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She might be stingy naturally and not just to you. Ask people around her first before you make further decisions.

I came here to see if the OP is a female. A woman can do this for themselves not a male neighbor, haba!

You may be right, but this even happens to dating outside internet...

Basically, there is no where we cannot find our betterhalf. Many are happily married through social media and same as outside social media, just that it doesn't work the same way for every body.

If we want serious relationship we need to tell ourselves the truth from the start, foundation matters.

It is unique not funny.

Considering what this girls are capable of doing, i will rather hide in one corner to be sure if she is alone even after i have confirmed to her i am there before i appear present, it is better she disgrace herself with her battalion than expose my yansh.

Keep doing as if she knows nothing about the HR, meanwhile, her social life is monitored.

kramfonos:


Prickly-faced, dysfunctional motor-neuron, delusioned hedgehog! May your face be massaged with a cactus!

BUT WHY?

maxwell60:
Gionee, Tecno,Innjoo Infinix they are all full of shit. they are just affordable they are not durable.

brother please remove gionee out of them o, gionee affordable ke... Gionee is far far different from tecno and infinix o.

Soon and very soon many will eat back their statement about this present government... Quote me and have a splendid week.

Christians sha... Me usually see am like say dem dey do party ni o, wetin concern me... Remember party food dey sweet.

Through conceptual clarification i could deduce that "relationship is
the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.
It is also a romantic or sexual friendship between two people: the way in which two or more people or things are connected" .

S ex on the other hand is the "physical activities in which people touch each other's bodies, kiss each other, etc. :physical activities that is related to and often and often includes sexual intercourse".

Many youths of today have likened relationship to be s ex which shouldn't be so.

Relationship and s ex might work hand-in-hand but it shouldn't be incorporated at the wrong time.

The opportunity for courtship is being abused on a daily basis just because we try to make relationship work through s ex.

So many young girls have involved themselves in premarital s ex which has led to unwanted pregnancy which some will abort while some will be forced to give birth at a tender age.

Everything in life is by stage. Yes, it is not possible you wake up one day and conclude that you want to get married without having someone you are dating that you have known for some months.

But the fact is that relationship and sex are two different things that should only be linked at the appropriate time.

So many men made their lady believe that if the lady did not have s ex with them then she doesn't love them.

See, if you want to love, nobody will stop you from loving anybody, but don't pretend to love when your ultimate goal is to get under her.

Don't make her believe that sex makes relationship stronger.

Premarital s ex doesn't make any relationship stronger, it kills the relationship especially when the intention is not for marriage.

Even at a stage, couples that didn't involve in premarital s ex get tired of having s ex with each other, then if that is the case, are you not making it a bit faster to lose thirst for s ex?

I think ladies of this generation should have become wiser enough to decide about their life earlier than 18years.

Some men will only have s ex with a lady ones and that's all. You should be able to keep your precious self away from the beast in men.

Many men out there are no more interested in staying with a woman for so long, they will tell you they don't like eating a particular food twice but love to eat different kinds of food.

They will come to you and give you all the sweet words and you will gladly accept them and even release your body to them like sheep without Shepherd.

You are the only one that can destroy yourself. You only go into wrong hands if you did not say yes to the right person.

During courtship you are free to decide if you can cope with each other or not, and you can choose to continue or discontinue your relationship.

But now a days, ladies find it difficult to leave the beast they are into relationship with simply because they have engaged in s ex which has made her emotionally attached with the man.

That way, it will not be easy for her to say no when she should have said it.

Some men change immediately they have s ex with their lady. The s ex will automatically be an eye opener for them, they will want to explore more, thereby exposing them to any other things in skirt.

I am not saying it is not good to introduce s ex in your relationship, but it is necessary to introduce it at the appropriate time to avoid the series of disadvantages associated with it.

It makes relationship stronger but this is for the couple and perhaps serious minded couple-to-be. Biblically it is not for those who are not married, in fact, it is a sin.

Some men are only interested in getting under a lady, but how will you decipher the true man from the fake? You can be safe if you keep your precious part till the right time.

Those that are even married can get divorced anytime let alone those that are not.

Though, some ladies are the cause of their own fall. They cannot do without s ex, and so many reasons got them so attracted to that which we might not blame them for some, while some are due to covetousness and love of money.

S ex in courtship can mar your marital life more than it can make it.
Be wise and never give yourself room to regret your impatient.



Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2015/08/sex-will-make-your-relationship.html

For people like me, no holiday, so sad... My maker will make me enjoy this break next year.

Nothing in this world is easy to maintain, not even relation with all the excitements and all.

Here are some reasons why this is so:

No room for intimacy

When you are single you think you are the only one and you alone should occupy everywhere, but in a relationship, you have to deal with the fact that you are not alone and you will want to ensure you satisfy your partner.

Your thoughts, feelings, emotions are attached and what ever the case may be you get affected especially when we talk of breakup which takes time to heal.

Relationships Need Conflict Management

You were not born by same parents and neither did you grow together. It is combination of two unrelated homes coming together that blends with time.

Without being able to manage conflict the relationship can never stand.

Imaginary expectations

"Your idea of what the perfect relationship should be is never, ever what it’s actually going to be — and “after a while, fabulous first dates and courtship give way to routine and sometimes boredom,” she says.

To make things worse, couples usually “engage in lots of social comparison, comparing stuff, partners, lifestyles — and that can set a high bar for your own relationship.” If you need to combat relationship fatigue, try to stay as far away as possible from your unrealistic expectations — and comparing yourself to others".

Don't forget we are humans, trying just to abide by a word call "relationship", do not expect too much from your partner as there are so many order words we are trying to abide by at the same time, understanding matters a lot.

Romance Isn’t Supposed To Be There 24/7

The romance in a relationship is meant to be temporary, not all the time like we imagine it to be before getting deep into the relationship.

If you are expecting it to be 24/7 then it is one sure road to exit.

Your job is there and you have other relationships to look after which will also take part of your time.

“Romance, while it can ebb and flow, isn't mean to be there all of the time."

There’s good news, though, “Do you know that feeling where you simply just love being in love? You feel physically better, the sun seems brighter, all is right in the world, and you can't wait to wake up and you don't want to sleep — you just want to talk and be with that special person?”

You can recreate that feeling by manifesting optimism. “By creating a more self-optimistic life, you can actually mirror or mimic the feeling of romance for yourself and with your partner.”

Accept that it won’t be all romance and flowers — and enjoy the special moments you do have. - zen psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategistMichele Paiva

Distractions Are Brutal

There are lots of distractions, from movies to social networks. Friends and families are also there that can cause distractions in a relationship.

It will be best if you can create schedule for all this especially when you want your relationship to grow.

There are many things on the Internet now-a-days that may want to keep us glued to the facebook, instagram, twitter etc, which we must learn to control.

It’s Too Easy To Take Things For Granted

When we get deep into a relationship we tend to take some things we started with for granted forgetting those things are what makes relationship what it is.

You try to take understanding for fool.

Those statements, plays and so on you do together becomes normal and things you think you can do without, so you neglect them.

This shouldn't be so. It is a relationship, you must keep doing them as it keeps the relationship alive.

Don't overlook the effect of those things that got your relationship sparkling at the beginning, their impact are so enormous.

Romance Takes Serious Work

“Romance has a life of its own,” New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini. “That’s why you have to nourish it.

After a while, the flow of natural excitement in a new relationship recedes.” But you can do something about it — don’t fret. “Your job is to stimulate it,” she says. “Life is fluid, and so, too, is romance. It doesn’t stay still.”
So you have to get up and feed it. “If you want to maintain romance, you have to work it,” she says.

“You can do this by creating new experiences, rekindling old ones, and looking for deeper, more mature love that is less about a spark than it is about love, respect, sex and caring for each other over the course of the long run.” It doesn’t have to be exciting all of the time — but you both have to show up and want to make things work together.

It’s Hard To Stay On The Same Page

“Since dating used to just be about meeting someone to marry and have kids with and that's not what it's about anymore, it can be hard to be on the same page at the same time,” Stefanie Safran, Chicago's "Introductionista" and founder of Stef and the City.

“In addition, the rules on courting are so blurry, so it's harder to know if you are both on the same page, because there is no rush or pressure to follow any specific path by a certain timeline.”

If you can’t tell if you’re both in search of the same thing, it’s easy for your relationship to fall to pieces. Communicate! This will help tremendously in the long run.

Relationships Don’t Have To Be A Struggle

Relationship should not be hard to handle, it will be hard if you take it hard.

Like i always say that if you take your job to be a job it will be hard at the long run. But if you take it like something fun then you will keep enjoying it.

So also is the relationship, it should be fun ans source of happiness while dealing with other things.

Relationship isn't hard when you know the rules of the other and you keep them jealously.

Selfishness is one thing that kills relationship, when you put yourself in the shoes of your partner, then, you will be able to keep the love alive, but if otherwise, it will become a life time struggle.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/09/reasons-why-relationship-is-hard-to.html

His senior brother is my colleague at work, also gentle too. May his soul rest in Perfect peace.

Many of us dream of great relationship, yet, we allow hasty decisions to ruin it even before it starts.

At times, we allow our heart to make the decisions for us instead of using our head.

Many youth on their first date have se-x after all the dreams of having the greatest relationship ever.

Well, you have set the pace for the relationship already.

I am not saying you are too young or not, that is not the point here.

As an adult, you shouldn't think because you can make decisions yourself then, you should just loosen up so fast.

The most painful part of this is that the lady bears the brunt. Men are free donor by nature.

True, it happened to some couples and they are fine together even till death do them apart.

It might not be easy to control, but that single action send wrong signal to the man who most of the time receives it really wrongly and then he takes advantage of it.

But should we blame him? Yes and No.

Yes in the sense that he is yet to know you and he has gone so far with you.
No, because it shows practically that you as the woman did not respect yourself, so, it is not expected that anyone should respect you back.

We should try to do things step by step. At least, even if it goes wrong, you will not blame yourself or regret to have made wrong decision.

You still need to prove you are hard to get to him even after you have accepted to love him back.

Him having access to the key to open that golden gate should be another journey he must labour to reach the destination.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/09/your-can-ruin-your-dream-relationship.html

JayJayGee:
If na that one I boring die (around girls I like)... Na em be say no hope for me

you are not the one to say you are boring, in fact, this shows you are not.

sparko1:
I just wish there is a way i can escape this marriage of a thing, you have to be this, you have to be that, i can't get home without my aunt praying and warning me on marriage. so tired of this crap!

believe me, it is a good thing o, let those enjoying it share the experience with you and you will know what i am saying.

Gracito:
Responsible men Care for their wives with or without the pregnancy, period.

ofcourse

McBrooklyn:
OP, you mean like this

yes now, you will also enjoy it.

You Need A Woman And You Belong To One Or All Of These Categories


What is good for one goose is good for another goose.

As it is for women, some men are also dying to meet their soul mate.

One thing is that if they belong to any of these categories, they might not get a woman till they answer the call of nature.

1. YOU ARE STINGY

It is a "no-no" for any woman. Women know that you may not be rich every day, but what you do when you have that resources matters and it covers for those days you are or will be down.

It is not monetary at all times, sharing some things you have is also another thing that makes you less-stingy.

2. WHEN YOU ARE PROUD

Many responsible ladies too hate it when you brag about your wealth.

They know one day you will say "how much is your generation worth?" especially when the women factor sets in(when the woman get you angry) which is expected. Even at times the anger might be the fault of you the man.

As a proud man there is nothing you will think is too small for you to have since you have the money.

Even at this period, those women that will be around you are those that want to feed on your palms and they will never be permanent.

At this point woman is nothing to you and this makes any woman insecure.

3. IF YOU ARE BORING

The fact is that if you are boring you will only bore yourself alone to death.

Not just women's belief, relationship is meant to be enjoyed. Not that you know you are in a bondage and you should be feeling the heat.

Child's play and others must be incorporated into any relationship, love turn two grown ups to babies and that is what the women expects from you.

4. YOU ARE OVER POSSESSIVE

When you are the type that loves to control, you might have issues with women.

Yes, they love you to be in charge outside your home but not in the house with them.

You love to make all the decision in the house not minding the effect.You like to command them to do what you want them to do not minding how they feel about your decision. You want to be a self-esteem killer.


5. NO HOPE OR AMBITION

You are allowing the situation of your economy to weigh you down. You are seeing yourself as someone who cannot make it with little or no assistance.

You think it is your government that must provide everything for you, they must even feed or bath you.

You can't even create slight space for yourself to breath(Rat is wiser than you). You depend on your family for everything, even boxers.

6. YOU ARE A CHAMELEON

You have never been truthful to yourself. You borrow everything making everyone feel you are also in town.

You feel women loves those that live fake life, so, you must also attract them by all means. Meanwhile you have nothing to eat, yet, you prefer to use the little you suppose to feed with to buy material things thinking they will make women go gaga forgetting it will only last for a while.

You are on your own physically, spiritual and emotionally.

Women knows that pride and to be stingy are quickest way to the down fall of any man and any home.

No woman want to be controlled around like a baby and also want to sleep and wake up with one boring man.

No woman will even accept your proposal if they see no future in you, they believe you ain't ready and should still be nurtured more especially when your dependence lies in your parents, just forget it.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/09/you-need-woman-and-you-belong-to-one-or.html

You Need A Man And You Belong To One Or All Of These Categories

Many women are clamoring they don't have a man to even tell them how pretty they look, yet they belong to one or more of these listed categories:

1. PROUD

You are proud, yet you expect a man to approach you, you are extremely on your own.

There is no one you are not afraid to talk back at. You find fault in every man you see on the road or that comes to you.

You are fast to compare men as they come.


2. FLAUNT YOUR WEALTH

Highest degree of it all is this category.

Though, every man want their woman to also earn income to sustain the home this days, but not to the extent of you having and also making it conspicuous you have it more than the man especially when you are searching.

Only "few" men don't care about what your appearance speaks.

Most men will not even want to come close once they weigh how buoyant you are financially through your appearance when they know your appearance alone can buy them and their generation.

3. SET PREFERENCE

Ladies that belong to this category are those that keep saying i want a man that is extremely rich or educated or good looking or tall or short or someone with 6-packs or dark or light and so on.

Well, no big deal setting preference, but the issue comes in when your preference does not choose you, what will then happen?

Love doesn’t know preference, little wonder why some ladies in their matrimonial home keeps pondering why they settle for what they have never set as preference as their dream partner.

4. STONE FACE

Laughing out loud at this because the appearance shows "don't trespass" so, you shouldn't expect any reasonable man to even come closer.

Even a man that is very serious naturally or extremely religious will not take a second look at your angry looking face let alone someone that is free and always cheerful.

5. PRETENDERS

This is common not just among women but even among men.

When you claim to be what you are not. What you are to Mr A is different from what Mrs. B knows you for.

To you, you think they don't know you forgetting this world is very small, they even know you more than you know yourself.

You just need to keep your calm if you want a good man. You must not let it be obvious you have more than your man, to the men watching you, they will feel you will never be submissive.

Be cheerful and appreciate every man and let people know you for what you are and not what you claim to have.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/09/you-need-man-and-you-belong-to-one-or.html

OP, many here don't know what you mean i swear, i wish they understood.

We are all making the mistake of calling someone ugly just by their appearance.
What do you even mean by saying someone is ugly?

You will say someone that is not good looking or attractive, right?

What a mistake you have been making.
Ugliness is not by physical appearance, but in the inside.

Many looks good and attractive, yet, the inside is as ugly as chimpanzee. They do not have anything to offer themselves nor the society.

When you need them to be reasonable is when they show you that what you are seeing is just camouflage.

What is the essence of a king or queen without brains?

Little wonder why some handsome men marry someone you term ugly while those beauty queens get married to those you call ugly men.

This is because they see what is hidden to you who becomes a lay man because all you desire is the appearance that can diminish anytime.

I am not saying all those that are good looking are not intelligent even with all the degrees they have, but it is wrong for you who has gotten all the accolades and still judging someone by their appearance.

Yes, you are good looking, you have gotten the brains, thank your luck, but there will still be something you lack that those you term ugly have.

No one is perfect.

Calling someone ugly in their presence or behind them can do a lot of damage to them emotionally.

And it only takes a strong partner to stand by their spouse when you term their partner "ugly" because what they see that you are not seeing in that their partner is unexplainable because you might not even understand if they explain.

If you love your neighbor as yourself you will not be happy at bringing down someone else's self esteem.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/08/no-one-is-ugly.html

I am talking about those men that love their partner . One thing is that they are more than happy when the news of the baby to come is been broken to them and they are ready to go extra mile to make sure their woman don`t feel the pains associated with pregnancy.

The followings are some of the things the responsible men do when their partner are pregnant:

1. Shower her with gifts:

This is the period the responsible men drops by the next store to get gift for their partner, not just any gift but best of those items the partner loves.

2. Every minute checks:

The responsible men knows that the pregnant stage is the period their attention is needed most by their woman, so they do all they can to be close when they are not even close. They call every minute to ask about the welfare of the partner and the unborn child while they wait anxiously to see the baby start moving in the stomach.

3. They ask questions at all times:

At every sound of the partner, the man will ask question, how are you? what is it? hope no problem? and so on. This is not just for asking sake, but to show the woman they are also feeling what the woman is feeling even when that is not possible.

4. They turn the woman to pet:

The pregnancy period is the period women needs to be handled with care. And they should be the center of concentration due to their delicate condition and the pains attached. The responsible men rub them in the back, stomach, leg and ma-sage them on or off request just to do little in relieving them of the pains they might be going through.

5. They take the position of a helper:

During pregnancy period, even the man that cannot boil water starts to grow confidence to cook vegetable soup just to show the woman how caring he is, and at times they end up cooking salty food. The point remains that they cook. This is when you see a responsible man preparing the breakfast even before the woman wakes, they boil water for her bath, they come home early enough to prepare dinner ,while some will take her out for dinner.

Any woman with a responsible man should be proud and treat him right after baby has been delivered. This is because it is not easy to tolerate a woman let alone the one with the pregnancy condition.

Please, you can add to the list, those with years of experience should share their experience.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/08/things-all-responsible-men-do-when.html

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Submitted by a blog reader.

...God bless the Nigeria custom officers on night duty.

19/8/16 - 20/8/16 12.15am
Note* Disturbing pictures.

If you are my friend, it's easy to figure out I have serious issues with men in uniform.

I am always the first to thank them for their service to our nation, and after that I rather have nothing more to do with them. Why? I don't like their "slap and kill" attitude, but tonight, I have a reason to be grateful and thankful to them.



So, it is 12a.m and Henry Adetutu Gbadega decided to take a perfect tumbling step down the bathtub and smashed half his face on the floor .....tiled floor.

He had a smashed face, blood everywhere with pieces of flesh.

Cars are parked behind cars, so it's hopeless going to knock flat by flat to come move their cars to drive out.

So on foot with a bleeding full grown man, rushing to the hospital.



We flagged down every car, truck, even okada we saw driving, not one stopped.
So, I took a running walk down to d next bus-stop, just by FGC Ijaniki, and approach the uniformed custom men.

On seeing Henry, the first officer gave up his seat, and the unending sympathetic "sorry o", "madam press the ice block for your brother face well", " chai! sorry my brother".

And then they started, trying to flag down cars. After 10mins, their boss looked at me and said " madam, no car is stopping. Let's drive you to the hospital ourselves" so they did.

No penny asked. "We don't have fuel" was not even the testimony.

We got to the Hospital, and siren started blasting. 5minutes,10minutes, hospital no gree open gate.....




Next thing I heard, the senior custom guy shouted "madam get inside the car now!!!!!"..... Lo and behold, in front of us approaching are the dreaded " ORO" cult.

So it happened the king in that community was dead and ORO was on-going.

You all know the drill ladies and gentlemen..WOMEN DO NOT SEE ORO, yet here i was, doing the neighbourly thing by 1a.m, in the middle of the night, not peeping but standing right there in the middle of the street, no place to hide, facing and staring right to the oncoming crowd of over 100 naked men, doing their traditional "evil"....The penalty? DEATH!!!!!Simple and short. No question asked.

The only protection i had were the gun blazing men of the Nigeria custom service, shielding me.....not the military but custom service.

If I didn't see it, I won't believe, but these men thought only to protect our country from illegal product entries, were about to put their lives on the line, protecting those they met less than 2hours ago.

It all happened so fast, but these brave 5 men, saved my life tonight and drove me out, Rambo style out.

After they dropped us home safe, telling us to go try apply first aid on his face and pray as we wait for daybreak, they left.

Again, not a penny demanded.
Some might say its their duty, but we are Nigerians and we know how it is.
Tonight, I am proud of my uniformed men. Tonight, I pray specially for those of them that stayed up all night watching our roads and going beyond their duty, to help stranded civilians like Henry, Oga Eke and I at night.

God bless and protect our uniformed men, keep them safe.

For those that keep slapping us just because....don't worry u will surely be posted to ......

HENRY :

SPEND 2minutes in Bed before rising, it could save your Life.

I almost died yester-night, when I stood up around 12.05a.m to ease myself, suddenly I collapsed on the floor with bruises all over me as I was about leaving the bathroom.

I guess doctors always advise don't stand up suddenly. Please spend some minutes before leaving your bed because medical fact has it that that moment your brain is not totally in control because there is no instant flow of blood or energy needed in full supply at that moment, learn from me, if not for God's grace I would have been late by now...typing this from my hospital bed.



Source : http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/08/if-not-for-nigerian-custom-officers-on.html

When you are dating is the best time to know about our partner especially when we hope the relationship leads to marriage.

There are some things we must watch in our partner before making the conclusion that will make or mar our relationship at the long run. Love mustn't always be blind.

There are several signs to make you know you have found your life partner which includes:

1. When your partner accept your flaws.

Your partner must be ready to accept you just as you are because you can never be same. No matter what your short coming may be, your partner must be ready to deal with it if he/she cannot correct you.

2. When your partner believes in you.

Even when the whole world says you are wrong your partner must believe in your potentials because he/she knows you more and that your partner might just be the needed strength to do the unthinkable.

3. When your partner is proud to
announce you anywhere.

If you are in a relationship with the person that cannot introduce you to those that matters to him/her which i believe is gradual till the main people that should know knows then you are in the wrong place. Why is he/she hiding you when you are not an evil spirit.

4. When you partner allows you to partake in decision making.

Two good heads they say are better than one. If your partner isn't giving you the opportunity to speak in your relationship you will not be able to speak when it has been sealed. A tree cannot make a forest and Rome was build with many hands.

Anyone who thinks there is nothing good you can offer don't deserve you.

5. When your partner respects you.

Respect is one thing you don't joke with in a relationship. There are some things you do in the absence of your partner which you must not try in his/her presence just because of the way that thing might make them feel.

Respect is not just when you observe the Seniority between you and someone else but what you keep away from their presence because they may not be fine with it.

6. When your partner cherish every minute with you.

You are together and your partner keep checking the time uncontrollably, please if reason is not known to you too then know that you are just wasting your time, it is better to flee.

Someone who is not ready to take time to access you will not be able to determine who you are.

7. When your partner cherish everything around you.

The fact is that you are not just the only one your partner must love. Your family is a major factor which your partner most not toil with.

Then, your friends and other relatives are also important. It is those people around you that your partner will marry indirectly, so, everyone must be cherished for the growth of the family as a whole.

You must be very vigilant to notice any of this as it will determine the success of the home you've been dreaming about.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/08/7-signs-youve-found-your-lifepartner.html

YOUNGSTUNNA:
I called no one fool brother... there are certain things you don't need a professional for.
I don't mean to brag here... you can call me handy man. I spend my whole life learning things. there's nothing I can not do when it comes to skill...
electrically, electronically, mechanically, ICT, teaching, talk about cooking, sewing, building, carpentry, Baking, repairs,..just name it brother...
like I initially said... I'm not here to brag....
the worse thing that can ever happen to me is for me to go a whole day without gaining a thing.

heeya! You don't need to shout before you brag, just overlook some acts at times, we are not the same.

I have seen many topics opposing a man in a relationship with an older woman. Personally, i don't see anything bad in it.

Love is blind is almost a global anthem, so that shouldn't be so special.

We make so many things to look strange in Africa and this is why we see this issue as a barrier.

In fact, there are so many people in this kind of situation and are pretty happy, yet, no one is aware that the woman is older than the man.

With maturity, this can be achieved.
It takes a matured woman to understand the fact that love knows no bound and to recognize her responsibility as the wife even when the age is stating who the man is.

And i have not seen any manual that states that for a relationship/marriage to be successful the man must always be older than the woman.

It is here in Africa we say the woman will disrespect you when she is older than you forgetting that the moment a man starts sleeping with a woman he is 10 years(for example) older than, the status of the man has changed in the sight of that woman, the respect will start diminishing.

Most men are afraid because of the flexible nature of women, most times they are not what we think they prove to be because they work like weather.

Most men believe that after you have taken a woman to the altar is when you know her true nature, and this is why they feel it is not okay for the woman to be older than the man in any relationship.

The relationship can be fine if the two people involved are truly mature not just physically, but in all ramifications.
When each of the parties knows and performs his/her duties and responsibilities as at when due, not minding the age difference with lots of understanding and perseverance then, the relationship can lead to the promise land because even those that the husband is older than the wife are not still getting it right let alone when the reverse will be the case.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/08/is-it-barrier-for-woman-to-be-older.html