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djon78:
Actually I understand you
But this doesn't stop you from buying like 2/3 trousers or appareals/ clothes

It's great you are shouldering your responsibilities, I salute you.
But don't neglect yourself.

I used to be like you. Couple of years back I made a bit good money. But my madam, my home expenses, almost chop everything except the ones I invested back in my business.

Only for my madam, to ask me when we were quarrelling wetin I use the money do? Because I told her about the money. When I reminded her all the money I gave her, she no fit talk again.

That taught me a very big lesson. Now all my earnings, I still take good care of my family, but I don't neglect taking care of myself. I buy good clothes, shoes, etc. This year in Sha Allah I go take better vacation abroad even if na Rwanda or Qatar etc cause I no come this Life to watch others enjoy themselves. I work very hard and play harder

OlawaleBammie:
After getting the two kids and undergone vasectomy, u now realise that those two kids belongs to ur wife ex...lol

Sebi u no wan get sense ni, I will be happy to see you ing.est 3 bottles of sniper

pocohantas:
I am worried about his health. He complains himself that it is mentally draining. Last year we had a situation and if I weren't an emotionally strong person, it reach to have high bp. But the second he was fit, he continued from where he stopped. We would agree A, he would do B. If he slumps now, world people would say he was hustling to give his fair wife. Whereas I have talked and fought. I just pray God touches his heart this year.

osuofia2:
Consider having an health insurance. It's way better and cheaper

GloriousGbola:
the truth is we all have a limit we are not going to go below

because we know what comes with it

there is a reason one left some things behind because of the stress that comes with them

poverty is also a problem that can put you in a never ending cycle

yesterday i changed the tires of madams car. the week before the battery

some silly child will say manage it

thats when the car will break down at in oshodi and you find yourself facing a a whole new set of problems from area boy to local govt task force to lastma.

don't package yourself properly when meeting client and they will lowball you. same way you will size up an artisan and decide how much to pay him, na so client go also size you up.

and the cheapness of some accommodation also comes with the lack of security

occfx:
Fuel is not an option.... Tubular is about 250 to 350k...i use local made lithium as rescue mission. I do it myself anyway, may be thats why I find it cheaper. Good tubular is OK but try to flood it back every 6 months with distilled water

Mrexcell:
So many young nigerian men are falling dead these days because of trying to meet up with western lifestyles.

Bobodee09:
Bros abeg show me the way oooo.

Any investment or side hustle.

Am really struggling to meet up with expenses.

juwoonn:
You're very correct brother 💯
My neighbor's wife has been on his neck for the past two years now to have the third child. The man is still standing his ground that the two they have is enough. Funny enough, they don't have as much money as they used to have. She is doing this to compete with her friends who have 3kids aready. I don't understand how the woman dey reason.

Fujiyama:
^^^
Every marriage is different.

Some men start out with a liberal mindset but this could have deadly consequences down the line - if a man is married to the wrong kind of woman. By the time the man realizes it - it is often too late.

laconicezone:
This is the best thread I have come across on nairaland this year, this is true talk, men often take lots of risk to take care of everyone around them at their own expense, it's time we think of taking care of ourselves.

pocohantas:
Honestly things are so hard these days. I calculated our most recent expenses and it is much. Many families have indeed lowered their spending. The only option now is another source of income or return to the village.

But what of us with men that we have begged to reduce work? Any advice for us? 😃

giacomogiovanni:
Leave that guy.

He talks like a someone without empathy.

Everyone isn't the same. Because you were able to have guidance and investment capital at a young age, doesn't mean another person has access to those advantages.

Bobodee09:
My actual problem is fear of the unknown and unforseen expenses.

For instance last year March my daughter just came back from school and by night she got really sick.
In just 6days we spent over 200k on hospital bills.

I don't have people to run to for help, infact I hardly even ask anyone for help...so I can't afford to be financially stranded.

So that my fear which limits me alot but I think I need to put it aside now.

onyxo76:
This is true reflection of the average family man's life in this current dispensation.
One just has to avoid financial stess by all means, today I told my wife that we need a new inveter battery for the inverter, and I need her support ,she said she's giving her salary as first fruit to church this month, I told her I'm not going to keep fueling generator every night, na she kuku dey carry chutch doctrine for head.
I no go kill myself over anything again.

occfx:
Every married man is seeing hell at the moment except those who are lucky with free flowing dough.

Just keep Amlodipin 10mg by your side and an anti depressant like Heineken or action bitters.

TrackerSK:
I don't want to get married.I swear

Bobodee09:
So we many on this table.

Chai men dey suffer

chris2face:
Am currently in this situation,mine got lots of cloths and I jokingly reminded her how I haven't been able to buy new clothes, she said same thing
Indeed marriage just favours women

Obaaderemi2:
My brother, if you are no longer there those family needs will be met somehow. That's even when your wife will begin to shine. My elder brother is an example. He hustled till the end even when he was ill. Now his two children got into the university same time last year. Did they not survive? My brother, go out today and close your eyes buy that pair of jeans and a good t-shirt plus good leather slippers. On your way back home branch at a buka and eat good food. If you see fine babe wey get better job sef wey no go dey bill you or one young woman wey never too open eye, brother enjoy yourself o.

I sent money to my wife twice yesterday this morning she is asking for money for something again. Person wey even get money pass me o.

Bobodee09:
He was a well to do man . He had those kids when things were good.

We could ever imagine things will go this bad 10yrs ago.

You came blame anyone who got married 2010 who has 3-4kids. Things was good then

TrackerSK:
How can I remain single.My mother just dey stress me to marry

skywalker240:
It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

majorg:
Edit your payslip

Dalohad:
Funny Brits, they only give you visa when they need you.

They bend immigration rules and policies whenever e hook them for throat.

If Nigeria is good enough. The British Embassies visa section in Nigeria would be closed down. Nobody would go to the penny-pinching UK for jobs or anything else.

I wonder how the subscriptions for their IELTS exams are doing now.

Good afternoon everyone,
A friend refer me to a job of 250k. During the interview, I overstate what I'm being paid currently when ask, they told me they will pay 200k. They just added a little on top. Maybe they would have still reduce it , if I didn't overstate it.

Now they are asking for payslip. How best should I handle this.

ChinemeremFidel:
Must I have these documents original copy?
I have photocopies