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ExAngel007:
just see some useless comments above.

As if guys are loyal too.

She did the right things by confessing before he finds out.

delishpot:
You àre foolish for saying that. Did your father build your mother's career? Between men and women, how slows down for who mostly so that the other person can build a career and pursue goals?

So after reading this story, assuming it's true, you believe she killed his career and not the other way round? So men are perfect saints who have Never used a woman's sexual past with them or other people to blackmail her? Yeye dey smell.

chenzen:
what does an 18,19,20 or 21 yrs old know about sex, relationship or marriage... before we say Jack Robinson u ll start introducing ur díck into her naive vagina... all in the name of love, u should be helping her find her feet... most girls in their teen or early 20's are yet to discover themselves or their purpose in life... majority of them have become victims of peer pressures cos guys like you wouldnt let them focus or help them achieve targeted goals.


period!!!

MelesZenawi:
And you forgot the gains u still making in Enugu under ugwuanyi.

What will be of Enugu today if ugwuanyi wasn't there.

He has captured every sector in developing Enugu state.

Be truthful to yourself.

MelesZenawi:
Media propaganda won't help you.

Ugwuanyi is nothing short of a performing Governor.

MelesZenawi:
Sullivan is past.

The present speaks volume and he represents

MelesZenawi:
Whatever, you think,

Enugu under ugwuanyi has fared well.

chenzen:
shame on u for attempting to take advantage of a naive 19 years old virgin... why not take on someone of ur own size... ur plan is to destroy her honey pot before she becomes sensible and dump u.

OEPHIUS:
Dear Father,

I read your piece entitled “Insecurity in Enugu, Crowd Renting, and the Conspiracy of Silence” with rude shock, which you did in reaction to the unfortunate killing of Rev. Fr. Paul Offu along Ihe-Agbudu Road in Awgu. I almost dismissed it as one of those faceless articles and fake news on Enugu, which has become the pastime of some persons since after the 2019 general elections. It also beat my imagination that any reverend priest in Enugu could pass such verdict on security in the state. I was therefore left with even a ruder shock when a cursory Google search revealed that there actually exists a certain Fr. Ikechukwu Odigbo of Enugu Diocese, but who has been on further studies in England for several years now.

Father Offu’s death remains a grave loss not only to the Enugu Catholic community, but also to the entire State. But, painful as this loss is to us all, it still doesn’t justify your assertion that “anybody who pretends that there is peace and security in Enugu is telling a huge lie” or justify your claim that Enugu is a state where “No day passes without news of people being killed, robbed, kidnapped, hunted and raped”. This is hyperbole taken too far.

Dear Father, Enugu’s reputation as one of the most peaceful and secure states today is no ruse. This is the verdict of security chiefs like successive Inspectors-General of Police since 2015; Chairman, Police Service Commission, Musliu Smith (also a former Inspector-General of Police); Chief of Army Staff, Lt. Gen. Tukur Yusuf Buratai; Travelstart tourism advisory, etc. Enugu was also rated as one of the most peaceful states in the 2019 general elections. This is a product of the present administration’s wisdom in entrusting Enugu into the hands of God upon assumption of office in May 2015. It is a product of consistent investment in the security of lives and property, education, employment creation, and youth empowerment as well as the restoration of political tolerance that sent political thugs and hooligans out of business.

If you choose to disparage the administration because of a few unfortunate incidents, then you probably haven’t come across the well-publicised data on national insecurity released by the Inspector-General of Police, Mr. Mohammed Adamu, when he briefed the Northern Traditional Rulers Council in April this year. According to the IGP, a total of 1,071 persons were sent to their early graves by criminals between January and March 2019. Of the number, 767 people were killed in the North. North West topped the list with 436. North Central followed with 250 deaths, and South-South came third with 130. Zamfara State was worst off nationally with 203 homicides. The State also recorded 104 out of 175 reported cases of banditry. It was followed by Katsina with 21 and Sokoto with 19.

Furthermore, out of 685 kidnappings, the North recorded 365 or 79.8%. Out of the 212 major armed robbery cases, 130 or 59.43% occurred in the North. The North-Central zone came first with 81 armed robbery incidents. Niger State, FCT and Zamfara led other states with 32, 23, and 18 cases, respectively.

Clearly, North West, which is President Mohammadu Buhari’s zone is the worst hit. Katsina, his home state, is not spared. Only last May, the head of Buhari’s Daura District (reportedly father-in-law to Buhari’s ADC), Alhaji Musa Umar, was kidnapped and kept in kidnappers’ den for months before he was rescued/ransomed. Likewise, Sokoto, which is the seat of Caliphate, is bleeding profusely.

In Southern Nigeria, the South West is under the siege of militia herders and kidnappers. Cult killing, kidnapping, and other violent crimes ravage the South-South. It grieves to compare bad things. But, comparatively speaking, South East, particularly Enugu State, is still a refuge. The influx of visitors to the Coal City at weekends (including South East VIPs many of whom prefer to stay in Enugu and visit their states from here), nightlife and night movements, security presence in strategic are reassuring. While we have people relocating back home from neighbouring states, I am not aware that Enugu residents are relocating out of Enugu on account of insecurity.

Dear Father, you can now understand why your carpeting of our royal fathers simply because they commended the governor’s efforts at maintaining security was unfair to them, while your claim that the government ordered royal fathers to allow the herdsmen to prowl, attack, and kidnap our people is unbecoming of your calling.

Meanwhile, the video of the press briefing after the emergency Security Council meeting following Fr. Offu death, showed Rev. Fr. Nnamdi Nwankwo, who represented the Catholic Bishop of Enugu, stating emphatically that the Governor deserved commendation over security in Enugu State despite the sad incident. The same applies to Anglican Bishop of Enugu, Most Rev. Emmanuel Chukwuma. Likewise, Catholic Bishops of Nsukka and Awgu Dioceses lauded the administration on security in their different homilies and statements in the last one week. So, are they also part of the rented crowd? If they are, why didn’t you also carpet them like the royal fathers?

To start with, the traditional rulers did not go to the Government House to pass a vote of confidence in the Governor. They attended one of the series of meetings to reappraise and boost security in Enugu. First was the emergency Security Council meeting attended by heads of security agencies and key stakeholders likes the Catholic and Anglican Bishops of Enugu, led to the introduction of air surveillance and additional joint service patrols and checkpoints, and approved an anti-kidnapping executive bill to the House of Assembly. It also approved the recruitment of 1,700 Forest Guards (100 per local government).

The security meeting with the traditional rulers, town union presidents, and council Chairmen approved the repositioning of the neigbbourhood watch groups/vigilantes; raising of their manpower to 5,200, motivating neighbourhood watch personnel with monthly stipends, and additional training for them. It also approved the inclusion of REVEREND PRIESTS and traditional rulers on the security council of local governments. The prayer for the governor and vote of confidence in his administration, I believe flowed from the satisfactory briefing and their honest assessment of his efforts. So, what is wrong in that?

Meanwhile, how many South West people abused their governors over the killing of Pa Reuben Fasoranti’s killing the way we do to Igbo governors? They understand that our security challenges are fundamentally structural. It is an aberration to run a federation with unitary police and a constitution that effectively vests security agencies/instruments entirely in the Federal Government. I recall the immediate past governor Zamfara State publicly renouncing his constitutional title as the Chief Security Officer of Zamfara. Yet I have not heard you champion state police to constitutionally empower the governors on security.

Dear Father, we should be careful not plant fear in the minds of our people, even when our place is comparatively much more secure. We should be careful with the impression that traditional rulers, who do not mobilise their people against herdsmen, are sellouts or that a governor is weak for choosing lawful means over extrajudicial/militant approach in managing the Fulani menace. No governor has powers to rusticate any citizen from any part of Nigeria. Also, to instigate our people to sack herdsmen is to forget that we have more of our people plying their businesses in the north. From Kaura Namoda to Maiduguri, from Sokoto to the remotest recesses of the north, you will find our people thriving. Under no circumstance should you succumb to pressure to champion the forceful dislodgement of herdsmen, knowing the larger consequences.

Non-enactment of anti-grazing law doesn’t make our Governor a Fulani stooge. If anti-grazing law is the magic wand, Taraba and Benue would not have become a killing field ridden with IDP camps and graves. The Benue economy is comatose. Peace and sleep have eluded Taraba as killings continue. Is that what we want for Enugu? God forbid. The solution is in ensuring that arms-carrying criminals, who commit kidnapping, killings, etc. are fished out and punished, whether Fulani, Yoruba or Igbo.

Meanwhile, God forbids that I should play the devil’s advocate for some bands of criminal herdsmen/militia, mostly from Mali, Niger Republic, Guinea, Mauritius, Chad, etc. But should we be quick to absolve our own? Should we behave as though there were no armed robberies, killings, and kidnappings before the criminals among the Fulani added to our trouble? Or that the Fulani herdsmen could perpetrate operate without the complicity of our own people. Is it not the domestic rat that informed the one in the bush that there is fish in the kitchen? Have you forgotten that here were many cases of kidnapping of Reverend Fathers in Enugu as far back as 2013 before this administration and herdsmen influx?

It will interest you to know that from investigations and arrests made so far, all those responsible for the kidnap and death of Rev. Fr. Clement Ugwu of St. Mark’s Catholic Church Iwollo, Ezeagu LGA you referred to are of Igbo extraction. You could confirm this from the police authorities. And it is preposterous to jump into conclusion over Fr. Offu’s murder before conclusion of investigation, especially given the report that his account was emptied with at an ATM about twenty-five minutes after his murder.

Father, inciting our people to violence and confrontation doesn’t demonstrate a proper understanding of our precarious situation where all security apparatuses are in the hands of the herdsmen’s kinsmen. I didn’t read your article condemning such security arrangement in a pluralistic society. Now, the head is off and times like this call for wisdom- the kind of wisdom that enables the tongue, as delicate as it is, to coexist in the same mouth with the cruel teeth.

As a priest, I expect you to be circumspect in your utterances, knowing you could influence many. Don’t fall prey to some social media/internet propagandists. They once claimed that the Governor donated land to Fulani for Ruga Settlement. They once claimed the Fulani attacked a non-existent church in Nsukka axis. All lies, as they melted in the heat of truth. You may be speaking out of innocent concern, but their agenda is different. Therefore, always crosscheck your information, especially since you live abroad. Even the Holy Book admonishes us to test every spirit to be sure it is of God. By recycling/peddling malicious propaganda, you could easily be mistaken as one of the purveyors of fake news and score-settlers on the social media.

Importantly, now that the Reverend Fathers are now part of the Security Council of each LGA, I expect you to reach out to your people and contribute ideas on how to make your community more secure. Above all, as St. Paul admonishes in 1Timothy 22:1-3, pray for the Governor/leaders and pray for Enugu to continue to flourish securely in the hands of God.

God bless.


Yours Sincerely,

Paulinus Izunna Nwafor

MelesZenawi:
Ugwuanyi is really doing fine in Enugu state

ubunja:
Well Vibrators, no matter how many, won't pay bills.

Minus one Leach.

Someone's son somewhere just dodged a bullet.

Womanofchange:
When a man is truly interested in you, there will be no need for you to do the pursuing. Men are born to pursue women. Yes, you can pursue a man if you want to but in most cases that's just an obvious sign that he's not into you. It's not natural for a man to sit back and let the woman do all the work. For a man who claims to like you to sit back and allow you to do all the calling, texting, dating arrangements, talks about the future etc, it's pretty obvious where you stand in that man's life. When a man really wants you, you won't have to chase after him like he's some celebrity who barely has time for a fan. You will be his priority.

40secondsMan:
Rubbish! All these ubunja asslickers.

Go get a life...asswipe!

1x2x3:
The girl that once helped me demanded sex . Why are ladies like that?

franchasng:
I do not expect any overzealous strange guy to go helping my sisters, if I ever catch you, I won't even take it lightly with you because you may end up being beaten or shot secretly, so be careful not all ladies you see need your pretentious help.

If you want to help, help people who are truly in need not just random ladies u are planning to bed in future.

If you want to help, start a business startup fund raising for small business startups targeting youths from poor or disadvantaged family backgrounds.

You can start a program to be paying widows in your Church monthly or annually.

You can visit hospitals, a lot of patients are dying because they cannot afford healthcare bills, help them pay their hospital bills.

Visit inmates in various prisons donate food and drugs to them.

Do same for motherless children homes.

We also have aged people homes that need your help.

Leave ladies alone. Stop pretending to be a good Samaritan when you alone know you have ulterior motive to achieve in future by helping ladies.

If you care to know, I run a foundation that does some of the aforementioned things, and I am working hard to expand my reach so more people in need can benefit from it but you see all these selfish wicked ladies expecting guys to splash money on them for free, I cannot give to them, never because they are selfish, and wicked.

My Reason:
If ladies were in guy's shoes, they won't help. I cited examples for you with our ladies living abroad and even those doing well financially in Nigeria, they don't help guys, so learn from them.

I use to be selfless to ladies but I realized ladies are cunning, selfish and wicked. They don't help guys as much as guys help them, it is bad, I can't condone it.


You can continue with your largesse Mr nice man

futurist369:
Yes, you read that right;a message to all stupid men on nairaland.
This message is going to be focused on two groups of men:
1.the ones that have been through previous heart breaks, and decided not to love anymore but just fvck;
2. the ones that constantly chant "make money and girls will rush you".
so lets begin.
number one men
Due to their previous relationships, this set of men has decided, or should i rather say link up in their minds that relationships equals pain, and made up their minds never to love again.The bitter truth no one has ever told this set of men is that they are living in pain.Yes, they're in pain and they dont fvcking know..Lemme give a case scenerio of this.
Lets say a man meets a lady he eventually falls in love with, but for other reasons best known to them, the relationship failed..the man is in serious pain, in a serious limiting state, and his brain says:" hey, whats unique about this relationship"?
lets say trust was the unique thing common in this relationship, and the lady breaks the trust of that particular individual, then the man brain links trust as the cause of the failure of the relationship...So the man sets out to never again trust any lady anymore, any subsequent relationships he enters again, will be devoid of trust and it becomes so obvious.....dont you know some men here that fits this descriptions?
how about love?what if there was strong feelings of love in the relationship, and it fails...the same
procedure happens again, and the man links love to pain, and resolves never to love any woman again..havent you seen those type of men here ladies?they say:"all i wany is to fvck without emotions attached"..and other sort of trash.....the moniker cosmicphoenix is a member of this group of men.......so any relationship the man enters, will also be devoid of love.....
i will be back to modify this post, because if i type all what's here, the lazy ones here wont be able to read...
to be continued.........

futurist369:
Yes, you read that right;a message to all stupid men on nairaland.
This message is going to be focused on two groups of men:
1.the ones that have been through previous heart breaks, and decided not to love anymore but just fvck;
2. the ones that constantly chant "make money and girls will rush you".
so lets begin.
number one men
Due to their previous relationships, this set of men has decided, or should i rather say link up in their minds that relationships equals pain, and made up their minds never to love again.The bitter truth no one has ever told this set of men is that they are living in pain.Yes, they're in pain and they dont fvcking know..Lemme give a case scenerio of this.
Lets say a man meets a lady he eventually falls in love with, but for other reasons best known to them, the relationship failed..the man is in serious pain, in a serious limiting state, and his brain says:" hey, whats unique about this relationship"?
lets say trust was the unique thing common in this relationship, and the lady breaks the trust of that particular individual, then the man brain links trust as the cause of the failure of the relationship...So the man sets out to never again trust any lady anymore, any subsequent relationships he enters again, will be devoid of trust and it becomes so obvious.....dont you know some men here that fits this descriptions?
how about love?what if there was strong feelings of love in the relationship, and it fails...the same
procedure happens again, and the man links love to pain, and resolves never to love any woman again..havent you seen those type of men here ladies?they say:"all i wany is to fvck without emotions attached"..and other sort of trash.....the moniker cosmicphoenix is a member of this group of men.......so any relationship the man enters, will also be devoid of love.....
i will be back to modify this post, because if i type all what's here, the lazy ones here wont be able to read...
to be continued.........

highpriestess:
You should learn to know the people you ought to be rolling with.
Stay on your lane, make your comments and let others make theirs.

Respect your age. Bye.

MiztaBobiGentle:
That slap sha would have really fit your face more. So that your mindset will reset

highpriestess:
Smh.
Our men have finally lost it.
See hating, as if they are any better.
Op, God will continue to bless you as you help the needy without anything attached.

MiztaBobiGentle:
I don't think any lady should be blamed for such a bitter heart the guy has all over him on this thread. Probably he surrounds himself with very irresponsible people or he lives in an irresponsible environment. I can't imagine someone who is surrounded by responsible people having this much bitterness in his heart.

LilMissFavvy:
Facts not painment. I don't joke with dick-brained male twerps on NL. I don't welcome jokes because I feel 99.99 guys here are no good. I love the females and am okay with them.

LilMissFavvy:
Hebetudinous dingbat, I wouldn't want you to spoil mine as well. So why did you mention me first you filthy womanizer? Always quick to use the word ''hoe'', if i am a hoe, you are blessed this sunday, but if am not, then woe unto you and your generations unborn!

Biglittlelois:
What an incoherent blabber, how old are you?

LilMissFavvy:
You lack what it takes to touch a nerve

AwkaetitiBabe:
Yea I'm still waiting for that guy that will prove me wrong to be sincere.. One old fool came close, I was already thanking God I've found my helper before talk changed... Sex sex sex... Off course I wasn't surprised but was definitely disappointed. Yea I told him to go hug transformer.

4ckz:
The lady in question came, bearing sex in mind. Doesn't that tell you that, there might be some other thing she can do to raise the money, but like most ladies do, she narrowed her life line down to prostitution.
Yes prostitution I say, bcoz she was willing to offer sex for money.

When guys find themselves in situations like this, they look for all other alternatives, or at least borrow.

Yes, since the lady is working, she could have come to the guy to lend her money, and she would pay in a later date.
Have you thought of that? Of course not, you are among the "most ladies" looking for the nearest mugu to defraud.

This guy is a serious fool and it's a pity he wants to be applauded for foolishness.

Biglittlelois:
It's common sense.