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Ewilonco:

Lols, I do send to them but not all d tym. My sending her money monthly was becos I took pity on her, her dad is late while her mum is a petty trade that is struggling to send her to schl, that was y out of the little I collected, I send to her so that she can at least eat something. I know how it can be frustrating to read with empty stomach also I saw her as my fiancée not a girlfriend until nw

NobleDeSage001:
Your girlfriend is weak from what you wrote and she knows that very well.

Mind you, she will still go back to the East to finish her studies and they will continue where they left off before her IT.

Also remember that she will go to service too. By her defense, she is implying that she will still cheat when she goes to NYSC for 1 year because she will be far away from you.

At 27, she ought to have outgrown the stage of emotional instability. But since she has not, marriage with her may be a high risk.

I knw all DAT bro, I HV played the whole movie in my head and it's not sitting well that's y I HV called it quit. Just that it's very painful to find out that the one u HV set aside for the future is cheating. I know I cannot deal with a cheat cos I don't cheat, I'm just allowing her for nw in the house becos I was the one that convinced her broda to convince her mum abt her coming ova,as a result will not want to disgrace her out of the house like someone said here

Powerfly:
Yes.. You're cancer.. Trust me, the reason why you have liver(strong will) is simply because you're born in the almighty Leo's (Lion) cusp or house.(almighty because Leo the fire sign's ruling planet is the sun.).
If you were born in june, like the end of the 3rd week - to the last day of the month of june, you would definitely get back to her, as long as you love her and she comes begging.
Be grateful you were born in the fire sign cusp. It has really saved your ass.

Thanks dear

Karlifate:
arki, just leave her alone.
IF you get married to her, you won't have peace of mind anytime you're far away from her cos you will keep on wondering what she's doing at the moment.

Thanks

MalaikaEH:
Arki
Your story is interesting. I think your mind has already told you what to do, but you want to be convinced. To clear your doubts, since you are thinking of marriage, here is my two pence.
You will never trust that girl again, even if she lives in the same room with you. That will rob you of your peace of mind.

Also, create reasons and excuses why you can not give her money all the time. For some girls, the real colour shows after sometime of not getting the expected funds.

True, I knw I can Neva trust her again that accounts to y I will leave her. what you said is tru. Thanks

Powerfly:
You're not a weak man?.. What's your birth month..?

lols, July 14. u want to check the zodiac sign?

Powerfly:
You're not a weak man?.. What's your birth month..?

lols, July 14. u want to check the zodiac sign?

Powerfly:
I know what you're looking for.
See the truth is.. Not everyone would get their dream partner. You either get the well endowed, lightskinned but weak character girl or the not-so-endowed girl with a strong character.
Btw.. If you're a water sign guy, then there's no need to even bother because you'll certainly go back to her. Except you're not.

My dear, I am not a weak man, she knows me too well that I don't take shit from women, though she went defensive to blame me that I left her for gud 1 year. She knows already that I might not take her back cos of my kind of guy. Though she is very beautiful and endowed but not the most beautiful amongst the girls I HV dated and left. The only thing is that she is the only girl I will date for this long.

Palema007:
I wonder what will happen you get married to her and you are transferred to another state for work or business. Anyone who can not respect your presence in your absence is not worth keeping. She's very unreliable, don't waste your time or emotions.


That said, be careful with women, sometimes what they call Love is merely Gratitude. Your lady only remember to be good,loyal and truthful whenever she's with you hence why she confesses her transgressions and ask for forgiveness, the moment you are out of sight, she hunts for another. That isn't love. Please let her go, for your own good.

Thanks, I HV told her already that we are done. I don't want to throw her out of the house in order not to disgrace her, when the time I gave her elapses and she fails to go, then she will get it hot. I HV not always accepted a cheat in my previous relationships, this is really the first tym I will do that.

Ewilonco:
. The pussy was never yours.. Just your turn.. This is the second time she's cheating according to your write up...what about the ones you know nothing about... Bro abeg move on.. Stop allowing her tears overshadow your thinking.. Oga not ever relationship leads to marriage..take this as one of those experiences.. Your wife is around the corner.. Cheer up!!!

Thanks bro, i am getting hold of myself gradually. It's already certain that I can't marry her again, cos a lady that can cheat in a relationship that was leading to marriage can also do same in marriage. tnx anywr

MAGG0T:



The way hoes manipulate guys these days is alarming. How can a full grown man like u fall to her cheap tricks.


Never u accept a cheating partner back,...

U are such a weak cuñt.

Thanks

fayded:
Bro,listen to me and listen very well, cos I rarely talk on this forum.
Now, I've been where u are once in d past..
D simple and most correct advice is to break up with her.. She cheated, and cheating is not just a game.. It's sumfn dt u make up ur mind to do.its not a mistake or anyfn.she saw d guy and she kept with him countless times, while still picking your calls and money and saying "I love u".
There's Nufn like this is a phase or sumfn. She's a cheat and she will still cheat again, dts d sad story.
I get that age may not be on ur side or u wanna marry early or u are so attached to her, buh trust me, it's better this way. There are so many other better girls out there dt u would meet. So just end it and have peace of Mind.
And lemme ask u.. Do u think u can evef trust her again??
Do u think she can ever say to u "dt guy is just a friend, nufn more" and u would accept it without looking twice..
There's ur answer

Thanks, I tot I didn't love her this much until nw. I'm gradually putting myself togeda. Its just DAT I see her everyday, and it kind of torments

Thanks bro, I HV tot about all these things u HV said. I knw I can Neva trust her no matter wot. The house I rented for her, most times I stay with her cos it's close to my work place. I HV given her the mandate to leave by September end
ing, even at this, I knw I stand a chance of revoking this decision. I want her to go back to her family in the east, then I can heal faster if she is out of sight.

I have always been among the team read and don't comment on this forum, I never believed I can seek for an advice concerning my relationship in this forum cos I HV always been a type that keep things to myself, until I decided to giv this a shot.

I HV been dating this lady since my final yr (2018) in school, I started dating her from her very first year in school. she is 27 nw while I am 30. When I met her, she told me she was in a relationship of which I tot it was just a way of trying to knw if I was serious. I later found out wat she told was true some weeks into our relationship, when I found out , I decided to give her time to make up her mind between me and her guy who she wants. Three months pass, she told me she has broken up with the guy, whom she complained to me to be a serial cheat, which I decided to investigate myself and found out through their chat that it was true. I am this kind of a guy DAT don't double date, I keep one girlfriend at a tym. I was astonished after six months I discovered that she cheated on me with the same guy, I was really broken, I decided to leave her totally, before then I found out that I am already in love with this lady, she is supportive, takes care of my laundries and cooks for me etc. also she is a beautiful and well endowed lady. she is some one a man would want to marry, the only weak point she has is she can be very insultive when provoked. When I told her to go away, she cried to a point that her heart almost stopped, after series of begging and crying, I took pity on her and forgave her, she promised Neva to go bk to the guy of which she kept.
Now fast forward to 2019, I went for my Nysc leaving her in skl, during my service year I made sure I call her everyday and also made sure I sent her money every month since I knw that her parents her not well to do and her dad late. Prior to concluding my service, God gave me a job, and when I finished serving I rented a room for her to come ova, I forgot to add earlier than it was a long distance relationship, we schooled in the east, service took me to the west close to wr my parents reside. She told me that she was looking for a place for her industrial training, of which I offered to help since I can get her a place in my company. I rented a room for her and sent her t fare, got her the IT placement of which she was very happy.
Fast forward to 5 days ago I made an inquiry abt her life in school and to my amassment, she was dating the guy in her lodge who she always told me they where friends, initially she told me abt the guy coming to woo her and everything, since I knew her to be a type that don't kip female friends only guy friends I was not too worried but a bit skeptical about the whole stuff. When I confronted her abt it she denied it at first cos I invaded her privacy, I chatted the guy up with her fone, and what I read was heart breaking, I later confirmed it by calling someone in her lodge, he told me everything. I HV always had this girl on my mind to marry of which I told her and promised her marriage, she knows I am a straight forward type of guy and don't fail when I promise. After the discovery, I HV told her we are done, she has been apologizing at a point stopped, she told me it was just a game, nothing serious that it's me she has on her mind though it could be tru cos she always tell her toasters that she has a fiance already,though single but not searching. she still calls the guy and they both chat too. I HV been seriously heartbroken, cos even during my service period, I Neva cheated on this girl.
Dear house, advice me on what to do. Insults too are welcomed

madam u are not ready to remain married. Is it until someone tells u DAT ur actions are flirty before u knw it is??

Dnt allow any lady to friendzone u. They enjoy more. Wat are u even wetin for sef to cut her off. She has been dickmatised by d guy dat is y it is hard for her to leave the said guy. Oga give urself sense o, grow balls. Abi u dey collect d oda room tinx from her. If yes, then enjoy it while it last and cut short the expenses, if no, my friend pursue the girl. U be father Xmas.?

Mr op, the truth is dat ur wife doesn't love u and u knw it. U cannot deny this except if u dnt want to tell urself d truth. Never marry someone that doesn't love u as u do is d lesson. Learn to treat anybody d way they treat u. The remedy to this ur situation is: neglect her completely, both on social media etc,. Perform ur duty as a husband would do to his wife. Get out, mingle with friends esp beautiful ladies, take pix with them post them on Facebook. Behave as if u don't notice her, never go out for functions with her. Try be a bit cocky and I don't care. Watch and see her crawl back for u. One thing we guys don't understand is dat women love challenge. Jst try and treat her the way she's treating u. Make sure u don't cheat on her for u to get d leverage. Tnk me later.

Dipsie:
Thanks for your response, I'm aware i made mistakes in the first place which i apologised for severally.
In case of my colleague, anytime i mention that lady to her hearing she never appeared comfortable at all as a matter of fact i didn't tell her about the colleagues visit willingly. Something's led to me having to tell her.
Secondly the comment i made reeked of sarcasm, i apologised so much after this didn't turn out well either.
After several apologies, going out to still make her own revengeful moves was just so weakening.
I would work to fix this present mess, thank you.

Don't always apologize pls. It's neva a man's traits. U called up wot u are getting. She nw take u for granted cos on her mind. "He will always apologize". U hv to man up an take charge of urself and relationship. Be the one calling the shots not her. The girl I'm dating is a typical of ur gf. But trust me, I manipulated her into submission. Be the " I don't give a hoot" type of a guy, then come bk and thank me later. Make her choose between u and d guy, cos no guy comes close to a lady for nothing.

[quote author=okoroemeka post=76607533]why will the wife act be condemned, from the OP post it's obvious he was stagnant while the wife was struggling and bettering her chances in life,I doubt if the wife will leave if the man is equally successful, ambitious and proactive,we have not heard from the wife's part of story yet,but I feel 60-70% of the problems will be caused by the man's bitterness and jealousy at been overtaken by his

Bro, this man made d woman wat she is. If he is not opportune to go to school, thereby channeling the resources to d wife's education, it is not bad. U dnt becos life has smiled on u forget pple that sacrificed to get u there. The wife is plainly an ungrateful opportunist. A good woman will respect and love such a man unconditionally.

Liliyann:
You were just a stepping stone to her success!!
Why trying to get the reward of your good deed by caging her in a marriage that she doesn't want?
While she was growing every facet of her life to be someone in the society, you remained redundant, no physical growth or achievement and you expect her to continue to live in a rat hole with you when the company she is working with already offered her a heaven!!

Mr Husband, marriage isn't a do or die affairs neither is it for better for worse nowadays!!
If you ain't getting the maximum respect, satisfaction and happiness in marriage, you take a walk!!
From your narrative, its very obvious that you are jealous of your wife progress and achievement and you are trying to suppress her down by claiming she has changed!!

Your wife, has my deepest respect!!

U sure say u get sense so? Can u read d nonsense u jst typed again. Instead of u to condemn his wife's act, u are here defending the stupid ungrateful idiot. Babe get a life pls. Obviously you are her kind

Daisy17:
I 100% agree with everything you have written. African parents need to learn how to raise boys to see women as their partners and their equals. The whole post shows the op is very controlling and someone who sees himself as superior because he's of the male species ( I won't call him a man because he needs to grow up and become one).

Hv you ever seen a colony, establishment, ship etc without a head? If no, then in every relationship/ marriage God instituted a head which is d man to head the family. If u as a woman goes against d divine ordinance, then there is trouble. My dear, many women don't know d sciences of getting d heart of a man. Some think it's food, sex etc. Wen a woman/lady is submissive to her husband/bf, She has only earned herself d man, cos subconsciously she will control d man without d man knowing. There is nothing that can cage a man to a lady than wen he finds out dat his gf/wife obeys and respects him. Only d intelligent few amongst u pple knws this.
Back to d OP, I am begging u in d name of whteva u believe to run for ur life. Dnt ever put up wit such kind of a lady or even talking abt marriage. That's if u like ur life o, cos dat ur gf can neva change, if u trace it well, that is how her either parents behave. U dnt see fire and be petting it. Do u want to die young? Leave d relationship asap, and get ur self a lady dat not only loves u but respects u. Be a man bro and take charge of ur relationship

MariaLavina:
Funny enough op is no different from her friends, so while trying to correct her friend for asking a direct question 'him get money? ' her very own first question was 'his job / career' . Biko what's the difference? Ah! packaging One is direct , the other isn't



Anyways it's none of my business. . Let your standard be whatever it is, it's your cross/ gain to bear.

I asked myself the same question. Wow that's very intelligent of u. OP, ur topic would hv made sense to me if u had not asked whether he has got a job. It still means u are indirectly wat u decry

funmisticqueen:
I agree. we ain't loyal and we don't owe you shit loyalty. You gotta earn it.

Gone are the days where asking a girl out and telling her empty words are just enough. Girls are getting wiser. So up your game or remain a bachelor.

My friend go and sit down. When u see something bad don't take side jst cos u are a lady and d person been crucified too is a lady. The guy did wrong by spreading his girl like pepper to be bought by passers by. Condemn d slutty bitch for cheating wit her guys friend instead of indirectly supporting her. If d guy didn't do dat, hw would he hv known that his girl was a glorified slutty idiot who bleeps every dick that stands at her sight? What if he had ended up marrying such a big mistake? Sometimes d way u girls support each other's ills amazes me. Type with some sense pls.

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