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myang500:
I saw it, we only dated for 2 weeks, pregnancy involve, i dont know much about her, but the little i have seen, i wouldnt have been able to ask for her hand in marriage. I have dated plenty,and I can categorically say shes not my type. N yansh put me for this situation, though with 2 children, am sort of stalk.

Pele o. O ti ko sinu eleyi naa

myang500:
Part of the major problem I have here is that, deep inside of me I know this woman must have cheated on me, I cant count the number of clues that I have seen over the last couple of years. Infact this past june, i figured out that she moved a deleted chat of she and her ex to whatsapp arvhive, and another message of this jaruma type online seller talking about how what she bought from her didnt work. Supposedly love potion. I asked why she moved message from main to archive if she didnt have something to hide, she was like the dude says alot of rubbish and she wouldnt want me to see such and start thinking otherwise. Plenty attimes, when am entering the honey pot, it feels different, feels bruised, honey pot wey i don dey knack for years, i know the feeling if its fresh and if its not. I cant even begin to count clues here, but it bothers me alot to know that she is cheating but cant find shit out. She has surpassed phone and monitoring stuffs, she upped her game and i aint trying to follow up anything as it can kill a man in no time. This is a woman where if issues arise, she wants to just say sorry and expect me to move on, after doing something very terrible, but if i aint gotten over myself in like a week, you'll start hearing stuffs like this is the kind of thing that will make give give listening hears to those that wants to listen and make her vulnerable to cheating. Thats when you'll see that she starts to change her looks, start wearing move revealing clothes out, thats probably to make me feel somehow, or otherwise. I will repeat guys, you destiny is attached to whom u marry, choose wisely.

Na you dey fúck up na. You dey make better money one woman dey do you anyhow. Sorry, but I have no time for rubbish. You fúck up, end of marriage.

Imagine working so hard and your wife is busy sharing her pússy everywhere. She disrespects you because she knows you can do nothing. She has seen you finish. You have probably fúcked her with another man's cum still in her.

You better go and do a DNA test on your so-called children.

myang500: she quickly termed it that i was trying to say shes cheating, that i need to get a life and stop being insecured.

She's definitely cheating. DEFINITELY.

UnclePrincipal:
Well you're right, there are external factors that determine our decisions too. Hope you know that?. A gun could be pointed to her head(figuratively) and she won't have no options.

Then, in that case someone else can rightly be blamed. In the situation narrated above, she just a young lady with poor decision making skills who lacks the integrity to own up to her choices.

nlPoster:
You're quite aware it's not a compliment.

You can post an opinion here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1156127/trust-husband

That's your opinion. I'm not offended by your opinion. In fact, I take it as a compliment.

frozen70g:
Why did he keep the results away from the wife ?

The very same reason he didn't tell her before taking the test.

Idonweak:
The reason why I brought this up is because i want guys here to know that most of the girls into prostitution are not doing it for fun. The same guys bashing them are the ones also pushing them to prostitution in the name of "what will i get in return ". If you fvck prostitutes and bash them online you're nothing but a hypocrite. And i pity your daughter

Everyone is responsible for their choices in life irrespective of pressure. If a gun wasn't pointed in her direction, it's fully her fault and no one else's.

nlPoster:
You presume too much of yourself.

Thanks for the compliment.

Blakjewelry:
mister elephant brain, i only expose your weakness

Alright

Blakjewelry:
mister critical thinker, what percentage of people get hiv via external source? beside haven't you held of people whose babies have been switch at the hospital? didnt read read on nairaland where a man and his wife dna didnt match their baby's ? the thing you guys always think narrow, you think when it comes to dna test the first thing that comes to mind is infidelity because your mind revolve around sex. dont you it might come handy in the case of medical emergency

Your pin brain is so constricted all it does is assume my position. You're straw manning me and I'm done entertaining you.

frozen70g:
My point is, you have a faithful wife

You have never caught her or suspected her for one day

He even went behind her to do test

I'm going to assume you haven't been hearing the many stories of men who trust/trusted their wives, but have had to conduct these tests for official reasons only to find out that their 'faithful' having have been involving in side action. There are men who found out bitterly, years after, that they raised children that weren't theirs.

Such stories have currently become plentiful to the point where the general understanding is that 1 in 3 children have been given to the wrong father knowingly or unknowingly.

With the above information, coupled with the fact that Nigerian women have passionately taken up adultery as a hobby, it would be wise to be sure that your children are, in reality, your children.

Hence, this man's actions are fully justified. FULLY. Trusting someone doesn't automatically make them incapable of fúcking you up. Enemies don't betray, friends do.

The wife may be hurt, but he should apologise and make it up to her some way. If she cannot understand his paranoia, too bad. I'd rather risk losing a faithful woman than raising another man's bastàrd

frozen70g:
That man lacks trust in her and even in his own self

How does he lack trust in himself by conducting a paternity test? Educate us. We want to know.

Blakjewelry:
too much nollywood and Bollywood is bad for you, is this how you and your babe communicate?
btw do you know i did my hiv test because of a girl i was asking out? if she sounds just like you, damn!

How does HIV test question your babe's loyalty? You can get HIV through a thousand means, the only way your babe will give you someone else's child is if she has been getting dìcked on the side.

Critical thinking is obviously not one of your strengths.

Ariza:
Why drag your wife out of a car? That man almost got himself killed out of foolishness. When you know a person's temper you don't push them to limits.

I agree. He was foolish to have married that kind of woman.

Dozzywest:
you are such a funny chap..the mere mention of a parternity test in some families is capable of creating serious divide between spouses.

But you're recommending both spouses discuss the matter. How do you think the conversation would go?

Blakjewelry:
since it is done in secrecy, then its already that there is a mistrust, if you want to do it both of should discuss it

So, how will this discussion go?

Husband: Dear, I would like to have a DNA test to prove that I actually fathered our children.

Wife: Why?

Husband: I don't know. I just want to be sure you haven't been fúcking around and bringing me other men's children to father.

Wife: Okay, honey. You're right. Let's take a trip to the hospital.

Is this how it played out in your head?

tooth4tooth:
Am I the only one seeing this differently? I stand to be corrected though. I suspect he may have picked a baby dumped by the road side by those randy girls who are not ready to be mothers. If not,where did he get a new born baby Well ,let the police do their investigations.

Who says he can't have a doctor connect?

Olivegreen:
To be honest, I never really knew who Glory Osei was up until yesterday and so I did my research on her.

From all that I gathered, Glory Osei is NOT A FEMINIST rather, she is an extrimist. A female sexist and an extrimist who has an unreasonable hate for men (despite the fact that she married one )

Please let us not be decieved by her self acclaimed title, feminist. She only uses the title to disguise her sentimental judgement of men.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a renowed feminist icon who trully knows what feminism is about and is passionate about changing the society to favour women rather than compel them to be silent, complacent, and very limited.

Feminism is not about hating men. In fact, feminism is not centered on men, it is centered on the entire society. We are not attacking men we are simply attacking certain cultures and societal principles that are degrading and dehumanizing women. We are simply fighting for the acknowledgement of the rights and privileges that every woman should be entitled to.

We do not seek a society were wives are rude and unsubmissive to their husbands or where girls are hateful and intolerant of their male counterparts, we seek a society were marriage is convenient for both husband and wife and girls have big dreams and aspire as much as they desire and not just as much as society compels them to.

We seek freedom, justice, equality, love and acknowledgement .

I am not a man-hater, I believe I am not rude, unruly, bossy, or contrary.

I am a feminist

Of course, the no true Scotsman fallacy. How novel.

MedicH:
So she pretends she's normal during courtship and after marriage bitch starts to behave like an animal. Lol this is funny. Any woman way try this with me eeh i go just put am inside casket weighbill to him papa.

As in, I don't understand. What will happen when I divorce her arsè? She will tell me good for me? Hahahhahaha. I go pursue hin mama comot for my house. God punish good foundation. If you don't like me don't marry me.

UjuJoan2:
Maybe you treated her badly while you were courting, because you thought she was desperate to hook you. And you were some kind of 'prize'. A wise woman will tolerate your shit just to ensure she doesn't lose all the years she wasted with you, and then once the deal is sealed, it's payback time.

Don't assume every man is passing through the same thing, heaven wil not fall, nothing will happen.

If you don't lay a good foundation, your marriage will suffer.

I know there are multiple reetards on nairaland. So, a woman is treated shabbily during courtship and she doesn't leave, but bides her time till she gets married? The guy that treated her bad during courtship suddenly became a saint in marriage? He can't kill her after marriage? Lol.

Gentlemen, you cannot change anybody. If anybody changes suddenly after getting what they want, they didn't really change, they just revealed who they really were. Divorce is always a very valid option. You shouldn't have to spend one second in marriage with a witch. If your wife changes after marriage, fúcking end the damn thing.

nairalandposter:
https://www.nairaland.com/5455937/please-she-carrying-child-she

Interesting

cococandy:
Again. Very amusing

Well, YOU did introduce God unto our conversation.

nairalandposter:
Didn't someone say he slept with his Sunday school teacher in church and now she's five months pregnant he wants to know if he should claim the pregnancy or else the woman's husband would have it?

We shouldn't necessarily assume there's no third to sixth party involved in this matter. Meaning why mention the alleged pastor when we dont know if the lady also dated other people.

Link?

cococandy:
Well the pastor is not married to her. If she moves in with the pastor, that the marriage with her husband being broken up. God hates it.

Which God are you referring to? Allah? Ogun? If we are to go by either, she should, at least, be stoned to death by now.

cococandy:
Oga don’t let the devil break your home o. If you leave someone else will take your place immediately and how are you sure the next one won’t be a cheat?
A wise man builds his home. Don’t allow a strange man to come into your home.
Children who are raised in a broken home are usually unstable.
The devil is out to fight marriages and cause divorces every where. God hates it.

Then the pastor better come and carry his wife because the child is his. We wouldn’t want the child growing up without a father

Get a fûcking side chick and stop moaning like a little bîtch

Lol.

I’m sure she must have been telling the husband to help with house chores and he refused. The pastor obviously has been washing her properly. Awon asiere

lalopeto:
My brother! thats still not the solution because that is not the will of God for any man. The side chicks will still disappoint. If God will help wives to take note of this and consider their husbands then the problem is solved. The children they are using to excuse their irresponsibility will soon grow up and be independent, they will have no excuse then.

Whose God exactly are you taking about? Do you know if I’m a Muslim and entitled to four wives?

Now you talk about children growing up and leaving the home. Imagine a man in his thirties waiting 30 years for the last of his children to grow up and leave. Okay, let’s give them a child-free target of 20 years. So, you’re saying the guy man will be getting subpar sex for 20 years? That is the height of wickedness. I reject such for myself and my sons .

If my wife is too tired to fûck me, no problem. I will get action elsewhere. And I better not catch her fûcking anyone else . But I assure you, all that too of fatigue is nothing but a false alibi to avoid doing it. So, the day she initiated she wasn’t tired that day? Or the kids disappeared?

Go and ask married men, their wives will go and clean the store at 12 midnight just to avoid sex. If you know, you know.

I really feel sorry for men who think getting married will avail them as much sex as they could want. I’m so sorry for you.

It is a known fact that once you get married sex dwindles on average. Sex is one of those things that women offer in order to keep you and secure marriage. After marriage there’s really no threat of the relationship ending barring a major conflict. Unfortunately, women do not see sex deprivation as that big of a deal.

Forget all this talk about her aversion to sex being due to chores and caring for children, after all, in the case of this OP there are no children. So, has the volume of chores suddenly doubled .

Oga, OP, what you are witnessing is a normal suntin. There is always the possibility that she’s cheating, it could also just be that there’s no incentive for her to get down with you. I would advise you to ignore her and spend more time developing and improving yourself and also outside the home. Also, you should almost never initiate sex, and definitely never beg for it. If she does initiate you should oblige her. Now is the time to get a side chick. A lot of people will come and say getting a side chick is wrong, but so is depriving your husband of sex.

O course, there is also the option of never having sex unless she initiates but you don’t know what intervals those would be. If you can handle that and not get it elsewhere, much respect. Personally, my sex life cannot be held hostage by any human in earth. I expect a healthy dose of sex from my spouse and if she suddenly turns cold after tying the knot, too bad.