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AutosRe: Neatly Used Accord (evil Spirit) For Just 900k by babeface3(op): 1:48pm On Dec 16, 2015
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AutosNeatly Used Accord (evil Spirit) For Just 900k by babeface3(op): 1:46pm On Dec 16, 2015
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RomanceRe: Please How can i stop Masturbation? by babeface3: 4:19pm On Dec 14, 2015
Accept Christ with all your heart and watch what happens. Thank me later,. talking from experience bro.
211Observer:
...It Is totally out of control now. I have read different posts on self-service method, believing that it's only helping me to stop running after girls all in the name of sex.

Often, some people just screw it up by saying that masturbation is not a sin; only to encourage others to continue in the ungodly act.
Either the act is good or bad, right or wrong, all I care is that this shit is sucking my happiness.
I can not go a day without self-service. Although i don't have girlfriend, and I don't care about it because I always believe that girls have nothing to offer me since I'm not ready for marriage soon!

Is now 13yrs I been doing this shit!

I want to stop. I know i'm addicted to it; so many times I have vowed never to engage in it again, but the more I shake It the more it stinks.

pls what can I do?

I want to quit! I don't want to believe that my life depend on it.

I know some of you might have once involve in this mess before, please just tell me what I need to know.
why I need to stop, and how to stop it.

Help a brother!!!!!
CelebritiesRe: 7 Nigerian Celebrity Bedrooms That Will Make You Drool(photos) by babeface3: 3:59pm On Dec 14, 2015
I know some of these hotel rooms grin grin
Jokes EtcHilarious Answer To A Biology Question? by babeface3(op): 2:14pm On Dec 14, 2015
But the student might be right grin grin

PoliticsWorld’s Most Wanted Drug Lord, EL Chapo Declares War On ISIS With Severe Threat. by babeface3(op): 1:01pm On Dec 11, 2015
World’s biggest drug lord, has reportedly ‘declared war‘ on the Islamic State, ISIS in a threatening letter.

Joaquín “El Chapo” Guzmán reportedly sent an encrypted email to the ISIS leader Abu Bakr Al Baghdadi after one of his cartel’s shipments was destroyed.

His letter, which has been leaked by cartelblog.com, claims his men will “destroy” the terror group if they continue to ‘impact on their operation’.

The Mexican drug baron, who runs the notorious Sinaloa cartel, allegedly told Al Baghdadi that his organisation are ‘not soldiers‘ but ‘lowly p*****s‘.

He wrote:

“Your god cannot save you from the true terror that my men will levy at you if you continue to impact my operation.My men will destroy you. The world is not yours to dictate. I pity the next son of a wh*** that tries to interfere with the business of the Sinaloa Cartel.”I will have their heart and tongue torn from them.”
The drug lord, nicknamed “Shorty“, has been on the run from police since he escaped from the maximum security Altiplano prison – 55 miles west of Mexico City – in July.

He fled through a hole in a shower after his men dug a mile-long tunnel underneath the jail to a farmhouse from where he fled. The tunnel, which would have taken months to dig, was found equipped with ventilation ducts, running electricity to power strip lighting, stairs and a motorbike on rails on which he rode away.

Guzman, once the 1,140th richest man in the world and once the 55th most powerful, is said to have paid $50 million (£32 million) in bribes this time to ensure he got away safely.

http://yabaleftonline.com/2015/12/worlds-most-wanted-drug-lord-el-chapo-declares-war-on-isis-with-severe-threat/

RomanceDivorce Diary- Mistreatment Of An Obedient Wife by babeface3(op): 10:52am On Dec 11, 2015
My name is Suleiman Bashir. I’m a Banker from Kaduna and I would like to share my ‪#‎DivorceDiaries‬ with you.I am 34 years old. I was married to my ex wife Fatima Bashir for 4 years and we have a daughter Ummi.I met my wife Fatima through a family friend. The person thought we would make a good match.It was at the time in every arewa boy’s life that mummy starts dropping hints. Family starts making jokes about your bachelorhood.I was working and my mother couldn’t understand why I was still unmarried after 2 years of being employed.It was also that time when I started detesting my empty lonely flat. I told myself I was ready.It’s very common for northerners to meet their spouses through someone’s recommendation.My uncle asked me to go the house and ask of Fatima. He said she would make. Good wife.That’s how I met my wife.To be frank I wasn’t happy when I saw her. She was looking a bit matured for my taste. She was pretty,but in a mature way.She greeted me and her warm smile immediately disarmed me. She told me she was a civil servant.I was annoyed that my uncle sent me to talk to a woman not a girl. So she had even finished NYSC? Not my spec at all.Well I was already here so I might as well tell her the reason. I told her someone recommended her highly. I waited for her reply.She told me she had no one and that she would love to get to know me better. I wasn’t happy because I was hoping she would turn me down.I told her no problem I would be coming regularly to see her. After all she’s a matured babe,she won’t play games
The candid truth is that I did not pursue her the way I would have,if she was young and beautiful.I just wanted a wife. Someone who would keep my bed warm and beat me kids. And she came highly recommended. No need to chase her.After about three months of visiting Fatima for zance, she told me her father requested to see my people and that was it. Matters were now in the hands of the elders. They chose the date and everything.We got Married soon after that. My house was fully furnished. My wife was ready to be a mom. What could ever go wrong.My wife was like a robot,too eager to please me. She even started supporting Man-U because I was a fan.She refused to share her mind with me and that annoyed me. She just did whatever she was told like a little pet
Even in bed,I would ask what she preferred and she would say duk yanda ka so. I was annoyed,I didn’t want a lap dog I wanted a wife! What the hell did I just get myself into? I was annoyed and bored.Everything was so routine with Fatima. From the meals to the conversations to the sex. Everything ma the same.I was bored, Bored out of my mind I tell you. I tried to get to know her but all I got was what I heard about her ,very frustrating!
I confided in my friends and they all told me I was married to a dream wife. Every man wanted to have a wife that didn’t argue.That’s when I started to look for other women. I needed spice in my life. Hot Pepper Spice!You wouldn’t believe the number of women that threw themselves at me. Married men must be hot cake I guess with the money I was making,I could have almost any woman I wanted. That’s when I met a similar restless spirit,hafsa
Hafsa was an undergraduate student. She was an unserious student to my delight at the time. She was always free to see me.I spent less and less time at home and more and more time with the Vivacious and exciting Hafsa!I loved the way she was her own person and not a lap dog.She was wild and I loved to tame her. She was opinionated and I loved to listen .
More and more I was connecting with Hafsa and forgetting about my responsibility at home: a pregnant and obedient wife.I had so much disdain for Fatima. I wondered who she really was behind that silly obedient persona.Maintaining Hafsa was costly. She was always buying something. Or moving into a new flat or her car needed fixing..endlessly.I didn’t mind at all. She was my lady. My lady deserved only the best of everything.At this time my docile wife gave birth to my bundle of Joy. Ummi was the light of my life.Ummi’s birth didn’t make her parents closer but it made me have respect for Fatima. She was such a good mother.I started thinking of marrying Hafsa. With the way my life was going we might as well be married.It was so bad that a lot of people actually thought Hafsa was my wife. I didn’t mind. She had me whipped. I asked Hafsa to marry me but She said NO.She said I was already a bad husband to my wife if I wanted her I would have to convince her I would be a good husband to her.What Nonsense! I was annoyed but I swallowed my pride and set out to impress Hafsa. Spending money like a fool.Then finally she told me she really loved me and wanted to marry me but she couldn’t share me.I wondered what she meant. Because she owned me. I was proud to tell my wife that she didn’t please me like Hafsa did.I assured Hafsa that I would not allow myself to be ‘shared’. She owned me out rightly and completely.I told her the truth. The only thing keeping my marriage was my daughter. Nothing more and nothing less.I tried my hardest to convince her that I was hers. That my wife was a mere appendage. It seemed to work. And so she accepted to be my wife. But there was a problem
She told me that her parents were poor and they could not afford Kayan Daki. I would have to sponsor the whole wedding,I said no wahala. My lady shall not want for anything so we started shopping for the Kayan Lefe and the Kayan Daki. Money was no object.After months of Shopping, I went to meet her uncles for introduction. I didn’t go with any of my friends because they hated Hafsa. I should have known something wasn’t right. Who receives only their in law without any questions? Haba! They gave me a date. They asked me to return on that date. I had a bad feeling,but I couldn’t shake it
I asked Hafsa why they asked me to come on that date instead of giving me a date for daurin aure. She said it was their tradition.
Two weeks later I heard from Hafsa’s freinds that she was getting married to one Salihu guy. I dismissed them as envious tales ,Hafsa told me she was going to Sokoto to see her aunt. She said she wanted to personally inform her of our wedding.Women are truly evil. Do you know I actually dropped her off at the airport? With a kiss
After that I couldn’t reach her ,for two days I tried unsuccessfully to reach her, I decided to call her uncle. I called him and he asked me to come and see him. I was confused and frustrated when he told me that Hafsa wanted me to divorce my wife first before the wedding.He said Hafsa would only switch her phone on if I divorced my wife before marrying her. I agreed,that night I sent Fatima packing out of my house. I picked a fight about Ummis toys being all over the house and divorced her.Early in the morning I went to her uncle to tell him the deed had been done. He called Hafsa and she said she was ready to be my wife.
It’s only now in hindsight that I realize how stupid and useless I was. This girl had turned me into a slave.When my waliyy summoned me to explain why i had divorced my wife , I told him I was tired of her kuma Na Barta da Allah I said to him.I told him I couldn’t open my mouth to say the problems in my marriagethat Fatima had done unspeakable things to me. He believed me.
After a week Hafsa was still not back from Sokoto. I was beginning to miss her. She said she would be back soon.The 2 weeks became 2 months. I was agitated and becoming impatient.To make matters worse Her uncle had stopped picking my calls.Hafsah had switched off her line. I was at a loss as to what to do
So I called one of Hafsa friends and she confirmed my worst fear. Hafsa had gotten married t a commissioner in Sokoto!
It’s been a year since I last heard from Hafsa. I lost a lot of money and I lost my family too.I always feel ashamed of myself whenever i go to see my daughter. Fatima always wondered why I divorced her.Worst of all, Fatima will remarry after karamar Sallah
I pray for forgiveness everyday. Thank you for sharing my #DivorceDiaries. I hope you will not make my mistakes.
PoliticsRe: A Copy Of Okonjo Iweala's Letter Requesting Approval For NSA Fund by babeface3(op): 10:34am On Dec 11, 2015
ok, all join
benedictnsi:
cheesycheesy see signature grin
PoliticsA Copy Of Okonjo Iweala's Letter Requesting Approval For NSA Fund by babeface3(op): 10:21am On Dec 11, 2015
Got the letter from social media.

PoliticsRe: Nigeria, Now A Research Field For Corruption? by babeface3: 9:43am On Dec 11, 2015
You cannot talk of Money Laundering in any graduate school without a case study of Nigeria especially Abacha's loot.
Uncleodi:
I saw this disheartening picture this evening and I am like "can it ever get better"?

Are there no better project topics anymore??

We have a lot of responsibilities on our hands to change what the international communities think about us!

Lalasticlala, can u imagine!
Romance10 Things Women Should Stop Saying To Their Husbands by babeface3(op): 8:33am On Dec 11, 2015
1. "YOU DON'T NEED HOBBIES, YOU HAVE A WIFE."
It doesn't matter if it's golf, poker with the guys, or a manly knitting group. Just because this man is your husband doesn't mean his life revolves around you. Encourage him to do the things that make him happy, and find some hobbies of your own. On top of that, find things you love to do together and carve out time for those every week.

2. "YOU CAN'T BE FRIENDS WITH WOMEN."
Unless your husband has a problem with infidelity, he should feel good about his friendships with women.
Like everything else in marriage, you need to negotiate some boundaries around intimacy, like what he shares with her and how much time they spend together without you. But you becoming his wife doesn't automatically mean that he forfeits all his old gal pals.

3. "YOU'RE THE MAN, SO YOU NEED TO BE THE BREADWINNER IN THIS FAMILY."
Ladies, just no.
Now that we're getting closer to professional equality (though we still earn only $0.77 on a man's dollar), we need to accept that there are lots of great men who might make less than we do. Shaming your man because he makes less than you isn't going to motivate him to do more, it's only going to make him resent you.

4. "I'M THE MOM, I KNOW WHAT'S BEST FOR THE KIDS."
Dads are more engaged with their kids than ever, making this is a glorious time to be a wife and mom. We get to connect with our husbands on a level most of our mothers and grandmothers never did. And an engaged dad is an incredible gift for the kids!
But that means you are not allowed to nitpick your husband about childcare. Unless he's doing something obviously dangerous, give him the benefit of the doubt and enjoy watching your family bond.

5. "MAN UP."
Somehow the old fashioned idea that men can't cry or show weakness still sometimes sneaks its way into marriage. As a spouse, it's your job to support your partner's emotional needs, regardless of whether you're a man or a woman. So believe him when he tells you about his feelings and his experiences, and never shame him for his feelings.

6. "I DON'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE."
People say a lot of mean things in the heat of the moment, but telling your husband you don't love him is a line you shouldn't cross. Love should be at the root of your interactions, even when you're mad, and it's not something you can give and take away as emotional currency.

7. "I WISH YOUR PENIS WERE BIGGER."
Most wives won't come right out and say that their husbands have small joysticks, but they do sometimes think it's funny to make a joke about it. Ladies, don't do this. It's not kind. Your husband was raised in a society that put a lot of emphasis on things like penis size. No better way to make a man feel like crap than to question his masculinity.

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8. "HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE."
I love this phrase, but it's gotta go! When it comes to a happy marriage, a man's needs and feelings are just as important as his wife's.
A better alternative? One dad blogger offers "Happy spouse, happy house" and it's perfect! Not only does it also work for two-mom and two-dad families, but it also puts the responsibility upon both partners to do things that make their spouse happy.

9. "NO, HONEY I DIDN'T GO SHOPPING…" (WHEN YOU KNOW YOU DID!)
There's an old joke about wives sneaking around to hide their shopping bags, and husbands getting mad when the credit card bill arrives. The truth is, sneaky behavior can ruin marriages. It doesn't matter which one of you is hiding your shopping, lying about spending is still lying.

10. "WHEN I WAS WITH MY EX…"
Yes, you need to be able to talk about your past, even if some of those stories feature your ex. But don't compare the things your ex did with what your husband does. Bragging about the fact that your ex took out the trash before you even had to ask is manipulative and will win you a night of sleeping on the couch.

http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/marriage/10-things-women-need-to-stop-saying-to-their-husbands/ss-AAgaZrs?ocid=UP97DHP#image=11
PoliticsRe: Sabon Gari Market In Kano On Fire by babeface3: 11:59am On Dec 04, 2015
Revenging the burnt mosque at Onitsha huh huh
AtlanticBreeze:
Fire this evening engulfed the popular Sabon Gari market in Kano with men of the Fire Service Department struggling to contain the fire.

Details later..

http://sunnewsonline.com/new/breaking-news-sabon-gari-market-in-kano-on-fire/
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Advice, He Was Invited For A Chat after a brave reply to the regret letter by babeface3(op): 11:13am On Dec 04, 2015
Surprise, same annoying test was printed out and a sheet of paper and pen handed for writing. 2 hours this time. Coffee was served which I said I did not need.

After submitting in about an hour 48 mins cos I put in what I know (my best) as usual, "Thanks for your patience and have a good day; we get back to you later" huh huh huh
CravingChic:
So how did the chat go OP?
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Advice, He Was Invited For A Chat after a brave reply to the regret letter by babeface3(op): 11:13am On Dec 04, 2015
Surprise, same annoying test was printed out and a sheet of paper and pen handed for writing. 2 hours this time. Coffee was served which I said I did not need.

After submitting in about an hour 48 mins cos I put in what I know (my best) as usual, "Thanks for your patience and have a good day; we get back to you later" huh huh huh
Cavenchy:
OP its 2nd December, what was the verdict?
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Advice, He Was Invited For A Chat after a brave reply to the regret letter by babeface3(op): 11:12am On Dec 04, 2015
Surprise, same annoying test was printed out and a sheet of paper and pen handed for writing. 2 hours this time. Coffee was served which I said I did not need.

After submitting in about an hour 48 mins cos I put in what I know (my best) as usual, "Thanks for your patience and have a good day; we get back to you later" huh huh huh
CravingChic:
Guy why are u keeping quiet over the way your interview went! Did they slam you or what? Pls Share, so we could learn from your experience.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Security Officers Pose With The Dead Lion Killed In Jos (Pictured) by babeface3: 3:43pm On Dec 03, 2015
Police and civil defence same specee of animals. But see the poor animal lying lifeless and fellows of same kingdom celebrate. Oyibo wont kill this lion like that. It would be caught alive one way or the other
Honestly1:
This men should cover their faces in shame. They took pictures with the a dead lion that should have been tranquilzed and kept back in its cage.
EducationRe: Pupil's Answer When Told To Find X by babeface3: 11:04am On Nov 30, 2015
I posted this since November 29, why didnt it make fp huhhttps://www.nairaland.com/2769391/hilarious-answer-mathematical-equation
auntysimbiat:
[img]http://1.bp..com/-SBEX3YlTFO4/VlwQi_0txAI/AAAAAAAHfmo/Zvnm1VMzUXA/s1600/FB_IMG_1448870330358.jpg[/img]

No be una say make she find X? X wey una don dey find since. She's told you guys where the X is nah! Lol...



SOURCE: http://www.nairanaijanews.com/2015/11/photo-hilarious-see-pupils-answer-when.html
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Advice, He Was Invited For A Chat after a brave reply to the regret letter by babeface3(op): 2:47am On Nov 30, 2015
Not the name. Names not the real name
dammytosh:
You lost the job already.

You lack confidentiality which is key as a Staff of a reputable organization.

Did you just put the name of the person on Nairaland to prove what exactly ?
Jobs/VacanciesAdvice, He Was Invited For A Chat after a brave reply to the regret letter by babeface3(op):
He submitted his cv for a job he knew he was so qualified for. A reply came after 2 weeks informing him of an online 'writing'that would test some skills before interview. That the company normally fulfils that before interview. Test question that were so strange was sent on the scheduled day and he was given just 45 mins to submit answers.
He tried his hand and submitted answers to the little extent he could attempt. He got a response the next day informing him he did not make it to the next stage and thanking him for his interest in the company. To the email he replied thus: "thanks for the feedback but I would advise you keep my CV". This was with the mindset of annoyance over the whole thing.
Going through his email the next day, he couldn't believe what he saw: a reply from the same company:."can we have a chat at our office, no... On 2nd December, 2015, by 10am. Ask of James Olufemi of the HR"...
This invitation has thrown him into confusion.
CelebritiesRe: Angry Woman Made D'banj Prostrate Before Her At Enugu Airport by babeface3: 7:02am On Nov 29, 2015
ObiOmaMu:
Story as shared by D-One Ayekooto on his Facebook page earlier on today...

http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/11/guy-narrates-how-angry-woman-made-dbanj.html
piece of make-belief trash. Someone trying her hand on fiction. But is it necessary saying the angry woman is igbo.
Jokes EtcA Hilarious Answer To A Mathematical Equation by babeface3(op): 6:48am On Nov 29, 2015
Funny grin

Technology MarketRe: PHCN Abuja Prepaid Metre: Help by babeface3(op): 4:53pm On Nov 25, 2015
98. 2 units 01470 . 00c/unit (excl)
libertyfather:
Whts you meter type? I guess you were given one for heavy machine user as in for industries ...how many unit do you get with 2k without paying the once a month fixed charge
Technology MarketPHCN Abuja Prepaid Metre: Help by babeface3(op): 4:23pm On Nov 25, 2015
I have a prepaid metre and pay 2k every 2 weeks on just small freezer and 63 inch flatscreen tv. I use pressing iron occasionally and no more appliance. I have just 2 energy saving bulbs outside the house. I have averagely 12 hrs of light daily.

I have got an electrician to check if someone is tapping the electric energy but nothing of such. I have lodged complaint at the PHCN Abuja to not avail.

Worst of all, there is this freaking warning sound it makes just after some days of payment signalling low credit which is always waking my child from sleep. I tried disabling it but could not find how to do that.

Someone should advise me before I take legal action against these people.
AutosRe: 2008 Toyota Camry Aka MUSCLE/SPIDER 1.570 by babeface3: 12:10pm On Nov 24, 2015
I offered a million sad
RomanceRe: 11 Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Marriage by babeface3(op): 8:44am On Nov 24, 2015
Mod, fp? grin
Romance11 Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Marriage by babeface3(op): 8:43am On Nov 24, 2015
SNEAKY RELATIONSHIP RUINERS

Of course you want the happiest marriage possible, but little things you do—some of which you don’t notice—may be damaging your relationship. In fact, you may intentionally opt for these actions because you believe they’re helpful, even though the opposite is true. Steer clear of the following mistakes to keep your marriage on the right track.

1. YOU WAIT FOR YOUR HUSBAND TO SPEAK UP IF HE NEEDS SOMETHING, ESPECIALLY SEX.
Men want to be strong, not vulnerable, and many feel they can’t admit to having additional needs. If he senses you’re too busy for, or not open to, hearing his desires, he’ll stay mum—and miserable. “Ask him what he’s thinking and wanting,” advises clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. “Don’t wait for him to bring it up because he probably won’t.”

2. YOU DON’T TELL YOUR HUSBAND YOU APPRECIATE HIM.
Whether he’s the breadwinner or a stay-at-home dad, acknowledge his efforts, or your man may feel you take him for granted. “Even if you work equally as hard, it’s essential to show your heartfelt thanks,” says Dr. Brosh. “Saying ‘I appreciate all that you do for me’ is so easy, but lack of appreciation leads to resentment in marriage.” Flip side: If you don’t feel like he appreciates you, tell him.

3. YOU COMPLAIN HE DOESN'T SHOW AFFECTION WHEN HE ACTUALLY DOES.
No matter how head-over-heels in love your husband is with you, he isn’t likely to talk about it. “He might show his feelings through being a dad and/or provider or even mowing the lawn instead,” Dr. Brosh says. While you may not get the long conversation you crave, don’t overlook these expressions of love and support.

4. YOU IGNORE YOUR LACK OF LIBIDO.
“If he asks for sex, and you usually turn him away, you’re on your way to a loveless marriage,” says Dr. Brosh, who explains that skipping out a few times can quickly turn into a long dry spell. “If you aren’t into it, it’s your responsibility to understand why. It might be physiological or emotional, but addressing the problem shows you care.” Talk to your doctor about revving your sex drive. “Ignoring the problem is as bad as ignoring him,” says Dr. Brosh.

5. YOU SUBCONSCIOUSLY PUT YOUR EX ON A PEDESTAL.
Some women fondly look back on former flames as time blurs the reasons you fell apart. Careful, though: “A long-gone ex can affect established relationships,” says relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women... is Men. Mentioning an ex’s best qualities may incite unhelpful arguments about what your husband could be doing better. Focus on your spouse’s top attributes, which likely outnumber old what’s-his-name’s, and communicate problems instead of making comparisons.

6. YOU THINK ALL MEN ARE BAD.
Maybe your exes mistreated you, and you’re just waiting for your spouse to do the same thing. A big problem with that: You can’t develop intimacy with your husband when you hold onto past hurt, says Orlando. “Accept what happened and your part in things, forgive yourself and the other party and change the behavior,” so you can make a fresh start with your husband, he suggests.

7. YOU TRY TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK ALL BY YOURSELF.
A one-sided effort can’t improve a problem-plagued marriage. “A relationship takes two,” says Orlando. “If one is gun-shy, or not on the same page emotionally, there will be disconnection.” Recognize if you’re alone in keeping the marriage afloat and seek a pro’s help in getting your hubby on board to repair what needs work.

8. YOU ASSUME YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR HUSBAND’S THINKING.
Never bring up finances because you know what your hubby will say? Assumptions breed hostility, says marriage therapist Carin Goldstein, creator of BeTheSmartWife.com. “Instead of creating a dialogue with your spouse, you’re writing the script in your head,” she says. Every time you catch yourself assuming, Goldstein suggests a quick check-in. Start by sharing your concerns with your husband, and then ask for the real deal. He’s more likely to speak his mind in response to questions than start a conversation.

9. DURING DISAGREEMENTS, YOU IGNORE HIS PERSPECTIVE.
If your husband suggests watching your spending, don’t immediately snap back about his pricey season tickets to Knicks games. “We get stuck in the offense-defense trap when we don’t take time to understand our spouse’s feelings,” Goldstein explains. She suggests asking questions about where he’s coming from. “You don't have to agree,” she says, “but you do need to understand his point of view.”

10. YOU RELY ON SARCASM TO COMMUNICATE.
We’re not talking about playful teasing; this is when your words mask the message you want to convey. “It can be a passive-aggressive way of expressing anger or hurt,” says Goldstein. If the knee-jerk reaction toward your husband’s waning interest in exercise is asking, “How's that gym membership going?" stop, and self-correct with, “What I mean to say is: You're not going to the gym anymore, and I'm concerned for your health." He doesn't learn your genuine feelings when you don’t communicate them clearly, says Goldstein.

11. YOU DON’T CONNECT WITH YOUR HUSBAND EVERY DAY.
You know you need to nourish your marriage, but checking out of it is easy when life is busy. “You're not watering the garden, so to speak,” Goldstein says. If you’re feeling like your husband is merely a roommate, ask yourself, “Why are you avoiding him?” Goldstein suggests. If you’re not sure, consult a therapist to work toward fixing the issue.


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AutosRe: 2008 Toyota Camry Aka MUSCLE/SPIDER 1.570 by babeface3: 4:06pm On Nov 20, 2015
why are you selling and whats the mileage?I have 1m. serious buyer
CelebritiesRe: Uti Nwachukwu Finally Cuts His Dreadlocks (photos) by babeface3: 3:08pm On Nov 20, 2015
Uti you look great but walahi i dont fancy that kind of look. You look like a woman grin
EducationOnline Postgraduate Degree How Good Are They? by babeface3(op): 5:24pm On Nov 17, 2015
Hi folks, with a lot of ads for online postgraduate degree, I am wondering how credible such academic pursuit is. I need your advise here
PoliticsRe: Checkout The Pose Of President Buhari's Security Personel by babeface3: 3:53pm On Nov 12, 2015
Hes just walking out of the scene with brisk stride. He may be from Kogi State grin
PoliticsRe: The Set Stage Of The FEC Banquet Ahead Of Cabinet Swearing In by babeface3: 3:50pm On Nov 12, 2015
vanity upon vanity smiley
CareerRe: My Shortest Job Experience by babeface3: 3:11pm On Nov 12, 2015
Any lawyer in the house ;Dyou know what im talking about as a new wig. Also, one company in Owerri always gets things screwed.

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