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Well done Sullele.

Forgiveness shouldn't be an act of favour, though. We are commanded to forgive anyone who offend us, regardless of the occassion ir number of times.

Vardy really looking jealous, bad belle people dey everywhere...

Nigeria is a lost cause

Tbadbad:
Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

Any your reaction is ...drinking and smoking?

Well, your reaction is prophetic. She will lead you to a life of regret and destruction if not properly handled. All she will bring will be regret, harm, pain and shame. Be wise!


If at all you ever decided to continue the relationship (which is not advisable), do make sure you get her to undergo a deliverance in a bible beliving PENTICOSTAL church... ask for reputable one around you or contact me for it.
Deliverance are free, anyone who ask you to pay or buy anything except olive oil for your own use is a fake or a commercial preacher.

Best wishes!

How much does a cow cost there?

ak22:
Forget about femi Adeshina I was paid 408,678 on 12 of this December for Covid-19 household survival loan .

I have folks this would be a great hope to, could you be kind enough to tell if the process is still ongoing? Plus any available details.. Thank u.

Andyblaze:
I am giving out loan of 600 million to nairalanders

I need 400 million loan.
How can I get in contact?

Good boy, May GOd bless his efforts.
However, I hope that's not the house they are living in?
If that's the case, he should be getting them a house instead of a car

EmmBim:
Thanks so much Sir,I got it , God bless you and yours.

Cheers!
Amen

EmmBim:
wow,thanks

Last 4 digits... then flash me, please.

EmmBim:
thanks

U're welcome.
If you are using Mtn network, quote me with the last 4 digits of your number and flash the number in my signature. Just 1k card for u.

EmmBim:
Ilupeju,Lagos

Sorry, I'm darned so faraway.

EmmBim:
Pounded yam with Egusi soup, chicken in my area is 4500K to 5500 k ,I went to abbatoir this morning to get beef with assorted , I cant come and kill myself because of a day celebration.

Where are you based?
Maybe I can send one of yu at living near.

chrisifeanyi:
I expected FG to pay tertiary institutions staff before this Christmas but that never happened. I'm going to have a very bad Christmas. Circumstances made me hing my hope on that and is gonna be terrible.

Cheers up, bruh.
Maybe you should get a quick short loan for the period?
Just seeing this year out alone is worth celebrating no matter the circumstances.

YOUNGELDER1:
20~25k depends on the route

Thank you, bruh.

Please, how much are youexpecting as weekly return if you put it out on hire-purchase?

onecrate:
If you have the spirit of contentment, you don't know what God has done for you

Godliness and contentment is great gain. A priceless possession.

Successdude:
BabaCommander come see something

Sorry for your loss bro. Fortunately for you, it's a small sum.

Ajog1 is a cursed low life scoundrel. He tried to scam me the other day an failed. He has other monikers here, one of them is zenifa.

He thinks it will all end here on nairaland, but he's so wrong. He's going meet a miserable future, and a calamitous end. No doubt aboutit.

internationalman:
There was a man they gave 150k to admit that he had Covid-19 in Benin...

The man said that the amount allocated by federal government was 500k per treatment of one positive case(person)

The doctor let him in on the secrete and gave him 150k while the doctor and some other background people shared the remaining 350k..

That was how the man kept supplying the hospital with fake cases until the wave died Down sometime September..

I pity people who keep suffocating thselves with nose mask..

Did you joined them?
Please, let's know when the next application form is out. I have someone I would recommend here on nairaland.

My boy got this in his pocket already. Jehovah has done it. He's the #ReasonsForJoy.

fizyalasdair:
This guy zanifa brought the known scammer Simplify80 to escrow a webmoney deal, I can't say he is a scammer but be careful

Simplify80 supplied this account for payment

8109281893
Charles Amagon
Ecobank

Zanifa's Number - 09042676105
Simplify80's Number - 09020611926

cc Tabbaz Funlord

They are the same person.

zanifa:
That's so bad of u. I told u how the guy contacted me when i was looking for escrow and immediately u told me about him, i removed him from the group and even asked u to help us get a legit escrow, and i was even thankful to u for helping us not to fall into scam and u still came here to say this? I wonder what u people gain in trying so hard to spoil someone's name. It is well.

Guy in the name of God, look for something better to do in life. You and zanifa are the same person.
You contacted me and said you are Ajog1 with +234 708 642 2518 whatsapp no. The bank acct you sent me 1
8109281893
Charles Amagon
Ecobank

When I checked the number, and saw it shows as scam, I decided to waste your time telling you to send another acct no you sent.
Kuda bank.
2001863725
Same name..
When you realised I playing around, you chatted me on whatsapp as another person with +234 904 267 6105. I asked you to qoute me on nairalandm and you qouted me with zanifa moniker.

Dude, you are a petty scammer. The earliar you look for something SUSTAINABLE to do, the better you life would have a meaning.

Needs a small Paypal to complete checkout. $30 -40..

Carmartng:
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SUVs and price?

pansophist:
Before choosing to be in a committed relationship with my partner, I made two resolutions to myself how I'll handle situations if things goes south. I will never loose peace because of a partner. I didn't tell her the resolution I made. its just within me. So there you go.

1. At the very least, the only thing I need from a woman is kids, sex, and companionship. If she bear my kids and stop living up to her other duty as a partner, and refused to make it up, that is the end. I'm out. I refuse to fulfil my duties if she refuse to live up to hers.

2. A separated family is better than a toxic one. Its better for the kids to experience love with each parents separately, than to experience toxicity in a loveless home together. My kids will still have the best provisions from a father, and my supporting ascendants can take of them if need be.


The problem I see with you is that you are not in charge. You lack the willpower to accept your new reality, adapt, and cut off your presence, support, and allow her to actually go deep the rabbit hole she wants to go into. Be cold as ice. Your love and service should be absent, that is becomes clear you changed too. When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. You are a man in the sense that if you look after yourself well, with resources to complement, you can still get another woman far younger and beautiful than her, and that will be her karma. A woman will give you her loyalty when she knows too well that she is replaceable instantly with far quality woman than her.

In matters of love, and in the face of those lovey-dovey act, the foundation should be bedrocked on logic, pragmatism, and damage control. Dont let those emotions and display of affection fool you, your eyes must be sharp on the ball. And if she change, you change as well. Chances are, she can do all these because she is assured of your support no matter how ridiculous her behaviors. She knows the password to your loyalty, which is that you can't leave her for the sake of your kids. Yes, what's keeping you miserable.

How about your parents taking care of your kids if you do not have the time? You need to accept that modern women are totally different from the fairy tales men are bombarded with through media. Times have changed. And to navigate smoothly in this new terrain, you must update your mindset to fit with the 21st century women, understand how they think and play accordingly.

You are the one that is making yourself miserable. She has made up her mind to not uphold the integrity of your family, and you should adapt to this new reality, not wishing on the return of past glory. Accept it with grace as a man and move on. A relationship worth fighting for is one where both people are willing to make it work, not just you. In every relationship, the one that needs the other the least has all the power, and you must make it clear that she is not only replaceable, but disposable if she mess up. Free yourself, its in your hands.

Your understanding is striking, and your counsel in worth heeding. However, it lacks a bit of honour and godliness.

A mixture of pragmatism and godliness is the sure antidote to a world of betrayal.

Unfortunately for the op, these things takes time to learn, understand, and accept.

He's a good and honourable man, obviously. But being good and honourable alone makes one a prey in a jungle full of hungry saba-tooth predators.

I speak as a God fearing Apostle of the Lord Jesus Christ.

I'm also a young man with a young family, and have pastored and counseled many. It's hard for people to understand you can be very godly and pragmatic.

Shalom!

MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Please, connecton WhatsApp.

Ducan Mighty is the latest to raise DNA issues about his daughter. While we can certainly not trust anyone, it's important to be sure you know what you are talking about especially when kids are involved.

The public should be wary in commenting on allegations because, you know human errors.
A mental brakedown?
Some could just be out for revenge?
Errors from labs?
Chimeraism?

Please, read with an open mind.

People that have two different sets of DNA are called human chimeras.

It can happen when a woman is pregnant with fraternal twins and one embryo dies very early on. The other embryo can "absorb" its twin's cells.

It can also happen after a bone marrow transplant, and (in a smaller scale) during normal pregnancy.

Human chimeras aren't the result of futuristic genetic tinkering. They can occur naturally, and some people don't even know that they've doubled up on DNA.

In 2015, a man from Washington took a cheek swab paternity test that said he was technically his son's uncle, not his father. Further testing revealed that the man had different DNA in his saliva and his sperm. Genetic experts believed he was a human chimera, and he had absorbed some of his DNA from a fraternal twin's embryo, BuzzFeed reported.

A woman named Karen Keegan wound up in a similar situation. Tests said she wasn't the biological mother of her children, but it turned out that the DNA in her blood was different than the DNA in her ovaries. Doctors said her extra DNA most likely came from a fraternal twin — and in 2002 her story became a report in the New England Journal of Medicine.

Since twin loss occurs in an estimated 21 to 30% of multiple-fetus pregnancies, it's possible that many people are chimeras, but may never find out. One genetic expert told BuzzFeed that deliberately testing for chimerism is very difficult, and that there's no real need to do those tests in healthy people.

Please, read more from the source for a better understanding.

https://www.insider.com/what-is-a-human-chimera-and-how-does-it-happen-2017-11

Cc
Lalasticlala

chris72:
I don't know why lampard keep benching giroud and playing an inexperienced Tammy?
Someone should please explain it to me

It's because Lampard is the coach and he watches them every day during training...

SkyRicks:
If It will help me maintain the right frame of mind and stop desiring why not. Though I will still visit pharmacy later tonight to know if there is any drugs reducing desires for sex

You could be suffering from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so drugs could actually help. However, Anti depressants should not be taken on self medication basis.

The dude who advised you go to a pharmacy has good reason, but it would be better if you would go to the hospital for proper diagnosis and treatment.
Above all, cry to God for help and He will set you free.
If you need more counsel and prayers, connect on WhatsApp. It's absolutely free.

sonnie10:
This year alone, from capital gain in stocks ($ buying Covid shorts) , I fit fence my whole village.

Bros can you tutor us, please?

nengibo:
Who can speak for Igbos apart from those who were elected by majority of Igbos

The Governors are elected by their respective states, not the mijority of Igbos. Truth is that IPOB have more more 'majority of Igbos support ' than Umahi. Still IPOB has no right to detect to any Igbo man.

No one in Igbo land can arrogate to himself the right to speak for the Igbo people.

Every Igbo man has the right to speak for himself and decide his Destiny so are every group for themselves.

Igbos have no higher power other than the Almighty God Himself.