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Could it be that negative peer advice sometimes amongst female folks propels them(women) to predetermine how they won't accept their MILs even when their MILs has done no wrong?

Nice one

Acidosis:
Fathers do not indoctrinate/brainwash their sons.

Meaning?

[quote author=YACAA post=89457466]I think this is because boundaries exist when it comes to a man's territory; there is some kind of code of ethics and respect that exists between men- thus the father-in-law respects himself and would never intrude into matters concerning his son-in-laws home and how it is run (financially, spiritually etc). Women, on the other hand, are nurturers, and love to teach, correct, grow etc and this sometimes results in chaos in an in-laws home, as boundaries are not respected and emotions are simmering.

For example, a father-in-law is not invited to help his son-law in his business (which is his territory) whereas a mother-in-law comes in to help her daughter-in-law at home when she gives birth (note that this is also a woman's territory. I believe that men would be equally annoyed and have issues with their father-in-laws if he came in and started telling the man how to run his business, who to employ, which business strategies are the best etc (this is how women feel sometimes with their mother-in-laws).

Another example is that a father-in-law would not want to sleep over at his son-in-laws home what more stay for a long extended period (if he visits in another country, he would probably stay for a maximum of one month whereas mom-in-laws could be there for over 6 months).

Women tend to be more emotional (this trait in women is what makes them caring, intuitive, and sensitive to the families needs; but it can also create problems if not managed in tensed up situations).

Men tend to be more logical (this is helpful in situations that do not require sentiments in making decisions, but can be a stumbling block in situations where deeper understanding and empathy is required).

NOTE: I am generalizing so this does not apply in all cases.

MY HUMBLE SUBMISSION

Good one there. Except the area of overfamiliarity between mother and daughter in-laws when they stays together, there are submissions by the female folks on how they(women) most times, discusses issues on how they will not welcome their mother In-laws in their houses on negative notes, even the spinsters are not left out on this.

Now, could it be that these unguided advice and creation of negative mindset amongst the female is a major factor that causing these feuds? If it does, why are women yet to understand the aftermath effects of bad influences to this regard as they are still indulging in it even with the facts that many couples are no longer together?

Nothing concern me

The feminists, are they still around?

Do they care?

meobizy:
WWE should have paid for surrogacy. Goddamn these big money companies and their stinginess when it comes to spending.

What if the person in question isn't interested? Would you go against the person's will?

Macsjebs:
Real Men chase money and not having fights over minor family issues, men tend to get along easily even at first meeting; perhaps coz most are always occupied with work or something

A good number of women especially in this clime are in a way jealous and so they are already in defensive mode when they notice another woman try to take their place...mother trying to control son, wife trying to proof she is more important to him and would be the one to bear him children

It's more like an indoctrination, even when there aren't issues, some create it from nowhere, coz they have been made the seen themselves as rivalries

But in all, there are good numbers of families with no such issues

Great one!

Informative piece I must say. But many of them won't care to read and digest it because it's not davido and wizkid.

Just thinking and asking why? Why is it always "wife" and "mother in law" issues that are always on the front page, in religious circles, in the families, communities, etc to settle? Could it be that they (women) deliberately decided to act that way? Or is it a mindset scenario?

Men and women both humans! Isn't it? But always the others(women) and not the men?
Food for thought.
Why don't husbands have martial issues with their father in laws like their wives?

What's proactive about Wike's misguided actions?

Nigeria is in for a time bomb! Everyday, things keep getting worst

This na version of cojoin twins o

It shouldn't be tagged tithe refund, it could be seen as donation or whatever even if the idea is drawn from amount of tithe been paid.

Using public fund for private purpose.

clevvermind:
how?

Were they not aware that these nurses don't have PPE's before the photos were released online? While publicising what should have been done normally to make it look like they are doing great job?

Imagine a situation where a child would be fed by his father after he had cried to neighbours and he(father) would go public again that his child has been fed. What's the big deal there? They even went ahead to tag it donate? Instead of provide? If only they will tell us how much cash that is in these peoples' hand, yet, they're playing with health workers lives.

Rapid testing is the best way to go

Anything that has a beginning must also have an end. Good news! I can see light at the end of the tunnel.

Covid-19 is gradually airing out

Hypocrisy of the highest order

Lol, see his reaction na, like masquerade

Have nothing to say

Misplaced priority if you ask me. Effort in futility. I just see a man trying so hard to exercise his power over his subjects

Pathetic! RIP to brave one.

Meanwhile, why was her body removed from her home? Does it mean she wasn't taken to isolation center for treatment?

It's gradually, gradually getting out of hand. Spit

It's gradually, gradually getting out of hand.

Men are direct and proactive while women are indirect and reactive. Simple

Where is the breast?

Good morning good people of Rivers State. Stay safe!