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Zhuhilat:
Dear All

Thanks for the advice, criticism and unfair assumptions.

I have read through almost everything and looking back, i know there are areas i need to work on. Like talking back, and generally being argumentative all the time.

Still, i know that nobody should be treated like trash especially your own wife.

I am working on myself for myself, not basically for the marriage because every time there’s always been an issue, i always blame myself.

But that load is too much , working on this marriage alone is killing me and making me depressed.

God loves me, my child and him too. He is going make our path clearer and however he does it, is fine by me.
Thanks all.

dominique:
Men vowing they can't live in homes owned by their wives should come and see threads like this, they don't want to endure what women have been enduring for centuries. Nobody should have a monopoly of disrespect, if you can't take it, don't give it.

Olami90:
It takes me days or week too to recover when I am annoyed and another not too good thing about it is that I do not find it easy to talk about my annoyance.

My lady usually get the message once I give her the silent treatment, makes sincere apology and we are cool.

What I have discovered is that there is no one that is perfect and no two individuals are the same. We are bound to offend one another - no one is a perfect being.

Do not think of hurting her severely as you stated, just know her weakness (what pains her the most) and strike from that angle.

She is your wife, you should not be tired of coaching or grooming her.
I am happy you said "she is the best available of her age and exposure"

Erase the idea of divorce if she listens to you when you correct and your life isn't in danger being with her, you won't get a woman that is perfect out there.

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Pearl05:
Welcome darling, you are in the right fellowship. We have super mamas with experiences to guide us and God leading us all.

lightblazingnow:
Grace church

barongmj:
What did you study?

barongmj:
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diplomat058:
Please stop making statements devoid of logic. You read about the atrocities being committed by God's own nation (according to your belief) against Palestinians in the occupied territories yet you, in due disregard for human life, boasted of Israel's immunity against international reprimand. If your spiritual conception is true, then these circumstances can be alluded to two factors;
1. The God of Israel supports terror and inhuman killings (Which I don't believe).

2. The God of Israel does not support terror but is incapable of bringing long lasting solution to the conflict and calling Israel to order for the unnecessary killings( I don't believe this).

Either ways, zealous and ambitious Christians like yourself have conveniently rewritten biblical narratives to suit this illogicality. Israel is not a Christian nation yet some Christian pitch their tents to support this neo fascist state despite the fact that this apartheid-supporting Israel will do exactly same to Christian minority in their country if not for the US influence. The present Israel is simply an extension of the United States in the Middle East. Without the US, Israel will once again be susceptible to global disdain and persecution even in defiance of their nuclear umbrella.

About your acclaimed indefatigability, read up on Saladin conquest of the crusaders, Adolf Hitler racial crimes, the Yom kippur war of 1973 and the Iranian threat to Israel in the region, your laughable answers lie in these.

NB: I hate Arabs with passion, they aren't any better. Their ill-treatment and degradation of black immigrants, non muslims and marginalization of thier non Arab Muslim counterparts are a testimony of their racial intolerance and hypocrisy. Religions don't matter. If only we can all embrace humanity......

Pearl05:
Yeah, will pass your message to all of us. Lol

I hate double dating because it drains your pocket, energy and time. Makes one to lose focus. But some folks are thrilled by it.


Please hold on to the one beside you. The grass isn't greener on the other side.

Pearl05:
Some ladies like to be chased. They enjoy the wooing period alot, gives the hard to get stunt so that the guy won't feel she is too cheap.

should you take her first "I'm not interested" to heart, you left feeling she didn't like you while she goes hoping you resume the wooing the next day.


Anyways idk


It's been a while

austyn0:
.... OP
Why do I have a feeling your case is spiritual?

thesicilian:
Seduction. Don't mind my oversabi autocorrect

thesicilian:
The Art of Deduction

Lalas247:
True .... that's just temporary ... looks fade over time ..

Positivepoint:
fools when did hausa become villagers in cross rivers? u denied free movement of citizens and now u want to spin it that its the hausas wow this a new low. we will start checking vehicle coming from the east and any vehicle caught with drugs or fake goods will be send back immediately with all occupant. stay tuned to the news

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Pearl05:
Go to the nearest police station and ask them for accurate information.

Gloryejims:
8th February

pocohantas:
Nigerian men will never allow their brother's wife enjoy her marriage in peace. Always claiming she is a third party. It's worse with igbos.

Amara too should know when and how to pick her battles.

Social media will ruin marriages.




Don't pity his wife.
He'll get the kinda wife that he deserves.
One who will also put her family before him.
This is why women rarely sacrifice for their husbands, it is the typical Naija mentality. I've heard too many stories to fall prey.

Corps1000:
Huh? I did Google and checked out his social media and everything checked out fine.

But I made this thread to see general thoughts on this situation..basically to get advice. Should I consider it a loss or wait for him to reply?

Pearl05:
Prayers is in order sir. She want to borrow from the little in ur hands. Ask her if you resembles GTB.