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Dear op.. Thank God u are doing well for yourself and u honestly admitted that u aren't a saint too.. We all are sinners before God and we are all working towards perfection... Its obvious this girls loves u to a fault and prefers not to bother u for money but do u know that a lion neva change its spot?.. That girl will always do such things in times of trouble in future.. Be wise

Ladylite:
Aunti
Aunty

Calm down, go and enjoy your life.

You may not believe in religion now but I bet you when you are 35 you will know life is spiritual.


All this you explained here are normal for teenagers and under 25 girls.

Lady to Lady I tell you that you know even if you meet a mature guy with all that standard, he may not be interested in you and you are too proud to chase or beg.


See, you are not ready so move on and have fun with your life and other areas of your life.

IN your 30s try again by then the standards you spent so much time explaining now will not seem important to you.

Ciao

pls tell her dear

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

the only part that got me is the part that u said u don't believe in religion... Hmmm.. Then it shows something is missing in your life my dear.. If u dont go back to your creator and restitute wt him... U wont get what u want... Except u are a child of partition... But wt the way things are going wt u right now, it seems u are God's chosen lady.. Kindly go back to him..if u follow your desires in your kind of man.. U will make mistakes which might land u in hell... But if u make makes restitution.. He will guide your path to meet the right man for u.. Thank God you are still young..

Mine

Smartchoiice:
What needs to be fixed? Apart from the SBC brakes....?

as seen on the pics there are little scratches (not dent) on the bumpers.. Passengers doors and booth.. Asides that i can guarantee the car is swift and has a sweet experience.. Trust me

shortgun:
Ur ride looks clean bro
Which year is this?
Engine pics?

thanks i took the pics today 1st of December... The car is 2003 model

More pictures

Benz e240 2003 model
Distress sales at just 850k
Slightly negotiable
Buy and drive
Ice cold ac
Location.. Ado ekiti
Contact 08035182976
Open for test driving and intensive inspection
10k for transport back to your base on payment
Pls dont miss this offer
Serious buyer pls

Mercedes benz e240 distress sales for 850k but slightly negotiable... Buy and drive.. In good perfect condition..
Location is ado ekiti
Contact 08035182976

samyyoung1:
Nice car....affordable price1

thanks please i need a quick patronage on the benz

Just come wt your mechanic for intensive inspection and

Pls take advantage of this ride.. U wont regret it at all

This car is worth 1.4m but its just a distress sales

Slightly negotiable

The owner needs quick money to sort school fees
In perfect condition
Ice cold ac
Buy and drive
850k slightly negotiable
Call 08035182976 for details
Location is ado ekiti
Serious buyer will collect 10back for transport expenses back to his base

850k but slightly negotiable

Contact 08035182976 for inspection and details

Front veiw

Interior

Rear view

Distress sale
Perfect condition
Ice cold ac
Buy and drive

Distress sales 850k slightly negotiable
In very good condition
Ac working perfectly
Buy and drive

My dear sister.. God loves u and doesn't want u to perish.. But something is missing in u... If u enter your marriage like this... U wont be able to face the heat of marital issues...its obvious u are not saved.. U need jesus into ur life first... Sleeping wt a guy u barely know after a little misunderstanding wt your fiance shows u arent broken at all... Think about these words sis

Obiwiz:
Fuel economy is not really an issue per se. We're prepared for that. But what we want to be wary of is whether it has a history of being a problematic vehicle. Most people so far, have spoken against the nissan pathfinder

no issues so far... Its quite energetic and good for our roads...

Obiwiz:
Please I need a very competent Nissan mechanic in Lagos, preferably around ijeshatedo, mile 2, cele area. It's urgent.
Pls I also need opinions.... Is the 2004 Nissan pathfinder a reliable vehicle? Thanks all.

if u are still struggling to survive... U dont need that v6 3.7litre engine vehicle.. But if u have maintenance money and fuel money.. Why not. Go ahead

[quote author=Kingpele post=84255438][/quote]u are on point.. We reason alike.. I guess u are married and experienced

Fountainofyouth:
Tell me something, so for 5 whole years you sat down at home doing nothing, what does that make you? A lazy ass man or egoistic man who refuses to do any type of job to cater for your home

if that was all u saw in my comment.. Then what's the point in replying u dear bro... I pray u won't experience such in life.. Be good

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armadeo:
The shoe pinches who wears it. Jn one post I said that the problem as yoh put it is ego. Its logical in its illogicality.

The wife has to understand the situation and manage it as such. This is a typical example of for better for worse.

If she manages it well then they come out stronger ( hoping the man gets back on his feet). If she doesn't then Cyracus Nzekwe will report thier case.

Now is the time to prove herself. Beyond reasonable doubt.

Its akin to having a family member with a mental health issue. Is it his fault no!. But you have to manage it.

u sound married and much more experienced... Thanks for this piece of advice for the op

MamaFryo:
I need to arrest your husband right away. That guy needs to be locked in the cell for his head to be correct. Tell him to kukuma kill you na!


Let me book space here to hear from other people...

i can sense u aren't married.. Get married and learn dear sister... This man was loving and hard working before his change of attitude due to frustration and his not been able to fend for his family... Now back to the op.. Shes a strong and God fearing woman just like my wife... I passsed through the same issue for 5years and my wife did the same but everything turned around since 2018...dear op pls be patient wt this man.. See a good prophet... And respect your husband wt all you have... If u can continue... Your husband will regain all hr has lost.. And those your 3 lucky children will become great in life... This is just a passing phase for your family so that u can have a story to train those children..

Check your air flow meter... Its either its spoilt completely or the contact is faulty.... Better still take it to a competent mechanic to run a check on the system

Are u for real I have said it over and over again..the foundation of a marriage matter alot.. Dont be suprised that one of this ladies is a witch and sees everything that's happening with u... U are sitting on a gunpowder..however there's no two ways to it.. U are married... U need to find a way of staying wt your family... As a married man on a daily basis , i see ladies more beautiful... More intelligent... More successful than my wife but i have made a vow before God and man to stick to her till death do us part.. So respect that and grow up...

This is a very sensitive matter and needed to be treated as such.. This marriage wants to start with a war and it wont augur well if that bitter lady decides to strike... Am just chipping in this so the couple will have rest of mind to face other things... The couple should invite two other elders with them to settle the matter with this so called lady.. Pacify her... And plead wt her to let this matter go and make her see reasons wt the couple... To build is not easy but to fall is really easy..but if the couple are both members of prayer warriors in their church oo... I tink they dont need to go through all that (smiles ).. That lady will always vent her failure and frustration on them both physically and spiritually if they dont heed to this.. I wish them a blissful conjugation ahead