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NinaNigeria:
Yo post is late. It was supposed to be posted in 1652. This is 2015. Ladies r more ambitious dan ever. A woman nawadays can have a good career and still take care of her home, at de same time. At work she is dat success driven ambitious person, while she is at work, her house girl looks after de home and de kids. Wen she gets home, she is dis humble, loving wife. Who respects and takes care of her husband and kids. She cooks and spends time wit the kids, she does nt need de husband's help, bt a good father who wants to b there for his babies, does get involved and helps, then later on she becomes her husband's care take in more ways dan one. While she has early mornings so dat she can take care of her body like many other women out there, so dat she stays as hot as he found her. It is hard, bt it can b done. Many woman have done it, and will continue to do it. Only insecured backward men wud find her intimidating and not worthy of being their wife. Bt u knw wat dey say, another man's trash, is another man's treasure. De wise wud appreciate her and treat her like a queen. And thank God for de woman dat she is

my dear all OP is saying is a woman should be strategic in career selection not just for marriage but indeed for her own self. teaching and government are good for women, why go into investment banking or harsh oil rigs just because you want to feel equal to men; u may of course pursue such a cause but it could affect your marriage thats the core message. feminism has deceived most women. why is a famous blogger not married now? i cant say for sure but i suspect its because men are going for younger girls....

the way women were made is that they should be married off young enough not pursue career first. want to argue? pursue ur career first and then see the result for urself later.

and nobody is saying women should not fully pursue career... just the timing. better to pursue career after raising kids.

1. It causes you to pay half your assets to a woman and pay child support all your life in case of divorce.
2. Most people getting married today have slept around too much already and not the right age. women are supposed to be married off 18-21 instead of the current boyfriend model. this increases cheating rates.
3. the rise of career women has also negatively affected marriage. it is better for women to raise kids first while having a low stress job first and then build a solid career later than the current model.

Monalisa185:
see clumsy excuse, sheybi na wetin you go tell God be that?

it is not an excuse. it is a statement of fact and exhortation.

Decker:
What you said is quite true, but you shouldn't blame your inability to maintain your holiness on them, the fault is yours and yours alone.
Submitting to whatever temptation is as a result of not being able to control yourself. It's your choice. It's not like the girls force you to do it.

typical response from hypocrites.

The attraction is not a choice. It is a response...

i was recently thinking about what the OP posted. there is a reason why ppl wear niqqab etc. those cultures realized in decently dressed women r young mens achilles heel.

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CrabRangoon • 2 years ago

Attractive women think they have all the time and options in the world since there is no shortage of thirsty men begging to bang them in their 20's. Then they hit the dreaded 30's and the attention starts to drop off. It's no wonder they're all in therapy and/or on meds to dull the pain.


Brigadon • 2 years ago

Thus is the basic disrespect of feminism.
You give us the ten years of your youth. we repay you by supporting you for the forty years afterwards.
Feminists waste the ten years of youth, and then expect the following forty years of loyalty.

THAT is why, when the end comes, vocal feminists and ex-sluts deserve to be turned into reactor shielding. I sure as hell won't protect a woman over 30... in fact, if she's a slut, I won't protect one over twenty, since she's already wasted several years that should have been mine.

More than once, a woman has told me that at some point in her forties, she became invisible. Before then, she was accustomed to walking down the street and having men smile at her. People were so kind almost everywhere she went. In stores, she was warmly treated. In a bar or coffee shop, strangers would approach her and start up a conversation. Like some 1950s advertisement, the world was full of friendly waves and welcoming nods. This is the magic spell of being a young attractive female. It is an awesome power, but one that most women are largely unaware of until the day it finally disappears.
Actually, We Do Know The Power Of The Dark Side

The allure of a pretty, young woman is substantial, and men struggle to resist it. I’ve often thought that cheerleading would decline in popularity among high school girls if they knew exactly what was in the minds of the men who saw them in those outfits. As all men know, it is sexual. If you are a slender, pretty, teenage cheerleader, every man you encounter wants to have sex with you. None of us care one iota about your cheer, your spirit, or your acrobatics. The whole thing is a joke; we want to look at your pussy. The fourteen-year-old passing you in the hallway at school, your male teachers, your classmates, your father’s friends, the bus driver, even the old men in the nursing home where you volunteer, we all want to Bleep you.

If you are young and attractive, every man who smiles as he passes you on the street is thinking one thing: “I want to Bleep that girl.” We do not smile out of kindness, not in the way we would smile at a puppy or a little kid. As you walk by, raw sexual images are what we envision. Fortunately, men have a modicum of willpower. Although a pretty sixteen-year-old might flirt with her teacher, virtually all men in that situation will resist temptation. But, oh boy would there be temptation! Every year, a few highly successful men in positions of power risk everything just to have sex with an attractive young female.

You’ve Won The Lottery

You float through life in a way that others can’t even imagine. Everyone is so darn nice to you. We are nice because we want to Bleep you. That is the only reason. But you think that people are genuinely nice, that the world is nice. The guy at the Abercrombie store was so patient and helpful. He wanted to bang you in the dressing room. The 50 year old man at the DMV who failed you on your driver’s test was so sorry about it, apologizing in the kindest manner. He couldn’t pass you, but he so wanted you to suck his civil servant cock. This is how it goes. You believe you have earned your received kindness based on hard work and character. That is incorrect. It is only by virtue of the body you inhabit.

Take Off Your Makeup, The Party’s Over

But one day, you become invisible. The store clerk is impatient. No one cuts you any slack. People become professional, distant, businesslike. No one smiles at you in the street. You have lost your magic power and that loss comes with aging.

Now you are living in the real world as it is actually lived by most people. You have awoken from a dream and every kindness shown to you has to be earned. Nothing is free any longer. I think about the conversations I’ve had with women in their late 40s and beyond. There are no good men. Why can’t I find a man? Where have all the men gone? Well, ladies, the “good men” are out there trying to sleep with much younger women. I think to myself, you know how lonely and desperately Hot you feel right now? Aching to have even a semi-attractive, non-disgusting man want to spend time with you and make love to you? Well, this is payback for when you were young and had a sea of men in your orbit. You flirted with them and wasted their time. You mocked them for their horniness and neediness. Now you know their suffering. It is your just retribution.

Always Depend On The Cruelty of Strangers

Once I was at a party when two very nice looking, beautifully dressed women in their late forties approached me to flirt. Soon, they started commenting on the lack of good men. Normally, I would just smile and shrug, usually saying something like, “Who knows where they are? Perhaps hiding under a rock or stuck in the sofa cushions?” This time, however, I said that I know where the good men are. They are attempting to have sexual intercourse with women twenty years younger. I said that it is a fact of human biology that high quality men are just not interested in women their age. They were surprisingly reasonable and admitted that I was correct.

Many men hate the fact that attractive young women cast a spell over us. Unless you inhabit a Hot man’s body, you can’t even begin to appreciate how intensely a beautiful woman affects us, how we struggle to stay focused when you are around. Maybe one reason men seek to be players is that it helps weaken your power over us. We dislike that your very presence draws our attention to thoughts of fucking, no matter what we may need to accomplish at the moment. We resent that you have it so easy in life just because you are thin and pretty, whereas we have to earn every kindness that comes our way. You say life has not been that easy. You complain that your boyfriend cheated on you, but an older woman has no boyfriend. You complain that you got in trouble at work for your performance, but a less attractive woman never got hired in the first place.

Trading Places

Sadly, for aging women, there is no suit they can put on. Botox and plastic surgery will never elevate you back to the exalted position of a pretty girl under age 30. Perhaps you can take comfort in knowing that you once held enormous power over men, but now it is some other woman’s turn to possess it, however fleetingly.

http://www.returnofkings.com/30883/the-awesome-temporary-power-of-young-attractive-women

utenwuson:
op. after u finish trying all d advises given above n he didn't learn try mine,

since he obeys and worship u, give him punishment, slap him, tell him 2 do frog jump, tell him 2 cook, clean d toilet, wash d plate, wash ur pants n keep punishing him!

one day, just one fateful day! he ll hold ur hand in d air and say "woman, am tired, am tired of u maltreating me! then d man in him ll rise up 2 ur occasion n he ll beat d hell outa u! u myt even faint n collaps but don't worry! u ll stil come here 2 create another thread on how ur hubby is a dangerous man

love this

optimusprime2:
I carefully read your whole writeup, hence my whole quote... Firstly (Pardon me for being Blunt) I think you are quite a Naive, selfish and shallow woman who is insensitive to a man as delicate natured as your husband- for a start, I believe you are a christian, go and read the book of Proverbs chapter 31 vs 10-31 it should give you insight of the role of a good wife.
Many women pray for the kind of man you have as a husband, and here you are complaining about what you have... A wife is a friend, a partner, a buddie et al, apparently you have'nt carved out that Niche for your husband, because you have already viewed and tagged him as a weakling.
Secondly You lack the caring instinct of a mother; if you did, you would have known how to adjust your husband to fit your specs, with Love. Cant you see he is as a child to you? I wonder how you would care for kids with special needs with an attitude of insensitivity like this...
Thirdly, you are inconsiderate; Because you know that's how he is and yet you choose to exploit his shortcomings/weaknesses, then complain in the end- You should be ashamed of yourself.
Fourthly, You are the solitary lady- basically you love doing your thingys alone. It's unfortunate you married a man who values company and companionship, now in marriage, the definition of you is "Selfish" because all you lookout for is "You" ... sorry girl thats the picture I see.
Fifth, Your perspective of marriage is so shallow... And I have a deep pity for you because you still think marriage is post courtship, an indirect reflection of your psychological immaturity (Geez I'm really sorry for the bluntness but I just cant help it)
Sixth, You are just not romantic period.... (A wife beater would have suited you just fine)
If you think people will come and sympathize with you here on Nairaland for your woes and complaints on this matter, you are wrong, very wrong .... Go and analyse your shortcomings woman and fix up your marriage.
Overall I feel bad for your husband- it's really not his fault. He married a girl not a woman. (Sorry girl just being blunt)

i 100% agree. and let it sink into OPs head he has options oh. he is probably the good monogamist Christian type who believes in marriage in its entirety. he does have options of younger more fertile women. bear that in mind. he is just not exercising it.

the OP is thinking like a typical woman. think upside down and paying attentiom to irrelevant details. im a pushover until its something I don't agree with. the man is thinking logically but ur thinking illogically.

OP note ur hubby has access to younger women. just because he is idolising you doesnt mean he doesnt have options. deny him sex more than 1 month and see if he wont go to a brothel. Why don't you man him up lovingly? it would be a great privilege and blessing to you! Tell him what you don't like. give him example of the atm. men are logical. He will understand and adjust.

The men who give u their power are actually the ones in control. they just give it to u because they want to. he doesnt have to beat you, scream at you, argue with you, slap u to show real man status. thats just female thinking.

even if he is agreeing with you excessively its because he wants ur loving input and expects and want u to help shape decision making. ask him what he likes watching, tell him u want him to watch what he wants to watch even if it makes u unhappy and that you want 50 50 power distribution. just tell him like that that what's going on is making u unhappy.

i swear im not getting married. all unmarried women that r not pastors r crazy.

what happened to the original thread? they deleted it?

Karleb:
Tell her to leave and take your shop back.

exactly. there are thousands of prettier younger holier and better behaved girls.

send her packing and get someone else.

where is the thread now. link not working.

searching4l0ve:
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@OP RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE 99.99% OF NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE ROMANCE THIEVES WAITING TO SUCK YOU DRY IN THE DISGUISE OF LOVE/RELATIONSHIPS. YOU ARE EVEN LUCKY SHE'S NOT THE DESPERATE TYPE THAT WILL GO FETISH JUST TO HAVE YOUR ATTENTION. NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE MONEY HUNGRY AND POVERTY STRICKEN. THEY HARDLY STAND BY A BROKE MAN NEITHER DO THEY BELIEVE IN POTENTIALS NOR YOUR DREAMS. ALL THEY ARE CONCERNED ABOUT IS MONEY, MONEY AND MORE MONEY. WHEN THE CHIPS ARE DOWN THEY ABANDON YOU AND LOOK FOR NEXT COMFORT ZONE IRRESPECTIVE OF THE MEMORIES OR NUMBER OF YEARS YOU SPENT TOGETHER. THE ONLY THING THAT GOLD DIGGER HAS TO OFFER YOU IS THAT SMELLY HOLE BETWEEN HER LEGS WHILE SHE CONTINUE FLEECING YOU IN THE NAME OF LOVE . ITS A TERRIBLE SITUATION IN NIGERIA. I ADVICE SANE MEN TO IGNORE THESE FINANCIAL LEECHES CALLED NIGERIAN GIRLS FOR A FOREIGN LADY WHO KNOWS THE MEANING OF TRUE LOVE. IF YOU WANT A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE FOREIGN GIRLS ARE MOSTLY THE BEST CHOICE TO MAKE.

#Team foreign girls [/b]

american women are full of moral decadence. i would be interested in going pan African.

zaragal:
So right...thnx. Evrybody shouting go get urs get urs....where I want get mine ooo...no real men dis days Nina....jst porn/sex addicts dat wants to strafe a gal and go in the name of love. Haven't seen my taste tho

zaragal u sound decent. I will pray to God and u will locate me by the same fire that started MFM! please send me ur bbm pin.

quiinnBee:
we've been talking about it since.
dont know about his marriage status though cause he's not that old .but the thought still grosses me out.

Nigerian men are hypocrites; they marry older women then start chasing after younger women....

why not marry young women to start?

but then again the young girls arent interested in marriage.

it depends on ur age and country of residence. and dont let all the interest get into your head. reply my email and i will take it from there.

im trying to message u zaragirl. did u rcv my message?

madcow let me know ur final thoughts on my last post. does not the Bible recommend that u rejoice in the wife of your youth? in Proverbs. anyway each to his own.

MadCow1:
Jesus Christ of Upper Iweka!! Where do you come up with these thoughts?

Like seriously!

When I give birth to my daughter, I will not be raising her with the consciousness of 'MEN' in mind. I will be raising her to be independent minded. I will raise her to get self worth. I will raise her to be a strong, powerful, working, well rounded, capable woman. I will teach her how to be domestic and industrious.

I will teach my daughters to understand that there is a whole lot more to life than marriage. However I will teach them how to build a home, raise sound kids and cater for their families.

Notice I highlighted a section of your post, notice the word "I".. That refers to only you. In an ideal world, you can only marry just one other woman out there. Meaning other people with other preferences are there. Some like Older women, some like fair women, some like busty, some like smart educated strong women, some like naïve, timid and shy women, e.t.c. YOUR PREFERENCE IS NOT A YARDSTICK FOR ANYBODY ELSE BUT YOURSELF.

You can choose to raise your Daughters to be Conscious of Men and Marriage and there would be nothing wrong with that either. Its would again be one of those things that would be classified under 'YOUR PREFERENCE'.

And when you say an old career woman would loose out for choosing to enhance herself instead of throwing herself at the mercies of Men to marry her, the question I ask you is how can you lose something you never had?


Now.. Please What would you advice Girls in their early 20's who are currently in school studying or out of school working or in business and currently have no male suitors.. What would you advice them to do? Pay a man to marry them or what?

u have spoken well sir. she will not be throwing herself at the mercies of men. No man/ woman can get a good husband or wife save by the power of God.

Girls in their early 20s get a lot of attention from guys but blown them off. they should at that stage be entertaining some of that interest.

success of women and being in a relationship are not mutually exclusive.

again be reminded that marriage is the prerogative of men. all im saying is that the candidate pool will be smaller for a woman if she does not make up her mind early. and there's nothing wrong with aspiring to be Linda Ikeji and just be single.

each to their own.

MadCow1:
Remember.. There is NO KNOWN RULE BOOK IN LIFE.

No rule anywhere says a Woman MUST be married before any particular age.

And why should a woman pursuing self enhancing causes like education and stuff ahead of emotional causes be such a big deal anyways?

I will advice my Daughters to focus on things they can achieve like Education, a career, a business, a Job, building wealth, e.t.c.. Not on things that they cant control like emotions, love and marriage.

Its not like its Girls that marry guys that we should now be blaming them for growing old without marriage. Unless you want to legalise Lesbianism, girls have no control over when they get married.

i wont say yes to a 32 year old because i have preference for younger women. so if u advise ur daughters men r distraction as is now being taught to young girls well its a challenge because young girls r being born everyday and most men won't pick a girl their own age.

so that career woman will lose out.

i say this but they delete it as they get emotional. most ppl lack capacity for original thibking. if a girl has 3 boyfriends before she gets married how is that better than being in a stable relationship from the onset. regardless if she is in university or not. so u now encouraging ur daughters to be promiscuous? which proposition is better? multiple boyfriends u sleep with over University and career then marry another vs settled with one guy as a serious boyfriend / husband to be at University?

as a father which will u choose?

or u will advise her to watch porn and wait to fulfill career?

simplisity:
Who is pitying who? The lady suppose to pity the man bcs he didnt not know what he wants, atleast the lady knows what she wants and have gone for it. If u think u r pitying d lady by deciding to marry her, ur very wrong. I think u shld look beyond that and see that marrying her, is doing what is the right thing to do. The problm we men have is the ego to alwas absolve ourselves frm our wrongs and responsibilities, even when we cheat we must have reasons to absolve ourselves and still push the whole blames to women, failing to keep d vow we make in the beginning. We shld all know that we are not doing women favour by marrying them, that is how God has made it frm the begining which without living on earth would have been miserable. So, my brother, as long as u look beyond or take away that pity notion and take her as ur wife, the better for u, bcs u might have the same notion towards another lady, bcs thats jst d product of mind. Marriage is a union of two imperfect being, who came together to accept their imperfection.

we are doing women a favor by marrying.

the net benefits of marriage these days are slim at best compared to the headaches.

Raymonbell:
Seriously are you blind this all this year or you're looking for excuse to settle with young blood.

Break up and ruin her life but remember God dey oooo

i completely agree. this is unacceptable and hope she doesnt swear for you because if she does it most likely will come to pass. u just cant ruin someone's life like that. in as much as u have options as a man its ordered liberty for those seeking divine blessings. otherwise be prepared for nemesis.

MadCow1:
Please go back and read again.

I never said he should or should not marry an older or a younger woman.

I never said wanting a younger woman is a bad thing either.

Nothing in that write up says the girl has been around, so how you arrived at this is only forever going to be know exclusively to you.

What was she doing all those years? A host of things comes to mind; Getting educated, Focusing on building a career and a life, self improvement, Living her life the best she can whilst waiting on true love to happen, e.t.c.

Nobody talked about female empowerment or feminism here except you.



I may be Mad, but you sure as hell have 'a Beautiful Mind'. #GoFigure.

sorry boss im on a mobile device. only the 4th sentence of that post applies to u. the rest were my opinion.

well females being educated pursuing career and being empowered by feminism till 32 keep doing that. its ur life!

richyuch:
Hey... With ur write up... I tink the issue here isn't loving her outta pitty or she going thru the maturity stage... Everyone would pass thru that stage eventually... Making the I do decision shouldn't be based on the 'fine face syndrome' rather the character and attitude of the babe... We have sooo many fine faced girls with demonized characters... This decision isn't for only you... Its also for ur unborn children ...if u say u guyz have been thru the craziest issues together and she took all u r shits and still remained... Brother.. Nothing else can push her out...Coz not all girls in our society today can take shits from their dudes..they'll rather Bleep ya bestie to make a point..what if u get the fine faced queen and get married to her and then some tin terrible happens that makes her face bad or better still would u divorce her wen she gets to her 60?... Again brought.. It ain't about the face buh the characters of that woman...see our social media today.. What most girls have to offer and showcase is their butts and faces... Nothing else.. And even the butts.. Like 1000 dudes Don visit am and still counting.. Please be smart and get an elders consult before u make a terrible mistake... No go use wife as girlfriend oh

powerful post!

MadCow1:
Your issues are real.

I wish I could advise you in person, but all I would say to you is; Search your soul. Nobody knows you better than yourself. Are you superficial? Would her changing physical appearance bother you enough to create resentment in you? Do you love her enough to weather anything that may be thrown your way?

Remember that looks are fleeting. Even if she were 6 years younger than you, a simple dermatological disease can change all that fast. I am stressing on this point because her aging looks seems to be a big issue to you. The fact that you have started noticing it means you are no longer caught up in the love fantasy clouds and that is not a bad thing. Now that you are seeing clearly, ask yourself; Is her look going to be an issue for you? Like you said, she hasn't started giving birth yet so it will only get worse with each passing years.

I believe that love conquers all.. Looks inclusive. If you feel the love bond between you both is that strong, then shake it off and move on. If you feel the love isn't as strong, then you may need to actually have a rethink and reassess your decision.

Goodluck to you both.

OP nemesis will surely catch up with you. ur a fornicator. just used the woman.

to the guy i quoted all this one na yarns.

if a man wants a young woman he should be encouraged to get what he wants. wanting a young woman isnt a bad thing. looks may be fleeting but isnt life on earth fleeting? Why should i marry a girl of 32 years after she been around? wat was she doing all those years. in the olden days girls that were 21 were already old. modern day girls better wisen up and leave female empowerment and feminism to where it belongs!

Michellla:
i tell you.after they'll come here to complain again

I do agree though. its not a good thing to do. the man should be clear of his intentions from the onset.

ststyreal:
Guy u must marry that lady. Please let me ask u, who do u want to leave her for? after sucking all the juice in her, u now remember u guys are age mate, blah blah blah blah blah, abeg, adjust make u find better excuse give. Habaa! U have being dating a girl all these while, and u said it yourself that u guys have been through a lot together, to the level of introduction, now all of a sudden, u now remembered she is ageing faster than u, please fear God. Think of how she was when u first met, think of her good characters and those beautiful things in her that made u stick to her upto this day and then think deeply and think again, if those things are still there, then u have no problem with her. We all must age at one point in our lives or the other, package her well and forget all these side chick's hovering around to destroy beautiful love God has bless one with and enjoy your precious wife. Abeg, send me my invitation for the wedding, I will gladly attend. God bless your future home.

when these girls r young they dont know wat they have until they lose it. its the time for them to get the best mate.

i will be more inclined to date a 20 year old till she 26 then marry her even if her face is appearing old i dont care because i married her young!

kramfonos:
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You dated her even when you knew "she looks older".
She's made sacrifices for you and even changing her religion whilst fighting off the rebellious tag by her family.
She, according to you, has been faithful to you.
What else do you need, dude? Yeah, NEED and not WANT.
How sure are you that the other supposed YOUNGER-LOOKING girls aren't being masked by the thick coat of EMULSION PAINT they smear on their faces?

I think your priorities are misplaced.
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the priorities are not misplaced. men commit adultery because of the emulsion paint and stature. it is therefore necessary to get someone you are attracted to avoid fornication.

It would be misplaced priorities if he doesn't see beyond youth though.

Mountain of Fire and Miracles is one of the best churches in Nigeria right now.