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Ladylite:
This is a real question that many singles have not begun to consider or discuss before marriage.

I hope you know that your wife loves you, but the sacrifice you have to make is beyond sleep, it also involves sex... Now that there is a 7month old blessed baby with you, simply DATE your wife.....

By date I mean, treat her well, do things for her and be very nice to her as expected, buy her gifts, pamper her... She will give you sex.. I assure you.

Your wife is going through a major phase and you need to understand it and be there for her.

I hope this is clear

Smh

Brooke60:
You need to join her in the parenting.

The reason for leaving the room is flimsy.

When both of you start the parenting together, you will start enjoying your marriage.

It’s important to read and understand what you are responding to before your actual response.

Someone complained of two months of “very poor sleep”, but you don’t think it’s sufficient reason enough to seek other sleeping arrangements.

Secondly, he hasn’t said he’s not been parenting. Wtf

Omar09:
Pls tell me she's the same person as ePoster.

I no know when autocorrect change eposter to rooster. She’s one and the same

ubunja:
Belafonte I was not sure of your message until this little stunt here.

You see, nlposter, eposter, tpia, tpiar, tpiander are one and the same person. I would rather avoid her, but I’m just listing her other monickers so you’re aware of her many forms.

She’s one psycho, obese woman based in US/aUk, can’t remember which now, but she’s a very old member of this forum. Avoid going forward.

Ubunja, avoid this person. She’s been committed countless times. You are arguing with a certified lunatic. She’s an old member who goes on breaks, I guess when she is recommitted. Ignore her

egopersonified:
Your girl is cheating on you and you are trying to pin it on her step mother. Red pillers, come and advice your member, he might listen this time.

Hi, how have you been?

hkidola00:
I created this topic below a year and a half ago about my gf cheating on me wit her cousin when she went to another state (ede, osun) for exam,what we share and involve together can't be termed as mere play, we were gonna get married in d nearest future as tins moves on

https://www.nairaland.com/4646015/girlfriend-cheated-me-cousin

now guys adviced me to do away with her but I didn't listen cos dat was her first, thought she will change but D one she did now wrecked me.....Four months after she apologized, I was still angry but forgave her cos dat a first, she travelled to Lagos, ajah to be precised to work for sometime with her sister, she used a total of a year there.
The tin is i found out she was dating another guy,i have her facebook password, but she wouldn't think I would check, dis time she do pass d night at his place,imagine d amount of time d guy wud av had sex with her, she do visit him well, this is a girl I never left and kept letting her know how my football career is moving,
I play in Amateur 1 of the Nigeria football league for a team in Ibadan, kept assuring her we wud be together,i can't focus in training and matches....i found out wit prove, she couldn't deny it... I was down cos I always speak wit her, so after she drops my call, she visit d guy... let assume I never found out..

mind u her father has two wives,her mum loves me, I and d second wife not on same page, we've had a scuffle and she assured me I won't marry d girl,who knows where all dis battle is coming from,d girl's behaviour or d woman....
she has been apologizing sha,but I've packed her out in my mind, it just hurting for been foolish twice...

Visit www.nairaland.com/ubunja and read everything Ubunja has written till you have sense, because of obviously don’t have sense.

Martinez39, abeg come help dis dude I no get time

hkidola00:
firstly she's not d cheating type over our two years relationship course...... well, she tried a distasteful thing by receiving some gifts from a married man, she lied about d source which she confessed d real source 2 months later, dat deceit and cheating for me, well I forgave her after so much begging.....
4 months later she went to another state to write some exams, she started having an affair with her cousin, I got to know by downloading a call recorder app from play store and placing it on the phone she uses to call, there I heard all there conversation, I showed her and she has started begging me dat she swear, dey have only been romancing on four occasions, no sex, well dat true based on the recorded conversation,.....
now she has been crying and begging she won't do it again, and huuhhhh, I deflowered her two years ago and I promise to marry her as an aspiring footballer when things becomes saucy...
Now as a guy how will I get past dat, I can't stand the thought of the nasty shitts i heard from d recorder, just imagine I didn't set it, I would have been a fool, should I give her another chance and forgive her as she don use swearing, begging and cries tire me

Where are hose idiots that say marrying a virgin guarantees that you’ve found a good wife. I laugh. You will cry hot tears

healthserve:
Hey brother. Been a long long time. Missed your brilliant intellectual bullets. What's good....

I’m good bro. Na January we dey . I must buy private jet this year .

Trust you’re all good?

CAPSLOCKED:
more feminists like this, please. I endorse this advocacy

You see your life? You see bush your typing turn to lower case. Na only God sabi Wetin you go see wey your font colour go change.

STARGREEN:
It's well if you believe. Find a way to talk sense into him. Apologies on any offence or for what you may have caused him without saying a word or knowing. Put on the best attributes of decent women in practice. With time if time be, you will gain. Reduce complain and increase understanding of him.
There are many people that have passed worst stage of yours and now counting their gains. Remember to have something to earn income.

He has been forced to marry her. He cannot be forced or persuaded into loving her.

Both the slapper husband and the one that puts his hand in his pocket and professes one useless love for his abusive wife are both weak.

If you were truly strong your wife wouldn’t insult you or you’d throw her out of your house if she did. If that’s how her mother treats her father, she’s free to go and finish her remaining insults in his house or marry a man whose trousers have a million pockets.

funmisticqueen2:
still passive aggressive like a weak woman I see. Your kind is useless

Sigh **

funmisticqueen2:
BACKHANDED COMPLIMENTS ARE SOMETHING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE cOwards give.

Your intellect is as ugly as your face

funmisticqueen2:
Are you begging me?

For?

Dande55:
So, it's okay to take someone's daughter as a side chick, but you gnash when you are relegated to the position of side nigga.
This is karma and it hits you lots back to back.

One of the major disadvantages of posting on nairaland is having to contend with intellectually substandard nuisances such as yourself. I would gladly appreciate it if you could point out where I made the statement you accused me of posting.

For idiots like you, this is my stance: you are free to dump anybody for whatever reason you like,l. My grouse is being made to feel you aren’t mentally sound because you dumped someone for a perfectly justifiable reason.

Please, Dande55, I would appreciate if you read my posts like three times before quoting me going forward. In fact, after your third reading ask a friend to translate for you in case your understanding is wanting. Thanks, and happy Sunday

Thegeneralqueen:
This is what you get when you date kids.....date responsible guys they won't listen just look at all the foolish things this immature boy wrote up there

This manipulative technique is called ‘Gaslighting’. The aim is to make you doubt your own sanity by outrightly and boldly condemning your actions, actions that you must have carried out after careful deliberation.

Disregard this commenter. She only feels bad more guys are waking up.

It is the height of irresponsibility to have a main chick who is open to other men. She can be your side chick, after all, she’s an extra. Your main must be under your full authority or you are a simp. If your main chick will not fall in line, drop her faster than you drop igbo when you see your father approaching.

This is a better use of your limited mental capabilities. I encourage you to start many such threads instead of wasting your time boxing winds.

Happy Sunday to you

johnkey:
I'm sure as I'm typing this Your future wife is in one hotel with a big gbola in her mouth.

Never change, nairaland.

Kirinwa:
Marriage is not for kids. I know it would be painful but I believe I can forgive her.

. Sorry sir

I don't pray for that though but its the mindset I bring to the table.

Good luck to you

Kirinwa:
So you find out, you divorce her?

I speak for myself.

You mean you wouldn’t divorce your wife if you found out that not only was she having affairs in your marriage, she even brought a bastârd home to you and passed it off as yours?

You must be a “real man”.

crafteck:
It's less than a month so it's t[o fresh to come out with,had to play along to save families from disgrace,advice is to always do test

It is well with you bro.

ubunja:
well if Brad Pitt wasn't enough for her then what chance does any man have with her. That Angelina is a nut case. But she's a marvellous actress.

No lie. Brad was saved by his alpha self. Angelina looks like a man-eater. Brad must have dipped out when his reality started to look hazy.

Woman done turn this one brain. E done dey believe say he be ninja

They wanna see the end of Ubunja but that isn’t happening anytime soon. The truth will prevail and our brothers must be rescued.

midnighter:
And she is so unique and beautiful! Mehn!

I dont know why she keeps messing up all the time smh, what a waste

Who knows what demons she’s battling

crafteck:
Recently a victim. Can't talk yet

If you don’t mind, can you furnish us with your experience? Thanks

@Gwilym, comparing male infidelity with paternity fraud is a false equivalence. The worst that can happen if a man cheats on his wife is to have a child with the mistress, it is a world apart from, and relatively milder than being deceived into believing the child you’re raising is yours.

When the man has children from extramarital activities does he bring them home and try to pass them off as his wife’s?

Lordswazz:
All the people shouting "men that met their wives a virgin nko?" "This problem doesn't concern virgins that got married," abeg, make we dey honest with ourselves, how many men dey marry virgins these days?
The guy is 100% right. His method of passing the message might be crude, but he's right. The only girl you can vouch for to a large extent that the baby is yours when married, is a virgin. Even that one sef, assurance no be 100% but it comes dangerously close.
Always do DNA. It is a must in this dispensation of free sex.

You can vouch for no one, not even a virgin. I know a man who swears with his life he married his wife a virgin, and he has caught on three different occasions frolicking with strange men in hotels after he got intel. Alaye, leave matter. Virginity is not holiness. Trust, but verify is the motto.

angelfallz:
Real men don't argue with women, what do you mean by such a statement?

She mean real men do as they’re told by their women.

Anything a woman says after ‘real men’ or ‘real man’, forget it na nonsense.

jesmond3945:
what if meghan was angelina jolie?

Lol. That’s even worse. Angelina Jolie is washed up. The only men that can marry her are men that would disgust her. The kind of men she would like to marry will spit on her if she as much as smiles at them.

jesmond3945:
so if i marry a divorcee, I automatically become a simp, clap for yourself, great logic.

I mean, if you’re marrying a McKenzie Bezos for strategic and tangible reasons, sure you might have some leeway as it’s obviously hustle-related. But if you’re a Prince Harry going for Meghan Markle, you’re irredeemable

jesmond3945:
did prince charles not marry camilla a divorcee?

There’s always levels to simping. Obviously, Harry is a greater simp than his father, who I strongly believe is a massive simp. It’s not surprising, after all, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.