You will be fine at last. Everything will turn for your good.

You have to have a meeting with your mom, dad, hubby and sister.

An agreement will be reached among you all, your sister will have the baby for you and your husband. It will never be mentioned by her, if any one should ever hear it, it has to be from you or your husband.

She is the surrogate mom you wanted. Indirectly.
If she agreed to keep the secret for your husband, she will likely agree to give you both the baby.

Except whereby she's interested in marrying your husband, then that will be a new ball game.

Shit happens, but we learn to pack it without traces.

OR

Something must have given your sister the mind to get pregnant for your husband. You need to find out what that is.
Is she ready to be your Co wife?
Is she ready to be called untrustworthy by people in her future who will hear her story one way or the other?
Your sister has plans, whatever made her keep the pregnancy, she's ready for it.

She's checked your reaction and your parent's reaction and she felt equal to the task.

You need to tell your parents, they may help you with better decisions on how to handle them.

And I hope you come out stronger and better, if this is not karma.

Uyi168:
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You assume a lot.

You are judgemental.

You almost changed my view.

But because I know that majority of the times, backgrounds play a huge role in how we see things, I won't buy completely everything you've said.
And that's because most men, influential and handsome, were raised in a background where the man is taught to lead the chase in man-woman relationship, directly or indirectly.
Hence, it won't sit well with him to accept a woman who chased him without thinking of her as cheap.

Except the man, by reason of exposure, had unlearned and relearned some things, he won't see your point.

Nonybb:
But to be very sincere with you. Some of these things were oftentimes caused by two individuals: the mother of that child and the daughter itself. For example, I went to one family like that a one certain time and I discovered one girl like that aged maybe around 15-17 years undressing in front of his dad. This girl I'm telling you about has developed every part of womanhood. Some wives look at suchand wave it aside. You see, men are not built that way. A little sight can provoke a man and he doesn't reason entirely when it comes to penile erection. The degree of temptation are different. Some fall easily, some withheld it and cry Jesus but it do comes.

Men are disorganized by sight and sensual seduction; women might be emotions and physical touch. Let us understand that. Secondly, how the wife caused it was how complacent she was. Whenever you see that your daughter is being naked in front of your husband, put her aside and talk to her. She could have prevented this incestuous act

So if you Allah gives you daughter, you will one day look at your child undressing and desire her?

So your d**k fit rise because your daughter is undressing?

You are not normal if up till now you don't know that s** is a thing of the mind.

He imagined himself laying his daughter before he did it, that is the problem if you don't know.

This made me cringe.

I'll advice you go to the nearest human right office.

And please, protect the girl.

Uyi168:
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I read the op, and no where in it was the bolded stated or insinuated..

Exactly.
He insinuated he gives her money for upkeep of the home but that is like giving her money to keep their home...what about money to keep herself, madam has got personal needs to meet, let's say she's jobless.

I feel stealing is an option for especially one who has no source of income.

If op claims she steals from him, one can assume he doesn't give her money, else it would have been stated.

The very thing you are disputing is clear but you ignored it so you can dispute...may be it is that you were unable to see it.

Here, The Mathew you quoted said,"presently", but I guess you read that to mean IMMEDIATELY instead of TO THIS DAY.

And you should mind your quran except you are looking forward to converting.

jericco1:
I'm in love with myself and I and me are getting along just fine.

But you can't f**k yourself.

4tomandchi:
I and my wife have been married for 9 years now, we have 3 children Peace (7) Mark (5) and Zion (3). Our marriage has been relatively peaceful like most marriages but not devoid of little differences couples face once in a while. We live modestly and by the grace of God I provide for my family at least their basic needs.

But one thing that is becoming a real issue for me is my wife's habit of stealing money from my pocket, initially when I noticed my money was missing and confronted her she blantantlly denied it and claimed maybe I lost it outside.

Know fully well that that is not the case I decided to test I heed money under my box and she still located it when I noticed that my money was missing and confronted her with fact she denied at first but later admitted to taking it.

When I asked yesterday that what are the 3 things in life she will never? The first on her list was "I will never steal, excluding from my husband".

Her reply has kept me wondering if she will ever stop stealing, I can't leave any money in my pocket peacefully again she doesn't care whether the money is mine or not.

Please what can I do to help my wife I need your suggestions?

There was something you did not state which is very obvious in this post, op.
You don't give her money.
You tested her by hiding money somewhere and she located it and stole it, test her again but this time, hide the money in plain sight, but give her money before you do it, at least twice...then watch your money in plain sight remain there for a long while.

It's very important to give your wife money, don't provide the basic need in the house and neglect her. Money is a lubricant, at least now that you have the money, give her as much as you can, you won't lack.

But if you do all that's required and she still steals, then it's a quirk.
We all have weird quirks.
You have to accept hers.

MinahTee:
What is the status of your current relationship?

Is it Physical or just online dating?

Well, i perfer virtual relationship to physical ��
I don't know but I just don't feel okay with physical relationship.

In physical relationship, seeing each other almost everyday is a norms, hanging out and do other all sort of things. But
In a virtual relationship, all you just need is your phone then you are good to go,I prefer chatting and calling (mostly audio) to having a direct contact with my him, in some cases I even feel irritated seeing his face or when am close to him, I talk fluently when we chat online than when we have physical contact.

I noted this in all my last relationships, am always avoid seeing them, so this make me seems like am not serious.

Is this normal or some else?

I know I can't continue like this because of marriage, I can't be in a marriage I won't be able to relate well with my hubby.

Is there any advice you can offer me here?
Help your sister��

You should ask yourself what really makes you prefer virtual relationship to physical and if you can honestly answer the question, then you'll see the solution.

Talking about marriage, there are people that prefer their spouse to be coming home once in a while...they just can't stand them in their faces everyday.
Sometimes, when people like this are not able to detect on time that they will do better in a distant relationship, they fight each other daily.
May be you belong to the group of humans that get bored of others easily. Just may be.

But then, we are created to live with each other, no man is an island. So, if you don't want to spend lots of time looking for someone who can accept you this way, face your fears and learn to hang out with people that care about you, accommodating people in your space is a skill every developing human should master.

Goodluck.

If the girl respects herself, she will command her man's respect.

You can't disrespect yourself and expect someone to respect "The yourself" you disrespect.

Life is tough.

You need a higher power to get through life's journey.
May grace find him.

Toxicity isn't something you pick up on your way to market, is it?

Every toxic person became toxic in defense. Know this and know peace.

Again, every toxic person wants to be loved beyond, and saved.
But because salvation is not self served, toxic people have to be helped from the outside.
So when you see a person that's toxic, stand aside and observe them, you will find where they need help. If you can help them, fine, otherwise refer them to someone that can help them.

The help you render a toxic person can be in form of tough love or tender love, any how it comes, be consistent with it. They need love that's consistent until they heal.

The shittiest part of Toxicity is that the victims sometimes don't even know they are toxic, until you make them taste their own pill.

So, be it a lady or a gent, toxic humans desire to be loved but they go about forcing it out of people, sometimes people that are unwilling to.
They need to know that not everyone can love you as you should.

Working on yourself begins from there.

See yourself as God sees you.
But how do you know how God sees you?
Check his word.
See yourself through his word after you've checked.

You are the restored.

Did you not see the part that said his putting down the God reputation was an intentional act?

That means what to you?

CharisEleos:
Were they not together when the crime was committed?

You guys with your weird and wild imaginations though.
What even warranted this kind of question in the first place?

All a Siamese twins head will be occupied with is thoughts of summounting the challenges that come with their condition therefore will not have the time to begin to reason crime.

Mind you, they are always been closely monitored and protected by families and caregivers in case they need any assistance. So there's definitely not going to be room for committing any crime whatsoever or even one that would attract national punishment.

Op, fear God o.

Lol @ fear God

Do you watch American horror story; Freak Show?
The show is about them twins...it ain't a figment of imagination at all, it's happening.

Your imagination about siamese twin is limited tho. You think they have to be about surviving their condition whereas they lived past that level already and are participating in shows, doing weird and unimaginable things. Don't surprised.

bmdmix5:

. I was going tru ur joke thread damn so lame.

n for this thread, it will b a special hearing

That's because you are full of shit.

9 men in a day?
Oh chi m ooo

I hope the boy that stabbed the prefect gets a matching punishment.

I feel it will make him understand early in life that we live in a world where you can tell the consequences of your action...it will help him be careful in future.

don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
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Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

Wow, you mean she [/b]did[b] break up with you despite all you [/b]did[b] to prove you love her indeed?

Lol.

Okay, I'm glad you [/b]did[b] patch up and [/b]did[b] tell your story now.

You are a good person and soon, you will get the one that fits you, perfectly.

She might return if she's the one that fits you perfectly, if not, she will give way for her.

And when it happens, you will appreciate all that [/b]did[b] happen.

SenatePresdo:


Are you calling me a hoodlum?

Wow-dazed

He may have had his mid life crisis at 23!

SenatePresdo:


Yes now. Assuming the dominant one insists, the other one can headbutt him.

He can always resist.

Can't stop laughing.

You're not being logical, and I think it might be because there's no direct provision for this in the law. You are handling it the hoodlum-way

rottennaija:


[/b][/i]Those are the set of people least likely to commit any crime[b][i].

Ideally speaking.

rottennaija:
So what will they go to jail to do? Visit?

One of them committed a crime and is sentenced to jail...

donbachi:
Since dem no fit consider their condition,before indulging into crime.the law should be allowed to do its own.
Cos crime na crime.regardless of who dey involved.

What?!
I disagree with you.
The two of them have their separate lives to live and make independent choices and decisions, regardless of their condition.
So, if one chose to commit a crime, the other may not stop him/her for the simple reason that they both are adults and entitled to a living pattern of their choice.
So, if crime is involved, the innocent one should be jailed in your opinion for not stopping the crime?

This reason shaa o

Happy birthday, legend!
I admire your height.

I miss her on the screen.
It's been a while I saw her, a long while actually.

SenatePresdo:
The Twin as an accomplice would be charged with robbery, assuming they robbed.

So they both can go to jail if found guilty.

What stopped the the so-called innocent one from disagreeing from the onset

What da heck!?

Officialgarri:
They would most likely go unpunished. Although I haven't heard of such provisions in any law, but citing about 3 past cases, they would be allowed to go free if the partner maintains innocence.

[/b]This brings the issue of sending a pregnant woman to jail. If you jail a pregnant woman, you have jailed an innocent foetus[b]

Is this applicable in Nigeria?
I doubt, because I saw a pregnant woman the last time I visited Prisoners.

ProductofGrace:
Good day nairalanders, I'll like experienced people to enlighten me on this issue. We got married this year and as usual we're expecting pregnancy but my wife started having pregnancy symptoms like tiredness, pain in the nipple for about two weeks now. She said she will wait till when her period normally comes and that will be a good confirmation if she is pregnant or not. Getting to the time of her period, there was little flow of blood not as thick as the period used to be and the flow ceased in less than 30 minutes. But when she urinated hours later, the urine was not colourless but lightly red indicating that blood was mixed with the urine and she is also having abdominal pain. Please I need someone who has idea or might have experienced this to me what may be the cause.
Thanks for your anticipated response.
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Send a dm to aproko doctor.