₦airaland Forum

naijaboy756:
Na so we go dey dey How can one dull man's unfortunate fate want to cage the progress of millions of bright and capable Nigerians?

So, not up to a year of PMB, u realised u're being caged/chained?

skarlett:
that child s getting a room of thier own

Under 18mnths, is in ur room, esp those that refuse to give up late nite feeding.

The matured ones will always want to sleep in ur room, I wait for them to sleep off, carry them to their room, just when u lay them down, one will open his eyes and insist on going back with u; if u make d mistake of lying with them, na till daybreak be dat!

Even d kid that agrees to sleep alone, will come knocking for- water, pee, stomach ache(bread&tea)), ojuju etc


Parenthood is great fun and until d kids grow old enough to be relatively independent, ur sex life remains a balancing act.

Destined2win:
Are you sure my intentions weren't pure? well I wonder what made you come to that conclusion

My bad. D way u stated ur 2nd or 3rd comment, vulgar n all, didn't sound like someone with objectivity. By d way, all what I wrote is from my perspective, can't claim to speak for an entire tribe!

skarlett:
Hell to the No!



Shii aint right, they're scarring that child psychologically. I wonder what happened to having someone watch over the baby while they were both at it

Innocuous moments.
Scenario 1- u think baby is asleep(supposedly heavy sleeper), u're having a go at it, u finish, look around and see d young man studying ur every move?

Scenario 2- during early morning(4am) konji, someone opens d door after passing beside d damn bathroom, and says "Daddy, I want to pee"

Good babysitters are hard to come by! Short of owning a home with several rooms, far apart, u can't escape it, or else there won't be any spontaneity! U can only pray.

veraponpo:
So, where is lack of respect in everything you wrote up there?

Many of you have left the fundamental issue and that is 'respect is reciprocal' from India to Ghana, if you respect me, I will respect you. Both Linda and Don Jazzy threw the first stones. Both Olamide and Wizkid only reacted.

Being respectful is not synonymous to being a coward and it is on record that no tribe has ever fought wars like the Yoruba people in Nigeria. Igbo had only one and they lost it. Hausa did not have many too. Only the Fulani through the influence of the expansion of their emirate could equal the record of the Yoruba people.

Tell it to dem bro, even their reasoning is off!

sonature1:
You don't seem to understand what OP is saying, oga. OP is saying that a typical Yoruba person would respectfully show their displeasure even they are pushed to the wall NOT whether they started it or not.

IMO, this has nothing to do with bravery. If not, how would you explain Wizkid, a boy, threatening to beat Linda, a lady? There is an old saying: never fight a woman because if she wins "a lady has beaten you," and if you win, you "hit a lady."

In my perception, the world is changing. Yes, this is 21st Century so we are losing every single thing culture teaches us and there is nothing "culture" can do about it

Read up all my comments. I get culture being thrown out, what I also get is d current Yoruba youth departing from d typical!

In my culture, Linda won't diss Whizzy, he is not her mate and she won't leave herself open to any rude reaction from him! I'm yet to hear of a Funke Akindele dissing Davido, them no be mate and she won't be caught dead in a social media war with him!

When someone who grew up with no respect training disses u, u treat their fuckup! Even when Olamide dissed D'banj, he(D'banj) rolled over and played dumb.
But, I can promise u, Olamide has been to prostrate to D'banj without involving Otedola!

Don't mind d op, he was trying to rub it in, his intentions weren't pure.

Destined2win:
So your defintion of being a 'stand-up' guy is abusing your elders and not learning how to address issues in public and using vulgar words on people? Hmm! Now I get it

This is exactly wat we're talking abt! U asked a question, I gave u ans, now u're twisting everytin arnd? Ur intentions are evil!

What stops Linda from getting Whizzy's comment b4 embarrassing/disgracing him in public? If he keeps quiet, he is a coward; he does a back to sender with bonus, he is vulgar?

Olamide felt dissed, his qualified candidate lost to a lesser talent(irrespective of d voting requirements), he dissed d organisers, what is DonJazzy's own? His he in cahoots with d organisers?

Guy, I grew up hearing my tribe described as cowards, even right here on nairaland! And, I'm supposed to encourage such mentality to what end?

All my states are filled with foreigners, building, making biz even taking political posts and its not being reciprocated, yet they will turn arnd and call it a no-man's land, or a useless eze will dis a 1st class Oba? So, we should wait until d Isreali/Palestine scenario occurs ba?

Destined2win:
It's doing more harm than good

So, u'll prefer being a coward to being a stand-up guy?

Destined2win:
Note that I am not writing this little piece out of any ulterior motive but to speak my mind on a very important issue which concerns my yoruba people who will make part of my territory when I become President. Heaven knows that this is without prejudice!

To the main issue. The recent media outbursts of some yoruba artists have really put in doubt the long held perception that yoruba people are very respectful to their elders, and are somehow reserved in their speech. Well, I have been indifferent about that percpetion because as someone who resides in a yoruba land, I have seen respectful yorubas and insulting ones. Candidly speaking, I see more of insulting ones than respectful ones. A lot of the ones that give you respect do so as a 'reward for a favor' or 'as a green flag for an expectation.

Not quite long ago during the headies, a yoruba artist by name Olamide who felt his candidate was short-changed in the headies awards came out on stage to rain abuses on both the host and the audience that had people of different background and nationalities. It was very disgraceful! I expected to see a yoruba elder remind olamide that he is from a 'respectful tribe' but alas, i waited in vain.

Olamide used unprintable words on the person of Don jazzy his elder, yet he is from tribe that does not insult elders but 'respectfully' register their grudges or dissatisfaction. This young man is a role model for a lot of young people; and I have seen a lot take after his pseudo-name, 'badoo'. If he apologized for those trashy words on twitter, I am yet to read about it.

Where is the respect of the yorubas?

And the most recently, wizkid, a 'respectful' yoruba boy literally committed verbal murder on One Miss linda Ikeji, using all kinds of unprintable, anti-woman, anti-human words on her. Wizkid showed how depraved our youths have become. I expected a rebuttal from some yoruba elders, but alas, my expectation seem to be meeting a dead end. His colleage in the industry David, another 'respectful' yoruba boy saw joy and bravery in what Wizkid did. If you check online, you would see that majority of those who rejoice in this 'little boys' outburst are yorubas. It puts a big question mark on the 'respectfulness' of this lovable tribe.


Some should please answer me, where is the respect of the yorubas?

Too much disrespect is burying it! We're being taken for cowards, and d current youths are out to correct that mentality.

Mention 1 fracas, which was initiated by d Yorubas? They tend to be reactive.

Destined2win:
Note that I am not writing this little piece out of any ulterior motive but to speak my mind on a very important issue which concerns my yoruba people who will make part of my territory when I become President. Heaven knows that this is without prejudice!

To the main issue. The recent media outbursts of some yoruba artists have really put in doubt the long held perception that yoruba people are very respectful to their elders, and are somehow reserved in their speech. Well, I have been indifferent about that percpetion because as someone who resides in a yoruba land, I have seen respectful yorubas and insulting ones. Candidly speaking, I see more of insulting ones than respectful ones. A lot of the ones that give you respect do so as a 'reward for a favor' or 'as a green flag for an expectation.

Not quite long ago during the headies, a yoruba artist by name Olamide who felt his candidate was short-changed in the headies awards came out on stage to rain abuses on both the host and the audience that had people of different background and nationalities. It was very disgraceful! I expected to see a yoruba elder remind olamide that he is from a 'respectful tribe' but alas, i waited in vain.

Olamide used unprintable words on the person of Don jazzy his elder, yet he is from tribe that does not insult elders but 'respectfully' register their grudges or dissatisfaction. This young man is a role model for a lot of young people; and I have seen a lot take after his pseudo-name, 'badoo'. If he apologized for those trashy words on twitter, I am yet to read about it.

Where is the respect of the yorubas?

And the most recently, wizkid, a 'respectful' yoruba boy literally committed verbal murder on One Miss linda Ikeji, using all kinds of unprintable, anti-woman, anti-human words on her. Wizkid showed how depraved our youths have become. I expected a rebuttal from some yoruba elders, but alas, my expectation seem to be meeting a dead end. His colleage in the industry David, another 'respectful' yoruba boy saw joy and bravery in what Wizkid did. If you check online, you would see that majority of those who rejoice in this 'little boys' outburst are yorubas. It puts a big question mark on the 'respectfulness' of this lovable tribe.


Some should please answer me, where is the respect of the yorubas?

Too much disrespect is burying it! We're being taken for cowards, and d current youths are out to correct that mentality.

E don be for dem b dat!

Getting ready for another rash of hidden camera footage of bribe collecting govt officers!

He who has ears, ...

YorubaWoman:
[color=#8C001A]Enu eleyi se a dabi enu igun bai

You are okay![/color]

Eyin tun buru lopolopo! Ki lo a se fun yin?

Okay na ni.

cruzita:
Linda is a blogger and its not as if what she wrote wasn't true.wizkid lied and now that his lies has been opened ,he is now angry.why live a fake life when u can afford to live a real life?

Come to equity with clean hands. No liar wants a fellow liar calling them out.

x240:
You must have been reading my text upside down.

I blamed everyone proportionately. I never spared anyone. I like to be a realist and talk based on facts and not just emotions or feelings.

I guess you skimmed through where she said she started seeing the obvious signs when he was having troubles settling his office rent. I am not in their family and can only judge based on little snippets of info you can gleam.
What does it connote for a man to not be able to pay his office rent just few months after his wedding?


You make it seem like it is a black and white issue. How many times has a man tried talking to the lady to listen and reduce the cost of wedding expenses but they turn it too a case of he is too stingy.

How many of you ladies here would agree to budget wedding?

How many would agree to a small wedding with just minute friends and families around?

How many times have ladies of guys not loving them enough because he doesnt want to spend on a frivolous wedding?

The guy is to blame for over spending his balance but its not that easy to just pull out of such when you have expended emotions, time and resources nurturing such a relationship only to just breakaway.

So run along if you can't constructively disagree with my post. Thanks.

@op This might not be the case in your example but you need to sit him down and talk about finding a way around whatever challenges he is facing. The way i see it. There seems to be fire on the mountain and all his lovely wife wants to do is "Gist about what is not". No wonder he pulls away and thinks "You don't just get it".

Seriously, u av wailer mentality. In all u've said, u still think d wife is in d wrong. How abt d guy pre-marriage, 'boning' his siblings? Now that d mating display(too much nat geo wild) is over, and target achieved, what stops him reverting back to status quo, since he doesn't need to woo her anymore?

From d way d wife is writing, she reads like one of those rare women, who will go to d ends of d earth to please!

familyrocks:
Change too, just start Ignoring him totally, in fact just live as Co tenants. And from your write up it seems he is not doing well financially and your still young so please the second option is leaving that marriage before you get pregnant

Modified**** For those saying my advice is bad..you need your head examined, most women are not happy in their marriages but more than half of them at least have one reason to hold on to the marriage for example they could hold on for the kids or finances or for the way the man treats them well once in a while. But op has not even given one reason of what she is holding on to in that marriage apart from trying to change the behaviour of a man who is almost 40 for crying out loud and he is still struggling that he can't even afford to decently take care of his home financially or emotionally. You people want her to remain miserable,until she starts getting attention from outside and committing adultery then you people will be the same people to call her a prostitute.
That man is just irresponsible, At least men who are not financially strong make up for it by being extra loving..
Please op you are still too young to be so miserable,I repeat quit that marriage and get your life and happiness back. If you decide to stay back then suffer in silence cuz nobody can change the character of a 40 year old. Please forgive the **** word, I have no intention insulting your husband,but I believe you must have heard the saying before, it just makes you understand how impossible it is changing the character of a 40 year old man , A **** at 40 is a **** forever..

I share ur sentiments, abeg! Boning with his siblings was d warning sign. I read dat n I said damn!

To all prospective couples, no warning sign should be ignored. If u know u can't live with a particular trait, don't bother continuing because of promises to change, na wash! If u insist because of sentiments, well, be prepared to live with d consequences.

Op, don't get preggy yet, and be ready to go all out to get a change or else, d rest of ur marriage will be frustrating and filled with regrets.

If he/she gets too angry/stingy/unforgiving/lacks empathy with everyone except u, don't be deceived, ur time will come; esp after u tie d knot. How are u supposed to give them marriage, if they don't play nice?

teechudleyy:
Its also good to have doctor friends they can be very helpful if they are nit endtime doctors. I have a friend like that too.

Trust me now, I get like 3 of dem on call, with pharmacist join! I go as far as d 4th opinion! Person wey go mis-diagnose me go get witch!

teechudleyy:
I never said it should b free. I said he should at least be compassionate in the process.

I never compare nigeria ti any country abroad let alone the fuction those ones concoct.

Doctors are entitled to charge whatever they want. I just want value for my miney, and to be treated properly.

Theres nothing like good health. A sane person would pay anything for it.
Its sad when ur willing to pay anything to get smtn, and ur given a second class product.

Story of Naija, paying good money for some substandard sh_t!

armadeo:
honestly hes was the funniest comment on this thread. i just laugh and laugh when i read on such threads and have decided never to argue on such again. there is really no point. NEONATAL JAUNDICE!!! and all he could think of was buying ram.

GOd truly is wonderful and ignorance is bliss



theres another thread on the evils of patient behaviour after thay have been treated and now time to pay. everyman likes to shift the blame.




on a final note as someone said on this thread many of you have access to the internet. use it.

Ignorance is truly bliss. I guess UV light now comes in white? Or u were d attending physician, and as such conducted an indepth examination to arrive at ur NEONATAL JUANDICE?

Enjoy ur bliss, abeg! Incase u were worried, didn't end up buying a ram, actually added it for laughs. U and Onegal shouldn't be d kind of pple who end up as docs, u jump to conclusions too easily!

abeeceebee:
It happened to me recently. My last child (child no 3) was a beatiful baby girl , most beautiful of all the three. Four weeks after she was born, she started loosing weight so I took her to d peadiatric unit of the health center to see d doc. A doc attended to me and after telling him my observation thinking he will diagnose her instead he just prescribed folic acid and vitamin c. After leaving his office I went to d nursing station, it was there I overheard him telling one of d nurses that my baby had down syndrome
Syndrome. On hearing this, I quickly log in to Goole to know what is the meaning of down syndrome. To cut the long story short I lost d baby four weeks after because she also had hole in the heart and she has lost all energy due to hard labour of sucking. If d doctor had told me earlier I would have known how to spoon feed her till God takes control of the situation. Nigerian doctors! Even though this one is supposed to be more experience being a government employed doctor.

May her soul rest in peace. Crazy docs. I generally google all symptoms b4 going to d hospital, and when d doc start speaking 'french', I flounce out!

Happywoman:
My next time actively feed ur baby and lay him on d early morning sun . 100kfor fluorescent. Thunder fire dem

Google helps alot wen it comes to information on lo

Tnx madam. Got all d info I needed by word of mouth. A secondary school classmate, was one of d attending docs, gave me d lowdown.

Onegai:
Is that picture what you're calling a "fluorescent" bulb? And you're complaining about buying a ram??

Jehovah. You're an idiot. Sorry but true.

That is an Ultraviolet light, used for treating severe cases of jaundice in newborn (neonatal). They saved your son's life because if they hadn't done that, he would have died.

And you called it "fluorescent" and complained about buying a ram?!!!! Let me guess, you're a "graduate", right??

And please don't spew that talk about early morning sunlight, as that treatment only works for mild cases of jaundice, which is probably not what your son had and he got better after a week of UV treatment. If you had refused and he had died (2-3 says of severe jaundice will kill most newborns) you'd have come here to rant. When your careless ignorance caused it.

I'm not a doctor or nurse, btw, just an informed parent. But you have seriously annoyed me tonight. You and the OP have shown the kind of ignorance that made me stop helping almost all the cases I hear of, because Nigerian stvpidity and wilful ignorance is high and we need to reduce the population of ignorant half-baked graduates (let Natural Selection get rid of them). I mean, you could have used your phone to Google the treatment o....Chai.

And to anyone complaining, go to GH. At least they treat you not based on profit. I use private for our regular medicals and when we have an issue I call the GH doctors and tell them we are coming or ask them for a 2nd opinion and crosscheck with my private hospital. That's your right as a patient, ask for a 2nd opinion if you are not sure of your attending physician.

Chai, only me, idiot? So full of ur self! U a graduate, assumes all other graduates aren't un-informed? Though, u didn't bother to ask, I'll tell u, I very well know d difference btw UV(physics-didnt even av to be a graduate to know it) and flourescent(my dad's favourite, till presently)

Carry ur sanctimonious self and go find weaklings to intimidate with ur quality certificates and google! I believe u discovered google ba?

U've assumed a lot of wrong things, and for a quality graduate online, u lack home training. That u've been privileged to av GH docs on call, doesn't hold true for others. Do u know how many days some spend to even gain access to a GH doc not to talk of having a number?

I'm in a rage and can almost dare u, to compare d quality of our knowledge. But, I won't, as I realise, u're d type that gains a little knowledge and claim to be prof!

Do av a goodnite rest, ur knowledgeable excellence! _____

Agunechemba1:
Buhari is the highest fraud of the 21st century.
He is an illiterate dictator
He is a paedophile
He is Evil.

We know the real world leaders.Those guys there knows that a Nepa Bill holder has nothing to contribute to the world at large.

So why am I not seeing other African presidents there?
If not for his lust for traveling, he knows that Nigeria's presence is as good as useless in this summit.

Hope u realise hatred is a disease?

PMB has a major power prob in his country, and he believes nuclear power would a bonus. Which other developing African country has such dysfunctional power generation?

KashyBaby:
"Til death do us part" still exist...

Till death do wetin? Didn't read anything about two bodies, just his dumb_ss!

Death actually parted them, sent it, b4 I got 'it'.

KashyBaby:
"Til death do us part" still exist...

Till death do wetin? Didn't read anything about two bodies, just his dumb_ss!

kola1930:
Thanks for all the comments and suggestions... These r answers to most of the questions asked:
Am very attractive with no body odour what-so-ever.
Our baby is 5 months old now, so the issue that she is still recovering from postnatal is out of it.
If am asked to judge myself, I'll say am romantic.
I feel the issue is, she does not just enjoy making love. So the solution is I seek is finding a way to make her enjoy the act. Thank you all

Op, pele. That's been a constant among all my married frnds, u begin to wonder if na plan work. Pre-marriage, u get so much sex, u get scared u might not be able to keep up, then after d 1st or 2nd kid u start wondering how u missed out on those ladies u hear are always all over their hubbies!

Thinking abt it now, I realise we all arrived at d same solution over d long run; sidechick, to varying degrees of success. Some are upfront, some are sneaky, yet d result always remain d same. U will get CAUGHT, and d hassles no be for here! Do anything u like and be prepared for d consequences, it is as sure as d day u were born.

D funny thing is, those sidechicks can't seem to get enough of u, and madam is on sabbatical. Try all d proferred solutions 1st, so it won't be as if u didn't try. Hope one or two will make it happen for u.

freeze001:
Cannot happen? Or already happening?

To be fair, there're always 2 sides to an argument; ur side and our side. And, until we get a fair hearing, any judgement is subjective. 'Cos, even from d statement he made in d US yesterday, he is insisting, he didn't submit any padded budget, I'm waiting for d senate to refute it!

VictorRomanov:
The vandalization began after their contracts were terminated.

I very well remember, we had power issues towards 2014 ending and 1st half of 2015, all of which was due to gas shortage occasioned by vandalisation. It was all blamed on d GEJ govt and their inefficiency.

luvinhubby:
SMH!
So you do not know that your FG borrowed $2 billion late last to finance it's supplementary budget.

If comprehension is hard for you, compare how much N2,000 grocery you can get in 2013 to what you can get with same amount now.

Borrowed from where? I know they submitted a supplementary, but didn't hear anything about borrowing to finance it.

Same way #2,000 worth of groceries in 2011 is expected to compare unfavourably with that of 2013.

VictorRomanov:
Some of these ex-militants were contracted to provide security for these pipelines, but their contracts where cancelled. For what reason? I don't know. Maybe corruption. Maybe it was an insult to our armed forces. Now this is happening. Were the past administration silly? Time would tell.

The ex-militants were contracted, yet d pipelines were still vandalised. Hoping for magic from Fashola.

obiorathesubtle:
so true!! I miss the joys of singlehood..



My wife doesn't even let me see the kids anymore, they're always at her sisters' or her mother's..she says I've lost my way.. She doesn't let me touch her.. She changed all her passwords.. I've been living without sex for 2years.. My balls are flooded.. I'm dying inside.. We're so dysfunctional.. I can't even concentrate at work..



She brought up divorce last sunday, at the dinner table, in front of the children.. Michael, Ruby, and kennedy didn't understand what was going on.. I'm sure of it.. But, I know clinton saw the pain in my eyes.. I watched him frown at his mother's tone..I was so annoyed.. It's Easter, where's the love??.. Why do you have to poison the hearts of our children??

And she won't let me keep the children.. Marriage is so difficult!!

It generally ends up being abt d kids. Still wonder how those husbands can abandon their kids!

omenka:
The serially ass-ravaged Albino claimed he has submarines with bombs fitted with nuclear warheads parked in his garage in UK with which he'd bomb the zoo to smithereens but he's spent three major holidays eating fried beans in Kuje prisons, yet not even a banger has been thrown on his behest.

Kanu is a Yellow advance fee fraudster.

Where him for see fried beans? In his dreams! I now realise why d pple from d south-east are successful in biz; even in total defeat dey continue to av hope of a breakthru, or how else will we excuse his fans?

@allycat

Jona was d Oga-at-the-top, d buck rests with him. Some govs were working, just not all. But, with d advent of PMB, practically all govs are stepping up their game. Inspite of d same reduce allocations, state are yet to owe 6 to 9mnths salaries. During Jona, they weren't accountable to anyone, they were getting away with sh-t.

When d head is rotten, what do u expect from d underlings?