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WinningSun:
I love you write up.

firstly I wouldn't dwell on the issues assuming the are set standard.

throughout the world women still look at marriage as a success step that needed to be attain.

men should be groomed to accept responsibility and be allowed to grow so as to attain financial stability before getting into marriage.

Will being financial stable also mean the ability to take up all financial constraints in the marriage?

If you love her indeed, I'm sure you will want to protect her even from her ex. Call her and tell her you are sorry. If she doesn't pick, text her with an "I'm sorry, let's talk". Sometimes as a guy, you just have to soft pedal, and address the issue from another angle. Begun softly with her, and slowly, softly explain to her why you felt betrayed..

All this can happen only if you trust her though, and if she truly isn't cheating on you with her ex..

One tiny misunderstanding should not cripple your relationship of three years abeg

henry007:
If it involves gaming for more than 2 hours, Camon X would last longer. If your activities include browsing, social media, movies/music, then Infinix Hot 6, the margin is not going to be much. They're both long lasting.

Alright. Thank you

Please between the infinix hot 6 pro and the tecno camon x, which has better battery life?

Please between the infinix hot 6 pro and the tecno camon x, which has better battery life?

LordKO:
The issue with the both of you remains conceitedness (no insult intended), as I'd earlier pointed out - a domineering man vs a presumptuous woman.

I still insist that until you as a man eschew domineeringness both in words and actions, and she eschew presumptuousness both in words and actions too, balance can never occur.

When you embrace this change as a man and become a libertarian, you'll automatically start to be conscientious in relating with her. And this will earn you her respect - so long as she embraced her own change too. As a leader, there's no how you'll command the respect (not fear) of a sane woman (person) without her according you the right of "judgment call" - even at that, being her leader won't mean you should discard her opinion where it's superior to yours. So, ask yourself; why is it that you don't command her maximum volitional respect? I don't want to believe that you're putting up with an insane woman all this while. . . no sane man will do.

As per your comparison of marriage of the yore and the present generation, unless you're not ready to tell yourself truth, the difference is in the power of emancipation. Only a domineering man will antagonize women emancipation.

Hmm.
Please sir, are you married?

You need to see the massive number of abandoned projects in the areas bordering Ogun and Lagos. In fact, how do you know you've entered Ogun state? BAD ROADS AND UNCOMPLETED BRIDGES.

Just Visit Agbado-oja, Berger (Ogun), Oke-aro, Lambe....

Prognose:
How old are u? I'm guessing 24 or less. Probably your first real boyfriend? Hit or miss?

You're not ready for this relationship. If you're not comfortable with this guy then let him go. Don't let him or anyone else bamboozle you into doing what you don't want to do. When you're ready for a committed relationship with the right guy you will know.

P. S just because a guy is well behaved or promising you marriage doesn't mean he is the one for you. You left him as a friend for 4 years before taking an interest in him. It's obvious you don't like him like that.

End Of Discussion.
After 4 years? Obviously you never liked him "that way", so there's no need being in a relationship with him in the first place, talk less of cohabiting with him. Double WAHALA

As an unmarried person in a relationship, there are a lot of things I've learnt having gone through this thread.. Hmm..

freshvine:
When a woman accept to marry a man, she's expected to value his position as the head of the family. Men has been raised as the Head of the home at least that's what the learnt from their respective household. You see, if a wife did anything in marital union against the knowledge of the husband it's understood by him as pure insubordination and lack of respect.

In this case, your aunt was using the husband as disposable income provider while her own money is being saved for capital venture. Your aunt husband spends a good fortune of his income servicing his responsibility while she hardly contributes but all of a sudden is now trying to go into capital project that's is supposedly not in his name. So the husband devised a means to manipulate her to spend her own stake on the family while he curtail and save for his own future project.

Their problem is TRUST ISSUES.

Your aunt believe that her money is hers to spend while the husband's money is for the family upkeep. If only she will carry the husband along and make him the chief PILOT in her house building project, then sanity will return.

What a response! .. Thank you.

I think the glaring answer to you is, you need to be separated from that woman .. It might not necessarily be a divorce, so you can't ever sleep with another woman (THAT WILL BE ADULTERY) .
Just work out the modalities as to when you'll be seeing your kids, and how you'll pay for their upkeep, and the period they will come over for visits or to stay.. But for your sanity and health sake, stay away from that woman. You've made the mistake, so lead with the consequences. God bless and help you.

EgunMogaji:
OP, it's perfectly normal.

Just carry your cross. Buy her flowers, wash her panties before she asks you to. Anytime she barks at you, make sure you don't make eye contact, reduce your height, look down sheepishly and profusely apologize. Do this especially if she's in the wrong. But deep inside you know she can't possibly be wrong. You are the one that didn't anticipate what a woman goes through. It's your fault. All of it.

Make sure you fill up the gas tank in her car on Fridays when she goes out with "friends". Of course, you must have detailed it beforehand.

You can ask your Imam/Pastor/Ifa Priest to intervene in case the above is not enough.

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I hope this answer pacifies my collared male fans from the other thread as well as the feminist agitators from the same thread.

You forgot to add.. When she calls you, you reply "yes Mistress", with a bowed head still.

The guys are talking as though they haven't been in love before.. The pain is knife deep piercing.. Bro I feel your pain, I really do.. But like everyone has rightly said, you need to find a way to move on and pursue your dreams.. I hope you'll be able to love a woman again as much as you did this girl. I really hope so. Some women can make you so numb to love, it will almost ruin you emotionally.

Eko and golden morn