1million daily is loud but very very possible.

Sanchez01:

The negative effect of religion in homes these days far outweigh its positive aspect. I know of a family that worship with one of popular prayer church around. I don't want to mention any denomination for reasons best known.

Long and short of it, the supposed head of the family started seeing everyone on the street as either a witch or a wizard. Anyone who dare respond to him automatically becomes unfortunate for the week as he will sing the person's name, pray with it and ask that his god destroys the person by fire. He went nuts even was taken somewhere. He returned worse. His wife became his prime target and then the whole graduated into physical abuse. Luckily for the woman, her children, all grown now, joined forces, repelled father-prayer's attack and locked him in one of their rooms.

When he was let out, he called his kinsmen to a meeting and the woman was shamed, trust patriarchy.

Today, he has simmered and no longer attends the church but the home is never the same. His children treats him like a ghost in the house. He runs his own errands himself. His six children barely go to church these days, save one.

Bro... If we dwell on the negative effects of religion eh...awon spirikoko will come for us and the thread will be derailed. All of us go get sense laslas.

This is sweet

First and foremost, DO NOT DM anyone who wants to help you on investing your savings. If anyone can't advise you openly then such should be ignored. Secondly, bear it a lil more, don't relocate yet. Look around you, there are opportunities lurking around. Visit Agriculture and Business sections on NL with your eyes and head widely opened. You can start something with part of your savings. This life eh, Some are fortunate to meet a set-table before them while some of us had to build from scratch without a single material. Be grateful for that MUD house, paying rent and feeding yourself is not an easy task. Stop getting into arguments with your Bro, he seem to be frustrated too. Try to be a bit more closer to him, you might get to learn one or two about his problems too. Be hopeful and reach out when you feel choked. It is well.

Religion ruined the family. My grand dad would have lived longer if not for religion...Deeper Life in particular. They made him forfeit all he worked for. Told him all he made was via sin. OldMan didnt live long cos everything became sin to him. So, be practical and leave religion out of this. May you find your dad. Just take him in, you see that your brother eh.... Just ignore him. He will one day grow and if he doesn't, karma will visit him anyway. As for your mom, she needs help too. She's not fine. Report a case of missing person at the nearest station to his residence and post your dad's pics on online. Please keep us updated.

Lol...trust nobody not even the one who lectures you on trust

Strong Atheist kor strong pastor ni. Who wants to leave a university for a primary school Religion is for toddlers. Grow up and stop believing in fairy tales

Depends on what you smoke and what your body can contain. Smoking is normal to me as far as its not abused. I feel more comfortable around women that smokes weed. My own is, just be responsible about it. And for the holier than thous, who dont smoke, drink nor commits any sin...e kpele o...

adexpa:


You said it all, there is no need for all these grammar that people are using to confuse him. He never made himself and there is a reason for it. He will change gradually with time. Though, maybe he hyped it or his own is a bit more but all he mentioned are protective attribute at age he can't control things properly himself. At early age, if you are not very strong as a guy, women and some other things toils with your life/emotions but with the kind of op system one is covered until he understands life and can handle situations better. You have many of us who were like you. Continue your life and be ready to embrace change gradually.

Much respect bro. I hope the OP reads this.

Dear OP, I understand you perfectly. Women possesses the ability to bring out the monster in the meekest of all men. Your story just aroused my fears in life "being broke". The way a woman talks and calculate what she spends during a man's trying times can kill. Every contribution they make becomes an headline. You are very strong to wait that long. My life no hard, if I am not doing well enough or shit happened and I can't do well....any woman in my life can leave.

Where it all ends......R.I.P Pa Kasumu

Hmnnn....another thread to bash person o! As a Yoruba Demon, I tender apologies in advance to those who'd come and call us names. Abeg

Can you please state how old you are? It might be a thing of age and you might outgrow it since you are now aware of it. We had so much in common but I outgrew mine. I can walk away from any situation not minding the consequences or effect on people. When I think aback, I just marvel at how virulent I was. It has its advantages though; I can never be emotionally blackmailed neither can a toxic person mess with my head. But in all, I am this very tall slim cute brilliant and cool guy but extremely emotionally empty. We are all work in progress sha.

Nice one Op

You really wanna buy this as your first ride? Just tell us you want to learn auto-mechanic.

adeoladeola:
Have you seen this?

Permission to apply

RIP to him. What a way to go while another guy might be consoling her presently. Life sha.

BusterG:


At the bolded.

I don laff tire ooo. If you buy yeye motor ehn.

It's now something to laugh about o. That car gave me the phobia I have for driving till date. Like, I'm always scared of something coming up. My fuel doesn't go below half tank just because of fear. My Nissan will disgrace me when I don baff-up and decide to go show off to friends. Na push dem go help me push am for road after e don cause hold-up. The day the engine finally knocked is a story on its own.

Just typing alone sef dey make me laugh. My first car was a Mitsubishi Gallant probably 1998 or earlier model. I was just 23yrs old and wanted a car badly just for show. It took like forever for me to understand changing gear. Like I was a disaster when it comes to driving. My small brain friend adviced I get an authomatic car and I was presented with a Nissan Maxima by a sugar coated cheat of a man for sale. I was just 24yrs, I paid 550k. Na die remain make I die. After 2months, it was like living in a mechanic workshop. Today kickstarter problem, tomorrow ignition and so on. Till vehicle engine kukuma knocked. Ha! Nissan Maxima suffer me o. It took me 8 years to finally settle for Toyota. I drive now cos i cant afford to employ a driver, gush! I hate driving!

Ejebleje:
Look at the charge sheet,they even gave the 15 year old house-help football age so he can also be prosecuted! Chai! I'm only afraid of those who're not afraid of women!

Some women na war o..

I wonder how a man who has prior information about a situation like this still went to the scene without a camera for substantive evidence. We should learn to use our brain over emotions. I have witnessed a situation where a policeman caught his wife on bed with a fellow tenant but allowed his emotions overwhelm him. He beat up the man and still got detained for assault because his wife testified against him. He has no evidence because the man got to the corridor before he could overpower and beat him up. This happened around 1am in a face-me-I-face-you house. The wife and tenant alleged that the tenant was going to the toilet when her husband attacked him and claimed he was coming out of their bedroom. That was the end of the marriage.

EXPOSED: How Businessman Was Arrested, Tortured, Framed-up After Catching Senior Police Officer In Bed With His Wife
SaharaReporters has uncovered how a Chief Superintendent of Police currently serving with the Akwa Ibom State Police Command, Mr Celestine Umeh, arrested, detained and framed-up a businessman, Mr Clement Asuquo Etim, and two others on trumped-up charges after he was caught in bed with the wife of Mr Etim in Uyo, the state capital.

It was gathered that CSP Umeh had been having an amorous affair with Mrs Lawrentia Asuquo, Etim's wife for a long time before he was finally caught at about 7:00pm on April 27, 2020 at their home at Aba Ukpo Estate, which is not too far from where the Akwa Ibom State Police Command in Uyo is located.

Confirming his ordeal to SaharaReporters, Etim said that the randy senior police officer had been having sexual affair with his wife for a long time and that he has been hoping for a day that he will catch them. 


He said, “Whenever I travel to Calabar where I do my business, I usually receive reports that my wife invites her lover, CSP Umeh, to our matrimonial home to spend the night.

“They were having sexual affair in my house not minding the presence of my home help, a boy of 15 years old.”

According to Etim, luck however, ran out on the police officer and his wife when he got a tip off that CSP Umeh was in his house again to spend the night on April 27.

Following that information, Etim decided to return to Uyo.

He said, “On getting home in the evening last Monday, I caught the CSP with my wife enjoying themselves on the matrimonial bed.”

Etim said he was provoked on seeing CSP Umeh in bed with his wife and decided to confront him along with his cousin that came with him from Calabar as a witness.

Following the confrontation, the policeman ran out of Etim’s house with his wife and abandoned his SUV.

About two hours later, heavily armed officers from the Special Anti-Robbery Squad stormed his house with his adulterous wife and arrested him, his cousin, Mr Patrick Okon Edet, and his home help, Christopher Bassey.

They were taken to the Akwa Ibom State Police Command.

On getting to the police command, Etim said that the police tortured him and falsely accused him, his cousin and home help of “assaulting” CSP Umeh and “stealing his mobile phones".

Etim was detained illegally from April 27 to 30th when he was temporarily released to go and search for the keys of the SUV belonging to CSP Umeh which was abandoned at his house.

However, the cousin and home help were detained in police custody from April 27 April to May 4 when they were arraigned before a Chief Magistrate Court in Uyo on trumped-up charges of assault and stealing.

Etim said that when he was released, he decided to go to the hospital for medical checks as blood kept coming out from one side of his ear as a result of torture by the Officer-in-Charge of General Investigation, a Superintendent of Police named Ekene Nwosu, and other policemen at the Akwa Ibom State Police Command.

He said that SP Ekene used a plank to hit his ear and also assaulted his home help and kept shouting at them for fighting with Umeh.

Surprisingly, on getting to his house after he was released, Etim met his three bedroom flat apartment empty.

He said his neighbours and estate management told him that his wife came with strangers and moved out all his properties and household items and relocated to an unknown location.

"When she was confronted by people in the estate, a certain SP Ekene instructed the estate management to allow my wife leave the estate with all my properties or face the consequences," he said.

According to the charge sheet obtained by our correspondent, the three men were accused of hitting the police officer with a bottle.

Count two, three and four of the charges reads, “That you Clement Asuquo Etim, Patrick Okon Edet, and Christopher Bassey Effiong on the 27th day of April, 2020 at Aba-ukpo Estate, in the Uyo Magisterial District, unlawfully assaulted one Celestine Umeh, a Chief Superintendent of Police, by giving him fist blows all over his body and thereby committed an offence punishable under Section 360 Of the Criminal Code, Cap.38, Vol, 2, Laws of Akwa Ibom State of Nigeria 2000.

"That you Clement Asuquo Etim, Patrick Okon Edet, and Christopher Bassey Effiong, on the 27th day of April, 2020 at Aba-ukpo Estate, in the Uyo Magisterial District, unlawfully assaulted one Celestine Umeh, a Chief Superintendent of Police, by smashing a bottle on his head which caused him harm. Thereby committed an offence punishable under Section 364 of the Criminal Code, Cap.38. Vol.2, of Akwa Ibom State of Nigeria, 2000.

"That you Clement Asuquo Etim, Patrick Okon Edet, and Christopher Bassey Effiong on the 27th day of April, 2020 at Aba-ukpo Estate, in the Uyo Magisterial District, did steal Samsung phones valued at N135,000 and infinity car key being property of one Celestine Umeh, a Chief Superintendent of Police, and thereby committing an offence punishable under Section 408 of the Criminal Code." 

Speaking with SaharaReporters over the matter, rights lawyer, Inibehe Effiong, whose law firm is representing Etim, his cousin and home help, said that the conduct of CSP Umeh, SP Ekene and other police officers at the Akwa Ibom State Command involved in the case was reprehensible and deserves immediate disciplinary action from the Inspector-General of Police and Commissioner of Police in Akwa Ibom State.

He said, “I am alarmed by what these police officers have done to this man, his cousin and home help. It is reprehensible, unprofessional and damaging to the image of the Nigeria Police Force. This is one of the most repulsive cases of abuse of the police institution. Where lies the hope for Nigeria if this kind of atrocious and scandalous action is allowed to go unpunished?

“It is more troubling that the police resorted to filing a criminal charge against them in their desperation to cover-up their illegal and abominable conduct. We cannot allow this to go unpunished.”

Effiong has vowed to pursue the case to its logical conclusion until justice was done to Etim, his cousin and home help.

The Akwa Ibom Police Public Relations Officer, CSP Nnudam Fredrick, when contacted, claimed not to be aware of the matter but promised to confirm if the state had such matter.

He said, “I have not been briefed about this. I cannot confirm that we have such matter but I will try my best to get the fact of this matter to know whether it actually occurred here.”

http://saharareporters.com/2020/05/05/exposed-how-businessman-was-arrested-tortured-framed-after-catching-senior-police-officer

Sir, if you keep enduring and tolerating, be ready to do that all your life and be sure you might either die young or still forced to walk away at 60yrs or more. Leopard do not change skin. Your sanity should be paramount. If you sit, look deep down and realise you can no longer cope, walk away. If you feel you are too attched and will be unable to cope, then have it in mind that you might have to do this when you attain 60yrs of age. Especially when she feels she's capable of doing well without you. I won't be surprised if she comes here to defame you. We all have flaws and she will push your flaws out of you and defame you with same. I wish you well.

julieeni:
Naaa, I don't need him around anymore don't wanna commit murder

Time heals all things. Don't be sad please.

julieeni:
I'm over it now, at least I didn't give in to thoughts of commiting suicide I used to hate him and wish him death, but not anymore because I have forgiven him and I wish him well, but he will never see his son again.

Life is filled with twists and turns. Today's pathetic story might be celebrated tomorrow. Don't wish him death, he will come around.

julieeni:
yes, I gave him a son, he got a place and moved in with another woman while I was with his parents. Didn't know about it until when he was posted to Abuja and we had to join him, that was when I knew he still got a house there in Abuja and moved in with same lady, while I was hustling for money to give to him to rent at least a room for us... everything came out in the open anyway and I had to come back to my parents. He got married to the lady few months after I left and she put to birth around Nov. My worse mistake

Very touching. May you find peace.

Na my kind of babe you dey complain of....don't you think sex once in a month or two is a bit too small? Haba! Respect her or leave her. So how do you compliment the absence....sex chats...video calls...how? Bros be adventurous and stop complaining.

The b1chy part is the main problem with most women after marriage. While you think she enjoys voyeurs while dating, she might just be doing it to please you and you did not pay attention to her mood swings after each session. Now she wants to take a stand and act responsibly ( based on her reasoning) so it's left for you to make chores easier for her and upgrade too (look more attractive). Remain positive.

Nwodosis:
An additional insult to injuries for the raped victim! The gods that will take the rituals for cleansing of the land, where were they when the victim was being raped?

Sense no go kill you o....My exact thoughts.

HazardMan:
Bestinstinct

My brother....you are the one keeping her in your dreams. Ignore the dreams jare, you will be over it with time. As much as I regret being a playboy throughout my 20s, heartbreak stories like this come make me dey feel say na better thing o. Imagine having 3 serious relationships, 3 semi-serious and 4 FWB. Where will you have time to dream about just one? So chill my bro, you will be fine with time. Retired strikers like me can relate

GreenArrow1:


Yeah thanks. Done all that. What is remaining is for her to understand that I no do again. That is now the issue.
You talk to a this lady who would be 30 this year and you find out how empty her life would have been if it wasn't filled up with the pēnises of numerous men. Things de this life o. Hmmmm!
E no learn any skill. Na graduate wey school no pass her head. Nothing nothing. Just "That my ex for Abuja. That my ex for Maiduguri. That my ex for Owerri. That my ex for Lagos. That my white ex." Then she's almost mute on every other topic. It's amazing how the human mind can be trained.

Blooda! I can relate. If you begin her matter, you go need open thread o. But breaking up no go easy o....she's 30 already. No matter how hard you try not to judge their type by the past, you will just realise they dont even see anything wrong....just shallow minded babe. Their type will be sincerely and honestly displaying stupidity. Open a thread on such ladies, let's share experience. Remember to tag me.

Dear OP, take heart in advance. Just be mentally prepared.