Stop the uncessary insults man and be honest with yourself.

You hate you're black and most especially you don't want your daughters to be black so you go for foreign women.

Argue with your keyboard

skylane:
don't fool yourself by not understanding what preference means,I love yellow doesn't mean I hate green,its just common sense

Totally agree with this, black men hate their own skin color. Check Hollywood, you'll hardly see any black man go for their own women especially dark skinned

Don't believe me?

Just google any popular black man you know and their partners.

Kobe Bryant, Kanye west, jay z, etc.

Hence, I've told my sisters never
to go for a black man as they don't even regard their own women.

Latinos marry Latinas

Chinese marry Chinese

Indians do same

But black men?

Watermountains:


Having a taste is fine but stop deceiving yourself and deflecting from the point here that you would INTENTIONALLY date or marry someone JUST TO HAVE A HALF CAST CHILD. Not because you love them or they have chemistry with you. You’d ignore every Black woman on purpose just because you want a half cast kids with a nonblack person!

michael77777:
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if you dump her na somebody go still marry her!..



I will advice you to help her, change her to become the woman you want... (if you truly love her)



it's very rare to see a girl that will open up to you...

you're right when you say "it's very rare to see a girl that will open up to you " because No girl that truly loves you and care about you will say something like that. I mean c'mon , we all kniw how women sugar coat things as they don't the person to be angry.

abi, Ladies am I lying?

also, when you truly love and want to be with someone forever, you're definitely going to be nervous around that person and stuff like that. so, the fact she had the guts to tell you all this without any signs of nervousness, then OP you got your answer.

remember, this lady has told you she's gay. what are you waiting for OP? leave her! if she was bi, it would have been better.


p.s; pardon my spellings abeg

DaCharis2016:
Can u wish urself a kidney failure? If yes then, OP can start having this mindset of urs as well.

That's the issue with y'all. You think life will be smooth all the time. So you don't plan for the bad days.

If you like, go and marry a family that's lazy and call it love.

Just don't do gofund me when shit hits the fan coz I'll remind you this of comment.

You've said it yourself OP.

Marriage is not about getting married to your lady but also her entire family.

And we all know how uncertain life is.

Let me explain...

Imagine you get married to this lady now and you're able to cater for yourself, your wife, your kids and her family including her lazy brothers then...

All of a sudden you develop kidney failure and all your funds have been used for treatments.

You don't have any other funds.

You can't work.

Your kids need to go to school.

And for them to go to school, they need to pay their school fees.

They also need to eat.

How will you go about it?

Will you want to be going to get a loan from the bank and doing gofund me?

Or will you want to have family members that you can always run to in situations like this without having to show your dirty linen in public?

Obviously I know which option I'll go for, it's left for you to choose.

Believe it or not even the rich go through financial distress.

But do you how they solve it fast and easy?

They have a good support system (family members) that has their back at the time they need them the most.

Pretty obvious, right?

Great!

Anyway, talk is cheap.

A word is enough for the wise.

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

Bro go and read the 50th law, thank me later. If you are still shy after reading this book, then something is wrong.


It's the only practical book that makes you fearless.

Hey Bro, I'd advice you to talk to her and abort the baby before it's too late.

I swear, It'll still end in premium dramatic tears.
Shebi we go still dey Nairaland

Iceyjayzz:
Relationship that won't last, let's be honest.

we go hear another drama in the future

Instead of you to work on yourself so you don't have to even say a word and girls will be flocking around you like how flies flock around poo, you're here saying trash!

Do you know the 4 years you spent on that girl is the same 4 years is the duration of a university course?

Think about your life

Igbojihadist:
Good day nairalanders there is this very girl I love so much. I have expressed my feeling to her but she keeps telling me she is not ready yet. It has been four years now and am finding it difficult to move on or love any other girl.

Its ruining me as all i do each day is to think of her, atimes I might decide not to call her again within three days or what she would call me telling me is this the type of love I have for her. I am overwhelmed but she doesn't understand how i feel (please i need advice) plz anyone who would remind me of the present economy should stay off as ur problem is not mine.

omolola100:

Business studies and economics

With the subject you're teaching, your chances of private lessons with students are very slim.

I mean no Nigerian parent will pay for a business studies private lesson.

They pay for the important subjects like Maths, English, Further maths etc.

Hope you grab?

Ify15:
Go for teaching, since there are holiday breaks involved so you can rest and Have more time for yourself.

With which pay ni?

If you have pretty privilege and know how to connect with people, I'd advise you to take the bank job. There, you'll have more opportunity to meet people that can help you or even give you a job offer in the bank.

Wahala! Very rare. High school students grow up and like others.

I haven't seen any mail. Do you think they'll send me a mail or I should just forget about the whole thing and acce I didn't get it?

The letter they just sent, haven't seen mine, do you think they'll send later in the day or I should just forget anout the whole thing?

solmusdesigns:


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Still not sure... check the mirror, it doesn't lie

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wonlasewonimi:
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