From all indication and ur complain, you are d problem behind ur family failure.
Cos u already have a biased mindset over ur wife as ur so called spiritualist have advised.
I will put it to you that you are troublesome and you must have nagged this over to your wife and she's no longer pleased with you.
In life, u win or loose, what matters is life goes on. Stop blaming people over ur predicament otherwise it will boomerang and u will find it hard to heal.
Those who told u that your wife is the problem, how sure are you that is true? If your wife seeks spiritual advise and do same to u, would u like it?
You lost your job and blamed your wife, I pity your miopic mentality. As an employee of any establishment, is expected to be hired and fired. When you were hired who was d goodluck charm behind dt? now u are fired, ur wife is the witch behind dt, chaiiiiii men of no faith. I pity that woman u call your wife.
How dare you allow These fake men wanna end ur early marriage?
Most of these ur pastors sees nothing but to manipulate you to accepting what dey said.
Now for accepting what dey said, u now go about seeking fetish consultation. Next thing is to go for sacrifice.
So u forgot that most shrines today have been converted to churches? Chai, I weep for u as your marriage is Abt to end dts if it hasn't ended already.
I wish u well as ur spiritual fathers have helped u end it completely.
Weakling...
[ quote author=pikomamamusicwo post=118306594]Good pm niranlanders, how una dey?
I married very early, that Is five years ago, immediately i started working. Immediately we gave Birth to our first child, I was sacked from my place of work in a mysterious way. All our house equipment was sold, we left a comfortable apartment to a single room.
At a time, I was doing menial jobs just for us to feed. One day, in the process of seeking for solution to get my job back, I got to a church, and the pastor asked me to come with my wife, which I did, to my surprise, the pastor asked my wife, why are you afraid for your husband to have money? You are thinking if he makes money he will marry other women, he said pls pray for your husband to succeed, he is bigger than this.
And he asked my wife to come back for deliverance, but she refused.
Secondily, I went to another place, a spirituallist, and a female, she said I married wrongly, that the girl I was supposed to marry I missed it. She said I should come with my wife, and I did, she said my wife has another spirit, that she feels the marriage will not last...but till today, nothing I put hand dey work, most times we live together but never discuss together, we just live like strangers at home, and most time I regret getting married. I don't really know what to do now, I can't support my parents like before, they are not happy with me...
First you and ur so called Ugochi made a big mistake for meeting before her wedding. Secondly d product of d meeting has to be accepted if is confirm to be urs. Thirdly, note dt a child is better take care of by the mum until he can stand on his own to take decisions. So pls don't welcome him to ur new home, u can inform ur incoming wife Abt ur baby mama, is never a problem but if she sees it to be a problem, pls end d marriage nw before is too late. Cos such a woman can't welcome dt ur son into d family.
For Ugochi, u already said u don't love her anymore. Let her kw ds and move on.
I am 36years old. Many years ago after NYSC, I have no Juicy paying Job that can enable me to marry. I was in a relationship with Ugochi from when she was 20 until 28. Age was not on her side so I being a nobleman advised her to go ahead and marry one wealthy middle-aged man 41, that was asking for her hand in marriage.
The pressure to marry him was too much from her friends and family. I had no juicy Job, could barely eat, pay bills and have a chance to even drink and buy clothing.
I had to make sacrifices for her, so 5 days to her wedding, we agreed in unison to meet for farewell and farewell F@@k.With frustration and Heavy heart I ca..me deep inside her Four times. Gave her money for drugs (White quinine or postinor 2), she rejected it and promised to take care of it herself. I went to her wedding, eat, wished her well and left. Cried all night and moved on.
Her hubby took her to Abuja.
Now I have a good job. I am building my house and I have a car. I am extremely comfortable now.
I got a call earlier this year and it was Ugochi. She was desperate to see me. she travelled down to Lagos to see me. I wasn't comfortable so I talked her out of coming to my house. We met at an eatery and she came with one handsome little boy. I ordered Food for them and then my biggest fear came. She said her husband found out the baby is not his and sent her packing. She informed me the baby is mine.
I was shocked and I had to tell her I am squatting with someone, She and xxxxxxxx left for Imo State but before then, I denied and I argued, I went defensive.
The problem I have now is that I am planning my traditional wedding in August 2022 I have a presentable fiancee I love way too much.
Now, I can lie to the world but I can't lie to myself. That Little boy looks like me and has my pointed nose. Facially, it is glaring He is mine but I don't love Ugochi again, I have moved on. I love my fiancee so much.
Zzor: I only answered a simple question from op,where did you drop your sense before typing this?go back and look for your sense so you can type well next time.yen yen yen and where I come from women don't buy things for men
This trait seems to be common among some Nairaland men (with apologies to all the men here though) cos I never really experienced such attitude with men ive met offline. So don't know whether they have a nairaland men's association (not the red pillars or mgtow kinda thing though) where they agree to behave likesome. The way they reason sometimes just baffles me.
Ok. So, I met someone here as a friend and I wanted it to stay that way. Along the line, he wanted more than just friendship but I just kept dodging because I don't want any issues as he's a good friend (a born again) and I like our friendly chats and all that. So didn't want anything serious that could jeopardize that but he kept pressing on and stressing until I naturally began to feel relaxed (against my wish) you know how that constant checking on someone tends to make one want to compromise their Stance. So I sort of got trapped.
Now here's the issue. He would always want to know about my biz and job. If I went or not. So I decided to test him. He would always call and ask if I've eaten. So that day, I said no (was fasting) but didn't want to divulge it to him that I was fasting. He called later in the day and asked again, I said I've not eaten, he dropped. I now felt he prolly thought I wanted him to feed me huh??.. I observed he reduced his calls. Third day he called and asked again, I said no. And he said "na wa o" I was like why, he said I'm sorry I can't help. Huh?? I don't remember asking him so I decided to play along. He called in the evening, I still said I've not eaten ( cos I had not broken my fast then) and he said I'm sorry ( I was just laughing within). I asked him, for what? he said because he couldn't help. And since then he stopped calling only to chat after a week to ask if the biz I was pursuing was through. I ignored him and for two months no contact.
Just last night he chatted me up again asking if I've resumed work and I said yes. he then asked if he's free to call me bla bla. And since last night hes been trying to keep up chats but I'm kinda cold towards him and he asked why I'm so cold. Acting like nothing happened.
Now, this is what I feel. so if someone is truly dying of hunger (God forbid) you'll abandon the fellow? or that they can't date someone who's biz is shaky or has not resumed work due to a global crises that affected everyone? I'm not saying anybody should carry someone else's burden ( there was really no burden anywhere as God has been faithful.) but I don't understand what actually played out there and why he's all of a sudden interested again after learning I've resumed work. I don't just understand because I don't want to be rude. Was that a right thing?
I'm really confused here because.. I mean.. I never asked you to help me with anything but being there would have been enough. Calling and chatting would have helped me scale through the bordom I felt that period of compulsory break from work and biz but he went into Oblivion even when I never placed any demands on him.
I bow to men and the way they reason o.
You starved him effective communication because u refused stating ur reasons not eating for d day. Have u asked urself his past relationship and what happened if der was one? Ur interest was put him to test and u felt he failed? No, you failed cos u lost him.
Do u ever have idea of civil servant allowances in a month? Did u ask him? Do u ever kw abt his family background?
You just admitted u work with private sectors and him civil servant.
Financially u are better of in ds regards and u came up with i have nt eaten? My surprise is dt he asked u 3times, girl u denied him honest feedback. Dts very bad of u. That guy might not mean well but honestly he deserves an explanation. Is true love all about money? Is true love all abt flashy tins? Is true love all abt where u work or how much u earn? Ladies of ds our great country, is time to sit up and re strategize cos men des days have learned a lot from der past mistakes. So, if u feel u will play with a guy in dt manner, girl u will keep loosing dem cos dts a wrong approach to friendship. Let me ask u, do u ever think he's nt also starving all d period he asked u dos questions? Did u ever check on him as much as he did?
Use ur tongue and count ur teeth as I rest my case. @pocohantas, u are a broad reasonable personality. I kw dey won't listen to u even though u are same sex as she is.
joel911: I found this thread really helpful when I decided to apply for my 25% benefit with Stanbic IBTC so I have decided to post my own journey.
Kudos to the initiator of the thread.
I applied for my 25% having gathered the required documents and placed a formal application via email on 20th August 2020. I was paid in less than 2 weeks.
20th August: Application was placed and acknowledged by Stanbic IBTC. 25th August: My previous employer had responded and my application sent to PENCOM for approval. 28th August: PENCOM approved. The amount was debited from my RSA. (28th was a Friday) 1st September: Payment hit my account ledger balance. Six hours later, payment reflected in my available balance.
Stanbic IBTC truly knows what they are doing. I was able to monitor the entire process via the portal even though my application was sent to them via email. In all, it took 12 days including weekend to receive payment from the day I applied.
All these excessive motivational talks dey vex me I swear, deep down you know your governor controls the policy in your state, and order those barbaric security agents to shoot at protesters. I said y'all should be careful and don't get killed and you're here typing Bullock.
Dig ur grave and bury urself. Ur of no importance to ur generation.cow shit
Are you a fool? Who cares if buhari is a leader or not, you urchins won't think critically before commenting on Nairaland. So you're comfortable with the politicians sending hoodlums and security agents to kill protesters?
Ur weakling nature is nothing to write home about. Ur are a big disappointment in the youth kingdom. I wish u were not born. Would be better to replace u with weakest woman. Anu #endbadgovernment
Guy, I swear I no kw wetin I go tell u nw. First I wanna assume ur a low income earner or ur stingy,choose one.
Again u lied to this girl in her first date. Mehn,put urself in her shoe. U don't like sex and u lured her to sex twice on a first date. And she demanded u send her airtime,u declined. She expected u to keep in touch to build d affair, u declined She even visited u without u sending tp, is a sign she needs u. She came, u gave her 3k for? Transport or pocket money? And, ur first approach was promising her over what ever woman can fall so cheaply " I need a wife" ur sick in the head or ur not well oriented. Even at dt, she told u d truth that she has a boyfriend,u never respected d fact. Maybe in future if u don't control ds ur attitude,u will sleep wt another man's wife.
Believe me or not, dt girl is a potential wife. POTENTIAL,upto u to support and build her to what u want.
That girl must come from average home where der demand is akara money.
Chaiii, guy u mean. Na u suppose get ds qstn wey u dey ask d house. Check am nah, u no get conscience? When ur ready to marry, learn not to show d woman all d good side of u.show her more of d bad side,if she copes wt dt,den she can enjoy the union. If ur d type whose parents are based in d village,guy take her to ur Villa,let her see and feel ur family background, possibly assist ur parents for some days, den ur parents will help to advice u abt her.
This in all will determine if "ds" ur so called plan to wife will work or not.
Ur choice.
goodman41: I met her when she came for her IT at my place of work. One day I collected her number but I didn't call her till she finished her IT and went back to school.
One day I called to inform her that I will like us to go into a relationship which she accepted. I told her that l'm not looking for a girlfriend but a wife. I asked her if she has a boyfriend but she said yes but she will never marry the guy because there are some things she will consider in terms of marriage.
I called her to visit me but she was doing promise and fail. I told her that I'm not inviting her for sex that sex is nothing for me. She said okay, that I should send transport money, I tried using my phone to transfer 2k for her but it was not going, so I told her that it was not going she said I should go and use ATM but I told her that I don't have that time that she should borrow from her roommate and come or she should forget about coming until when I will be able to use my phone to do the transfer. So that evening she called that she will come the next day being Sunday that she borrowed money from her roommate.
When she came on Sunday I put movie for her and kept my self busy with my laptop, she started feeling sleepy which I told her to go and sleep on the bed which she went, after I was through with my laptop I asked her if I can join her she said yes, I now joined her in the bed before we knew it we started kissing and romancing each other and we had sex.
After the sex she said that but you told me you don't like sex I told her I like sex but I don't take it serious. She said okay I understand. I now took her out spent like 3k, the following morning I gave her 4k for her transport and she was happy.
After one week she called that I should send her airtime I told her that am not sending she said okay without being angry, when she visited for the second time she asked why did I refuse to send her card I told her that I don't like sending card to people she said okay. So am seeing her as people, i told her don't worry any time I feel like I will send to her, but she said if i send it that she will send it back to me.
I asked her about her boyfriend she said that she has ended the friendship but my mind is telling she is lying, she cleaned my house and cooked for me before going back to school that she doesn't want me to be eating outside, she asked me to give her money to do hair which I gave her 3k for both her transport and the hair, she said the money is small but she Will add her own so she collected it without any issue.
Am not the type that use to call every day but she asked me to be calling her every day to make our relationship grow stronger, she was telling me the other day that she will visit me one day without telling me to see if I have another girl.
Please is this girl really serious with this relationship or she just wants to use me?
Guy,guy,guy u get mental I swear down!! What!!! Ds office done well. See no end dt relationship yet, u have a lot to recover.do her back. Give her fake marriage proposal. Den take her to her village for marriage introduction, den all d hungry elders go come out wt her parents and siblings and den unveil all ds shits wey u write here before Dem. Den make a proper pronouncement dt IT IS OVER BETWEEN US Guy do ds and thank me later, I'm waiting.
ken711: I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.
From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.
She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.
Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......
She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)
I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....
Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.
The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...
The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........
Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...
Guy ur joking, u spent 60k to buy what? Phone she will use to call other side guys? U fall hand pass. And ur village spirit no let u see say u Don Bleep up o. Chai, men borrow wisdom. How much fone u buy for ur mum?
quoteor=Goddys post=89461453]I don't spend a dime on my gf unless I want to buy her a gift willingly. Last Xmas I bought a phone of 60k for her and haven't spent a dime on her from then till now.
She must have her own thing. How can men be paying bills of a woman in the name of relationship, not even marriage?
I want you to know that,this is not out of place. You are not alone on ds, is gonna be ok if u do take care of ur intakes and seek medical advice.
I have a friend who's own is quick ejaculation, im mediately he sees a girl sexy body,he cums. Once he takes a girl with him, in secs he's ejaculated. Too much anxiety contribute to his situation. He womanize a lot. He's never relaxed wen he meets a lady, he's already having d imaginary sex wt her, before u kw it, he cums without laying ✋ on her. Believe me,u kw how it feels wen u cum after sex ryt, u won't ERECT after a while even wen ur with a prostitute like u said.
So, pls check urself very well, there is nothing too big for God to correct. Like I said everything is gonna be ok.
Can u imagine u say 15 yrs is no yrs,even 2 yrs of marriage is not in?den refer back to dt list. Wht can u say abt 2face n annie
dasparrow:
Mercy Johnson does not qualify to be on that list. The thread says: celebrities whose marriage has stood the test of time. Mercy Johnson has been married for less than 2 years so her marriage is still young. Let's see if her husband will still have eyes for her 15 or more years down the line. As for Chioma chukwuka, her marriage is equally less than 15 years old so she has no business being on the list either.
Mr governor u should b ashamed of ursef.can u tell me hw many yrs UV spent on dt seat,yet u are here showing d public uncompleted project.shame on u.compare ursef wt any governor in Nigeria,no one is worse than u are.
geeez:How many views will we see of the same complex?
Making a complex more complex than it really is will make it more complex for you to convince us that the state government is working as its trying to fight off the complex of seeing governors that perform do so without making governance in their states complex
lawbabs: imagine this foolish Evans Bipi... who cannot even speak well, trying to impeach the governor at the command of Patience Jonathan. He even called her his Jesus Christ on earth @2:14. And some bigots will tell me that Goodluck and Patience Jonathan are not behind the whole fiasco in Rivers State...
ShyM-X: Apparently, the guy stomping the other man with a tool got shegged earlier when him and his colleagues were outnumbered by 3 to 5. He went for re-inforcement and came back with a bigger tool.
That's some brutal street war right there - naija law makers are gangsta, yo...
megainvest: Hello Spyder, I have decided not to be just a spectator on this wonderful thread. I want to also contribute to your success. I will be suggesting a few ways I think you can help your client save cash. With your experience, you can let me know if it makes sense. I strongly believe we spend too much on building construction in Nigeria.
My first suggestion has to do with blocks. Do you intend to use 9 inch blocks? If yes, do you think that you can save by adopting framed construction method (beams and columns) with 5inch blocks as cladding or at least for all internal walls? U can still use 9 inch on the external walls.
Family / Re: Married, But Living As Single by babakingsto(m): 7:15pm On Nov 11, 2022 
quote author=pikomamamusicwo post=118306594]Good pm niranlanders, how una dey? 