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kreami diva: I hear u.beans is a no no!

What about moin moin? I like moin moin

druid06: ATTENTION WHOR-E! PEOPLE WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR ATTENTION THESE DAYS.

Just an average promiscous girl. There will be lots like her

carzola: Am not tryin 2b ova carin but all dis tins sound less important but it is 2a girl guys take note, my girl always ask me wat hair style 2fix b4 goin 2d saloon, if she is getin fat, nd if her cream nd soap are doin 1das on her skin, nd i take my time 2 ans dose questions cause i kn it means much 2her as a lady.. It gives dem self confident nd xteem.

Yeah yeah, we all know that

We also have other things to worry about

Like more important things... like how to make money to make them look good and give them the finer things in life

A man has about a gazillion worries...

1. Security issues,
2. Job, business, investment issues, possibly his portfolio etc,
3. House related issues,
4. Kids, schooling, and other related issues,
5. Money, management of wealth and finance related issues,
6. Car, transportation etc issues,
7. Sooo many, Sooo many issues I cant list half.

You get my drift. So while he is constantly thinking about these issues, your hair looking better low is fighting its way to the top of that list . Let us hope he doesnt have "other gf" issues too in that list

a lot of "runs" girls are heading in a similar direction

blaise26.abj:
^^^^ People this is why some ladies are scared of nice, quiet guyz, they are so unpredictable. There is truly a thin line between love and hatred.

^^^^^

The ladies asked for it. Why mess about with a nice guy?

Ms_Steph: lool. U guys always think gals don't have things to do than run after gals not all girls r d same

It is a fact. As long as she is not married, she is free to date whomever she wants. What are the chances another man wont end up with her? If she was a really suitable woman then maybe it could lead to marriage but how many relationships do? 1 in 8 maybe. That is a lot of investment. Why invest in a woman that I might not marry?

Ms_Steph: dat is marriage. We grow from relationship to marriage. Dats is a different case am talking abt relationships

Relationships are even worse.

Why should a man spend and take care of a woman he may not even marry? It is a poor investment. At least if I am spending my money on my wifeys nails I know I will be the one enjoying her. Not the same in a relationship. You spend your money on a gfs nails, hair, makeup, boob job, bum job etc and then some other dude picks her up and enjoys her thoroughly, another guy altogether marries her and turns her into his wife.

Where do I benefit in all of this?

Ms_Steph: So if u are dating a girl or married to her does dat mean you can't buy her presents or give her money to make hair?? I am not saying it shld be all d time when a guy has bin doing dat nd goes broke dat is understandable u can't be dating a girl nd u expect not to buy her a single ti
n.

Sure. But if you were married to her, there would be other more important factors to focus on. Her hair, nails etc would fall behind children (a major cost), house, car, future investments etc. IF money was a bit tight she would have to forego her hair, nails etc for the others.

Can she do that?

Monicasque: wowww thanks Ath. Will talk again later. I gotta run now

Ok. Take care

Monicasque: k i will . got to run now. Bye for now dear

Bye babes. Hope I didnt scare you off

Monicasque: am not going into this again with you Ath. We have already been through it remember? its becoming boring and old news

yeah yeah... I know

If I take the time to hassle you over issues it is because I value you. I wouldnt waste my time if I didnt

Monicasque: if you want an honest answer here it '' i do not know''

Think deep about it babes . Women and children have the most to lose in a non committed relationship. Marriage is best suited to rearing children with better opportunities and also it provides protection for women in societies where women fail to match men in earnings etc. So marriage clearly has benefits.

Monicasque: no darling. You are right. It is what it is. BLV when i say that hurting someone is the hardest thing one can ever do. Its shamefull and bad. But i still do it. I know that i do, so am not gona pretent to be a good girl when am not. Crucify me for my actions if you will ,and i will still not cope if it were to be done unto me. I already know that its bad so no need to go into it again ( you know what i am talking about)

No one cares about what you do. What we care about is that you can change and you wont? Why wont you change? At least you know it is wrong so that is a start. So where do you go from here? At what point will you decide to change?

Monicasque: ohh okay, i c

Either people become flexible or people opt for a non-committed form of relationship. Who would benefit and who would lose out in a non-committed form of relationship?

A runs girl.... hmmm....

Come back when she has dumped you for her sugar daddy and given you an std in the process. That would be a more interesting topic.

Monicasque: yep

Sorry to sound harsh but it is what it is

Monicasque: why do you say its dead?

Because it is pointless. The world is changing, we all change with it. It is too hard to expect people to remain committed until death-do-them-part. Too many marriages will fail due to lack of flexibility.

Monicasque: well said but m still scared of hurt

Then why not be fair and dont hurt others. Treat others the way you want to be treated. No cheating etc. keep it simple, straight and fair.

The worst thing in the world is to look at someone you love and see their pain when they find out about your shenanigans and fooling about. If you can do that then you arent a coward... just mean. So trust me, you dont want to be in that situation.

Monicasque: exactly my point

Too many confused people. Many people will end up in marriages they hate/despise. The institution of marriage unfortunately is dead.

Monicasque: yep. I am such a coward aren't i

That isnt cowardice... that is hypocrisy.

Hypocrisy is the state of pretending to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that one does not actually have. So you do unto others but would not want the same done to you. If you do it, expect to receive with an open heart

Monicasque: So then why does the poster make ladies snoring to look like a crime?

No idea. Petty people. Soon they will all be complaining that there are no good women about or that decent men are hard tp find.

Why wont it be hard to find decent partners when people are too choosy. What if the partner only started snoring recently? Would they end the relationship/marriage?

Monicasque: snoring is irritating and embarrassing even from men and funny enough its men who normally snore. So brothers would you want a lady to date you even if you snore?

Depends. If it is serious then it needs to be looked into (sleep apnea etc.) but why not.

Monicasque: and how will one feel knowing that he got left overs? again won't he be scared that she will do the same to him? I have done what she is doing but i do not think i would ever accept it if it was done to me. If a guy has a woman i run for my life coz i get scared that even if he would choose me, maybe one day he would do the same to me.

If he loves her he wont care. At least he knew the situation when he met her. She could do the same to him even if he was the first.

So you can dish it but you cant take it... interesting

Ms_Steph: you guys always want a girl who is well dressed has nice hair do and nails but u don't want to remove money to take care of her

Cant she do it herself?

This money ust be there for me to spend is the cause of so many marriages breaking up. I have a financial breakdown for you to look at if you are interested.

Monicasque: he is a side dude and need not play victim here coz he knew she had someone from the start. Its either he takes and accepts the side bf thing or moves on. No girl in her right mind would dump the first bf ( who did nothing wrong to her) for the second one who knew from start. Your friend must also remember that if she cheated with him , she will cheat on him. Wat goes around comes around

You are wrong. It can happen. Even if the first maintains things, she might start developing stronger feelings for the second dude. It is possible. The key here is to ensure that the second dude has more time to spend and can match her intimate and other needs.

The simple solution however is to move on. The commplexity of the situation defeats the purpose.

smothly: My dear try and forget him,cos he's not worths your tears.

He is not worth her tears? She cheated on him right? Read between the lines. They went on holiday, he came back differen and decided to dump her. She got up to nasty freaky stuff on holiday and he caught her out.

Ayangba: Boy: Do you have a boyfriend? Girl: Nope. I don't want to have a boyfriend. Boy: Gen. 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Girl: But I don't love you. Boy: 1 John 4:8 "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." Girl: But how can I be sure that you're loyal and honest? Boy: Mark 13:31 "Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away." Girl: But I'm busy, I'm still studying. Boy: Ecclesiastes 3:1 "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." Girl: But why me? There are a lot of girls out there. Boy: Proverbs 31:29 "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." Girl: But what is in me that you like? Boy: Song of Solomon 4:7 "You are altogether beautiful, my darling there is no flaw in you." Girl: But I'm not beautiful. Boy: Proverbs 31:30 "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."
Girl: What do you want to happen? Boy: 2 Corinthians 2:4 "For I wrote you out of great distress and anguish of heart and with many tears, not to grieve you but to let you know the depth of my love for you." .....simple....
Conversation End!!!

Girl: But you are broke...
Dude: It is easier for a camels head to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to make heaven.
Girl: Who gives a rats azzz... no dough, no show

Sanboy25: Lol it's not even my fault...

I know, you took your profile pic down.

Sanboy25: Dont believe him bro...

I know he is joking. I just cant believe he is now infatuated with you

Flaubert Ajiero: The right partner can only make the difference when you let them. And if you can't loosen up or be able to have fun within yourself, then the right partner would simply turn to be the wrong partner before you.That balance can fall in plce when you're able to share life, love and experiences with your (right)partner

That is accurate

So look inwards to get the best of most relationships