapped by responsibilities, while some single men and women feel crushed by loneliness, pressure, and family expectations.

On the streets, it’s pain across board — just in different forms.

Tempulated:
Recently I did my survey with regards to the current situation of Nigeria.

My interviews with single men and married men showed single financially okay men are more happier than married financially struggling men.

Share your experiences on the streets.

bigdammyj:
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Lawyer, can I inherit everything if my husband dies without a will?

No

I’ve seen some of those posts too, where people advise single ladies to just go ahead and have children outside marriage if marriage isn’t happening quickly. Honestly, that’s not the best mindset to adopt. Having a child is a huge lifelong responsibility, not something to do out of desperation or pressure.

Marriage and parenthood both come with their own timing. Rushing into either just to “feel complete” can lead to regrets later. Instead, focus on building yourself, your career, your finances, and your relationship with God. The right person and the right season will align — and when it does, you’ll not just have a child, but a stable home to raise that child in.

Patience isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it. Trust that your story is unfolding in the right way, at the right time.

PastorKosi:
There's a satanic advice from some ladies flying around the internet where they advise single ladies to become pregnant and have a child outside wedlock if husband is not forth coming.
That is satanic and from the pit of hell.
Please don't get that desperate.
Trust God and also Trust His timing.
You will get Married and carry your baby legitimately.

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