₦airaland Forum

PrimadonnaO:
That's the very point. I didn't make my points to start an argument. I just felt like stating my own OPINION, and for the benefit of whoever it would make sense to. Of course, it's contestable, but whether or not I decide to be dragged into a debate is my prerogative. I find it a waste of time arguing with someone whose background I don't know, someone who's being needlessly patriarchal ( I mean, what the hell has who buys the engagement ring and proposes got to do with the idea that live-in relatives is not the best for a young marriage?). That was the very point I decided to put an end to the replies. Why should I indulge him, and the rest of you? I'm not marrying him... he's not marrying my sister, so why should I break a sweat?

nahzyla:
You nairaland men simply find it impossible to address women without letting your nonsensical egos get in the way.
You could have written everything in your post without insults but I guess your innate opinion that women are stupid is keeping you from discussing respectfully.

I changed my mind, I don't even want to get into any kind of insultive back and forth argument with you so I won't post the reply I intended to write when I quoted your post.

crackkhaus:
As in eh.. then when I try getting her to talk about who should determine the balance using China as the case-study of a country that has not evolved (according to her logic), she then claimed I have gone out of context.

I love women sha

FManager:
So women in Nigeria get 50% of their husband's wealth, is that what you're saying, Cause I have never seen or heard such before, heck I don't even know if Nigeria support such system as the Yankees, but if this is true men won't be marrying that much again.

Also marrying a woman is same as asking for problem.

PrimadonnaO:
Ohhh. I see where the problem lies. Apparently where I come from, women are educated, building a career or a thriving business, they bring their own quota to running the home, and they bear wedding costs together.
It would seem that it is not so where you come from... so a woman has no say in her home, and must live her life tethering to the every need of her husband and whoever he so pleases.

@the coloured quote... Lol. There's such a thing as balance. Take what's relevant and discard the rest.
It totally irks me when I still hear some men saying "African men are polygamous in nature. Our fathers had 5-7 wives." I really wonder what's stopping those men from marrying the 5 wives today. They should go and marry 5 wives nau...

crackkhaus:
Which one is contrary independent mind?
We call them feminists as a form of ridicule, they are actually pseudofeminists, faker than N20,000 Rolex.

Contrary independent woman wey never begin kneel down propose to man, buy her own engagement ring, or sponsor herself and her husband/boyfriend to vacation in Bali...is that one an independent minded feminist?

Make una let us see road jor.

nahzyla:
That's what these blockheads don't consider when they make stupid rules, some of these in laws you have to personally serve them food anytime they want to eat because you are the wife aka housemaid, you will clean up after them, wash bathroom and dishes and any other thing they mess up, you might have to wash, iron and shop for some depending on your relationship with them. But nobody cares about all the stress women face.
I don't support sending relatives back but some of them can be stressful to live with.

buknija:
Up until now, im in-secured is the subject matter, not you put the children under in-secured watch. Mehn marriage nor be play play oo, if na baby mama now, i for don find my way carry my children run/

Liliyann:
I hate nagging husband
You think it's easy caring for kids and the home while one person sits in one place giving orders?
You are just being paranoid!
I bet if you should switch role in a day, you will collapse!
Lastly, mind the way you talk to your wife in front of your children. For your daughter to report the mum to you for chastisement is outrightly disrespectful and means she can't trust the mother to take care of them. Don't encourage her! Immediately she brought the tale to you, the least you could have done is to tell her, mummy has her reasons and not to bother then you can correct your wife in your bedroom without the children hearing!!

Jenny44life:
LOL
I know this was going to be your follow up response. So your initial post does not tell you what kind of trash person you are? It is you I pity.
Imagine Allah sitting in his heaven and he receives the kind of prayer you sent to him towards me. It is you his wrath will fall on. Everyday you pray five times but it is so easy for you to pray for other people's deaths. Rubbish individual

bnmbv:
Deep. Very deep. You have captured so many things that you did not even realise. From.what the doctors said the BP must have been there for at least 4 years without my knowing.

GHoJes:
OP you lied about the reason you hid your plans from your wife unfortunately she knows you and the real reason better, now you are paying for it.

You can decide to still lie to strangers for sympathy but just tell yourself the truth for once, pick the lessons from your issue and mend your ways.

eyinjuege:
Belafonte,
OP can choose to abandon his children for his wife, and move in to his mother's house. They can chop sand for all he cares, afterall he has a mother to look after him and they have theirs too I guess. That still won't endear him to them.
I wonder what his mother has to say about his sister duping him of his money

eyinjuege:
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Losing a job isn't something you keep from your wife. If she's so "shockable ", he shouldn't have told her till now and should have sorted things out without involving her.
You can make all the excuses in the world for him about lying to his wife regarding his job loss and his severance pay (but I'm sure he didn't tell her because he thought she might collect out of that money from him, and definitely not for any alteusitic reasons. He chose blood is thicker than water, and had been bitten in the arse before remembering the wife and expecting her sympathy). What I'm sure the wife found more painful is the OP informing his sister about such a life changing event like a job loss and not informing her who is most affected. They have children together, and are raising a family together. If anything happens to the wife's job, her husband should be the first to know as it affects him directly too.
Such a husband is one of those that will build a house and not let his wife know. His wife will not be his next of kin in any official capacity and he would comfortably use the same sister as next of kin. Wife will only will be next of kin in hospital matters when it's time to look after him if he gets sick.
The woman has seen the handwriting on the wall, and has decided to give the OP the same regard OP has for her.
If OPs plans had worked, his wife wouldn't still be pleased about being kept in the dark. She just wouldn't have any basis to mock him, but she would definitely read the signal loud and clear that they are not on the same page.

eyinjuege:
She is supposed to applaud you for receiving compensation after the termination of your job and not telling her at all about the job loss and compensation.
She should also applaud you for taking that important decision of starting a new business, sending the money to your devil sister and then only informing her after you've been duped
Well done mister

You know you can kill her sha, with the way you keep secrets.

whatdowomenwant:
I'm not cheating sir. When I saw the chat of August, I felt I really needed to help her sexually. So I bought some dildos for her because I now understood that maybe I'm not giving her satisfaction, even though I do try sha. And I've told her to tell me whatever she wants when it comes to sex and I'll do it.

I do really try in that area

sisisioge:
Which ones ? Biko follow us on IG @Milares_kitchen biko. I'm looking for followers.

midnighter:
Is it not what they use as comedy in American tv drama? Those backward families in the rural areas where incest is common and people dont have good boundaries..the running joke is that the grown children sleep in their parents bed and end up developing some strange character

Thats the problem with fake "woke" people in this country... instead of evaluating an idea sensibly, you try to be more American than the Americans and end up getting it all wrong

Some people here are actually defending the wife and insulting the OP, Im shocked.

egopersonified:
Very fine, thanks. Hope you are good. I don't recognize this moniker though.

sisisioge:
Abi o...see format

sisisioge:
Haaa! You should have put your feet down when it started! An eight year old girl sleeping with you! Na wa o. Biko let everyone go back to their rooms now.

sisisioge:
Haaa! You should have put your feet down when it started! An eight year old girl sleeping with you! Na wa o. Biko let everyone go back to their rooms now.