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Princess zoe: I must congratulate you on helping your son to enter into maturity age. At that age, you should send him to SU. If at the end of the day the relationship didn't last, do you think he wll abstain ?If you are a true christian, can you proudly tell your pastor or your committed house fellowship members that you are in support of your son's intimate relationship at that ungodly age? . By supporting your son in this, are you a just man? Being happy that your son has a girl friend at his age, do you consider yourself as an integrity man?. You must protect your children from the common worldly ideology. Don't follow the crowd to do what is unholy in the eyes of God and what will bring down the glory of your children in the nearest future.

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Thank you Princess Zoe for ur comments. Even though am a moslem but I can relate to most of the morality issues you raised up there. Thank u for that.
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However, let me speak as a parent and a liberal one at that............if I was a Christian, you want me to send him to SU classes at this point, then what have I been doing & watching all these years when he was growing up?.
I disagree because I have taught my son in the best way a father would want his son to grow, so I don't think anybody will want a better life for my son than me.
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You call 17yrs an ungodly age?
Please what is the godly age ma?
Let's say the body grows and matures at a certain age which is not fixed and differs for each and everyone.
If he is "chained & binded" just because he is still at an "ungodly age" don't u think that is why most children rebel against all your rules once they notice things can be done differently?
Please realise a 17 year old kid is a year short of accepted maturity age, so freedom to make his choices are handed over to him....he should make the best of choices from all we have injected into him so far.
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Yes....I am a man of integrity and I will support my son in this.
Would u prefer I stiffle his feelings and kill all that idea because he is still in the "ungodly age"?
I want to believe u may not have a grown up kid yet & might not really understand that at this age, they already have a mindset of their own?
Or if u do have an adolescent kid, then have you been so sure they keep to your rules & regulations while u are away?
Let us not treat our children with so much iron fist.....set them free let them fly on their own wings....with prayers & sound words of advice from time to time I believe they will find the best trees to perch on.

Pataki: Baba Oyo, leff the boy alone.

E je ki o lo-igba, ki igba ma lo oh! Omo olope, jaiye ori e joor!

But teach him about using strapping on kondoo for his kondo oh!

Or wait, maybe he already has one in his jacket, like him papa! Omo baba e!

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Eniyan Pataki.....you no serious....he cannot be like me o......he will surely try....omo ti ekun bi ni ekun Jo......but there will only be One Baba Oyo.....all others will only be Baba Oyo....2, 3, 4 till infinity....Looolllz.

OlowoTee: Congratulations, Sir.

Baby_123 has made some good points and so, others. And, if I could add up, I would suggest you have a date with your son. Yes, take him out (quite place) and have a heart-to-heart conversation on the subject matter with him. He is a young adult now, so it's time for real friendship between both of you. admonish him on benefits of delayed gratification etc. It not easy, but it is possible Shalom.

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Olowo Tee.....I did just that yesterday evening....I believe he is still in the clouds and it will take continuous discussions like this to get him to realise this phase is no child's play.
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Thanx for ur contribution!!!

modextus: How i wish my dad would behave like уσυ.if he over heard me on phone talking τ̲̅ȍ my gf..

1.Well op.(Sir) I'm only 18 oOo. started dating fully at age 16 . i had this girl I've loved even when i was barely 13 Λn∂ i started dating her 2years back (16) ...sir, your son ιѕ better than me нë'ѕ 17!

2.I only fear for him in dah heartbreak part cus...dah same girl just broke my heart some 5hours ago ..seriously...I'm just picking up my phone τ̲̅ȍ see this thread ... *just finished crying my eyeballs out*

MY ADVISE
Halt the relationship while уσυ can. Λn∂ try τ̲̅ȍ let him know why he shouldn't be into one for now..trust me уσυ wouldn't want him τ̲̅ȍ go through what I'm going through right now.

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Mr Modextus....life is unfair sometimes...I believe ur girl broke up with u over some silly reason!!
For u to cry so much I guess u really love her a lot.
Don't worry son, try to get her to tell u what u did wrong to deserve this heartbreak.....and make amends.....even if she doesn't take u back....u would have learnt from it and move on to be a better person.
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Not all relationship is destined to end well...most relationships are meant to teach u critical lessons in life....pick ur lessons & move on from there!!! U will be fine son!!!

Hmmm....as you all rightly said, its a critical milestone in a parents life to watch the kids grow into adulthood.
I have always envisaged this happening but my sub conscious always focused on the girls.
I definitely have picked a lot of ideas from this thread....which wl come in handy later this evening when I come back from work.
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By the way, this young dude woke up around 6am to wash two cars.......surprising as he had to be reminded most times to wash just one car. I expect a demand for this "service" rendered later in the day.
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Thanx all.......Keep u posted.

Roland17: This might be his first of many especially if he follows the footstep of his father oooooo

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Lollll ....believe me if he followed "his father's" footsteps, he will be an "S.U" at this stage.
Some of us started the "woman business" quite later than other boys.....but I guess late starters become champions in the long run....hmmm.....reminisce.!!!

greatgod2012: Baba oyo, baba oyo, baba oyo, how many times did i call you


This is the time to be closer and friendlier with the guy.
May God help you, hm and all of us. Amen.

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Points well noted. thanx madam .

baby_123: Baba Oyo, FOCUS!!! Now is the time to counsel him from experience. Talk to him about relationships, sex, protection and what you expect from him in school. He sounds like a really sweet boy, and has a 90% chance of getting heart broken. Also let him understand that you were not snooping but you heard his little talk between him and his sugar baby while going about your business. Make him understand that if he wants to provide for his fola and be the man he calls himself, he may have to get a job to purchase Fola's recharge card, give salary and other amala and gbegiri promises. Before he starts employing techniques to buy one textbook 3times or ways to provide for fola(hope you know all the tricks). Let him understand his younger ones are watching him, absolutely no pregnancy allowed until he has finished school and done very well, has a stable job and has empowered himself enough. Goodlucck

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W-O-R-D !!!!!!
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Appreciated.

Kayrich: .

Have u been banned recently by the MODs on Nairaland?
Something about people who use double usernames......they might not be sincere with their stories........just an observation.!!!
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Stick to one username Mr.Kayrich(9448)

slimyem: I don't think whatever you tell him now concerning that shorty will sink in neither will what Iya Oyo chooses to tell him either.Its his time. Let him live the bliss. He'll make his mistakes and he'll learn in time.
Just never stop watching him from the corner of your eye.

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Well....I pray they are not costly mistakes though.
I will surely let him keep his "Fola Mi" no doubt....but hopefully it doesn't affect his academics......it could be distracting even for some adults falling in love for the first time o!!!

stillwater: Lolllll! You are happy, I'm sure the girl's parents wouldn't. They would be like 'if I catch baba oyo junior here ehn'

Baba Oyo, he will survive as you survived your own.

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Hahahaha....I hope he survives the twist and turns to come.
You know....u just never can believe ur kids have all it takes to survive out in the real world....guess that's one of the major fears of parents.
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I guess his mum will do better justice talking to him than me.
As am beginning to think of "upgrading him" already....just like jidegirl talked about.
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Hmmm....will see what Iya Oyo has to say tomorrow when I tell her!!!

jidegirl12: Baba Oyo ..... congrats , one advice for you, keep your korororo eyes on that next promotion at your place of work, you need all extras you can get, e no easy to do fine boy oh he will need a phone upgrade too, you'll see .... 17years?? whoa grandpa in progress. Good job sir.

Singing
Eba mi pe fola mi ko mailo oh
Moti so wi pe faaji lawayi

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Madam Jide....yeye oba of Oyoland......its good to see things from the funny side of life......it keeps the soul young and the spirit alive. Many only see the dark side of every situation.
I try to see life with all the smile it represents.
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Grandpa bawo? Haaaaaa....I don't want to think along that line o.
This one wey una don dey wax album for my son already?
Just confused o....but really happy!!
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Omo eni I ba jo'ni.....a ba yo......eleyi ti Jo mi na.....Mo yo sese

denzel2009: Folami sounds like a boys name tho.

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Denzel Washington....Fola Mi is a pet name for a female bearing Folakemi I guess.....its not a one word but two separate words meaning "my Fola".

Acidosis: I am happy for you


No. 1 reason: that your son is not gay.

No.2:
cos you're the next grandfather in town

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oya ko mo le..ma jo loooo babyy..
mo ni ko ko mo le ma jo looo babyy..

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Did you read my mind?
Arghhhhh....you try....am most happy knowing he is not G-A-Y too....that's the basic reason why am so happy....guy, u try o!!!!

[b]My little boy of yester years turned 17 two months ago.
A good kid, tall, slender, good looking like me, not so athletic, averagely brilliant and very responsible and a role model for his younger ones.
I have just passed through his window this evening while trying to fix a burnt out security bulb when I heared him making a call to one "Fola mi".
I took time to listen to his conversation and I believe "Fola mi" just accepted to be his girlfriend tonight.
My worries started when my boy told "fola mi" that he promises to be a good man....imagine calling himself man....and that ANYTHING she needs, he will provide. He went ahead to say that from today henceforth, he will be responsible for "recharge cards" and that he hopes they get married immediately they finish University.
My boy just got into a pre-degree and he is talking marriage.
Am proud of his new "achievement" and really happy he has started his journey into manhood......BUT.....what happens when he gets heart broken? What happens when he can't make up with all the "amala & gbegiri" promises he has made tonight?
I got into the house, called him from his room, just to see his face.....lollllllzzz....my son was wearing a brand new shirt, with a nice shoe at 10pm.....he said he was only trying out the outfit he wants to wear tomorrow. Now he is asking me for a raise in his pocket money. I don't even know where to start from.....but am definitely giving him this night of bliss......he has since returned to his room and now playing some West Life song so loud his mum had to call him to turn it down.
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Do u have experience with teenage boys falling in love? Should I let his mum do the "drilling"? Should I increase his monthly wage? Just confused but definitely I AM HAPPY FOR HIM......my son now has a girlfriend!!!!![/b]

biolabee: Baba o... how far... how madam and family

we don miss u o

ekaabo si ile olora.. adun ni yi o gbeyin oooo

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Amin ooooo.
Thanx Biolabee

That's funny and stereotyping thoughts coming from your peeps o!
Imagine how cool and open they were with her until they discovered she is an Ijebu girl.
You went as far as "praying" over her and yet they still doubt?
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Do they know what other Naija tribes also think of Kogi people too?
I believe your peeps are educated people...let them act like one!!!
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If you love her enough and there are no other factors against ur union, then forget the stereotyping and get married.
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If you want to believe everything u hear about Naija tribes, then maybe going to Mali to marry will be ideal for you.
Fear not......Ijebu chics rock!!!
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Small time now one boy go say my pretty daughter na Oyo girl....say she loves Amala too much so no marriage....hehehe....thunder fire Devil

sexymoma: Baba Ibadan You go Wunjure o, Bacarnista is just a kid in this game na

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A kid you call him? Lolllllll.
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And you think "kids" of nowadays don't stay a game ahead?
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Hehehe....don't be too shocked when the kid turns the "game" around for you!!

greatgod2012: @baba oyo, how you dey?long time.

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Am so fine my dearest sister.
Being busy with work and family.
Thank you madam.

SniperInADiaper: Everyday except Sunday is gossip day.

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loooll .....what makes Sunday different ma? Women don't gossip on the sabatth day?
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I like ur user name.....mysteriously interesting!!!

MMotimo: Why do I think that sounds like you married a very good actress

Mmotimo......my thoughts too!!!!
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@Op...all people change not just the woman. But if you have a woman who has turned into BOSS after ur marriage then u need to take time out to settle before getting into things u might regret later on.
Work on her before child bearing o....don't just assume she will be less controlling after child birth o.
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Abo oro la a so fun omoluabi

barcanista: done that. i've sent my email and phone number

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Update us on your Barca and Sexy Madrid match when u done o.
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Hehehehehe

yellowpawpaw: u don't expect women(married)to come and start tellin u I belong to this group or that one.its too childish and a bit insulting too.(D first thing dat entered my mind when I saw this was to insult u) That's why u r gettin dis kind of response. Re organise it to look a bit matured and enticing.no offense pls.

What is insulting about the write-up?
Are you not aware such women exist in real life or what?

@Op...I like ur summary of the various characteristic of some married women these days.....nice eye opener for the bachelors!!!

Olorun o ni je ka gbe egun elegun o

I nominate this dude from family section.....JEFFIZY
www.nairaland.com/jeffizy

Awoof dey run belle, if something is too good to be through, then definitely it ain't true.
beware !!!

This is UNBELIEVABLY horrible.
And most people here will believe VIOLENCE is limited and restricted to men alone.
DAMN....VERY DISTURBING.

This kid needs serious help.
Imagine his first post ever on Nairaland. WTF?


Have You Read This? What Would You Do? by RedBenson: 9:51pm On May 16
As a guy-man and as a lady-woman, if u are given Mrs. P. Jona (1st lady) pussicat and Mr. Jona (presido) cork respectively to warm ur bed in a night, how would u manage it for the night?

Lols, u better dont think am naughty!

***waiting for responses***

ogboni76: Thanks for the advice,,

you are welcome

RedBenson: Omo heeh! Doctors dey enjoy o free of charge.

I wan follow enjoy. Imagine me playing wit commissioner's wife pusssy and be touching different pusssies everyday. E for make sense naw.

What a foolish conclusion from you Op.
The thread was getting lighted up with good experience till you typed this stinking reply.

Grow Up Kid.

baby_123: Baba Oyo, is that all? Been waiting for you to update the thread. . How was today? Still at the ranch?

Hahaha ......baby 123, na just weekend thing o.
Na money go keep person there o, so we have to come work for more money to go back there! !!

E be like say you gbadun romantic tinz abi?