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To some, woman are interested in relationship than men and for this they tend to put more in the relationship to make it last.

*NOTE: Relationship in this post could be inside marriage or about to wed.

What every woman wants in their relationship differs though, but here are some of the general wants of any woman that desires a lasting relationship.

1. HAPPINESS:

Any woman desires happiness in her relationship. They will all want to share their best moments with their friends so that their friends will know they are in the good hand and making their friends feel jealous of their own relationship even when that of their friend is still better of.

2. WEALTH:

Money makes the world go around. Even men desires this. Women want to wear the latest clothes, gold jewelries, shoes, hair etc.

"My woman don't demand". Mr man you better start working hard and pray hard too, she is not happy about your condition, don't take her understanding for fool for too long. You don't know what they are facing in the midst of their friends.

3. CHILDREN:

The joy of any reasonable woman is child(ren). No reasonable woman will be happy in a marriage without a fruit to show for the planted seed.
I feel for those who are still looking up to God for the fruit of the womb, the sorrows therein is greater than not having money. Keep looking onto God and never lose faith, you will explode in joy soon.

4. FREEDOM:

Many women loves to be free even when they are in a relationship. They don't want to be monitored by a superman or be bullied around. They love to be able to chat with friends both male and female, move around with friends and party when free.
Well, it is not good though but many men believes you might go wild and that is why they chose to cage you.

When you are too free at times you get yourself, your man and possibly your home at large in trouble.

5. FRIENDSHIP:

No woman wants a man that is boring. Woman are naturally talkative and they always want their man to respond when they start. They are also naturally childish, though they usually paint to be big girl/big woman outside (please no be their real face o) but inside they are something else people outside cannot believe they are. And for this, you as the man must be able to bare and manage if you want her to be happy.

Please do add your own, i know the list is endless.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/5-things-every-woman-wants-in.html

princeofpeace22:
ya I did that for a friend is for the strongest and ready to spend

spend for this one again? Oga o, abeg how much be the allowee again?

Please just use this your maths skill to make cool cash with private lessons na, before you know it you don own a school, what else do you need?

So it is AMCON's turn to make public common sense now... Oga o.

Of recent i have noticed most men face the problem of choice. Not those that are not married alone, but even those that are married.

Often you will hear some men telling a lady "i swear if i had met you before i got married you should be the mother of my children by now". Madam, it is a lie, a chronic lie for that matter, he will say the same thing to another woman if you were the one in his house.

Well, some will say men are naturally polygamous and at this point i pity woman who are naturally stocker, they have no choice than to accept the nature of man.

Some men try all there possible best not to be polygamous, but at times it is that other woman that will tempt him into doing what he will otherwise not do, that is, most times some woman are the cause of other women's problem.

It is not easy to be glued to a person for many years, but those that did it successfully should be your role model and the push for you to also achieve that feet and not "doing better" this time.

But most woman loves to change cloth as many times as possible, they even have so many clothes untouched yet, they still acquire new ones.

This makes me keeps wondering if woman are the cloth for men, whereas, there are some men that changes clothes more than women, yet, they taste all available soups.

The biggest issue men face in relationship is covetousness even when they have better one at home and at hand.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/the-biggest-concerns-men-face-in.html

The fact that the women are to respect men doesn't indicate that men should do as they like with the women.

The fact that they are weaker sex means that even while taking care of the home they can get tired easily and at this point the man can take over or assist to as to make the job easier.

A woman that is ready to give all it takes to make you happy deserves to be helped also.

You don't only make her happy when you buy her things but also when you assist her with some chores. You are her energy and her everything, when she sees you helping out she gains strength.

At times, you don't even need to touch anything when she is doing the house chores, your presence is enought to give her the needed strength.

Nowadays, even househelps are not being threated like house made anymore, they are threated like sons/daughter of the soil let alone the woman of the house.

You are not only romantic through your bed-actions but through how helpful you are to your woman.

Do not let any fellow man discourage you as you don't know what such person does for his woman at home.

The funniest thing is that those men that discourage their fellow men from helping their wives at home are the ones doing the worst.

And it is not a most you tell everyone what you do with your woman at home, it should be your private affair.

Do not make your woman feel she is a slave, help out when necessary and let are feelings of you being the best man on earth keep enlarging boundlessly.


Source:
www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/women-are-not-housemaids-and-they.html

You need to know that you cannot depend on your own wisdom at all times not when you have good parents you can learn from.

If all through your stay with your parents, especially when you started undestanding the experience of life and your parents have given you all reasons to learn positive things from them as regards the cause of their happy home, then, you need to learn from them directly or indirectly.

Experience they say is the best teacher. When we talk of having a great and happy home, therefore, you also need to learn from those that have/are still experiencing such.

Your wisdom alone may not be able to get you to that point considering the difficulties, thorns attached to a happy home because it is built overtime by two strong, determined and loving minds.

Look back and ask right questions from the experienced when things seems to be going other way round and apply that which has been learnt where necessary if you want a lasting relationship.

Don't be shy or arrogant to ask questions from those you know that can help the bad situation of your relationship especially when the damage can still be repaired.

Remember, when you do the right thing many people will also be looking up to you as a source of motivation, you doing it right may also save many home/home-to-be.


Source: www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/relationship-you-can-learn-from-your.html

Smellymouth:
Nice one

thanks.

iamdurent:
Wellsaid

thanks.

Oga o, make dem use superglue gum them now. Dem never settle their own house dem dey eavesdrop into another people's backyard.

You see now, She will be happy she is noticed by nairaland now and no be say she steal or commit crime o...

Many times we use the romantic life of our parents' relationship to decide the way our own should be forgetting that what works for them might be poison for ours.

The point is that you need to define the one that suites you as a different entity.
Though, at times what they do that is yielding positive result for them might also work for us too, but observation is key and change is imminent.

Immediately you see things are not working the way you expect them to turn out then you need to try something else.

Because my parents don't eat together yet, their relationship is blossoming does not mean if you try eating together with your partner yours will not be better.

Your partner may even enjoy that as a means of bond between you two.
You must be ready to try new things different from that of your parents', don't be engraved in the foundation of their relationship as it may not suit your style at the long run or that of your partners'.

Not only that the ways of 50s is different from this century alone, but because a man's food might be the on doing for another. We are not equal on some certain parameters.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/your-parents-romantic-livesdon-have-to.html

Now-a-days, people enter into relationship for different reasons and intentions, some fails while some scale through.

But before single people can fall into any relationship some questions must have been answered, these questions are as follows:

1. Are my really ready?
Relationship involves commitment, concentration, care, etc. Have you asked yourself if you are really ready to share your concentration on another being you are probably just trying to know about? Will you be committed to the growth of the relationship? Are you really ripe for what you want to deep yourself into? Are you ready to bare all emotionally pains attached to heart break?

2. What exactly do I want?
Yes, most of the times we know what we desire in our partner even before getting to know each other.

I mean what attracts our attention in our partner because most of the times it is by what we see that prompts our instinct of our desires. Do you know your choice?

Even before building every other things to shape, some of the qualities you desire must have been seen in your partner.

3. Will I be contented?
It is good to be contented with your choice of partner, though it is not easy but you have to scale through.

You have chosen a chubby woman and you are looking at the skinny one on the street. You like her dress sense and you are still looking at another who dress even better, etc.

Once you are in a relationship your eyes should be closed at other attractions. Yes, they will sure come but and it is also paramount that you are determined to be with the one you have chosen ahead of the rest till the end.

4. Will I be happy if your partner do what you do?
This question looks simple but those that cheats will be able to interpret it well. You must be ready to answer this question if you want to have a successful relationship.

Can my partner do whatever i do and i will be happy if i hear even about it? If yes, then you are good to go, but most times the answer will come when you are already in the relationship.

Even as the "toastee" you must consider those questions before accepting to any relationship proposal.

You need to know that you will see the one better than your choice, it is not your choice that is the best among your point of attraction, there are many others, so you need to be determined to have a successful relationship.

I am not saying anything to scare anybody.

This is what i think and you are free to think otherwise. But if you are still single then look at the questions critically if it is a lasting relationship you want.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/questions-single-people-need-to-ask.html

This post is dedicated to all real men, that is, those that respects their woman and not the woman beaters of this world.

Though it is not easy to tolerate women during their off days and this is one of the major reasons why the real men must be applauded.

Real men do all they can to make sure their woman and their kids get the best out of life which takes a real women to understand even when the man fails.

Real men assist their wives with house chores but goes outside bragging to others he can never sweep the floor when he as even washed undies.

Not that those that don't help with house chores are not responsible, you can't blame them, they were not though by the woman that suppose to do that so, another woman is paying for that, but they will sure have where they are good at.

After they have done what the world may call inappropriate secretly they will come out to protect their woman so that the world will not term her "bad woman".

The pregnancy stage is the best of all, what some men does for their wife is so incredible that makes the woman feel less pain.

Real men prepares surprise breakfast, assist the woman while in the kitchen, wakes up every hour to protect mother and child, buy surprise gifts and fix impromptu outing/shopping just for two all in the name of making the woman happy.

Not only women feel the pains associated with the menstrual/pregnancy period, real men does too and this is why the real men do all they can to make the woman feel less pain during those periods.

Ask those without their man during these periods and you will know the difference, then, you will know how to respect your man at those times.

And when you see some mumu mumu things some men does to make their baby sleeps, then you will have given them a round of applause before you realize that if they don't do it, no one else will.

If you respect your man you will enjoy him if he is the real type.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/reasons-why-you-must-respect-real-man.html

Several stories about how woman came to being surfaced, that of Eve in the bible appears to be the biggest of all.

According to the bible, woman is man's helper, but in reality reverse is the case.

Talk about pains, talk about care, talk about responsibility, talk about duties, etc. they takes it all.

This makes me keep wondering if women are really helpers or men.

If women were to be helpers then i guess men should be the one nursing menstrual pains and child labour while woman should help with pampering.

Nursing a child is one great mountain which must be climbed properly by any woman because the two parents get praised for the success of the child while the mother is condemned for the failure.

Like nursing a child is not enough, they also add that of the father to it while he(claims) to be the bread winner which many woman of now adays even are.

Women are powerful and can persevere than men. And the ability to give birth to younger ones alike makes them special.

Oh! You want to claim that that cannot happen without man? You have nothing to say if you cannot explain the case of Mary in the bible.

All women should be respected no matter the size, they can give birth to anyone.

Even though you have all the strength in the world, the women deserves the respect, ego asides.

They are our mother, sister, nanny and whatever names you can call them because of their multi-tasking abilities.

Their importance cannot be over emphasized, believe me, without them the world will be incomplete and meaningless.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/reasons-why-you-must-respect-any-woman.html

Life can be cruel and unpredictable for so many people while it is so pleasurable and very enjoyable for some other people.

If you belong to the second group i say a big congratulations to you but be wise so as not to regret to have enjoyed life ones in your life.

For those that belongs to the first group, for some it might be your fault, you lost it possibly because of your careless attitude towards life and some other unwatched parameters.

Some were born to the world just like that and have been struggling it out from childhood.

Never think it is over until it is over.

Life has a lot to offer; good, bad, excellence, evil etc. are all in the world, when it gets to your turn you accept and enjoy which ever comes to you.

We all don't pray for the bad ones but life is not a bed of roses, it is not always rossy, if it is, then it will not be called life.

No one knows what the next minute will bring, at any moment weeping can turn to joy, happiness can turn to sadness, the jobless can be filled with great options, the poor can become rich, the needy can be swimming in plenty, the blind may even see clearer than the man with sight for long, the cripple can become heal and so on.

A second is enough to turn a story around for those who still have faith.
Keep struggling, you never know, it might be while struggling your helper will locate you.

The case of Olajumoke Orisaguna the bread seller is a story you need in order to restore your lost hope.

Know that you have a reason for each minute you are granted the opportunity to spend on earth, so far there is life, there is still hope.

I never also thought i would go to the university let alone graduating and writing on a blog for thousands to read, i never thought i will apply for job and get it on my first ever interview.

When you are still alive i can assure you that a miracle will still be unleashed through you only if you don't give up.

Be strong, look ahead and see brighter future and not look down on your current situation as it might bring you down if not good.

Be positive and persevere as life itself wants you to push so that you will be wise when you have the good things in your palm.

For those who had lost it, there is still hope of getting it back, the fact that you are reading this is the sign that you can still make it again because you are alive.

All you have to do is to retrace your mistakes and apologize to those you ought to apologize to if need be or else you will remain the same and even worse.

You cannot sow evil and want to reap goodness. Retrace your steps and try to correct your errors and learn the right lessons because i still see a bright future for you if you can come down and clean your shits.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/you-have-reason-for-each-minute.html

"The general purpose of any romantic relationship is to bring with it emotional stability, love, caring and feeling of belonging".

This cannot be achieved without someone else who is expected to have feelings for one and vice versa.

To love, to show care to someone is very hard to do because it must be done at all times, and this is different from other chores or duty which we can start and complete withing some specific period.

In relationship, it is almost for all periods starting from when intention is declared to each other till death do you apart (if you want it to grow to that level though).

Those genuinely in love with each other will want to do all it takes so that the other person will not lack any of those qualities as it is essential to keep the relationship alive.

This is the reason why relationship is not for children because of the deep concentration involved.

It is for the matured at mind ready to be committed as the qualities of a serious relationship needs a committed minds to make sure is comes to reality even as a lot of thorns will be stepped on.



Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/06/when-being-loving-becomes-chore.html

Marriages are in different folds.
Change is constant, yes it is, and it affects every areas of our life.

So many homes are under threat due to one reason or the other, but you can contain it only if you are determined.

No home is rosy, we all have what we cover up with the expensive clothes, make-ups, perfumes we wear.

Thorns are bound to be climbed in all marriages, this is why you must always pray that God should avert any test that may lead to break-up in your home if your really care about your home.

He drinks, he is a terrible womanizer, she can't cook like my friends wives, she hate home chores, she can't dress, he eats too much, he/she snores, hr/she is an illiterate, he/she doesn't pay attention and on and on...

All these are just excuses which you should have been used to even before tying the knot.

Please, you cannot have a perfect partner, tolerance is the key to a successful marriage.

Read about Polly james and mark(link available in the blog), things were going rough for them till they phantom a way to make their marriage work, it took a miracle for the marriage to be rekindled.

Even if you have jumped into the marriage, you can still remember how you started and what made you love each other.

Remember there are some people looking up to your marriage, even praying to have your kind of spouse without knowing what you are going through deep inside.

Breaking-up should not be the best option because it will leave you with an everlasting scar.

If you are not being battered by your spouse, you still have a lot you can still do to make your marriage work.

look within and apply wisdom as communication as little as it is can turn a stone to bread.

There is still time to make up, please don't take breaking-up as option.

This might be for someone out there, do share and save a marriage.


Source : http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/05/relationship-choose-to-make-up-rather.html

It is natural for some men to be polygamous when it comes to relationship.

In fact, some cannot be committed to just a woman, they feel they must eat from all available pots forgetting that the soup in some pots can rearrange their intestine.

There are so many consequences of having more than just a woman which are:

1. You spend more: Especially those who earn little and cannot satisfy one woman with what they earn, yet, they are not contented with just that woman just because the woman is trying not to complain.

2. Always conscious: Why won't you be conscious when you have skeleton in your cupboard knowing full well that some woman can kill when they know they have rival. This is when you use more than 10 security applications to lock your phone(s). You take your phone everywhere, even to the toilet, etc.

3. You think more: Yes of course, you have to always trouble your brain since you are hiding one woman from the other. Though at times one knows you have the main woman but what about the main woman that doesn't and must not know you have another one outside? The fear of her knowing is the beginning of war for you.

4. You waste more time: Time is money. There are so many things you can achieve while wasting your time with other women. If not something that can fetch more money while not use your pleasure time with your woman and kid(s), must you always peep into other people's pot? Your friends are there, your biological family are there to share your free time with and not just wallowing about with someone else's property.

5. Unexpected end: Some men knows the effect of poke-nosing, yet, they will never desist from it. You can infect your immediate home with incurable disease or other unforseen dangers. The woman you flirt with outside can even kill you and cause sadness in you home.

If you must be polygamous why not just do it rightly when you have all it takes and not just putting yourself and your home in penury and danger.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/05/consequences-of-having-more-than-one.html

wordychap:
Promises won't buy me food in d market or reduce price of things.
Do it let's see, so much for ur talks n promises, we heard more than this before d election n 1yr on lives bc worst

in 2 years he said..... You are waiting for it to come to pass yet you are leaking strike like peppersoup.

didfy:
Is like your new to Naija,why not call them now and bring feedback

As i said "they dont know Jack"......... Sorry

i confirmed from them and the price has even changed.

I don't think it is safe for woman to have more than one man.

To some women, what is good for one goose is good for another goose is the reason for having more than one man.
To some other women, the ability to satisfy their urge for s ex by their first man is another.

And for some, it is the financial challenge and a financially buoyant man will clear the worries.

Whichever ways, i still think the consequences are not worth engaging oneself in such act.

First, you will be too secretive as any error may reveal your secret which may lead to losing the best man you much desire out of the two.

You must be careful with just a man let alone two men.
Also, over stressing your thinking faculty especially when in a dilemma is another huge consequences as you will not want to loose any of the two men very early and cheap.

Furthermore, you must be at alert at all times in thinking and in behaviour as your reaction may speak quicker and louder than the situation in front of you.

More so, what about the emotional and psychological effect at the last stage when you will want to choose the one that will take you to the altar and it happens that the one you love most is the one that cannot give you what you want?

To the married women engaging in extra marital activities; everyday is for the thieves, one day is for the owner.
What were you thinking before you said "i do"? After that statement you have no other choice than to manage your home effectively not minding the circumstances you find yourself.

If you can't think for now you need to consider the future, no home is complete, every home with its own ups and downs. Most secrets are covered by the cloth we wear.

Take wise decisions in order not to regret at the long run, to choose ones life partner demand God's direction so as not to be termed failure.


Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/05/consequences-of-having-more-than-one-man.html

Omojudy:
I woud not classify Konga with Jumai, Konga are more thorough and more efficient. I am Vendor with both so I would know.

it seems jumai is the latest in town,have not heard about that but i rep JUMIA.

didfy:
No they have not sometimes it happens BUT if you used it less than 24hrs ago you cannot subscribe till is full 24hrs
Leave those customers service girls and boys for they dont know jack than to tell you trash and hang up

please don't abuse the customer care, they know alot... And for that time bundle it is a must you know that if you exhaust your plan within 24 hours you can only subscribe to the one of another amount within that same 24hours or your subscription will be unsuccessful.

The eba too small for me with this kinda soup.

Eko for show

Dekingmoses:
c as d guy jalabia(night wear) squeeze. and he calls himself celeb.

oga park well, why you wlays look for ppl's fault? His nighty squeeze no stop money from coming into his pocket, you wey na heaven dem dey iron your cloth from who know you?

modelmike7:
That is a beautiful one.

yea, it is

Jogor centre Ibadan went agog yesterday as one of the attendees of laffmattazz with Gbenga Adeyinka the 1st proposed to his girlfriend.

It took everyone by surprise as Gbenga Adeyinka was about giving a lady a phone courtesy of the sponsor of the event, he brought a lady out from the crowd and asked if she has a boyfriend and if he is in the building, she said yes.

The host asked of the nickname of her boyfriend  and she said FISH is the nickname without hesitation.

The boyfriend was called out to the stage and was asked if he has anything to say, shockingly, he brought out a ring and knelt down to propose to his woman.


click on the source to also watch D'banj's live performance of the event...

Source: http://www.bamisepeters.com/2016/03/laffmattaz-jogor-centre-ibadan-went.html

Hagmond:
Isese ni tagba Ajobi a gbe wa o

please may i know who is isese among the two monarchs?