salford1:

Congratulations.
You just answered your own questions.

As long as African countries lack good leadership, begging for aids from organizations such as the WHO would not end. Nigerian Senators, HORs, governors etc would rather enrich themselves than help less privileged Nigerians. Same as alot of other African countries with corrupt leadership.

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To be honest, I can't even be bothered if Trump gets re-elected in November. It actually favours me as I work in the Energy industry in Canada. Trump loves the energy industry, and he has speedily approved our pipeline that carries oil from Alberta all the way to Texas. It's a win for MY Canadian economy . However, not much benefit is Trump's win for poor and shyte hole countries..Goodluck to Nigeria and Africa.

When a Nigerian calls another man's economy 'MY' , then it's sure that many things are just wrong with Nigeria.

Lord what did Africans do wrong to get these crops of leaders?

We need to learn to IGNORE some people.. When they talk/write, just click the ignore button!

Else this thread will enter the next page.

Kenplay:

Its their natural hormonal build up. The feelings of pity and brings out her mother nature side of her which makes her to place you as a friend or child. Whoever she puts in those bracket cant make her wet or exhibit sexual feelings.

Confidence, Intelligence, Competition and Security are the feelings you can involke in a woman that makes her feel sexual attraction to you. This feelings makes her to secrete hormones that are sexual inunded.
So that brings out the saying “Women cannot feel Pity and Sexual attraction for same man".

Interesting point here

LordKO:
Vulnerability is one of the true tests of compatibility and, by extension, sign of a mutually healthy relationship. If you have a woman in your life who cannot stand firmly for you/treat you respectfully after seeing you in your vulnerable state, then she is not worth your closeness and love and its benefits.

That's all!

crackland:

All of that happened ONLY because of your bad decisions and the wrong kind of company you kept, it wasn't due to the style of discipline you were given by your dad.

If you had been involved in more profitable things like hanging out with the brightest students who spent their time studying and sitting at the front of the lecture hall, or perhaps you joined a religious Christian group and made friends from there, you would not have had anyone to drink, smoke, party, or do drugs with.

Your mom who wasn't strict, why didn't her relaxed disciplinary style have any effect on you?

Learn to have some personal responsibility for your choices.

I didn't even know you already said what I wanted to say. Thank you jàre. She should take responsibility for her bad choices instead of blaming her father who was even trying to impart good culture and behaviour on her, if even her not-strict mother couldn't stop her from making wrong choices.

FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..

Please don't use your dad's strict behavior to justify your wayward character in school. We all have the temptation to go and 'taste' the sweet life. To have drinking sessions, sleep around, attend wild parties, smoke weed, and test all sort of terrible (sweet life) things. But when 'SOME' remember the homes they come from and the kind of training they received from home, they would run far from those things. You aren't part of that 'some', and that's fine, but it's not because of your dad, nope, IT WAS YOUR DECISION . so don't pass the blame your dad. OWN YOUR FAULT. If you had done something terrible during those period that destroyed your life, you won't have your dad to blame but yourself.

That's how parents of today in the name of being liberal are raising unruly and undisciplined children who cannot take responsibility but can make so much trouble as mess and expect others to clean up for them. Nonsense abeg

KingSatan:



Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

Best summary of an entitled woman

Ybaby:


I am seeing a pattern that it is men whose mothers feed/fed thier fathers that think like this.

Poster Is your mum single cos you may have to wife her.

1 Timothy 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his own, and
But if any man have not care of his own, and especially of those of his house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Inasmuch as you are trying to buttress your point. Ma'am, apply the passage rightly. 1tim 5 from verse 3 was making reference to widows, and verse 8 is referring to anyone (both male and female) who can't take care of their widowed

Ybaby:


In a family setting the husband provides he protects - locks the doors at night, spiritual head, kids school fees, shelter, discipline etc

the wife nurtures basically she she does everything else - family health, ego stroking, storytime, PTA, Home cleaniness, Kids to school, Gifts for Teachers, Arranging holiday time, Nourishment etc

For the kids
She teaches affection and pampering - he teaches affection and courage
They both teach self esteem but it is more of his responsibility to let his kids know the child of who they are
They both do homework but it is her responsibility to teach and guide the child in the path of moral
They both teach business but it is more of Daddy's role
etc





Any job! some jobs are more feminine but she can do any job as long as she is able to perform the above duties for her family

I run a software company and code really well - we have a staff of about 30 programmers
I run an importation company and own 5 ecommerce websites that are doing quite well
Also a media company that is doing ok but could be better
Both companies are over 6 years and though my husband gave me capital - he does not ask me for money and he never will. Na man him be.



My husband is not required to do chores in the house at all. If he wants to - all well and good but he is a very busy man with plenty on his shoulder- because of him other men have a salary to feed their family.

I have helps that do chores and I coordinate. I cook dinner every night too and make sure we have a meal together Oga, myself and the children. We talk about our day and give support. Crack jokes - watch TV or play monopoly.
He also gives one weekend a month for family recreation and a vacation every year - all funded by him but organised by moi



Once a boss slapped by ass, I slapped him and my husband later locked him up. No one messes with the Queen.

I also never say no to seexx in 19 years. I respect my husband as in truly adore and respect him not audio type. He is a one of a kind man and he in turn adores me even more - I am the queen

Hope this answers your question

Nice... You answered the questions that your previous posts brought up.

tunmiluabi:


Glorious! Thanks. In my marriage I was the one deprived of affection and everything that comes with being married. I never for once looked else where and never discussed with anyone except now on this forum. I have always known that my condition was not permanent. I and believed that I was going rewrite my own story. All I wanted was a go at an opportunity and for her to stand by me and which never came. But when it finally came, the deed has been done. Forgiveness is grace, I have done that already. I swear I have nothing against her. To be honest, she doesn't even know that I have a job. She only knows I am not dead. She has called to let me know that I should work hard to help raise my kid. I am sure she is surprised, I send money to her account on a monthly basis for our kid's upkeep. There is no need for me to brag to her about my current status. If she finally knows, it will great for her. I believe the greatest gift in life is not just knowledge or wisdom but grace to believe, believe, and believe again. At the moment, I have not taken a decision on what next line of action is but what I do know is that she is not in any of the my plans. At the moment I am concentrating on re-certifications that I have not done in years. I will update you guy as LIFE gives me more "feedbacks".

I just had to quote this again, cos it pains me how much people change when they think they have the upper hand and when they think they are better than others... Especially when talking to a spouse...

seanwilliam:
Mehn, for the first time this year, I cry .. omo....I learn 15 lessons from this
1. Never have girl friend at tender age
2. Never have girlfriend while you are struggling
3. Dont be too generous
4. Dont live beyond your means
5. A man should be strong emotionally
6. Never date a single mother
7. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back
8. Have multiple source of income
9. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you
10. Your condition is the not the worst
11.you yourself is the most important thing, family comes second
12. Dont invest in business you dont know the "ins" and " out"..
13.learn a skill no matter what
14. Dont trust people easily
15. Prayer works....
And lastly
16. Suicide is never the solution to one's problem

I really learn much ...God would make a way for all of us.. this really got my hearts
Your breakthrough is near Tankunland

Had to save these lessons somewhere to remind myself of them too

....and this piece was written by a woman! Wow..
bukatyne How long did it take you before you realised all these though?

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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I think you should leave him PLEASE. Rather than waste your time and his time giving him false hope that you will love him on whatever circumstance he is in, because if you continue with him, all you will end up doing is comparing him and wishing you could have chosen differently. You'll frustrate the man and frustrate yourself. Leave him please.

He needs a woman that will love him for who he is, assist him in saving his money and help him build a life and a home, and not a woman who's instead eating his seed.

Nomanlike:
Good morning Nairalanders..

There's this gal I want to break up with. She has always been kind to me and we loved us. But the thing is I'm a graduate who's trying to put his life in order and I don't think I can afford anything called concrete relationship right now.

She's in 200 level and you all know how these students girlfriends can be especially when we are not assisting them financially.

At first I thought it was a fling until she got serious. I want to remain focused and not have any gal emotionally attached to me. I want to break up with her but the thing is she loves me so much (I know cos she let me read chats of niggas asking her out, picks every call if we are together and speaks with freedom and she tells niggas I'm the main guy)

She might not understand if I tell her the reason for break up is I want to stay fully focused and not think about my gal taking dick etc..
Brothers how best can I break this news to her ??!

That's how we guys let go treasures at hand in search for unknown riches.
You have a lady who has decided to stick with you in the face of toasting, and even when you aren't stable. Her being in school is an opportunity for you to find your feet. She doesn't have to be a distraction, on the contrary he's supposed to be a strong motivation to be solid and fully independent by the time she's done with school.

Guy be wise o. If that lady is loyal, remain in that relationship and work hard.

CokeBar:
Share your experience with us if you have ever been fired. It would be better if we can share:

1. Why we were fired?
2. How did the firing process happen?
3. Aftermath of being fired… how did you feel, have you recovered, did you get something better?

So, I’ll start:

Sometimes last year, I got an unbelievable offer (well above #750k) at a remote company. I bought a PC, subscribed for large data and set-up a workspace...... .
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I have experienced other sad situations, but this has to be the worst. I was so depressed, the following Sunday, I went to Church and it was while Pastor asked us to greet our neighbor, I remembered I didn’t brush… LMAO.

Now, I got something with abit lesser pay but still very chilled

Please, if you don't mind me asking, what are your skills set sir?

festacman:
- In the middle of DIFFICULTY, lies OPPORTUNITIES.
- Adversity is mother of invention.
- When you are out of your comfort zone, you think on your feet to survive.

Trust Nigerians to take advantage. Over to our pharmacists, pharmacologists, herbalists, etc. And of course with NAFDAC scrutinizing closely before the rush for quick money would drive them to give us poisons as medicines.

That's my fear o

NextD18:
I hate to say this but I have to.

As a woman, if you have zero tolerance for a cheating man, you'll hardly cope or have a successful marriage.

Trust me; this is the bitter truth.

99.583% of women who their marriage has lasted successfully, once tolerated and forgave their husband for being unfaithful.

Please stop supporting bad behaviour. Cheating is wrong on all levels. I'm sure you won't say this if your wife is cheating on you.

Never ever go into a relationship thinking you are going to change the person. It's either you can accept the person's flaws from the get go or you find someone else.

Slimdada:
In as much as you decide who you want to be your friend and talk to,but When you care for someone more than they deserve, you get hurt more than you deserve." I don’t like forced conversations, forced friendships, forced interactions. I simply do not force things. If we do not vibe, we don’t vibe
No matter how much money u make
Loneliness can be boring,

I need a girl I will call my own,somebody that I will call
And she will pick up and tell me
Hey papi I'm home alone
Where Re u?
hurry up and come back home���‍♀️

Sigh... You just spoke my mind in its entirety

Kalashnikov102:



Ah swear bro..when person dey suffer the world no complain say you too suffer but when grace picket your call and dey show off! Dem be hating..am inspired joor!!

Inspired to to do what exactly?
Enter politics for your stomach sake?
Steal and loot the treasury of your country or organization to fund a wasteful lifestyle?
Take money meant for millions of people and convert into your own?
Act rascally and unruly just to ensure your share of loot isn't stopped?

Please what really are you inspired to do??

jiggaz:
I am not setting date for the rapture, no!!

I believe this decade ( 2020 - 2029) is the last decade for the Church!!

1) John 2:1 - Spiritually-speaking we are living in the third day. The Bible says that a thousand years with the Lord is as one day.
It is now more than 2000 years since Jesus’ death at the cross.
Day 1 is year 0 - 999. Day 2 is 1000 - 1999. Day 3 is 2000 - 2999.

“The third day, there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there.” (John‬ ‭2:1‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

We have gone past 2000 years. The majority of Theologians believe that Christ Jesus resurrected between AD 33 - AD 37... So with this, we have gone past 2000 years.. We are actually in the early morning of the 3rd day and Christ resurrected on the early morning of the 3rd day. So Christ is going to resurrect us which is the Rapture.. Hallelujah!!

2) Agenda 2030 is around the corner and its all over the news..

3)One World Government, Sustainable Development Goals for the Planet by 2030...

4) The unveiling of the first Android man by late 2030's - early 2040's...


Believers in Christ, the Rapture is sooooo near than ever!! Rejoice for our Savior is coming for us!!

Happy New Year... I am so excited for the future!!

You people have come again with your false prediction.. Many times it's been predicted in the past, and yet Christ didn't come. It's not you to predict when Christ will come, your only job is to prepare for his coming which will be sudden and WITHOUT notice

freedomest:
"Will a young lady who has a son become a mother in-law in future? YES. But why will that same young lady wish her mother in-law were dead?
Why do ladies prefer a guy whose mother is dead? That is satanic!

The ladies that wish so, also wish that they die before their own sons get married.

Kennedyiheme:
I don't know about you but I'm not interested at all... lol i see nothing in for me, there's no point, we don't live in 1960 anymore where women had high moral values, an average woman these days have a body count of over 500...

Here's a study that says younger men aren't interested in marriage
https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/young-men-giving-up-on-marriage-women-arent-women-anymore

Not in Nigeria/Africa. Our laws are still very fair on men, so why won't men here want to get married?