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[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=572082.msg7396620#msg7396620 date=1293117859]Yes, I am.[/quote]ok then. . Does this- 'Ewe no l'obvan re' ring any bells?

older. . Plus she's got a temper-like she can flare up like a lit match real easy. .Plus we're really close and i dont want to jeopardize that. . Plus she's really crazy about this guy. .

Ok so as the topic states,i dont like my sister's bf. Before your blood gets hot,let me tell you why. First of all,he's a lot older than her(like with 6 years). He has this man of the world,ive been there and done that persona,and i can understand why that would be attractive,especially to someone who's lived a somewhat sheltered life(he's my sis 1st serious r/ship). Now he's the kinda person that has a lot of female friends,and when i say a lot,i mean a LOT. He's verry friendly with them and since a lot of them are older and more 'sophisticated' than my sis,it has a way of making her feel jealous and inferior. And then,i think he's abusive. He's not hitting her or anything(cos if he did id report them to popsi sharp sharp-who by the way,has no idea anything is going on). I think its more emotional. He doesnt insult her like ure stupid or sumn,buh he has a way of sayin and doin things that cut her down and make her feel depressed all the time. Correct me if im wrong but if you're always crying over ur bf for one reason or the other then i dont think that r/ship is healthy. Now ive kept my opinions to myself,because im not the one dating him and i cannot go and put sand in someone's garri,but recently a mutual friend told me that not speaking up was wrong. She said that if i saw my sister heading for trouble and i didnt warn her then i was a bad sister. So now im confused;Speak up or remain silent? P.s-Sorry for the long post-jus wanted to give u guys some background.

bros abeg nor vex oh. . Im not saying im so strong that ill be able to resist the desires of the flesh,im saying i will be cautious enough to never put myself in a position where temptation can overtake me. I will not go to his house alone,when i know full well that this person and i have feelings for each other. We will meet in public places,or if we meet in private places we'll have a chaperone. We will not get drunk together(cos alcohol lowers your inhibitions and whatnot). . So where,then,will he see me to sha.g? Its not a matter of overconfidence;when you're cautious you can prevent certain things from happening.

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=572082.msg7392364#msg7392364 date=1293060978]**Death** https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/21.gif[/quote]err. . Totally off-topic here but Missy B,are you by any chance the ovbiedo(pardon my bini) Missy B that was on NL like a year or two ago?

I do NOT live in dreamland. I am not unaware of the fact that there are guys who jus want to shag and go,but yet i dont believe that ALL of them want that. And even if i by mistake jam one who does,the fact that he wants it does not mean i will give it to him. No boy will see me to shag,boyfriend or not. That being said,i dont think sex should even be an issue cos that's not what im lookin for,and i like to think that im not so brainless that one Chike will come spouting tales of undying love and affection and then i will open door and throway key for him. The getting a hobby advice is very practical but even then,taking a hobby will not stop me from liking a member of the opposite sex,or wondering what if?

9baby:
By the way, how old are you?

. . Im 16 and seven-twelfths. . The seven-twelths bit is verry important cos it means im almost 17 which means im almost legal!

But that's where the diff lies. . Im not listening to my peers,im not letting them set standards for me,im not letting peer pressure determine how i live my life. . Im jus sayin even tho im not susceptible to it,on some level or the other it affects me,and that's a fact. Being single at my age is abnormal,at least for people in general. I know i dont want to start having sex now,and i know im not going to. . Ive jus been feeling real conflicted about whether having a bf is such a bad idea. Yeah i know there are guys who jus wanna shag and go,but there are those who dont-who only want someone-just like me.

haha. . Nl toastin. . What i wanna know is whether its wrong for me to want the things that i want. . While your post hasnt helped me in any tangible way,it has made me laugh. . So thanks for that!

Eeehn? 'Hate' kids? Thats strong. . What exactly do you hate about them? And does that mean you're not gonna have kids some day?

Ok so im in my teens,and recently ive been under a lotta pressure to get a bf. Im not the kinda person who's susceptible to peer pressure but recently its gotten verra bad. . Its like when im talkin to someone and i say,no i dont have a bf(ive never had one before either),everybody's lookin at you like are you for real Im not talkin about sex(altho obviously,i havent done that either). . Recently ive jus been feelin like why dont i jus get one? Its not like i wanna go and start havin sex or sumn(because i dont),buh whats so wrong in having someone? Its seems like everyone's paired up these days and sometimes i feel an almost overwhelming urge to be part of that unit called a couple. I cant really talk to anyone about it-I mean if i mention boy my dad sees red and starts with the birds-and-the-bees talk,and im thinkin,dad,i jus said he was cute-i dont want to marry the guy. . So how am i supposed to say i might want a boyfriend?

Maybe because fat=more flesh=bigger/meatier endowments Idk shaa. . Its you guys who like fat/big women so na una know wetin u dey find there. . You'll hardly find a girl who says she goes for fat guys(i dont know bout u buh potbellies are traumatizing). . Its guys who go for big/fat chicks so you guys are in a better position to tell us why fat equals sexy for some of ya. .

Because i wanna have kids. . Lets not deceive ourselves;love,companionship,blah blah blah are all well and good,but the main purpose of marriage is to start a family.