₦airaland Forum

Theunbreakablem:
Hmmm I don’t think she is cheating on me and if that was the case it is possible for another man to buy clothes for the children that doesn’t belong to him ?

Nigerian men that lie that their wives are dead jut to eat another babes coochie? You never jam. Men pay school fees of children of married women in Nigeria. If you no know, know today. Men will do whatever it takes

bukatyne:
@Bold:

I see.

I wonder how many 'money' an average man has in Nigeria.

I don't base my principles on what I read here, I have read a myriad of strange things.

Let me ask you: In a traditional marriage where he feels he should be in control, the wife should shut up and let the man take 'charge', what value does the man have when he has no money?

God give unto you as you desire. And please make a lot of money, sure you don't want small 'respect'.

My desire is to have plenty money, peace of mind and no fake love. So, thanks for your prayer.

Now, to the issue of your question: in an ideal marriage, money is not the determinant of headship of the home but we do not dwell in ideal times. As the days go by, we see and even experience a massive shift in culture and even religious teachings. And we know culture to be “way of life”. At the end of the day, one must face reality and insure themselves against self delusion.

Omar09:
I didn't ask them, did I?

Sorry sah

Omar09:
Yup. I suspected that line. Have you actually seen a real man, and if you have, what is your qualification of a real man?

I’m not sure I know what a real man is o. But I’m sure nairaland women can give you the perfect definition

crackkhaus:
Music to my ears, lol..

Hehehe

crackkhaus:
I asked one yesterday if the intense stretching does not pain them in their yansh - one leg in 1780 and the other in 2020. Lol

Lol. I saw your poser. Got a good chuckle out of me. But I suspect you’re just a misogynist. Everybody knows real men always please their women

crackkhaus:
Lmao

100%

Bruh, I never see dis kain tin before. Dem wan keep one leg for patriarchy and the other for feminism. Even giraffes will have a hard time doing that.

crackkhaus:
I used to think the text in bold was common knowledge too, until I realized there are some men who exist permanently on a unique spectrum of idiocy which is responsible for making them believe there is still an angel of a woman out there, the kind of woman that will cater to their whims and financial needs with gleefulnes and joy peradventure their fortunes dwindle.

Some idiots are yet to wake up bro, still in sleep mode.

Dem go wake up by force. Person wey oversleep go still wake up whether for this side or for the other side.

Smartchoiice:
You want freshine and Gazzuz to come for me?

Dude, what’s the deal with Gazzuz? Been seeing him referenced too many times today?

Etizz:
Lol......egusi soup and she was crying.....what if she eats Yoruba stew?



She go die be DAT oh...

Na now I know say you be murderer. Yoruba stew ke? Have you forgotten the Nigerian that was arrested in the US after giving her roommate peppersoup?

crackkhaus:
You're asking questions pretending as if women don't already misbehave once they start paying ALL the bills in the house.

Was it not on this same section someone asked his wife to pay her own children's fees, and he received the insult of his life?
What about the one that was considering running away to live with his mother after he lost money?
Or just yesterday, one asked his fiancée to purchase her own wedding gown, what she will wear on her own body, and she's not picking his call again?

See ehn, any man that loses his financial standing and is unfortunate enough to be married to a woman who will start bossing him around, he better avoid her as much as he can and make sure he is trying very hard to get his finances back in order...not forming head of house all over the place.
He should even temporarily move away for a while on his own accord, if it comes to that.

The only woman who will take care of a grown man who is not contributing a dime without complaining after sometime, is his own mother - there's no Nigerian wife or girlfriend like that.. You can quote me anywhere, I will defend my statement. NONE whatsoever!

Sometimes when I see women wondering why a lot of men don't joke with their mothers, I am always beside myself with laughter - they must be blind or stvpid, or both.

Gbayi

crackkhaus:
https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/msy.gif


This should be framed and hung up in the National Assembly if possible.

For real bro . The wenches think they’re smart.

Michellekabod2:
my stance still remains that you are a m0r0n
As I feminist, I am against female oppression (infact oppression of any human) and subjugation, how husband's and wives run their homes is not my business. Let women have rights as men(go to school,take part in politics, equal work pay etc),anything aside that such as how couples live in their matrimonial home doesn't concern me.

I love chivalry from men and I love femininity from women. I love Masculinity and I love femininity. People should be free to decide how they want to live and roles to play in their own marriage.

Your pitiful self can't provide proof where I had a problem with a woman or man leading the home.

The Bible said the fool thinks himself wise. In light, of Solomon’s wisdom your opinion is irrelevant. Just because you think something doesn’t make it the truth.

However, you are a sophist or, at best, a chaparral feminist. The mere mention of your belief in chivalry puts you as a fraud or again, at best, an ignoramus of the most sinister order.

Your beliefs and the feminist you claim to be are naturally at variance.

In the words of Frank Underwood, “you want a man to be an equal when it suits you and you want a man to take charge when it suits you.”

Madam, you are a lying, manipulative dingbat.

budaatum:
Have you not heard of meeting halfway, where we both contribute to the bills?

You should read up more about about patriarchy. [url=https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purple_Hibiscus_%28novel%29?wprov=sfla1]Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie[/url] wrote a fantastic book explaining what it can be in a family unit. And there's lots out there about how it destroys society, examples being ₦50 olosho and the need to feed herslf with her tits.

There is no such thing as meeting halfway. Do feminist women not desire and even expect their men to buy expensive rings to commemorate and engagement? Do they not expect the man to use his muscle and brawn in protecting them and defending their lives when it comes down to it?

Are men still not expected to be men? If such dichotomies exist, I’m sorry there’s no such thing as 50-50.

bukatyne:
Then what happens when the bill paying man loses his source of income and the wife steps into his shoes?

They start matriachy in the family?

Or the man still wants to claim been the head while he can't foot the bills when money was what defined his status in the relationship?

I like this type of thoughts and life has a way of turning round.

With the above, Nairaland males should stop whinning when they lose earning power and their wives no longer want to reckon with them.

That will be now be 'having your cake and eating it.'

I am old enough to know that the man immediately loses his respect. He is head in nothing but name and title.

Every idiot knows that women only respect money. How many times have men on here been advised to forget women and go make money so they can qualify for a woman’s love? Have you yourself not read it, at least, twenty times on nairaland?

Forget all this scaremongering, we done wise. We sabi as e dey go. Men must make money or suffer disrespect. Shikena

Michellekabod2:
you are a dunce.
When did I say I have an issue with a man or woman leading?my stance has always being that who leads is the couples mutual decision,it doesn't concern me. If the woman wants to lead,fine,if the man wants to lead,fine....as long both are comfy with it and they are treated with love,care and respect.

Your stance is irrelevant to the fact that you think the patriarchy is wrong. If you truly believe couples should do what they want you’d show respect to all possible decisions

You’re an intellectual rabbit. Picking and choosing what you find convenient, when you find it convenient.

Michellekabod2:
Budaatum will yet deny ferociously that the Bible doesn't endorse patriarchy to save his/her holy book blame

Patriarchy is not a sin. It is not a crime. Any woman that wants a man to take care of her is playing by patriarchal rules. If you detest the patriarchy and want to abolish it, no problem. Pay your own damn bills.

You either turn down the patriarchy completely or shut the eff up and submit to your man

Sarah20A:
brother you need jesus more than Sylvester

Sister Sarah, please pray for me.

tpiar:
Share your views.

Panla

Fake thread

crackkhaus:
Lol, I just came across this topic:

https://www.nairaland.com/5673883/fiancee-stopped-picking-calls-please

See Vyolet and PrimadonnaO type there.... does not want to pay for her own wedding dress but tomorrow, she sef will be forming independent minded contrarian alcoholic woman who does not want any husband's relative in her house.

Have you seen my exchange with Ishilove on that thread?

bukatyne:
@Bold:

And relatives do not change or harm one another?

Or people who lie and cheat as spouses suddenly translate to saints as relatives? We don't have cases of siblings scheming to kill themselves or siphoning individual properties?

What of parents harming their kids and vice versa?

BTW: I am not saying all relationships are evil.

What is the proportion of bad spouses to bad siblings? Anybody can f*ck you up at anytime, but a spouse is statistically more likely to f*ck you up than a sibling.

And as a betting man, I go with the stats. Even if I fail, I accept that it was inevitable having satisfied the statistical requirements

crackkhaus:
Lol, you are definitely an oldie. This is not your first handle here

Oh, definitely. I’m sure you know me well

crackkhaus:
Lol, I wonder what even made the latter one deactivate. She don tire to talk about Germany finally

The only thing that pained me about Mindfulness is that we never got to see a picture of her.

Who knows why she deactivated. Her husband could have caught her receiving untoward DMs from hörny nairalanders. This forum has a wild underbelly

crackkhaus:
Lol, I wasn't expecting any rebuttal from her honestly.

There has only ever been two females here with an impressive expanded scope on world issues that could engage on diverse topics at ease - shollypops and mindfulness.. Dem don disappear from NL

Im not so sure about Shollypops, but I understand what you mean Mindfulness is quite open minded even though she can be a troll atimes.

bukatyne:
If you can't be discerning enough to marry a woman who would stand by you, it is your loss.

My family has been there for me for, my husband has also and will continually be there for me.

Going through all the threads on in-laws, people are scared to truly embrace their spouses because they are not sure of their commitment to them.

Well, if I’m not discerning enough, perhaps it is wise for me to place my trust in those who have proven trustworthy, is it not? Meanwhile, millions of divorced people could have sworn with their souls they chose the best person; time proved them wrong.

People don’t know what to expect because history and statistics have shown that most people lie and these lies are only discovered down the line. Most people today, really do not want to get married but they do because they want children or they listen to society.

Ishilove:
In this 21st century?

You need deliverance

Olden days wives didn’t work, they were submissive and their husbands were expected to cater to their needs.

Modern wives need not be submissive and they should be able to cater to their own needs.

What exactly should I be delivered from? Common sense?

Ishilove:
Your wife (YES, SHE IS YOUR WIFE ONCE YOU HAVE DONE THE FULL TRADITIONAL RITES) earns 180k per month. She complained you are doing well for yourself and you are very stingy. She said she you asked her "what will you be doing with your money?"

Sylvester, you need Jesus.

Well, that IS a good question. What will she be doing with her money?

She says husband is doing well for himself and is stingy, husband retorts with a poignant question about how she intends to use her earnings. Now, she doesn’t want to pick his calls. I think he knows she wants to spend his money and selfishly keep hers. She didn’t know he was stingy before accepting to marry him? Abi she thinks he’s doing well by spending money anyhow?

Is she submissive? Does she kneel down and greet him in the morning? Does she kneel when serving him food? . If she doesn’t, no problem. It only shows they are equal in the marriage. Again, what does she intend to do with her money?