thesicilian: I'm surprised nobody thought of this ever since.
1. Once they appealed, status quo remained! No argument, whatsoever! 2. APC NEC ratified the verification and primary elections! Unless, the courts want to be smarter by half sha
Amya: I've been looking to get a federal agency job in Abuja for a while now and haven't yet had any reasonable connection.
My sister inlaw ( husband's sister) a lady in her mid 40s who's divorced and a hustler type still trying to find her feet called me up one day and told me a friend of hers had a connection for Civil Defence and i should email my CV right away to her. I have never discussed jobs with her before so the call took me by surprise. I wasnt particular keen on Civil Defence and as a lawyer i had my sights much higher on parastatal or agency jobs. She might have sensed my reluctance on the phone and she went on to say
"I'm just doing you a favour ooo, many people are hoping for opportunities as this"
She had this tone of urgency.
I didnt especially like how she was hurrying me as i never approach anything with desperation and as such, have never been scammed. I told her I'll get back to her. Two hours later, she was messaging me on whatsapp that she hadn't seen my CV on her mailbox. I replied her saying
"Aunty i haven't sent it ooo, is the job slot free because me i don't have money ooo"
This was a very dicey situation for me because this woman is over 10 years my senior and i wanted to be as diplomatic as possible without causing family wahala.
She read my response but didnt reply.
Very early the next morning she called me and when i picked up, she said that the job wasnt free but the price wasnt too much, just N350k. That i shouldn't worry that she'll call my hubby (her brother) and ask him for the money. When i saw she was still pushing, i opened up to her that even if i wanted to pay for a job slot, it definitely wasnt going to be a Civil Defence job as i had my sights set on agencies and parastatals. I knew she was upset by how her voice changed. "Agencies? What's that?" I told her like NNPC, DPR, NCC and the likes "NNPC? ehnnn.. Okay" She cut the call and i heaved a sigh that it was over. It wasn't.
Two days later, this woman called me again to tell me she has an NNPC job for me.
(you've gat to be kidding me!)
She said that her friend knows the director and he asked for one million but after begging him, he agreed to take 500k she started with her hurrying tactics that i had only 24hrs and if payment wasn't made before then that the offer will be withdrawn. At that time, NNPC were done with their recruitment process and i didnt even apply and knowing how stringent NNPC recruitment was, i knew that offer was impossible. She went on that if I didn't have the cash that she'd call her brother (hubby) to make the transfer immediately. I knew right then without a doubt that this woman wanted to use me to obtain her brother by all means. She can try to scam him directly and if he falls mugu, good for her but why try to use me in the scam? I went further with questioning her on the supposed NNPC job. "Please Aunty the director that is helping, where is he? " Abuja nau" she replied getting irritated with my questioning.
She was in Lagos and i was in Abuja at the time so i asked her if i could meet the supposed director one on one and pay him directly and even promised to reward her and her friend handsomely if the deal pulls through.
"No" she said abruptly "you pay the money to my account and ill give it to my friend to make the payment. All you have to do is just hope and pray"
Pray... That word. I knew then without a doubt that this Aunty was trying to scam me.
I told her "Aunty please dont be angry, i know you mean well for my future and want me to get a good job in NNPC but right now I've already paid part payment for another job somewhere and i wouldn't want to invest in two places at once" That wasnt true, i just had to get her off my tail once and for all. She was shocked. She angrily cut the call. She wanted to finesse her brother out of some cash using my future, what happens when the real slot comes around. Would i expect him to pay twice?
Her mum (mil) called me and started blasting me. Saying I'm feeling too big to be helped and her daughter was only trying to help me and now she never wanted to have anything to do with me again. That i should call her daughter and take the offer so that peace would reign. I didnt. Even my hubby blamed me and i couldn't even open my mouth to tell anyone i thought the whole setup was a scam. That's such a big accusation to make. The family dislike for me grew worse because of that incident.
Please did i do wrong?
Modified: For those asking me to talk to hubby, ofcourse i did but he genuinely believes his sister was trying to help and since i couldnt point out outright that the whole thing smelt of scam, hr thinks i rejected the offer because of pride. But i know better. It didnt cause serious issue between us though.
Correct bae.
Thank God, your hubby understands sha. She was betting on you wanting to be in her good books. I hope your hubby doesnt offend you sha, you stubborn pa �
He is bigger than I am Forget his age.... His stature is like that of a giant
Lol There is a lion outside, looking for whom to devour and it has caught you. Next time he tries beating you, carry a plank or something. Just make sure when you hit him, you hit him on a arm, side or leg. Make sure you use it, when you pick it. He's a bully and you're now his victim
I recently packed into my apartment somewhere in Ogun, and my neighbor's goats have been sleeping at the back of my apartment near my window and they have been urinating and passing out faeces making my room inhabitable.
So the other day, I poured some hot water on one of the goats. I discovered that the woman is into traditional medicine. She has been making some incantations since yesterday concerning the goat. And I am scared that she will hurt me.
Should I confess or be brave? What should I do?
All na shakara joor. Those goats will never leave of their freewill and their owner won't do anything about it.
Kingsleyyx: I love my wife but I have been hurting her for years. In fact I had make her look like a devil in the eyes of my parents and siblings. I will not hide any truth from you because right now, I am trying to find a solution on how to win my wife's heart back.
I womanize a lot. I have a particular side chick that my wife is even aware of down our street. I love this girl with the whole of my heart. Anytime am with her I feel contented. I sponsored her through school with her younger brother and I also set up a provision store for her mum. I so much love this girl and infact I stopped having numerous chicks because of her. She is everything a man can wish for. She pampered me like a baby and she is an expert on how to sex a man and make him draw spits. I invested alot on this lady and never cared for the mother of my children.
The first and the last time I beat my wife was the day she called my girlfriend to insult her and I was with the girl that night. She put it on speaker. I went home and beat my wife blue black. Though I regretted my action and apologized to her.
Since then I didn't hide my extramarital affair from my wife. My girl will call and I will speak freely in the presence of my wife. She won't say pim. I wanted this girl to be pregnant but she just wouldn't be.
After, I started frustrating my wife so that she can leave the house and the girl can move in, but no matter what I did to my wife, she will never talk. I stopped having sex with her and and she never for once complained. I started taking my girlfriend to family function in place of my wife, still my wife was not affected. I siezed her shop key and gave to this girl as her graduation gift. My wife did not talk and she didn't leave my house. I planned all evils but she wasn't affected by it.
This my side chick is now pregnant with another man's. I have threatened her to abort the baby that I will forgive her and marry her, but she said am too old for her. When she and her family was collecting and spending my money, she didn't know that I am too old then.
Now am tired of fighting for someone that can never be mine. I want to face what's mine. Can you imagine that I just realised that my first born will write WAEC this year. Am so ashamed of my self. My wife has become so old and very slim. I wanted to hug her, but I don't know where to start from. It's been years we last had a physical body contact. We don't even sleep in the same room. The kids are looking at me like a stranger. I can't even crack jokes with them.
Please help me, how do I start and what should I do to win my family love back? I promise to do whatever you tell me to.
Seems everyone wants you to burn in hell
Well, who her again. Buy her gifts, care for her. Come back earlier. The journey would be hard, but if you persist, her heart will be urs again, if it ever went away, which I don't believe.
If you can afford it, take her on a holiday, just the two of you.
Don't beg yet, just show remorse and start taking care of her.
If you can win her, your kids will come round.
Don't rush it, don't force it, you're on a long thing
Ironic: D'fvq did I just read? Like, you'll send your kids on an errand, your wife will stop them and you won't do anything?
Like, you don't flog your kids? You fvckin claiming Western pattern of raising kids by being a simp to them all to be tagged a modern dad? You gotta be a typical African dad asap!
Bruv, the first thing you need to do now is to make them to be scared of you. Very necessary at this point.
Next time you send any of them message and he/she refuses because of your wife, flog the hell out of that one, if your wife tries to misbehave, flog her too with well-deserved uppercut and smackdown. If possible, stop eating her food because she's capable of doing something unexpected with what you eat.
They'll become scared of your recent behavior and adjust. Strict dads keep the best, calm and organized home.
What next? Your wife will try to manipulate them by using your new attitude towards them. Keep being strict towards them and still do your fatherly works towards them.
Trust me, you need to go very hard right now since your soft ways ain't working.
Mothers manipulations towards their kids against their dad can only function when they are tender, when they grow, they MUST know the truth and the mum will be at the loosing end.
If you don't have the mind to do what I've advised--Divorce your wife. You can't keep housing a demon who's quick to use your kids against you because she's closer to them.
You dey mind am! Who cares if they like you? As long as they give you your respect and you play your part as their father. With age, they'll come to understand better. But, being a sissy, doesn't do any shit! Some brain resetting slaps, would have cut this msunery short, a long time ago! Dem never born monkey
Handsomejok: Before marrying my wife, my business was moving well. I had an appliances big shop with full of things. I made a lots of money monthly and was able to pay all my bills and take care of my single mother and siblings without fail.
Bbut since we got married, just two months and 5 days after our marriage, my shop caught fire. I have lost almost everything only managed to save some few things, had to pay for all the damages to my landlord (the shop owner ) I’m still owning him money and I’m now renting a small shop but things are not working.
I have so much debts to pay to so many people including my previous shop landlord, can’t afford a 3 square meals, can’t afford to pay house rent, can’t afford to pay my shop rent and we have moved to my parents house.
My wife is pregnant and due in April, we haven’t bought anything for the baby. I wish never met her in my life cos she has completely destroyed my life and I have nothing left. She is evil. Haven’t confronted her cos of her condition, don’t want to add more stress to her and am waiting for her to put to bed then I will confront her and chase her away. I will keep the baby with me so she can go with her child she had before we met. I just hate her so much and I want nothing to do with her anymore.
Please what do you suggest I do?
Nope, not she, the pregnancy. You dated her, nothing went wrong then but she got preggy and it seems everything went bad?
Just chill, after birth, things will right themselves. Some pregnancies can be difficult. This is a personal opinion gotten from studying friends and family.
Some kids bring uncommon grace too.
My first kid: his mom lost her job, a month to his birth and got a job, the Wednesday after the monday he resumed school(3yrs later). She was invited for the interview on Tuesday. This was after several failed interviews, during his weaning.
As someone rightly said, take up the gauntlet and continue the fight, you will overcome. Stop making excuses and don't get her preggy every year
Lol, see ZOMBIES praising Buhari for NLNG's effort
Before anyone comes to praise Buhari, tell him to release FG's share of the cost to Julius Berger to enable them complete the project.
This project was awarded to JB at #120B but to be shared equally between FG and NLNG (#60b each).
NLNG has since paid up their own #60b to JB which they have used to move the project to about 60% but FG is yet to pay up their own #60b to enable JB complete the work
NLNG, just came into Nigeria? Or it was a recent setup? They there na
Jeffmonti: My concern is what my girlfriend will do to herself, if she leaves I’ll have my self to blame and move on. if i have my way i will pay child support to for the child when he/she come out after a DNA test of course. But I’ll never marry a desperate woman. I was thinking of calling Lola on another phone and set up a meeting to let her i know I’ll pay child support. But not sure if i should wait for the child to be born first or just do it today. I have been really restless for many weeks.
Brothers learn from my demise abeg
Just bone Lola abeg. She thought she could play you, it didn't happen, shes out to get her pound of flesh. Tell your babe. If she's willing to go ahead, no P. If not, just move on with your life and become a full time hoe
crackkhaus: While some of you are busy forming happy on their behalf, the Prince says the opposite and expressed how he truly feels about the whole situation.
How you or anyone can be happy for someone who is deeply saddened, is beyond all human comprehension.
ambassadorgozie: d boss is a lawyer nd influential, i don't want to go dat way
You read like a fool.
Is it by force to take a break? Can't you just leave the poor girl alone? Probably been showing her unrequited affection and she decided to change it for you
Ekene161829: I did something I really regret. My wife and I have an amazing marriage, 2 years of marriage and we are blessed with a 7-month-old baby girl.
She is 28 and I almost 33. Last Saturday I got invited to go out by some of my work friends , I got home late 2am, so madam wasn't happy. She was yelling at me, throwing hands and screaming at me. I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going which made me angry.
I took the back of my hand and gave her a slap on the mouth. She cried out and held her face and started crying and her lips was bleeding. I didn't intentionally hurt her, I just wanted to calm her down since ignoring her was not working. I said sorry, and I was literally on my knees begging her. I tried to hold her but she refused. The rest of the night was me repeating apology or i didn't mean to hurt you. She ignored me . She went into our room and locked the door.
She was in there for a long time and the next morning, her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.
I feel so ashamed and I've never done anything like this before and I never thought I would. I don't want to loose my wife and baby. I need both of them back. Should I attempt to contact her?
What do I do?
Chill abeg. I know you miss them, but you've got to call her bluff.
Control your temper, next time. Would have been better, if you'd just left home again, instead of assaulting her.
Just a warning, your wife is immature and her family is aiding her. Your marriage will be fraught with issues
user283: Why don't I think I owe her no responsibility too since I'm not yet married to her? Does it mean I'm being foolish?
But remember her younger brother told me she's that way when I whined him
Just move on, sharperly. She probably lacks emphaty. Any good character, she's displaying, is just to hook you into marriage. Once married, it's default settings
byna: We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys). I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.
I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.
Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.
Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.
So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding) So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.
She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.
I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?
Mature minds pls
Your misunderstanding, shouldn't come between your sexual relations.
Shows you're being petty sha.
After the sex, then bring up the ish. Everything, should have their own compartment. Separate from each other. Don't spoil d good thing you have
donbachi: Dats how we roll baby...just doing things.no self pity,no regrets,no suicidal thoughts,no blaming of anybody....continue growing in strength.
They're all actually there. Just that, she has decided not to dwell on them and try to live her live as best as she can.
A strong Lady. We will continue to pray that she continues winning
favouryemmy: You're wrong, because the content of this write up is the truth. The person that wrote is a good person that wants the readers to understand that ASUU has a genuine reason to reject the untoward policy. Did you even click on the links below to discover the corruption in IPPIS? When you see facts, you should reason with it. Those links show what people that have enrolled in IPPIS are suffering and that is part of why ASUU is rejecting it. We should face facts and not insinuations. Besides, IPPIS is designed for core civil servants and University workers are not in that category.
Lol
Is ASUU not joining IPPIS because it's against the law or because IPPIS is not working or because they're not core civil servants?
Yhukay00: Now they Can all shut up. Whittaker has been dealt with, but he should remove every thought of fighting Jon Jones from his mind. That motherfuker was brought on earth to fight.
daddytime: This is one defamation case I would love to see our courts hear to the end.
It sure will make for good precedence for defamation cases.
I'm very certain though that her claims will be on the accusation to her reputation.
The fear of the Dr's archives of receipts, against her Dad and family, no go let her near court! You need to read his follow up threats on that thread!
contigiency: Buhari's regime since 2015 entrenched a situation where our leaders are showing zeal to perform. Amechi showed it in transport ministry, Kemi Adesun in finance ministry, Ogbonnaya Onu in science and technology ministry, Fashola in works ministry, malami in justice ministry, Audu Ogbe in Agric ministry, this present minister of sports and many others.
As a fan of this APC govt, I would genuinely like to know, why you stated that Malami was effective? I've tried to gauge his impact but nothing really to hold on too
mayordy: It’s a new job and everybody at work have noticed something is wrong but I’m just keeping strong. Could it be the high blood pressure because the doctor has refused to say anything about it?
What do you do over the weekend? For the foreseeable future, cancel all your weekend outings and try chill during the weekends. Not necessary you sleep, you can just ly around all day and night
ursullalinda: What a memory to leave behind for those innocent children on how they lost their dad. Some pple's conscience has been used to wrap akara gosh. May God console his family
The trauma, will last a lifetime.
A cycle of dysfunctional humans. Quite sad.
When you have unconscionable humans, in positions of power
Politics › Re: Edo: Charles Ude Drags APC To Court, Seeks Ize-iyamu’s Disqualification by ashjay001(m): 10:03am On Jul 23, 2020
