₦airaland Forum

dasparrow:
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Why are many of you Nigerian bred males so obsessed about your women? Your white counterparts in the western world are coming up with cures for many emerging illnesses, advancing in technology and contributing to the advancement of the human race.

You sit here on Nairaland opening threads upon threads about women and their need to reproduce and marry. With all the marrying and reproducing you do, Nigeria still remains a failed third world country where poverty, epileptic power supply, fuel scarcity, ritualism, cultism, 419, illiteracy, corruption and more rule supreme. Its not like you are producing productive citizens of the world like people in the Western world.

By the way, when are you going to open threads that address pedophilia and rape? I read somewhere that 3 in 5 Nigerian men will rape or have raped a girl or woman. When are threads discouraging sexual crimes going to be discussed on nairaland?

Keep permanently damaging your girls and women with your HIV and syphillis infected dicks and then sit there wondering why getting married is becoming less of a priority for some of your women.

lezz:
No, The truth is so few ladies are ready to settle down at 25 and when they finally are, they have a preconceived notion of a husband who only exists in romantic novels.

Not mentioning the demands of education and career.

Men will always ask for marriage, women will always live in dreams

tosyne2much:
As for me, no matter how much I love a lady, I can never give her ordinary N50... It's not that I'm stingy or something.. If she wants to dump me let her dump me

Dollar is now N320 and the economic situation of the country is no longer smiling, so it's better for me to save for a rewarding future


*nobody should quote me*

daxlasaint:
And you made a valid point? Good luck telling your daugther at what age she should bring home a husband and if she fails to comply by all means go out an arrange one for her... is that point valid enough for you.... btw if you still have unmarried sisters start practising this your neo-medieval proposition on them.

daxlasaint:
I will pass .... i wish you the best of luck dealing with the heartbreak you experience when this plan fails as it is bound to...

itzhanie001:
Yes, we will keep pursuing our dreams, and even make impact in your lives while married to men who don't feel threatened by his wife's success but celebrates and take pride in her.

Raise your daughters to be dependent dolls with no ambitions, it's your problem

itzhanie001:
So you met a woman in medical school, you went ahead to ask her out, then you tell her to throw away her license and certificate. You aren't even making any sense. So it will be easier getting married and combining medical school with marriage then eventually working. If you know you can't marry a working woman let her know right from time so she can dump your ass for men who will share the joy of her success with her. I have a lovely family I look up to, 2 professors with such lovely children all doing good for themselves. That is going to be my story by God's grace.


What are you even saying? And the childishness comes in, what were your last statements all about.

itzhanie001:
I haven't met any woman who sees childbirth as an obstruction to career, I don't know maybe they abound around you. Women with such mind will rather not marry sef.

Ok, so women should just be bloggers and business women? The female Drs, nurses, lawyers, bankers, scientists, accountants, etc should all just bury their dreams already. They have no right to aspire for greatness in other things other than popping out babies, taking care of them and licking their husband' s feet, they are women afterall. When they some depend on men, the same men will still come here shouting women are gold diggers, they don't want liabilities, etc.


An advice after training your female child through school, tell her to throw away her dreams and certificate and go be an housewife for a man. Or better still don't train her through school, does she really need education to give birth to children and stay home? Paid jobs have no glory.

postmann:
Youre perfectly correct!
so petty! so greedy!

the wise and humble will be satisfied.
but the restless she-devils, its a life of unfulfilment.

go to europe and see women in their late 20s and and30s unmarried, looking for anythng with _dick for company. its a society wth its head upside down as as morality goes.

itzhanie001:
Being a stay home mom doesn't mean you will nurture your children well. I have an uncle who married a lazy woman, lazy being that she doesn't care for work at all. She can't even wash her own undies talk more take care of children well, a married woman with with female children will openly display pornographic videos. The highest no of teenage pregnancy cases I aee around me have housewives as the mothers. And we have lots of mothers at the apex of their careers nurturing and taking good care of their homes and children and equally producing brilliant children. My mum and grandma being great examples.


It's hypocrisy when we all know what you want is for a woman to be like a rag to a man, one he can decided to do whatever he wish to. Makes me remember a man that asked his wife (a principal in one of the federal Colleges in Nig) to quit her job unknown to her he was planning to marry another wife, thank God she saw pass his selfishness, he wld have rendered her dependent on him so he can toss her however he likes..Now she has her own school, big one and is doing well. I'av seen men who ask their wives not to work supposedly to take care of children make those wives suffer and even the children. They want her at their mercies of their selfish tendencies. Even if a woman sits home all day, a man with no self control will still cheat, they'll just bring pregnancy come meet her for house.

If you don't want career women, good. There.are lots of women out there.who don't mind being housewives.

postmann:
that there are bad mothers out there doesnt mean women should be inductrinated to dump their infants some as young as a month to some nanny or daycare because she is career minded.

career and child nurturing dont really mix. children aint dogs or some poultery animals that you can leave and come back to.

they need attention. these children are exposed to a lot of indecencies during this period of neglect.

and what about their husbands? thats a whole topic of its own. personally ive told some people who care to listen: i see very little difference between marring a career woman and marrying a woman who is still schooling.

man that will cheat will cheat, so they say, but a career woman practically put her husband in the arms of a maid or some other woman.

nothing goes for nothing. something has to give. feminism is the total break down of the family system.

daxlasaint:
With or without feminism there would still be bad mothers out there.... i know hoisewives who children eat out all day and are ill cared for... i know career women who balance their homes beautifully.... am not advocating for men hating, competitive feminism... thats what most guys against this thread dont seem to get.... even the slave owners of infamous memory felt their slavery of the blavk man was divinely ordained and just....

demzylahot:
Lolz... some girls still reason that way....its unfortunate

YelloweWest:
No need to pity! Men with this type of reasoning end up with women who will poison them...
How can you get married and still claim "my money " isn't it supposed to be jointly owned in a marriage? Why then does she pack from her father's house to the man place and change her name?

It's really sad the way our young men think and I think we mothers should do more in educating our sons about marriage not just our daughters.

Toks2008:
Cheating on a spouse or potential spouse have been an age long act with no possible solution in place and i'm afraid we all just have to find a way of coping with this never endingyple cheat and even in a seemingly happy marriage,couple still cheat on each other and this has almost mad e me lose hope of the possibility of having two people who will be totally faithful to each other till death do them apart...

Enough of the ecclesiastical mambo jumbo..please lets ask one another..WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT ON EACH OTHER?

Well i don't know if my assertion is true but for some people i guess its an addiction that have eating deep into their soul and this set of people need special attention but i will focus on explaining why a regular averagely decent man or woman cheat..

1.The man:

I strongly believe that no matter how decent a man can be,there will forever be a conflict between what he wants and what he needs in a woman.

A man is a visual homo sapien that usually gets carried away by what he sees so most guys want a lady who looks pleasing to their eyes and at the same time want a lady with very decent inherent qualities so they go on the search and get to realize that the ones who are pleasing to their eyes end up having serious character defect they cant seem to cope with while the ones with angelic inherent qualities are far cry from what they want as physical attributes.

So in most cases,a man just decides to marry a lady who seem to be seen as "a good wife material" yet may not be sexually attractive to him and after marriage,he will have to cope with the temptation of having a taste(fling.one night stand) of another lady who seem to be sexually pleasing to his eyes.This fling usually develops into a steady extra marital affair which intimately destroys his marriage.

2.The woman:
As for the ladies,even when they refuse to agree,i will say ladies are emotional species and it will only take a very disciplined lady and one filled with the spirit of GOD to stay faithful to one man.

Most ladies want a Cute,rich,caring,GOD fearing,sex machine in one man and if their hubbies do not have these traits,they will want to be with John for the money,always run to Geoffrey for the thing and will be in an emotional affair with James because he is so carry and so on and because of the nature of women,they usually get emotionally attached and if found out,her marriage becomes history.

[size=13pt]So in essence,the main reason why people cheat is no other than oju kokuro(lack of contentment)[/size]

Possible solution

-As a man please understand that it is the same hole in any woman and you can't do all the sweet ladies you come across except you want to waste your life.If you see a lady with hot body and good inner quality then good for you But to be on the safer side please Just ask yourself..which one is more important to you? Is it a hot sexy body or a woman with a good inner qualities and if it is hot body you want please wait and get your hot wife and tolerate her other side and if it is a wife with angelic quality you want please they are every where..just get her and forget the hot body. But in my own school of taught,i will advice that a man goes for what pleases his eyes BECAUSE WHATEVER IS PLEASING TO THE EYES WILL MOST CERTAINLY BE PLEASING TO YOUR SOUL
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-Every lady must understand that her respect,integrity and self worth is not measured by how physically attractive she is but by how sexually decent she is.A lady should ask herself which is most important to her,..is it good sex,money,looks or virtuous nature and stick to a man who has what you most prefer and tolerate the other side of him.Just understand that no man has it all and learn to appreciate your man and take him as he is making sure you pray for him and help him to be a better man for you.


May GOD help us all.

myfantasies:
It seems someone else has taken over

Just try and talk to her one last time, if she refused to change, den it's best u walk away

kerygalerie:
Wow... Such a shallow mind...



Wow... Such a shallow mind...



Wow... Such a shallow mind...

blueAgent:
Lol... true , for the foolish ones who date such guys. that maltreat them .but no where did bible called them property.

blueAgent:
The only benefit of Feminism . is the area of stoping abuse of women . and to recognise women as human's and not a property to be bought and sold .but to advocate for equality with men, is contrary and a direct rebellion against God's word. white satanist want to acheive.