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[quote author=Ileke-IdI]
Hmm, who marry these women who refused their husband's names just for feminist reasons?

I understand it as a sense of "self" and sense of respect for one's "family name" esp if she's the only child, but because "she's equal to a man"? That's stretching it. It doesn't even make sense.[/quote]You have a point, lol; many men in the western world for some reason don't mind it, they are a minority of course, sometimes I have noticed these women control their husbands to, not all but a few do. I guess there will always be men for those type of women

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]I don't know about that lol.[/quote]well this is just based on the ones I have heard of in the media, one time a lady was on fox news and she had a long compound name and when they asked her about it she said her mother is a feminist and refused to have her fathers last name so her parents combined the mothers last name with the fathers last name as a compound last name for their children(she is one of the them).

I have heard in a documentary once that some feminist that are married refused their husbands last name and retained there's, and their husbands were fine with it based on what I understood from it

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]I'm not even talking about keeping it as a middle name jor. Make she keep it as her official last name.

Keeping it as a middle name is a step sha.

I think Omotola and the rest kept their middle name because that's the name they're popularly known for.[/quote]Most but not all the women in the world that keep their maiden name as their last name tend to be hard core feminist

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]Special for carrying on the last name from generation to generation.

However, if a woman decides to keep her father's name, then how special is her brother? [/quote]Not to much though, most women carry their husbands names after marriage; But I have been seeing women do compound names where they will combine their maiden name with their husbands last name, examples I can think of Hillary Rodam Clinton, Jada Pinkett Smith, Omotola Jalade Ekeinde, and etc

[quote author=tpia@]I'm not sure, but i think i'm seeing blue eyes on some of them.

maybe i need to change my contacts.[/quote]ok you are talking about the dolls not the actual people getting married, I thought you were trying to connect the white dolls with the race of the couple's getting married. Any way you are right those dolls are white.

I never really cared for this couple and I am not surprised they broke up

dasparrow: You should know by now that most Nigerians suffer from a severe case of inferiority complex. The same inferiority complex that have them worshipping white, asian and arab foreigners living in their midst in Nigeria. The same inferiority complex that makes the average Nigerian maltreat his fellow Nigerian compatriot over a non-black foreigner in Nigeria. I am not suprised. And then we wonder why Nigeria remains in the sorry state it is.

You have a point but most of that worshiping is done because of cash/money, not because they want to be like them most of the time.

Lady Nasa: Abeg, I have a question.

WHY IS IT THAT NIGERIANS ARE NOW HOSTING MOST OF THEIR AWARDS HERE IN THE USA?
They organize awards, look for a location in any of the states here and bam! It's on!

We have so many places in Nigeria n even in Africa where they can host these shows...why America bikonu... why are we so desperate for Hollywood attention?

If we produce good movies, they will find us like Bollywood.

The movies we are talking abt are Africans movies, not American movies. Hollywood has never had any of their award shows outside the USA....NAIJA, SMH.....

I don't get it either(even though I didn't know this) but I feel some Nigerians feel if they host it in America, the awards show may have more appeal or respect then ones in Nigeria, the part they are not getting is, it is the ones In Nigeria that will get more recognition most of the times over the ones done overseas because the ones in America will be considered to be having American backing, and etc.

Some Nigerian awards are hosted in Nigeria though

[quote author=$ugardaddy]http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Do_sperm_for_girls_live_longer[/quote]WTH, lol

[quote author=tpia@]why are so many of them white, though?

are the couples white?[/quote]I couples are not white but it is the people that design the cakes that don't take note of that simple detail and paint the miniature dolls black

Abagworo: Yes and the other booming industry is funeral(burial). Women lead us into all these unnecessary wedding expenses. More like a blackmail.

Oh come on now, Funeral lol; any way it depends on the couple, some people spend beyond their means for wedding while at the sametime weddings is every womens dream since they were a girl, and when that comes their way they want that dream to become a reality. You can never re do that day, so why not but within your capacity.

ijebabe: I'm sure some of us know of the upcoming wedding between Nigerian Comedian and TV host – Teju Babyface Oyelakin and his model/beauty queen fiancee, Tobi Banjoko, set to take place in Lagos on Thursday 30th August 2012 and Saturday 1st September.

Check out Shola Animashaun‘s behind the scenes video of the couple during their pre-wedding photo shoot at his studio. In the video, Shola captures the couple laughing, dancing and not afraid of being affectionate. Lovely!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfyhMTgKu3Q

congratulations to both of them

[b]" London, England (CNN) -- Weddings in Nigeria are colorful, creative and extravagant productions, with guest lists of up to 2,000 people considered standard.

"In England, if you had 400 people at a wedding, that would be considered a huge number," bridalwear and couture designer Yemi Osunkoya said.

"In Nigeria, if you had 400 guests, people would say 'Oh, dear,' " he continues. "The more (people) you have there, the more friends it seems you have."
Osunkoya should know. With his wedding gowns highly sought-after by Nigerian brides, he attends about 15 of his clients' weddings in Nigeria each year, and his London-based label, Kosibah, is at the heart of that country's booming wedding industry. Last month, it was one of 129 businesses exhibiting at Lagos' Wed Expo exhibition, which drew 10,000 attendees over two days.

"I would say weddings are one of the fastest growing industries in Nigeria right now," said the event's organizer, Akin Eso. "A lot of people term it that they're 'going into events' -- but the money is really in the wedding industry."

The publisher of Wed magazine, a wedding-focused title that launched in Nigeria last year, Eso said the typical Nigerian wedding has evolved in recent years into a high-concept "production.
There's always been this joy around weddings, but now there's also this whole creativity: It's more like a production, and nobody knows where it's going to stop," he said. "People just imagine it and make it happen."

Themes such as a "snow wedding" would involve decorating the entire hall to match the concept, he said.
People just imagine it and make it happen
Akin Eso, publisher of Wed magazine

"Ten years back, you would normally do all the arrangements for the wedding yourself or with your friend," he said. "Now, for every aspect of the wedding there's a vendor that can help you."

The trend has been driven by the many young Nigerians living overseas, who had introduced ambitious ideas for wedding themes, along with the concept of the wedding planner: a professional event organizer who could realize the happy couple's vision for their big day, typically at their parents' expense.

Osunkoya said families typically put much effort and expense into the event, as a wedding was an important status symbol -- although "not in a negative way."

"It's showing how well you've done, and for the bride and groom, this is their time," he said.

"Most times in Nigeria, the parents take care of the wedding -- and there are many weddings where it's just a blank check," he said. "It s a thing of joy to have your children married, so most of the time, the parents want to go all out. That's where you see total creativity."

UK-based makeup artist Lola Ibekwe caters specifically to Nigerian weddings and has been hired by brides who fly her, all expenses paid, to Nigeria for their weddings.

She said, "Nigerian brides really know what they want and demand the very best. Some of them have been influenced by the big weddings of Hollywood stars and don't mind spending big to achieve the perfect look on their big day. Most of the brides I work with reserve a big part of their budget for makeup because the pictures will last a lifetime."
There are two parts to a Nigerian wedding, Osunkoya explained. The first ceremony was the "traditional wedding," sometimes also referred to as the engagement. This was typically attended by fewer guests -- only family and close friends -- and may be held in area that one of the couple originally hailed from.

The couple would wear traditional dress, with the bride usually wearing a traditional fabric gifted to her by her new parents-in-law, sometimes sewn into a modern Afrocentric design.

The second, "white wedding" -- with a guest list at the reception potentially running into the thousands -- could follow days or even months later. For this, the bride would wear a white bridal gown and the bridal party formal attire. The most popular time of year for weddings was in December, when expatriate Nigerians return from abroad and can face a schedule of weddings seven days a week.

Another distinctive feature of the Nigerian wedding was the wearing of "aso-ebi." The phrase, which translates from the Yoruba language as "clothes of the family," refers to the garments of matching fabric worn by the bride's family and friends at the ceremony.

"You've got 2,000 people there, so it's a way of spotting people you're meant to be with," said Osunkoya. Although, in recent years, it is not uncommon to see the entire party wearing the aso-ebi.

While there are occasional grumbles that the trend for elaborate weddings had gone too far, nobody seems to mind on the day. "Not everyone is equal or has access to the same amount of wealth, but everyone aspires to it," Osunkoya said."[/b]
http://www.cnn.com/2012/05/12/world/africa/nigeria-wedding-boom/index.html

cynthiafred67: Ummmm looks like the man has a thing for light skinned ladies.

lol

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5EwjLADDqU&list=UUOiaI7NnOF5QZQwjDTNkXXA&index=2&feature=plcp

well thanks

[quote author=PAGAN 9JA]why destroy religion just because christianity corrupted it

then we will truly have been defeated.[/quote]you two have points, all religion has it's good and bad

ItsModella: She really needs to calm down in front of the camera. She is way too hyper abeg.

True

wow alot of competition

[quote author=PAGAN 9JA]I agree with that. However it must be noted that West Africans are more culturally aware and work to preserve it when compared to Easterners and especially the Southerners.[/quote]Well I agree with this statement with eastern and southern Africa but Eastern and southern Nigeria is debatable though not clear cut.

[b]"French authorities have seized the Paris mansion of the son of Equatorial Guinea's leader as part of a money-laundering probe, officials confirm.

Teodorin Nguema Obiang Mangue is currently being sought on corruption charges.

His Paris villa is thought to be worth between 100m (£79m: $124m) and 150m euros, the AFP news agency reports.

Mr Obiang, the 43-year-old son of President Teodoro Nguema Obiang Mbasogo, denies any wrongdoing.

Authorities seized the six-storey property on July 19, a court official told the BBC.

The luxury mansion is located on Avenue Foch in one the most prestigious neighbourhoods of the French capital.

A week earlier, Judge Roger Le Loire had issued an international search warrant after Mr Obiang refused to be interviewed by magistrates on charges of corruption.

The allegations were brought forward by anti-corruption group Transparency International. The organisation suspects Mr Obiang, as well his father and several other African leaders, of using state assets to acquire property in France.

'Judicial immunity'

Teodorin Nguema Obiang Mangue, son of Teodoro Obiang Nguema Mbasogo, the president of Equatorial Guinea. Teodorin Obiang is known for his lavish lifestyle

Mr Obiang's lawyer, Emmanuel Marsigny, told the AFP news agency in mid-July that he had not been informed that any mandate for his client's arrest had been issued.

He added that any such warrant would be a "non-event" due to Mr Obiang's status.

"Mr Obiang has judicial immunity as he is the vice-president of Equatorial Guinea and therefore could not attend the summons," Mr Marsigny said.

Correspondents say Mr Obiang, who serves as agriculture minister, is known for his lavish lifestyle.

He recently hit the headlines when he honoured his promise to pay his national football team $1m (£641,000) for winning the opening game of the Africa Cup of Nations which Equatorial Guinea co-hosted earlier this year.

In October 2011, the US government said it would seek to recover assets worth more $70m from Mr Obiang. A month earlier, French police seized some fifteen luxury cars belonging to Mr Obiang, including a Maserati, Aston Martin and Rolls Royce.

Equatorial Guinea is one of Africa's largest oil exporters, but most of its 720,000-strong population lives in poverty.

President Obiang seized power from his uncle in 1979 and was re-elected last year with 95% of the vote."[/b]
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-19120379

ivili: those who are speaking against it do not have a clue what a male child signifies to a community.my father had three girls and me a boy,the three girls are married and now a member of thier husbands community so also thier children,i am the one representing my fathers lineage in my community and yes represent means we pay to community purse to cater for others in the community.so for those of you that are individualist and not a member of a group withing your tribe should reserve comment.IT TAKES A MAN TO BUOLD A COMMUNITY,NO WERE IN THE WORLD WAS A NATION BUILT BY WOMEN.

It takes both men and women to build a nation

Abraham is the paternal father of the Jews and Arabs communities/nations today but it wouldn't have happened without his wife Sarah and the Egyptian maid

MacLovington: .

Women used to be. But many of our young women theses days loath everything African. They claim it's primitive and oppressive. Instead of looking within and looking at ways to improve, we want to do copy and paste.

In India and China, many families now use Ultrasound to check sex and many terminate if it's a girl. Many abandon baby girls in China. It doesn't happen in Nigeria. Not saying we should copy the worst.

Years back, I thought there was no need for male kids. But now, I see that my married sisters are not really that willing to share responsibilities that tradition dictates. Things like attending funerals and sundry. I have to push them from my base in diaspora. They don't even know how we relate to many people even though dad was laways telling us growing up.
They are now a part of another family. Simples.

Actually I have seen a equal amount of Nigerian women and men pretend to be anything but african/nigerian but I have seen many that have done the reverse.

Thank God Nigeria is not like China and India, it shows Nigeria has a heart at least

When it comes to your sisters, well I feel it is not the majority because my siblings don't act that way, and other Nigerian females I have bumped into and my parents raised men and my siblings with the culture growing up as well, born and raised in America.

MacLovington: I can see women are all looking at it from one perspective.

How many of you married African women bear your father's name?

My dad was a single son. All his sisters took their husband's name. I am also a single son and my married sisters have also taken their husband's names. With time, only I and my male child/ren will bear our family name.

If not for my dad, the hereditary titles in my family for centuries would have gone extinct. As far as most women are concerned, anything not western is not worth preserving.

Many British earls and ducal families are now extinct for lack of male heirs.

Of course women do not bear the burden of family heritage, so they can marry and go away and not give a danm about their birth family.

What a joke, isn't it African women the ones preserving the african cultures, who trains the children when the first enter the world? mother, who is the first person who lets them know & trains them who they are culturally? the mother

Go and sing that tune to your mothers and see what they will say in your face

If it wasn't for African women, most african cultures would have been extinct long time ago.

http: Please, who is responsible for men Forgetting their family? is it not the female. who cries more when their is no Male child ate home? women...

Excuse you but men are more responsible for asking for male children then females, so don't blame it only on females. Throughout history men have always pressured women for male children so don't preach that to me(if it wasn't for science men will still be blaming women for determining the sex of a child). Men chose to forget their families, and most of the time women have no part of it

mrperfect: Male is special just as female is,it just that it doesn't remain in their parent house as male do.

You are right with the first part but about the male staying in the home, well when it comes to surname it is true but staying literally remembering about their own family and etc, well it is the reverse. It is females that tend to remember their parents and take care of their needs 24/7, the males once their are with a woman forget about their own family and pay attention to their wife, it is the wife that takes it upon themselves to remind their husbands of taking care of their own husbands family. I have seen many examples of that, I am not saying all men are like that but some are.

joerux60: Some 24 million Chinese men of marrying age will find themselves lacking wives in 2020,
partly because of the country's one-child policy, which has led to the abortion of female fetuses,
http://articles.cnn.com/2010-01-11/world/china.bride.shortage_1_one-child-policy-female-fetuses-preference-for-male-heirs?_s=PM:WORLD
thats how far it can go if not taken care of seriously.

Exactly and it is the result of this male child nonsence

bittyend: The disagreement between the tribes isn't minor - they don't trust one another. Everyone aligns with their tribes before the country, and trust me, Nigeria will never be one. Boko Haram is just the new boogieman in town - before BH, they never trusted one another. Yoruba will always fight for Yoruba interest, Hausa'Fulani will always want to dominate, and Igbos will always think Yoruba owe them for what happened during the civil war.

The don't trust each other because of its history with one another since the war(which is slowly dying down), which is understandable; but if corruption was capped and progression was equal, these issues between the tribes wouldn't be even argued about in the first place. Why do you think Muslim and Christians don't get along in northern Nigeria but they do in Lagos?