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Isn't it better to just cut it off?

War only bring pains.

Oyel moni

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The Janjavveed President won't find this funny.

The vindictive Presidency is coming for this man. Just watch and see. Sad to see, but that's yhe reality of the time we are in.

So Nairaland censored JaNjjaweed to read supporters of APC? Unbelievable!

I hope this is not another sales copy

Richy4:
The marriage counsellors that I know always try to rebuilt... they try every means possible to reunite until they ran out of options... It seems yours own type of counselling is different... that was why I asked the harmless question... I never even knew that u were even a counsellor or maybe I was mistaken that it could be A local government councillor...because they all sound the same ...

It's good that your concern is reconcilliation. That indeed is the goal of counselling.

But counselling is not all about please, take it easy, it's ok, just forget it"..... it's not all black and white. The are many ways to reconcile people, and you have to look for the best option to achieve lasting peace if it's possible. That's where the hard truth may neccessary.

There times to tell the hard truth. The man from what op posted appears to know he's being mean and unreasonable.

The threat of seperatio is a defensive move. He will neec to drop it to heal completely. That's why I said op should stay cool.

Don't get angry or bitter and you will be clear minded in taking good and firm decision.

I hope you really understand.

Richy4:
No vex ooo for this my harmless question... are u a member of Home Wreckers Association Nairaland Chapter (HWANC)?

What do you expect her to do?

The man from all indication is someone who needs some sticks to get his sense back. And only the wife can do that.

I'm 8 years in marriage with 3 kids, and acounsellor. Believe me, I'm reasoning and speaking from experience. The man know he's been caught and boxxed into a cornner.
His acts now are childish tantrum. He knows he is throwing it all away.

If the op could maintain her current mindset, then they will be good. The key here is not to get angry or bitter. Anger and bitterness will do more harm than good.

The are not breaking up, the man will come back to his sense. You can take this to the bank.

Amazingbaby:
I called my husband and actually blasted him calling him a very big liar and how embarrassed I am.on Monday I left for the hospital he called and we discussed some business and the kids(I was actually not angry again knowing that he is no different from any other guy,if you see how he use to condemn cheating ehh....) Only for my mum to call me around 12 in the afternoon to ask me questions,my husband actually called my mum after I confronted him about what the girl said to tell her he is DONE with me,that I don't give him peace in the house that this and that.in summary calling the girl actually triggered divorce because I am ready for anything.

For those that are doubting that I am a woman,abeg I am.

I followed some lovely people advice and I have actually achieved alot of things this week

1i paid for driving lessons (he literally have to drive me everywhere or I take Uber)
2 I have dusted out my certificate and is seriously looking for jobs(I have contacted alot of outsourcing firms)
3 signed up for gym classes.

In a way I lost myself trying to be a good wife and mother that I literally drove away alot of my friends.i had to stop talking with a good olfriend of mine because my husband was chatting with her behind my back for long (this is one of the reasons I don't trust him)

Lots of information...

So what and what should I do to upgrade myself I have not work for a long time.

Cococandy
Double0h7
Mariangle
Saintmary

Calling your mum shows you have got him where it hurts most, and I'm happy about that.

You have done admirably well, and if you stick with this mindset you have now, he will come begging in no time.

He called your mum because he is panicking. He knows he is about to lose a good woman, so his threat is a mere grandstanding.

Sister stict to your guns. Don't get angry or bitter...
You will come out a winner.

Simdyofficial:
I will buy those items and be waving it around any police post. Come and arrest me. Bastards

You think you are dealing with sane people?

Don't try prooving a point to a hungry and angry mad man, especially armed with a gun.

Looks like IPOB has been right about one thing..




Nigeria is a zoo..

Link to stream, please.

baralatie:

Valve cut naa

Ok, na to call heart vulkanizer

MadeINchenzen2:
I can categorically tell you that most death during sex is as a result of the HEART stopping... and a simple quick CPR can save the life of such victim.

Over sabi... why is the heart stopping.,? That's the question...

The tragic end of the ungodly.


But our folks are too careless for my liking.

Look at the foot of that army personel in the last picture and see what he is wearing.

How can a combatant put on such in active duty? It hampers you tacticaly, and exposes you to risk.

Where is her pishure?


OP, I ask again, where is the pishure of Osho's mama?

?......

MemoriesAndMe:
Do you mean $7k or N7k? No one can actually say if a certain amount is enough. I just know embassies look at how your income come into your account, just something to prove u won't have to rely on their governments for help when u arrive.

The saving is $7k. And an average of $1,300 as monthly earnings. I was thinking it would be better to get the savings to $10k, and an $3k per month earnings. That would certainly help to get by even in American standard.

Thanks for your time.

MemoriesAndMe:
Yes you can travel to any country as a visitor without having anyone there. However, the embassies look at you financial worth first. They do not want folks to end up as "public charge" in their countries.

So if you have proofs that you are doing well in Nigeria and have no reasons not to return to Nigeria, married with kids etc, they will consider giving you a visa versus a broke person with no money, no property, no family etc in Nigeria. They will just suspect such a person won't return to Nigeria if they grant him a visa.

I got 3 kids, youngest is 1yr 9mnts old.
Haves some cash of appros 7k savings and making an average of 1.3k monthly.

What's likely my chance? Going with the kids and the missus of course.

Savings and earnings are in $USD


Thanks in advance.

kenbee:
Hope it is for his Rehabilitation

Mummy g o say na hefaya you dey go

Putin na Noise maker.

cayorday89:
Oga demonic possession like how, the only issue I have with them is thier religious inclination which you are also towing with your instance of demonic possession, any other thing I am cool, it's just that I rarely have friends and that's because we were restricted from making friends and not as a result of the beating we even still make joke out of it just two days ago, when my mum was telling a younger couple not to beat their son, I just told her that it's her son beat him but not in an inappropriate way and she should not listen to my mum as I am a living witness of her severe beating.
And you won't want to see me being jovial with children, I don't beat them and I have countless numbers of them always coming to me as they see me as someone they are comfortable with.

I didn't say you are possessed.

I said things like these make people to develope bitterness in their heart. Your post comes off as someone who is still hurt till today. It's not a funny xprerience for you to remember.

I have seen a lot in my relatively young life and ministry that people usually do not unstand the root of their problem.

It's ok to call it religious nonsense, I perfectly understand. It all comes to understanding. No level emontional intelligence, or scientific/medical proccess can rival the Discernment that comes from the Holy Spirit.

I'm glad that you are ok. But their are many out there that cannot say they ok.

I think other people's comments here have shown that yours was not a total exception. I would still encourage you to consider the prayer route for any remaining challenge. It doesn't cost anything, but it produces a lot of result.

I wish you the best.

GboyegaD:
They were over protective and usually, it destroys things. Just try to do better as you have been doing. You can start living from today. I wish you the very best.

By the way, are you done with school now? If yes, are you working? If yes, find some good colleagues to walk with and learn to just do things normally and don't beat up yourself whenever you make mistakes.

It will be hard for him.

He's already bitter, and this is a partway for demonic possession. Except he let go of this hurt, it's really hard, if not impossible to get healing. I truly feel for him, and many in his shoes.

These folks were abused and suffered unjustly, but because they can't let go they are stuck in grief riptide while the abuser don't even have the faintest idea of the damaged they have done.

I pray he find true healing which Jesus Christ alone can give. He deserves to be free from the pains and the sadness it brings to his soul.

True words,

The Presidency.

2023 fever has started too early

GofuckYourself:
That is the same person who made the comment responding to himself

Oh! That's the tactice?

To think someone can wake in the morning and decided to be like you are is a sad reality of the depravity of some souls.

Take a look around you, look up to the sky, and then look at yourself. Ask yourself if this is all you will live for?

Your kind deserves to be pitied than being chastised long and loud. So I truly have pity for you. May your soul find redeemption.

Slurity:
I serve in this state for just a year with then the SSG in the government house and I realize this truth about how other Igbos treat an average Ebonyans as if the are enemies. In reality, any Ebonyi person that want to go with Biafra is not wise at all.

If you serve in the Govt house, where then did you notice the unfare treatment of Ebony people by other Igbos?

Some of you can lie for Africa sha. It's a pity we have your likes who have decided to sell their soul to the devil for petty considerations.

Ebony state people, like other Igbos are everywhere and see themselves as one.

Leadership in Nigeria is something else. Your Ebony state people are one of the most fanatical groups in Biafra agitation, but here you are playing to the gallary.

We understand that this is purely politcal, but you should at least have respect for your people even if you geniuely think they are fools.

Even as a Deltan who believes the agitators lacks vision, and tact, I can't make sure a statement categorically. There are other ways to sing to the tune of 'one Nigeria' without making a fool of yourself and your people.