chaircover:

Welcome back jare . . .we have missed you!

Thank you jare.

Will gift you with an update of "Oyo and Fola"
Surely you will. all be interested in how it all went!!!

Terrible behavior I must say. Read by thread, I met a man

Really wish people can reciprocate the love they get to others

Chillisauce: Nice one RR .

Babaoyo, next time write your name on your shirt o, maybe i might be the one the love will get to.

Lol. . madam, maybe you will get a hot plate of Amala and abula from me.
All in all.....I will "SPREAD THE LOVE"

chaircover:

Baba oyo oooooo Mama Oyo nko?

Maybe this incident is what God wants to use to bring you back to NL. You cannot be sitting on so much marital and parenting experience and not share it.
. . .so welcome back to Nairaland

I am really back for good o.


if for nothing but for him. just saw his name in the mod section up there.....hmmmm....I appreciate o.....Roy...you don't know the impact that you called little help did for me......am grateful young man.

yellowpawpaw: RR, I'm so much lving u!
Thanks for being the good samaritan.
Although I've already know since u r simply a good guy.

( Where r those sheripokos?, una no go dive him?)

I'm really touched.

@baba oyao, thanks for sharing.

He might not like this but my heart is too full to keep all this to myself.

em...em....as for the sheripkokos you mentioned , the man is quite striking in looks o. He said he is single....don't know if he is searching sha.....very woman friendly to the eyes


.LOL

chaircover: I always knew he had something within him. God bless you RR . . . You will surely reap what you sow . . .that I am sure of

Baba Oyo eku ojo meta o

Chaircover, my favourite nairalander been a long time o.
Hope the family is good?

He really wowed me, and help me thank him. Could have been stranded with Iya Oyo worried sick.

Believe me, a real good one as I had just enough to fly back without any extra to see me through.

I was just taken aback that he was willing to help even without asking.

And they say Naija's don't have a helping spirit?

Hi family landers, being a while o.
Have been junketting round naija looking for daily bread.
However, in my travels and trips, I meet a lot of people, the good the bad and the ugly.

I was in Anambra on Thursday for a little demand and supply business.
A lot of beautiful ladies and men abound in that part of the country.

A lot of business activities was going on that Thursday after the two days holiday. I was really happy to be among like minded men who shared real good business ideas and prospects as we waited at the over crowded bank lobby.

There was this young man who was wearing a dark blue t-shirt with a blue jeans and a nice blue Snickers to match. He had on this proffessor kind of glasses and a fresh skin.

What caught my attention was the name on his t-shirt. Woven into his t-shirt was a popular username here on nairaland.

I was amazed that after all nairaland is not so anonymous after all.
We were chatting and discussing business ideas and I discovered he was a Yoruba man like me.

I asked what brought him to this part of the country and he told me it was work.....a very interesting work really.

I told him I has some transactions to complete and that was what brought me that far a day after Sallah holidays.

To cut a long story short, I got stranded as there was a system shutdown at the bank. We waited for almost 4 hours and they told us they had no network.
Frustrated and agitated, as I had to catch a flight back to Lagos that evening, I was so frustrated.

While I was lamenting loudly about having to go back home without a kobo, the young man asked me if I was trust worthy?
I was not sure why he asked me that.

He said I should not worry much and I should prepare for the airport.
He dropped me at the ports and actually paid for my air ticket.
I was amazed that some people can still be magnanimous even to strangers.

I asked for his account number that I will refund it to him when am in Lagos.
He refused. And the last thing he told me was "Alhaji , spread the love around"

I was deeply touched by this young man. He was also in the bank fir a transaction and was equally frustrated as I am. yet he could still help me out.

He told me that when a man cannot help his fellow man with the little be has, then God wouldn't be too willing to bless him with bigger things.

And am sure you will be wondering who this nairalander is!

On his t-shirt was woven his uaername here on nairaland. And the name?





ROYAL ROY


Thank you so much aburo. You really tot me something vital about human relationships. I just had to do this. I just had to. Thanks for your help. I am grateful.

There is widespread complaints all over most cities in the south-west today 03-10-2013 with customers having trouble withdrawing from the Machines.

A lot of customers in Ibadan, Oyo & Ogbomoso cities of Oyo State today where frustrated as the service is slow & unavailable on most machines in the affected cities.

What is the situation in your area?

Royal Roy:

Baba, long time o. Good to have u here!

Thank you sir.

Tgirl...I think being a moderator doesn't come with a salary?
Or am I mistaken?

Seems a lot of people are jostling for it for financial gains o!

Can't blame anyone though.

Try and look for your mother's close friends or siblings who know your dad back in the days.
From there you can put the pieces together.
Goodluck in ur search.

biolabee: Baba O,,, eku ojo 3

Omo ooo, e ku ILE o!

Interesting.

My name is Oyo

I come from Oyo town
I was born in Oyo, raised in ILE-Ife, living in Lagos.
Born into a Muslim home, attended catholic schools, and now a liberal Muslim.

I am married to one wonderful woman with 4 kids.
I love colour blue, I don't joke with my Amala & gbegiri....I must eat it everyday.

I believe marriage is a blessing to any man or woman who can find the best partners.

I believe the best attribute in marriage are compromise, patience & tolerance!

I love to swim when I have the opportunity, I also take evening strolls.

I am a Nigerian....a very proud one!

Old age is a thing of joy, only when you have lived a godly youthful days, planned your life & ur family's future well & you've been able to achieve at least 70% of your dreams!!

I will say, my fears of old age include...

1. Inability to do the do in the room anymore!

2. Not being able to make sound decisions for my kids anymore

3. Memory loss

May God bless us with a pleasant old age!
Amin.

Will be nice if its a male to compliment madam Tgirl's efforts.
Not many name comes to mind here.

Maybe royal roy, biolabee or Coogar will be okay.

You know, your daughter is not just "your own" daughter but "our daughter"!!

He is a caring man to be so concerned!!
But really, I don't accommodate Superstitious peeps around me!!

Life in Africa can be interesting & complicated atimes!!!
Learn to communicate with him based on his fears!!!
I don't like men who feel its okay for their kids to mingle with their own family & not the wife's family!!!! I know quite a few!

Talk to him when he calms down.....Nollywood has turned all villagers into witches & wizards....so sad!!

shirley whyte: WOW!!!I can't believe this..

Someone once told me love is not enough to get married ...Wow!!!

You guys should keep it coming...

Believe it Ms Whyte....marriage is not all about love at all!!!

@Op...I like ur confidence....been bald is not a disease....on the other hand, "educated women" should want to have a closer "look" at you! Nothing do you jare!

1. She got a good grip of her tongue more than the others!!

2. She was very complimentary to my character.

3. She was always ready to help....spiritually, morally & financially!!

Things to watch out for!!!

1. Marry "your friend" and not your lover!!!
Even though love is important, its not the key to a successful marriage! Make sure you are good friends, this takes u a long way when the love fades!!!

2. Never "manage" a woman!! If you can't stand something in a woman, don't manage!!!
Let her go.

3. A woman who can't accept you for who you are should be left alone.
Don't marry a nag!!!

@Op, ur nieces weren't cursed!!
Really, ur sis has a lot to answer for here!!

Bring up a child in the way he/she in the way of the lord & they will never depart from it.

The mistakes have been made, make sure you keep an extra eye on them from now on since they are still young & naïve!!!

A mistake is not the end of the world, keep an extra eye out for them if the parents are too busy or less concerned.

All will be well with you!

@Slimyem, thank God ur cousin has a mind of his own!!
Imagine him being a man like GreatGod narrated above?
You would have been doing naming ceremonies every year & u won't even remember which kid is named what! Lmaooooo!!

Really, women with just an issue feel insecure, and transfer all their insecurity into the child!!!!

I have a cousin too, single child.
She has never made any decision on her own....from primary school to her masters degree, its the mother's choice!!!
She never ever entered a cab before, talk less of Okada(for where...maybe in her dreams).

I remember my uncle always have arguments with her over her attitude, but for where?
Now am double sure maybe a man wl be in the pipeline waiting for her already courtesy of Mamma!!!!
Poor girl, no holidays away from home, she can't even follow us out to eat, her Mamma go faint if she ever heared she eat just anything anywhere!!!

May God help all the single children out there!!

kulyie: with amala,ewedu or gbegiri and ogufe abi?; plus bedroom tingz

All of he above....hehehe!!!

Pataki: More than an advantage. Everytime I look into her eyes, I see pure love from a woman to a man.

She makes me speechless.......

Eniyan Pataki....way to go!!!!

Oh dear!!!!
You really are a very patient woman!!
Thumbs up!!!

I noticed how much you made an attempt to keep him calm with all the emoticons and stuff you kept sending to him!! Not many women in your shoes will remain that cool after his rude throw backs!!!

Like someone had earlier said, I think something might be eating him up!
Work ur magic into letting him tell you what is wrong!!! I guess he wasn't like this before u married him!!

Wish you all the best in your effort!!
Remain sweet, all will be well.!!!

damiso: Welcome back jidegirl a miss yin die, die ni o.
Baba Oyo naa ekaabo si ori eto yii.




Not being gender biased here but I fond its often the mothers of only kids that are often borderline obsessed.That may be due to the cultural aspect of the man maybe having other kids later in life

Ooooo, ese atokun eto!!! Hahaha

You have raised valid points, there is surely extra resources to cater for one child hence the over pampering might be inevitable!!!

About the female folks been obsessed more, can you blame them? Like you said, the man can still take his "whistle" to the next junction and get it "blown"!!!
All in all, I only hope people realise not letting a child grow into his/her own person can be counter productive in the long run!!!

greatgod2012:

The second example is about one of my senior colleague who is an only child of his mother at my working place, "iya e ti ba aye e je patapata".
So, op, it depends on individual, but one thing i am sure of is that, if you say because you have only one child, and you over pamper him/her, you rush him/her into having children, this child will curse you at the end of the day. Its better to let them be.......there is time for everything, and He has made everything beautiful in its time, says the bible.
May God help us all.

I believe this is a really terrible end for an only kid to grow up into!!
The mother will be so happy wherever she is now, at least she was able to "increase & multiply" while the son is left to live with the consequences of her actions!!!

May God really help him!!!

thorpido: Growing up,my mum called me aside and asked if we were dating.She said she doesn't dig getting married to an only child(dnt know her reasons).

At 23yrs she got married.Apparently she got rushed into it.

I guess your mum could forsee all the pressure that comes with dating an only child!!!
You could have been the "husband" about now, whether you were ready or not !!!

chaircover: jide ekabo ooooooooo! So nice to see you back

baba oyo long time. awon ara oyo nko?

I sleep and I am not there watching over them 24/7 . . . God does all that and I put my trust in Him in everything that concerns us.

Lolllllll....awon ara Oyo wa daada o!!!!

I guess fear of the unknown is a major factor in all of these!!
Since u have 2, can we say there is a bit of closure you feel more than the mother of one?
May God watch all over them for us o, Amin!

kulyie: Baba oya oju to ri yin gbo o ekujometa o ga o,happy to see you again on nairaland.mama oyo,omo oyo,aburo oyo,egbon oyo nko?shey gbo gbo e jora won.anyway good too see you.@ topic



shebi yorubas say olomokan ti kuro lagan.a mother of an only child is not in the same league with a barren woman however people tend to assume only children are pampered silly.well not in all cases.

Sewa omo to rewa!!!!! You always make me laugh!!!
Ko si side goals Mo oooo!!!! Gbogbo e ti di afi s'eyin ti eegun fi'so o!!!!

Well, a parent with an only child is always scared of uncertainties, in this case I will say she was shaken by her son's illness!
That triggered the whole panic!!!
She wouldn't want her son to "pass-away" without any offspring....I believe that was her biggest fear, not just wanting to be a grandma!!!!

biolabee: Baba ooo...

Long time

Mr Biolabee....long time too!
Sure u are "keeping it real" in this rainy rainy cold season abi?

jidegirl12: Biola I just land NA oh ( not home yet) and logged in when I saw Baba Oyo's post. ( no roaming charges )

Baba Oyo , how body ? Eku ojo mewa oh! Eku ongbe naa, emi a shika oh, All our heart desires shall come to reality in this holy month Alaumo Amin . More monè no problems.

@ Topic , great topic, the subject doesn't only concern only child but only sex child (ren) too.


I can't wait to see my first to give me a grandson too.... She must!

Welcome back o, Yeye Oba of Oyoland!!
Good to see everyone is keeping it alive in here!!!
Awe n lo daada, ese gan o!!!

Well, u are right! Its a maternal thing mostly but some men can be too demanding of their "only child/son/daughter" too o!!!!
Hopefully they don't push these kids into something they wl leave to regret!!

chidyhels: @Baba Oyo,all sentiments aside,is your wife adding or doing otherwise?

Plenty of blessings for sure!!!

- Took away a lot of "youthful exuberance".

- Moulded a carefree spender into a careful investor.

- Turned a handsome skinny young man into a fine pot-bellied man!!!!!

What more can I say?

You won't expect anyone to come here & tell you his/her spouse is a curse onto their marriage!!!
Guess its not rocket science!!

A woman of 50yrs in my home town had just a kid!!
She showered so much love & affection on her only son to a fault. Everybody believed she over pampered her only child!
Cars at age 16, expensive jewellery at secondary level, over the roof birthday parties each year!!!

A month ago, her son got ill & was admitted for typhoid!! It was severe because it wasn't detected on time! Talk of home medications....treating Malaria instead of typhoid!!!

She got so scared to her wits by his severe sickness and just 2 days after his discharge from the hospital, our "dear mother of one" has asked her 18yr old son to bring home his girlfriend who he "wants to marry"!!!

When I heared this story from a cousin, I felt she might be justified by her own standard of wanting to "increase & multiply" as soon as possible!!

Another thought came to my mind, how easy is it, for parents with single kids to relax & let their kids live life freely, devoid of pressure into marriage or any other "hasty decisions" all in the name of being an only child?

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How was it for you as an only child growing up & your parents making decisions for you?
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Have you been pushed into an early marriage because of such?
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What decisions did your parents make for you based on being an only kid?
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How easy is it as a parent with just a kid?

Please share your Views!!