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FamilyRe: Japanese Woman Gives Up Baby, Sues Sperm Donor For $3 Million After Learning He by ayobams(m): 7:08pm On Jan 16, 2022
This is what happens when you allow women to take control of some certain situations. First thier donor had to sleep with her a whole 10 times. No artificial insemination. That's a strange kind of donation.

You can't eat your cake and still have it. Now, let's see how the judgement pans out.
Kobojunkie:
That part got me too. She actually had sex with "donor". grin
PoliticsRe: ESN Will Deal With Criminals Enforcing Sit At Home - IPOB by ayobams(m): 8:51pm On Jan 11, 2022
I'm glad someone noticed finally...
paramakina202:
IPOB will give order but will never accept responsibility when their criminal boys acts.
RomanceRe: What To Do If A Lady Asks For Money For Data Or Changing Of Phones - Reno Omokri by ayobams(m): 9:12am On Jan 07, 2022
You are the one with inferiority complex. Joke is on you. You slave for girls can keep other guys beds warm. Continue.

Vinnie2000:
I have a Feeling that this Reno Omokri is an Hypocrite! sad

This kind of men, if they mistakenly meet those Destiny Etiko or Daniella Okeke kind of Big Yanch, classy Chics, they would spend Money Like mumu! cheesy cheesy

Doing Sh*ts secretly but deceiving Pple online, just like Feminists! sad
RomanceRe: Amnesty International"s Same-Sex Goal For 2022 (Photo) by ayobams(m): 9:39pm On Jan 06, 2022
You've been conned all along. Joke is on you.

Redstorm:
sadTIME TO STOP BEING A SUPPORTER OF AMNESTY INTERNATIONAL angry
CelebritiesRe: Davido Celebrates New Year With His 2 Babymamas Their Kids, Jamjam & Tiwa Savage by ayobams(m): 6:04pm On Jan 02, 2022
which self-worth? you are unbelievable.

sonnie10:
Chioma doesn’t care. Nice one from her, self worth is very important.
CelebritiesRe: Davido Celebrates New Year With His 2 Babymamas Their Kids, Jamjam & Tiwa Savage by ayobams(m): 6:02pm On Jan 02, 2022
I am sure you are not married .This is a normal past times in many married homes . This TV show shouldn't be the only guide to make your uninfomed statement.
Apparently, you don't know what makes a family tick.

tillaman:
cool
You just have to love OBO, these guy is just a dynamo, even guys with 1 wife and kid finds it difficult to create time for them but look at OBO with the big bag he still balances everything!!
Max respect to Davido all day everyday and twice on sundays
EducationRe: To All Graduate 2nd Class Lower In Nigeria by ayobams(m): 2:20pm On Jan 02, 2022
I had 2.2 in "Educational Management" to put it in proper context at the age of 24 and completed my Masters programme in same at the age of 28. Guess what..? I got a job to work in the bank at the age of 30! and was placed as an Executive Assistant even with just the 1st degree. I finally left in 2021 as I couldn't cope anymore with crazy targets. �. Even though I was laid off in 2016, I got another banking job in 2018. Apparently, I was asked to resign but I now run a management consulting firm. We are barely six months into operations though we got incorporated in 2018.
Why all this shalaye?

You alone can limit yourself. Get the grades if you can but don't beat yourself up for it.

I repeat you alone can decide the kind of future you want.
Cheers.

Bankz007:
Morning guys...

Please am reaching out to all 2nd class lower that are now in the work force...

Am currently an undergradute in my final year, and am trying my best to move up to 2nd class upper but just so i can stop killing my self with thinking ...
I need to know this fact...


Am aware that there is no jobs in the country but people still dey get...

Will my cert be useless in a job search?

Is there a profitble life in whitecollar job with a 2nd lower?


Please be nice with your answers.
PoliticsRe: In 2021, Nigerian Senate Sat For Only 66 Days, Broke Own Rules by ayobams(m): 2:10pm On Jan 02, 2022
What do you make of a Senate of the likes of Orji Kalu.
We expect too much from these raiders,that's our problem.


Mysticwebb:
They are the worst National Assembly we have got in our history. Thieves earning money they didn't work for. When you take away the ones they sat legislating on the budget and their personal selfish paddings, you will see that the ones they sat for the interest of the masses are not up to 60days, which means not up to 2months for a 12months calendar pay and bogus allowances. Tell me if that is not a daylight stealing.
PoliticsRe: 9bn Debt:Pastor Tunde Bakare Alleged Face-off Over Loan To Build Church by ayobams(m): 8:55am On Dec 30, 2021
Same questions I asked. N4.5bn to a single obligor for a nonprofit organisation. No bank can do that . CBN must be involved in this type of transactions. These blogging business is gradually becoming a blackmailing medium. Fake News purveyors must be jailed .


masseratti:
How can a bank give out 4.5 billion naira depositors funds as loan to a non profit organization a church and expect repayment, this is ridiculous, is the CBN no longer supervising these banks anymore? How can such transaction occur without the approval of the CBN? We are sick in this country.
RomanceRe: The Lady I Wanted To Marry Pretended To Be A Graduate To Me by ayobams(m): 5:52pm On Dec 27, 2021
Japa.

quote author=bestme post=70367279]Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.[/quote]
FamilyRe: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by ayobams(m): 10:31am On Dec 25, 2021
I guess the OP took the risk of sharing his discomfort on this platform. It is a risk worth it. Why?
You find divergent opinions and if you have the spirit of wisdom, you will be able to read between the lines.

First, I have noticed that there are lots of folks here who in a bid to be politically correct pander to the vagaries of the female sex. They just prefer to be unfortunate,rude and bereft of commonsense.

As funny as this may seem every action taken has a reason behind it. The brother that came around is elderly hence the reason i believe she does that. But guess what ...it is not a right thing to do. If you can wake a sleeping person to come and eat before serving the person that is starving don't you people see that there is a reason for that? You are so hypocritical on this platform. In a bid to respect the elder brother she disrespects the husband. ñnn(Normalise talking about your reservations but don't be rude about it).
As for you guys that are abusing him, I say thank you for your Candid opinions. We can't all be wise.
To the OP , sit your wife down and don't hold anything back when you are expressing yourself. It would save your marriage.

Favfables1:
The most sensible comment I've seen so far...

Personally if it's just a one time thing, I won't be bothered buh it happening consistently is something that'll make me raise eyebrows...

OP talk to your wife and tell her exactly how this makes you feel...
She may be doing it without meaning to upset or disrespect you...

I know this may seem like something "not worth talking about", buh if it hurts you enough for you to open a thread on nairaland, then it's better you communicate with her rather than allow it grow into resentment...

And please leave all those folks up there insulting you for whatever reason, if you do your investigations they're probably not married and thus won't know *exactly* how it feels...

Good luck Chief...
RomanceRe: She Was Giving Out Free Sex To All Men by ayobams(m): 8:17pm On Dec 19, 2021
You have a big problem in your hands.


Lostchild:
Thing just don't happen, and when it does, it happen for reasons known by God. Everything that happens in our lives, is always being influence by devils or by angels.

ABOUT ME

I was never and will never be womanizer. I have been told several times that, I should use my person-el to have as much as many women as I want, but I know that womanizing will surely kill my purpose and instantly kill me.

I can be surrounded by many beautiful young sexy women, but my interest, my mind and my heart is in something else.

I can stay without sex for a long time, but when I get so tired of being lonely and decide to try relationship, then heavy troubles comes.

I always find myself in painful troubles that result to heavy financial lossess caused by nigeria women or married women around me.

I have never achieve anything good from any Nigeria woman.

Only losses and regret.

Nigeria women are a burden, they are my trials.

THE STORY - Of

GIRL 1 # The Marine Queen.

Years back I was heading to work and I saw a girl and a guy coming out from a hotel as they pass me by.

She turn and lust-fully look (gaze) at me and smiled. She was like a wild cat that saw a beautiful harmless lamb.

When she and the guy went their seperate ways, she acted very fast and came after me as soon as possible. She walk straight to me and told me, she wants to have a word with me.

As a gentle soul, I followed her to a quiet place while I wait for her to tell me what she wanted to say. She started looking at my eyes while I wait for her to say a word.

I was like, I thought you wanted to say something to me? She began to stutter and was like, o, I will come back later.

She left while I walk back to my domain

NOTE: She tries to used the demonic powers in her eyes, to seduce and influence my mind but her enchantment or powers fails to work on me because my mind is pure.

Two days later after work, I was heading home when she bump into me. She told me she was new in town and she will like me to take her to any good restuarant where she can eat something which I did for her in kindness.

After eating, she told me she got no money and asked me to pay for her food which I also did in kindness.

After that, she started following me. I asked her, why are you following me? she told me she is homeless and got no place to spend the night, e.

I asked, why and how?

She told me she is new in the city and gave me some format why she was homeless, and she just need a place to spend the night.

It not possible for me to abandone or leave her since I was being deceived by this deadly serpent of a woman.

As a very reasonable dude I had to take her along, just for her to spend the night in my home, then she can leave the next morning.

As we head home, she started tuning me and gave me the understanding that, I can f'vck her if I want, of which she also fancy me and want me to f'cvk her.

She made it known to me.

She knew that, we men love to f'vck women, infact we just love to fv'ck and now she is giving me her body and kittee for free.

We men can easily be lured by women

What a very fine offer, I thought to myself.

I look at her sexy mesomorph body

I look at her bell shape breast with puffy nipples that is spread out.

How can any male with a raging hormone easily reject such offer?

What single guui in his right mind, won't like to f'vck the kittee and suck the breast of a sexy mesomorph young woman?

Damnnn, my sexual instinct instantly kicked in.

My intent was to be very kind and tender to her, but now

I had fallen for her trick and my sexual mode activated. .. ... .... .....

I said to myself, I did like to enzoii this sexy body tonight. cheesy tongue

I started removing her clothes.

I removed her upper and lower shorts

I was in my boxer fully errect. (swollen)

I was about to remove her pant.

I noticed that, she slowly became very weak and can't even move her body. She was so weak that, she can't even lift her arms.

Then, she manage to turn her head and look at the time, it was 12:00 am.

She instantly became physically uncouncious like a dead person. Her spirit has left her body.

Fear grip me as I jump out from the bed.

I knew I had carried or enter one chance.

I instantly realize she was not a normal young woman.

She was just there in my bed like a dead person.

I gave her 9 yards and I was awake and watched all through the night.

1:00 am. I was watching.
2:00 am. I was watching.
3:00 am. I was waiting for her to return.
4:00 am. She came back from her spiritual astra journey and will be more than ready to f'cvk me.

My sexual mode di-activated and my penis (disabled)

5:00am. I discharge her and escort her away. I was happy that I was being free from this trouble that just came my way.

The next day at noon, she came to meet me. I larment in my heart, this girl again!!

She became an unexpected burden.

She came because she desire to see me just to talk.

She was a very chatty person and started following me all around.

Her intention at first was to f'vck me and spiritually collect something from my body.

I quickly learnt that, she was giving out free sex to all men as many as possible in hundreds.

She was sent out by one of the highest marine kingdom on a mission as a homeless girl to my city to fv'ck as much as many men as possible.

She will f'vck every man for free while she will come to me to pay for her expense.

I query her why she was giving out free sex to people and yet she comes to me for money.

She became angry with me because I sound ignorant of who she is and why she was giving out free sex to all men and boys.

She saw that, I was no longer willing to f'vck her, then she began to open up.

Our Conversation Is As Follows

i. She later revealed that, those free sex she was giving out to men and boys are not free. She takes things out of the bodies of the men and boys she sleep with.

ii. She said, when I made her angry, she wanted to fire me an evil arrow, but I instantly smiled at her.

She said, everytime she tries to fire me evil arrow, I will smile and my smile will instantly weaken her powers and made it impossible.

iii. She told me if I want, she can take me to her far away kingdom, there I will be welcome and be given all food to eat and enjoy. If I eat and dine with them, then I will not come back to the physical world but if I reject their food, then she can bring me back.

She strongly desire to take me to her kingdom.

I only replied her enticing words with a broad smile.

iv. She show me a brass ring in her index finger and she told me it was a diamond.

I asked, how?

This is just an ordinary ring ?

She said, No. The ring in her index finger is a shinning diamond but my eyes cannot see beyond it.

v. I am a person who likes placing my palm on the top of the hair of a woman and when I tries to do that to her, she always prevent me.

I asked her, why?

She said, I was touching her crown and she does not want that.

vi. She said, she currently wears the attire of a queen but my eyes cannot see her queeneth dress.

vii. She said, she is a marine Queen of the highest rank. She killed a female that is above her, and took her possition.

vii. She said, she must fix attachment every month if not, she will kill a soul.

viii. Each time we are talking, she will run away and hug electric pole.

I asked, why she does that?

She said she was never alone when with me, but the spirits around us are trying to take her away from me and she does not want to go. She still want to be around me and keep talking to me.

ix. When she is in bed with any guy, she change her body into a big snake with her human head intact.

She was a very powerful person for the devil.

She can kill or blind the eyes of any man within hours.

Her spiritual and physical eyes is constantly open to see both the spiritual and physical dimension.

There was even something about her that has to do with egg and red oil.

She did and said many things I have forgotten

She fv'ck many, many guys in my city and some around me, even though I was the one she came for. Her intention was to come and sex me but I was lucky enough not to fv'ck her.

She later left and I never saw her again.

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GIRL #2 The Beautiful Witch.

I met a beautiful choco-lati girl and we started dating. At first, I did not know what I got myself into but as long as we keep the hot sex alive, no problem.

She was even a virgin when I met her.

We were lovers with raging hormones.

We constantly f'vcked everyday.

We where two f'vck mice.

It was wonderfully fun as we enjoy our lust and passionate hot sex. But I later paid a heavy price for those hot sex.

I discovered, she was afraid to enter church and at night, she will collect and drink my blood when I was asleep.

Out of love, she confessed to me who she is and how it all started. She also told me some things I cannot now note down.

One day, she asked me to marry her of which I rejected her proposals..

She started crying

She cried bitterly when I made her known, she will not be in my future.

She kept crying but I kept smiling.

I was smilling as I watched her cry.

I was smiling not because I enjoy seeing her tears, but she look so adorable when she cries.

She looks to beautiful in tears.

She asked me another day if I will marry her,

No, I replied with a smile.

She cried
She cried.

She took a vow to spiritually kill.

She vow to destroy me.

She vow to make me suffer since I refused to marry her.

That was the begining of the new first phase of trouble for me.

She reported me to the council of witches.

They started hunting after my life but they failed to kill me because I was and I am under the covering of the grace of God.

God save me many times from death. He save me from many gun shot assasination and my life was constantly in danger.

They - the witches first started attacking my finance while they work death on me

She attack all my business deals worth millions of naira..

She destroyed my finance than any other woman in my life.

I lost multi millions.

The attack was so much that I became tired to live and started planning suicide.

I felt like dieing.

She did made me to suffer financially losses but it was not possible for her to kill me.

She did succeed in destroying all my money

The attack from her and from the witch-craft council was so much that, I almost died.

I was even poisoned but God removed the poison from my body and heart.

To save me, God had to used three different heavily anointed celestial prophets to counter the witch-craft attack just to preserve my life.

God, delivered me from the witchcraft powers and started restoring my wealth.

----

GIRL # 3 The runs Girl.

Many times I had wish I never met her. I wish I never have sex with her.

I love this one but her body is spiritually polluted

She was heavily possessed.

There where things I didn't share in my previous write up.

I later discovered many things about her background that is heavily connected to water spirits. This girl became heavily possessed through runs and her body was heavily used to destroy my business.

Some of the little info I previously shared. See the link

https://www.nairaland.com/6825530/body-count-almost-destroyed-me

----

GIRL # 4 The Adorable Ogbaje Girl

I saw the red flag in her when she was afraid to touch a crucifix (cross). During our first time together, she told me the floor of my apartment was burning her feet. She had to suspend her legs.

I went to look for her one day, she was not at home. I was later taken to where she was, and saw she was among a group of women worshipping water spirits

She was a heavy marine girl who is afraid of church and she only goes to mermaid worship service.

I instantly fled from her.

Right now, she is mentally sick (madness) on the street. I guess she did something wrong against a Godly person or break marine rules.

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GIRL #5 The Run Away Girl

She was sleeping with every guy, in fact, she was giving out free sex.

She has the ability to see the spiritual dimension of a person .

She started fleeing anytime she sees me. I became aware that she was seeing spirit all around me. I later discovered that, she was f'cking every guui she met on the street.

I pleaded with her to tell me what she sees around me. I was spiritually blind and ignorant but yet I was forced to look around me and wondered if spirit were following me.

She gave free sex to my friend and even tried to confess to my friend what she spiritually sees around me and why she was not willing to go near me.

----

GIRL #6 : Miss Hot Temper.

I called her; the dancing bear. She loves to dance when she hears any Nigerian songs.

She was an opposite of my person-el

I met her untouched by any man as an 18 year old virgin girl.

She was the only girl I dated and have spiritual peace in my life. I prospered financially while dating her because she was spiritually clean.

As long as she remain with me I was prospering.

She was physically clean.
She was spiritually clean.

The devils couldn't not used her body to attack my life and business.

She asked many times why I was dating only her when I could have many ?

I told her, the devils and troubles is out there, waiting for me to come out of you.

I was content with her but I was also tired of her hot temper.

I was not able to communicate peacefuly with her because of her hot temper.

She would have turn me into mike tyson, but to save my sanity I had to painfully let her go.

It was painful.

In frustration, I venture into new relationship with the

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GIRL #7: The Marine Girl

This marine girl was also sent from the water kingdom to take me to the grave before my time.

She was physically very beautiful but spiritually deadly human devil.

She is a killer and a destroyer

She has one of the deadliest kind of demonic powers that she can kill men just by kissing them. Her vagina was a deadly weapon to suck dry the finance of a person. Marine queens can use their vagina to project sickness and disease to a person.

Check the link below for full story

https://www.nairaland.com/6891474/marine-girl-dated

FINALS WORDS

I got fed up and decide, its best I find out why the continous circles of evil marine possessed women will keep coming into my life year upon year.

When I found out, I stop dating.

God warn me twice in 2013 and 2017 to avoid women and embrace a life of celibacy

The marine and witch-craft powers tried many times to sex me in my sleep which they didnt succeed.

The battles later became physical

Since the devils has no more open doors to destroy me, they started using the bodies of all nigeria women to wage war against me for many years

I am now hating Nigeria women

They have poison my loving heart.

The end
PoliticsRe: Atiku: The North Is Bleeding because we have been complacent by ayobams(m): 8:25pm On Dec 14, 2021
I share this sentiment. Of course, the reality is that asking their political elites to give this a thought would test their will. His Excellency Atiku Abubakar would not share this sentiment.


iLoveYouToo:
North should be barred from presidential ticket for 20 years for failing to alleviate poverty in the region despite being the holders for so long
CelebritiesRe: I’ll Never Regret Loving You – Tonto Dikeh Pens Emotional Note by ayobams(m): 8:04am On Dec 02, 2021
Foreverdope:
Nigerian actress and philanthropist, Tonto Dikeh has said that she doesn’t regret giving her love, even though it wasn’t reciprocated.

The Nollywood star, in an Instagram post, stressed that she doesn’t regret her decision to love with all her heart because love always comes back in another form.


Self-esteem is really a high currency that can't be bought... This lady is in a deep state of depression. She has things but is empty.
According to the mother-of-one, she would never stop giving her love fully, because even though she doesn’t get it back, she would be equipped with more lessons to grow and move on.

Her post comes after a scandalous breakup from lover, Prince Kpokpogri.

In her words; 

https://www.instagram.com/p/CW8UEjDoreU/?utm_medium=copy_link
RomanceRe: I Toasted A Girl And She Sent This To Me! by ayobams(m): 8:01am On Dec 02, 2021
GuyWise:
Nna mehnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn


I acted as a poor nigga and she wanted to get me off of her back by sending this list to me.

She doesn't know I am a young millionaire.
Is she starting prostitution ?
CelebritiesRe: PHOTOS: Nigerian Model Candy Video Dancing In Naked In Transparent Cloth (video) by ayobams(m): 3:33pm On Oct 30, 2021
are you sure that's you? Some work or art.
FamilyRe: My Wife Left Me Because I Lost My Job. by ayobams(m): 11:03am On Sep 16, 2021
God bless you for this. Please don't get bitter. If you have five kids with an unemployed wife, it is a big challenge. Sometimes you might just have to do something radical. Don't rest on only looking for a white collar job if chances are becoming dim. Get a sales job in commission and work like your life depends on it because it does.
Losing a job should now be the new normal. We are in the midst of a shrinking economy and the likelihood of job loss is a reality. If she is not whoring around praise God for that. Her family would soon asking her to bring something to the table. Temptations are rife and just be a man and do something. I pray for you to find your feet. Oya, go do something and stop whining in this space.

quote author=Richy4 post=105852574]
If you were not at home when she left, Traditionally, you have to go and ask her why she left... This is just to fulfill all righteousness.. Do it without wasting time.. if she said she wasn't coming back, thank them and leave..do not beg her... Don't make her do what was against her wish...

Take the three kids to your family if U can't look after them.. look for a job with determination, Try your best to take care of your children.. please also remember the ones she took with her... They are also your kids...

Forget about anything on skirts at the moment and focus on finding a job.. if she wants to come back in future and u will allow it okay, if not, just stay focused in training your kids....

[/quote]
RomanceRe: Careers Of Men That Turn You Off As A Lady? by ayobams(m): 7:18pm On Sep 14, 2021
Iyaebe:
lol.Can you marry a banker as wife?
sure. your values are interesting
RomanceRe: Careers Of Men That Turn You Off As A Lady? by ayobams(m): 7:10pm On Sep 14, 2021
Job turnoff is a show of ingratitude. Women looking for who to fleece and weak men to devour. I smile when a lady says a banker turns them off.... He should give you the money to the vault to show his unflinching love ...? Wake up lady. Does their money turn you off too?
FamilyRe: Help,my Ex Is Threatening To Send My Nudes To My Father In Law! by ayobams(m): 4:43pm On Feb 28, 2018
You might consider opening a " go fund me" account.
CelebritiesRe: Toke Makinwa Advises Women To Stop Fighting Over Men, Fans React by ayobams(m): 8:40pm On Jun 14, 2017
Men have known to conquer the jungle. The real thing is that marriage is not largely prescriptive as mostly touted. The main solution lies in tolerance and understanding. The first duty of love is to listen. We don't listen most times.
PoliticsRe: Buhari: Looters Recruited Niger-Delta Militants Against Us by ayobams(m): 7:19pm On Sep 23, 2016
aylagos:
No one can question facts going by the poeple comments here I concluded that Nigerians especially youth can not think right. Fact
I am scared we have not learnt anything as young ones. We blame this government because of our tribal differences and offer subjective contributions to national discourse. The Nigerian youth is no doubt a corrupt, damaged and damned generation that need help to think like other youths in other continents of the world.
Music/RadioRe: The Top 20 Biggest And Most Popular Songs In Nigeria 2015 by ayobams(m): 7:44pm On Dec 20, 2015
I was wondering who did that compilation without including Tekno's "Duro". That song is a banger.
Foreign AffairsRe: Content Removed by ayobams(m): 9:23pm On Jul 24, 2015
That says it all. Time and chance.
Music BusinessRe: SOLD OUT Numark Mixtrack Pro. iii Dj Controller by ayobams(m): 11:34am On Jul 09, 2015
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PoliticsRe: Okonjo-iweala Responds To Oshiomhole, Says Article Full Of Gaping Holes by ayobams(m): 4:26pm On May 28, 2015
No doubt there is communication gap and disenchantment from both parties. I believe that the most logical thing for both parties is to give us accurate details of how these monies were paid. It is unfortunate that Okonjo is being harassed up and down but I guess its because of her role as the coordinating minister. I enjoin her to be calm and make a detailed presentation so that another governor will not come up with more allegations. In the interim she might need to be around to clear some grey areas.
PoliticsRe: What Do You See About Nigeria by ayobams(op): 11:01am On Jan 27, 2015
ayobams:
Dear friends,
I want you all on this platform to close your eyes right now. I want those eyes to remain shut for the next 20 seconds and I want you to think about this. Think about what it would be when Nigeria becomes a first world country. Think about what it would be if the streets were just like those of New York, Dubai and London. Think about this.
Open your eyes...welcome to a new beginning. What do you see? What do you envision about this great nation...Nigeria? Good governance, vibrant economy, strong and resources human resources, abundance of opportunities and an egalitarian society? This can happen right now in Nigeria if you and I become involved in these forthcoming elections.
About four years ago, Nigerians decided that they wanted to move forward. We came out in our millions to reiterate this commitment to choose a government, a system which will deliver fresh air and a new way of doing things. So far so good the journey has been eventful. There have been highs and lows, successes and challenges, victories and failures but most importantly there has been an awakening. This awakening is the fact that you and I matter; you and I are stakeholders; you and I are patriots that this nation desperately needs. You and I will determine if this nation called the Federal Republic of Nigeria will become one of the top 20 nations in the world as she so desires.
The time has come once again to make a choice. The time has come once again to decide the direction we want to explore. Fellow citizens, the time has come to make a choice of where we want to be and who we want to take us there. Our duty is to go all out and make the choice through our voices and our votes. Believe me your votes matter. You and I in this room can make a difference if we exercise our civic rights and duties which are to vote and be voted for.
Why should I care or vote you might ask? Voting is a legitimate process of selection. Fellow citizens, compatriots voting have been adopted even amongst us in a bid to have a leadership. Voting is right and is your right. Your voting in this forthcoming election is paramount for the growth and development of this nation.
Your votes count. Your vote is your voice. Your vote is a strong voice and you must make this voice heard by casting your vote. If you want to improve your situation today I believe strongly that voting in this forthcoming election can make it happen. Make your vote count.
Be patriotic to this call of a New Nigeria. A patriot is one who sees the nation above self. The whole is greater than the sum of the whole parts put together. Nigeria is greater than and neither does it belong to a region, a people or any individual. Nigeria is for us all and the need to protect and defend her cannot be overemphasized. Even though a government might not be patriotic but the people must be patriotic. A government is a passing phase but the people are called Nigeria. They will outlive governments and regimes.
Vote wisely because this is also your prerogative. Your duty as well as mine is to make sure that we exercise our civic rights. This is the time to set the tone for a new direction. What role or part will you play to make Nigeria safe again? Stand up, Stand out, do the right thing and lastly make your vote count.

It is not about the party or the individual but it is about the nation. Nigeria is not only an enclave of PDP Or APC
PoliticsWhat Do You See About Nigeria by ayobams(op): 8:03pm On Jan 25, 2015
Dear friends,
I want you all on this platform to close your eyes right now. I want those eyes to remain shut for the next 20 seconds and I want you to think about this. Think about what it would be when Nigeria becomes a first world country. Think about what it would be if the streets were just like those of New York, Dubai and London. Think about this.
Open your eyes...welcome to a new beginning. What do you see? What do you envision about this great nation...Nigeria? Good governance, vibrant economy, strong and resources human resources, abundance of opportunities and an egalitarian society? This can happen right now in Nigeria if you and I become involved in these forthcoming elections.
About four years ago, Nigerians decided that they wanted to move forward. We came out in our millions to reiterate this commitment to choose a government, a system which will deliver fresh air and a new way of doing things. So far so good the journey has been eventful. There have been highs and lows, successes and challenges, victories and failures but most importantly there has been an awakening. This awakening is the fact that you and I matter; you and I are stakeholders; you and I are patriots that this nation desperately needs. You and I will determine if this nation called the Federal Republic of Nigeria will become one of the top 20 nations in the world as she so desires.
The time has come once again to make a choice. The time has come once again to decide the direction we want to explore. Fellow citizens, the time has come to make a choice of where we want to be and who we want to take us there. Our duty is to go all out and make the choice through our voices and our votes. Believe me your votes matter. You and I in this room can make a difference if we exercise our civic rights and duties which are to vote and be voted for.
Why should I care or vote you might ask? Voting is a legitimate process of selection. Fellow citizens, compatriots voting have been adopted even amongst us in a bid to have a leadership. Voting is right and is your right. Your voting in this forthcoming election is paramount for the growth and development of this nation.
Your votes count. Your vote is your voice. Your vote is a strong voice and you must make this voice heard by casting your vote. If you want to improve your situation today I believe strongly that voting in this forthcoming election can make it happen. Make your vote count.
Be patriotic to this call of a New Nigeria. A patriot is one who sees the nation above self. The whole is greater than the sum of the whole parts put together. Nigeria is greater than and neither does it belong to a region, a people or any individual. Nigeria is for us all and the need to protect and defend her cannot be overemphasized. Even though a government might not be patriotic but the people must be patriotic. A government is a passing phase but the people are called Nigeria. They will outlive governments and regimes.
Vote wisely because this is also your prerogative. Your duty as well as mine is to make sure that we exercise our civic rights. This is the time to set the tone for a new direction. What role or part will you play to make Nigeria safe again? Stand up, Stand out, do the right thing and lastly make your vote count.
BusinessRe: How To Quit Your Day Job And Work For Yourself. by ayobams(m): 8:13am On Nov 12, 2014
This is a good piece and great advise for us would be entrepreneurs. Sometimes your side business might not be making much because you've not been giving it time. Very few businesses will flourish without attention to say the least.
I believe that the most important thing is to continue improving your competencies and also increase your client base. For salary earners it could be very risky doing something else because of bosses and nosy colleagues. However if you know you have stuff in you and yet are scared because you don't want to do the time,then that would be more risky. Great piece once again. I really got fired up.
BusinessIts Customers Not Jobs by ayobams(op): 4:45pm On Sep 15, 2013
I just ordered for this lovely book by Charles Handy "The Age of The Unreason" from konga.com. I heard about this book some years back from one of my mentors Mr. Dapo Adelegan the C.E.O of the Celtron Group and an integrated communications and public relations expert as well as the initiator of the first ever Lekki Sun Splash. That was about seven years ago while I was studying for my post graduate degree in Educational Policy and Planning at The University of Ibadan, Nigeria. I asked my elder brother who currently lives in America to avail me of a copy then but couldn't remember what actually happened. I eventually didn't get a copy. Immediately I got an ATM card to one of my accounts, I went online to make a purchase on some of the numerous sites but got my order declined because the card was issued in Nigeria. Let's say that most sites didn't want to ship to Nigeria, so I dropped the idea. The best I could do was to read excerpts and comments of those who had read the book.I would be receiving my order in 5 days from now and you know what? I would be paying upon delivery and at a discount! What could be better than this?The interesting thing about this whole thing was that I read the book before I actually read the book...of course from the lessons and experiences of Mr. Dapo Adelegan shared in the seminar and also from further discussions we had as a result of our mentor-mentee relationship.

This speech continues to inspire me and I would love to share some of my experiences with you too.Please follow me. Charles Handy is a Harvard Professor of Economics. he stated that amongst other things that life in the 21st century belongs to the unreasonable people, "people who can re-invent the wheel". People who can go against the norm to the realm of self awareness and actualization and you will agree with me mostly in the areas of technological innovation and commerce.My main focus is in the relation of my topic to the realities of today's businesses.It is not enough to have a job. It is not enough to have a product. It is equally not enough to set up an enterprise and fold your arms.A business without patronage will surely die naturally.The first time I attempted to purchase on the internet in 2007, I couldn't do so because almost every site on the internet rejected a Nigerian card or were practically unwilling to ship to Nigeria. Today konga.com has given us the option of payment upon delivery. Nowadays my wife orders from jumia.com even little things like blender and kiddies shoes.I can now imagine how much businesses and deals that would have been consummated by these internet stores because of their rigid business policies. Of course on the downside Nigerians are known for internet fraud but are also not the only country known with that vice. if you doubt me you can Google it up. It took 6 years to achieve this feat by konga.com. Now konga.com is playing on the same field with Amazon.com. Its customers and not jobs that matters.Let me share some points with you:

1.No matter how great your business or ideas sound,if you don't have customers asking for orders you might just be selling to yourself alone.The question you need to ask is this." Am I satisfying my needs or the needs of my customers?. For some of us,we get so passionate about our businesses that the only person that can understand our businesses is us.Clarity matters. KNOW WHAT YOUR CUSTOMERS WANT AND GIVE IT TO THEM.

2.While you are working for yourself or somebody else know that your customers is your gateway to success. Customers are the heart of every business.You will definitely needs skills learnt in your career,parents and personal experiences to achieve this. Why? Because customers will buy from the emotional,financial and psychological points of need.Identifying and sustaining your changing customers' needs will most likely keep you in business.

3.You will work more,spend less on yourself but spend more on things and people.Most rich people in the Nigerian term i.e.people working in oil firms banks,telecommunications,serial entrepreneurs,government contractors work long hours everyday. They acquire choice cars,wonderful mansions,private jets but spend less time enjoying them. Their hangers-on enjoy these things more than the providers because they have so much time on their hands as they cater for these rich people. I pay N5,000.00 a month for my satellite TV subscription by DSTV but I spend less than 2 hours in front of the television daily.I need to go out to make money so that I can afford to subscribe for the service next month. Guess who enjoys the rest hours? Not my wife of course. She works too as hard as I do. In fact we pay so much for nannies for our two little children than we pay for feeding them. This takes me to my next point.

4.Your skills and the ability to use them will keep you employed.Look at the case of working couples who have children.There are so many day care centers,dry cleaning outfits today in Nigeria than there were 10 years ago. The rise in the working population and couples have given birth to the growth and expansion of these services.The dynamics of our population is an indication that there will be emerging business opportunities for the unreasonable people.

5.Your skills will find you out.There so many skilled and enterprising graduates in Nigeria roaming about and waiting for the opportunity to be a part of the shrinking workforce in Nigeria.This is a recipe for disaster.Today you hear that about 10,000 people applying for 50 job slots in an establishment.Because of this employers have come up with ridiculous screening processes and job requirements.Employers have also used this opportunity to underpay and over work staff and this is not only a Nigerian phenomenon.Employees work around the clock and there is little or no time for recreation. In some cases,employees are ready to monetize their recreation for additional pay just to be able to absorb the ever expanding bills.Since the crash of the stock market and glut in the real estate,investments in these two areas have significantly reduced.Banks have not been spared too as they are constantly shrinking in size and workforce these days.

However following the principle of the S curve as explained by Charles Handy, it is only logical to conclude that a lot of employees would definitely have to change jobs throughout their work lives. This means that constantly updating your skills and using them to solve other peoples needs will most likely guarantee you a paycheck at the end of the month.This is the time to look deep and discover what you are passionate about,learn more about them and use them to empower others. This is what we do at Rosewindow Consulting.(www.rosewindowconsulting.com). According to Napoleon Hill, you can get almost all you want if you can help others get theirs.
Finally,this is a wake up call for us in the 21st century. I have not met Charles Handy personally and he has not given me the brief to help advertise his book, I believe "Take Charge of Your Time, Take Charge of Your Time" my eBook was drawn from the inspiration of my encounter with Mr. Dapo Adelegan and his short story and life lessons drawn from the book.These books however can help change your perspectives in the 21st century.It is not enough to wait for pension or gratuity.It is not enough to slave for overtime allowances.It is not enough to wait for pay rise but to take charge of your situation by constantly building yourself. I once read that the only antidote to staying employed or employable is the ability to be productive. Think about this. I see you on top of your riches.

Kolawole Kehinde is the Principal Consultant at Rosewindow Consulting and currently lives in Abuja. He can be reached on kola@rosewindowconsulting.com for speaking events and seminars on personal development, time management and marketing business services in the 21st century.You can read some of his articles on www.rosewindowconsulting.com
BusinessWhat Would You Do With One Million Naira by ayobams(op):
To some of us staying in Abuja, answering this kind of question will be ridiculous because this amount of money would probably be for feeding or securing a year rent for a three bedroom apartment in one of the satelite towns in Abuja....anyways that is if you are lucky or a savvy negotiator. The Nigerian Naira has lost so much value these days with the official exchange rate hovering around N155.26 as at today (see naij.com) to $1 United States of America Dollar! These are really hard times for savings accounts holders. The essence of this write up is not to look at our glasses as half-empty but to start to see them as half-full. One Million Naira is still a lot of money today. It can get you a moderately used Tokunbo car, or could give you a low key court and traditional marriage ( possibly with no papparazi and band to make the event remarkable). One Million Naira could start you a barbing and hairdressing saloon in one of the cornershops in Gwarimpa, Lugbe and well in some crammed spaces in Wuse 2 or Garki environs. One million Naira will probably start up a extra mural class business while begging for some space in a cash strapped secondary school facilities. You can be tempted to say One Million Naira would succesfully launch a 4 Kiosk based recharge card business strategically located in a surburb of Abuja city while removing costs like company registration, taxes and constant visits of AEPB or other agencies that disturb any unwaranted entrepreneurial businesses and services.

I doubt if One million Naira will succesfully launch a Brazilian and Peruvian Weave-On business if you are selling original products from the boots of your cars and already working as an employee with an already established network of friends, collaegues and customers. Lest I forget, One Million Naira will start a low level rental business comprising of plastic chairs,tables,cooling drums and locally made canopies. It will also get you some crates of plates,covers for tables and chairs but obviously without a delivery truck. So if you had One Million Naira what would you do with it? If you fixed a sum of N1,000,000.00 in a bank for a year you could be say around N45,000.00 richer by the end of the year. At least your money will have increased. You could also lose the whole sum if your business is not well thought out. In this case putting the money in the bank will be the logical thing to do.If you decide to be a loan shark you could get up to 20% on your funds in 6 months but the down side is that your debtor might default and you will be back to zero. What a tough call.[quote][/quote]For about 80% of Nigerian workers saving that much after paying rent, school fees and settling hangers-on not to talk of other bills and commitments will take divine saving skills and no doubt a lot of deprivation.This is not because we are spendthrifts, or we are constantly catching up with new technologies and upgrading our smartphones but just because the Nigerian Naira continues to lose value everyday, no thanks to increasing oil theft and the over expanding expenditures of the government. Today an average Nigerian is his own provider of shelter,water,health care services and transportation services. Now tell me how you can raise One Million Naira before you start thinking of how to spend it. For this reason, a lot of us live in perpetual fear and worry and this is so common amongst those who work in highly volatile work environments and industries. Constantly, skills are becoming outdated or irrelevant while new ones are sought after. It takes constant self development even to become employable or productive. But do you know that you do not need One Million Naira to dream up an idea? You do not need One Million Naira to be positive about life. You do not need One Million Naira to decide that you will succeed. All you need is yourself and the convinction that with or without One Million Naira sitting in your bank account you will succeed whether you live in Abuja or in Damaturu. Without One Million Naira, you can do much and can be much more.

We live in a knowledge driven world where information carefully articulated can bring you fortune.Blogs are springing up everyday on lifestyles,technological advancement, networking and even gossips. These days gossips bloggers seem to sell more than some business bloggers. My Silicon Valley Naija boys are constantly developing softwares, websites, apps and much more. This is truely a world ruled by ideas and not money.I am a living testimony. Most of us wont have a million naira to start a business but we must start anyways. Network, develop a business plan and set realistic timelines for their achievement. Ideas are free and they become realities if followed passionately. I dont have N1,000,000.00 right now but I am going on anyways. Now tell me what will you do with a Million Naira. Feel free to comment.

Kolawole Kehinde is the Principal Consultant at Rosewindow Consulting and currently lives in Abuja. www.rosewindowconsulting.com
Career10 Ways To Stay Positive By A Nairalander by ayobams(op): 1:51pm On Sep 01, 2013
Hello Nairalanders. Hope you are having a great weekend? The truth is that we are what we think about....almost all of the time. I just wrote a little piece and would love to crave your indulgence by asking you to spare some of your precious time to take a look at it. It is titled "10 Ways To Stay Positive". Happy Reading.

We are what we think about. If we think about failure,chances are that there is every likelihood that we might become so and really this is something that should bother you. There is a saying that as a man thinks so he becomes. This further tells us that our thoughts really matter and go a long way to determine our attitudes and actions. With so much negativity going on around us these days, it is easy to develop negative thoughts about ourselves or the situations and circumstances that surround us.
Even though your current performance at work shows that you are likely on your way out,it is important to always see the bright side of life in every situation we tend to find ourselves in. I have outlined 10 ways to stay positive when in a period of depression and I will explain them briefly.

1. Be Grateful About Living: Gratitude determines your altitude in life.Some of us do not see anything good in ourselves, the circumstances that surround them or even in others. Everything is just wrong about everything for them and the people around them. You need to be grateful and wear a smile always no matter how bad your situation might seem to be. Be grateful for the air that you breathe,the job you have,your family, your organization and your country. Be grateful for your successes and your also your challenges. Learn to say "thank you" anytime someone does something or says something nice to you. Appreciate what you have and other things will follow. You will be thankful to know that a lot of people want to be like you or are looking up to you for strength and direction. Show them the light by just being grateful.

2. Believe In Your Abilities: We live in an era where our performances and our personalities can be adequately measured and recognized. The 21st Century is the greatest century because of so many wonders man has created to appraise his or her self. You need to believe in your abilities and focus less on what people or the system say about you. That you cannot perform in a field or on a job does not necessarily mean you cannot and will not excel at another job. Learn how to identify and utilize your strengths and dwell less on your weaknesses. Identify where your strengths lie in and follow them with great passion. You just have to discover where your best can be appreciated and go for it.

3. Groom Yourself: There is a popular saying that the way you dress is they way that you will be addressed. Always keep an appealing appearance. Wear a smile always and put on fitting clothes too. It is unbelievable what these two actions can do to our self esteem.No matter how good you are at your place of work a clustered and disorganized desk won't speak good of you. Make your house look clean, your car neat, your hair well trimmed or beautifully done and eliminate all kinds of body odors. You never have a second chance to create a first impression, so enure that you make yourself presentable at all times.

4. Enhance Your Skills: The seventh habit of highly effective people according to Steve Covey of blessed memory is to sharpen your saw. This simply means taking time to recharge and train yourself. You simply need to improve on yourself at all times. Take some extra lessons where you are lacking so as to improve on yourself. Enhanced skills can get you the raise you have been expecting since or could just qualify you for your the available spot in your organization.It could even get you noticed for your long desired promotion. You can enjoy top notch training sessions in customer services,sales,leadership and time management at www.rosewindowconsulting.com. Wherever you are just make sure you decide on how to enhance your skills or learn new ones.

5. Socialize: You cannot be a hermit and survive in this era where the world has become an entire global village. Business and relationships can be strengthened using social media and if you don't want to visit a local club in your neighborhood just sign up with one online. The benefits of socializing is that you get to meet new people who do not only want to know you but are also genuinely interested in you. Also, this is an opportunity to share your views and possibly inspire somebody.

6. Appreciate Others: A Lot of us go on in life with so much pain in our hearts just because we do not appreciate the people we meet in our journey of life. It is a big deal for some people to say "thank you" or "can you please spare me some of your time?". Even a statement like "what do you think about this situation?" shows that you appreciate the other persons' opinion. These statements show how much you care about their opinions and respect their feelings. The statements are great ice breakers in getting people involved in what you do.

7. Be Supportive: This is a step further from appreciating people. Learn how to support those who need your help or assistance. The support you render will in turn bring an appreciative response. Remember that when you appreciate others and go further in supporting their dreams it will give you a sense of purpose and direction and will no doubt help you stay positive about life knowing that your help counts too.

8. Network: Networking in this senses means to try to meet and talk to people who may be useful to you in your work. No matter how good you are in sales or in whatever you do,it is important that you link up to some connections that can expand your horizon or business. Business clubs and speaking clubs like Toastmasters International which I happen to belong to are nice gatherings to improve your business outlook. Take up leadership roles or specific functions that you desire to keep you prepared and informed.

9. Collaborate Don't Compete: The only person to compete with is yourself. This might sound odd but that is the truth.Most of us think our competitors are our colleagues at work, the company providing your kind of service etc, failing to realize that we should always strive to be better than our previous selves. A Yoruba proverb says the sky is too big enough for birds to fly without colliding with each other. This is profound. Instead of competing, why don't you check your unique selling point (USP for short) and look for ways to collaborate and enhance your offerings. The truth of the matter is that your product won't appeal to everybody and you must not kill yourself on that. When you benchmark your performances with your contemporaries it might be dangerous in the sense that you will be relying on their creativity and not us. The best you can be will definitely be second best.You can change your strategy of competition by collaborating instead. Instead of competing with your colleagues at work why don't you reach an understanding to explore each others strengths.In the clime where I work where individuals are set individual targets and are sent to the same field to get sales you might be tempted to go the mile all alone.It wont be long till you reach your peak and start to decline. Unless it is necessary learn to collaborate and compete.

10. Believe In The Supernatural: This is not a religious article but it is important to know that there are higher powers that direct human affairs. After all when we sleep we become unconscious and oblivious of what happens around us. We are helpless at this point of our lives. When we wake up to another brand new day,it is an assurance that we are moving closer to our dreams and this calls for us appreciate ourselves and stay positive about life.

It pays to stay positive. Being positive expands our chances of success and no doubt can improve our self esteem.I see you on top of your riches.

Kolawole Kehinde is the Principal Consultant at Rosewindow Consulting and currently lives in Abuja. He can be reached on kola@rosewindowconsulting.com, kolayore@yahoo.com and 2348055159014 for speaking events and seminars on personal development, time management and marketing business services in the 21st century. Check out more articles at www.rosewindowconsulting.com

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