Another Made-In-Abuja Governor. Na dem

Still cant figure out how people sleep all night. Anyway, thanks OP for sharing.

SavageBoy:
Seems like your enmity with bee is a destined one

E for no be me bro....that guy na complete gentleman. Very loyal and honest.

SavageResponse:

You betrayed him twice?!
How would you feel if you were on the receiving end?

Honestly, it wasn't intentional.

Lamanii22:
Lol... You are bee's adversary... What a twist.. He'd hate you for life... It's not your fault though, just try and explain it to him either way, via text or email...

I wish I have the chance to reach out to him. He's a cool headed guy sha, very very simple. I pray he outgrows the hurt.

Tina001:


This is not your fault except there is something you are not telling us. If this is the true story then find a way to tell your friend how it all happened either through calls or text messages or through some1 maybe a mutual friend instead of living with guilt. He should beware of the Lady because it's the Lady that betrayed him not you unless you knew it was his gf then you both are the betrayer. What sort of gf is that?

It's the true story. He blocked me along with our mutual friend for about 10yrs. I just wish he gave room for convo.

You don't love yourself bro, like you dont love yourself at all. The ex-husband must have endured alot. Do not form SuperMan over a sexually reckless woman, she will ruin you. She cheats with reckless abandon and doesn't see it as anything. Her honey-pot must be very honey niyen o. As much as I regret being sexually reckless while growing up, it's way better than been as inexperienced like you are. Better flee from that lady if you want to live long.

The thread

https:/www.nairaland.com/5792125/been-betrayed-before-share-story

by QuinModah got me thinking. I have been betrayed countless times but all of the times I got betrayed, it brings unexpected blessings. I most times become grateful after most betrayals that I forget who or why I was betrayed in the first place. Every significant developments in my life were borne out of being betrayed. I noticed I've been fortunate about been betrayed but I realised I equally betrayed people who might never forgive me. I will like to share two pressing ones and I pray I find peace after sharing. Feel free to bash me but share yours too. Nobody holy pass.

While in JSS3, I had two friends namely Bee and Ade (Not real names). We do virtually everything together. Walk home from PWD, Ikeja to Oshodi on daily basis. Always in same football team, the three of us will board Molue with five naira and get sent down by Sogunle Bus Stop by stubborn conductors while some gentle ones will just abuse us and ignore (people who grew up in Lag during Molue Era can relate). Growing up with them remains the best part of my childhood. I was a good footballer and I am always the highest goal scorer then. Our friendship was boundless until we noticed Bee no longer leaves the school with us after closing. He gives series of excuses until we got to know he has a GF who’s equally in JSS3 (love letter kinda GF). He confided in Ade that he doesn’t want anyone to snatch his GF that’s why he's keeping her. Being a kid, I careless until he started bringing her to field every afternoon during break and after closing hour. Being a slim cute boy, coupled with my superb football skill, B’s GF started cheering me extraordinarily during football matches and that was how we became friends. I innocently got very close to her and she joined our long walk home every afternoon. From there she came to my house once or twice and Bee got furious and stopped talking to both of us. It remained like that till we finished our Junior WAEC. My family relocated to another state during the holiday and I changed school. About 10years later, I reconnected with Bee on FB. I was so happy to redeem my image and was quick to apologize for what I did as a kid and we both laughed it off and admitted that it was just kids’ stuffs. Few weeks after we reconnected, I accepted a friend request from a beautiful lady. We got chatting and we became FB lovers (when Facebook love by Essence ft. Jaywon was a banger) till we agreed to meet. She came down to my state for the weekend and we had awesome sex. While gisting, she told me about her BF who’s very serious with her but not as cute and adventurous as I am so she decided to open another FB page to chat me up since he’s my friend on the other profile. To cut long story sha, Bee was her real BF. I told her my first act of betrayal towards him and she told me this isn’t my fault that I should ignore. She went back after our splendid time together and started flaunting and posting my pics on her wall. Bee saw it and sent me series of messages. Before I could reply, he blocked me on all platforms and I’ve lived with the burden of being unable to explain for almost 10years now even though my relationship with the lady didn’t last for 2months. Each time I remember how I ruined our friendship, it hurts me badly. Will share the second one later, I still can't find the courage to let it out. Like I stated earlier, feel free to share yours…nobody holy pass.

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Nigeria my country. Let's await denials and counter-denials.

See how people are being sentimental. Can we really handle COVID-19 if it gets out of hand? Will what happened in Equador not happen in Africa's slums? Instead of us to hold our leaders accountable for every step they take in battling this Virus, na Melinda Gate comment dem dey masturbate on top. As much as we do not pray for the worse, we should put realistic measures in place.

You will be fine bro. I can relate well with your story. This time shall pass...always have that at the back of your mind. Success awaits you, go for it.

scoundrel:
What a waste. If I was a man I would vex. See pancake booty. Mscheew.

Some of us dont like it big...small and soft is bae

Interested

BAMOFIN1:



If traditionalists want to show they have power they should have used their power to get cure for corona virus. This will remove the need to restrict public gatherings and egungun can do its thing. Science has given us many vaccines which elongate live, which vaccine have these traditionalists given the world? Yeye!

Don't mind them. Covid-19 should be an eye opener but I fear people are just too neck-deep in ignorance. If we survive this period, I pray people will see life differently.

AmazingMOG:
if your end do not come before this year ends no I’m not a man of God

If I be a man of God!

So he needs to die to prove you are a man of god? Haba! Where is the love na! Practice rhe love you preach uncle!

You kids just love being sentimental. The DPO has been sick for a while, he's been hospitalised for weeks. Probably during the masquerade incident. The only thing you guy's cultures and religions bring is fear and deaths. What has religion, culture and traditions done for us at this perilous time? May his good soul R.I.P.

I feel your pain but try to overlook. You did no wrong helping out. For her small mind now, she's wise. I'm sure the husband will feel more stupid when he finds out the source of his birthday fund. Let it slide baba.

oyatz:
One of my course mates in the University called Shola used to be a member of our church when I was attending RCCG in 100L.

Some years later, I saw him with some Muslim guys coming from a Mosque and I was surprised because I used to see him in church, so I asked him what happened.

He said his dad is a Muslim but the Mum a Christian and their parents gave them freedom to practice both religions and chose the one they like when they become 18 years. It sounded strange to me.

Much later around 2012, two younger siblings (Idowu &, Alaba) of my very close friend wanted to get married.

Alaba got married in the Church of his in-laws. Then, I asked my friend which church will his younger sister get married (expected to be their father's church) and he said 'no church' ,then he said something that really surprised me 'Dad is not a Christian nau. He was born a Muslim but doesn't go to mosques or attend any Muslim programmes.He is neither a Christian also. He is on his own!'

And I have seen their dad, slaughtering a big goat for Christmas before.

No time to bother about religion and ethnicity.

I totally agree with you. Let me buttress your points with my family setting. My Paternal grand dad is christian while my grand mom is a muslim (both are very serious with religion). My dad is indifferent while my mom is a very serious christian. Religion/ethnicity is never an issue in my family and cannot be forced on anyone. My dad is a Yoruba while my Mom is from South South. I stopped going to church at age 13 and became a full blooded atheist at 30. I prefer dating outside Yoruba and it doesn't affect my relationship with any of my siblings nor my parents. Our belief and who we decide to dwell with just doesn't matter. When it comes to politics, we are equally free to choose but I don't see myself supporting another political party when my younger bro is having something strong going on for him with another party. Doing otherwise can be considered as betrayal. I believe that sums up your point on Yoruba In conclusion, I believe each zone should be given equal chances to pursue their dreams.

Something the FG should be doing. They will rather wait till more people gets infected......proactiveness is not in their own dictionary.

Imagine! Hope her father will be relevant in 5years.

Owo jona o

My job once took me to Imeko/Ilara axis of Ogun state which shares border with Benin Republic. Spent over a year there so I can understand OP's plight. My sincere advise for you is to calmly and patiently work on her mindset. The lady you described is harmless, she's just following a belief she was born into. It's something she can outgrow if you broaden her horizon. Sincere women are very scarce bro, be calm.

Stop dodging reality bro. Possibility of her changing is slim, very very slim. You shouldn't have checked her phone to save yourself the heartbreak but now that you have, her response is disgusting and unacceptable. Don't die Young bro, move on if you can and love life

You are not in love sister. You just hurt because you feel he's more than an 'average guy' to you. To me, he's below average. Attitude is everything to me. If he can cheat with his health status then there's more to him you are yet to discover or more you not sharing with us.... Move on.

MizzPhoney:
A work relationship would have sorted this out for you bro. I don't have friends when it comes to business and my job. You borrow money from me, you pay it. You buy something you still pay for it. If I can lend my man money and he will pay me and same with me paying him back, I don't see how a mere colleague will be an issue. Please tell us the true story. Because it seems to me like you started something you couldn't finish.

Emi Ika? Honestly, I don't have nada with her. Striker like me!? I won't even complain if that's the issue. I honestly don't need spend to bed her type. Flashing is stuffs is enough.

Sheisenough:



I understand your condition. It's a simple equation. First what's your relationship with the lady at the office? Do you need to stay in touch with her all the time?

IF NOT, BLOCK HER EVERYWHERE. This one that you are saying your oga has two wires in her brain. Chances of it going in your favour ARE SLIM. Cut off all contacts with the lady when she sees you are not joking anymore she will mellow.

I won't call you a wuss because you have been able to stand your ground and not let your dick control you. I trust some guys here every weekend appointment don sure.


FAMILIARITY BREEDS NONSENSE AND DISRESPECT.

I swear with everything in me we don't have any communication aside hi hi at work. I don't pick her calls nor chat her. She's blocked everywhere even FB. She reported me sef that my number don't go through when she calls but others don't have same issue. Told her I'm pissed with her kind of person and she still shamelessly begged me.

Gaggi:
When it comes to women, I don't play. I don't do familiarity. They call me all sort of names behind my back but I don't care. My policy then was, you are either a girlfriend or a bedmate or we ain't friends, just hello and hi. I know they are nice girls out there but most want to exploit and so I just stay at arms length. .

If you want to earn respect, put your foot down henceforth and learn to say no. Nigerians don't appreciate nice guys. Play play dey cause see finish.

This one na parasite, ones you get small money eh...she go dey all over you. Insult her, abuse her mother, slap her father....she go still tell you sorry. All she ever thinks of is getting married to a rich man. Especially when you mention abroad. Haaaa ....she no wan know if na Afghanistan, she go begin worship you.

Amakavula:
You should stand your ground and ask for your money back, not sex or hanging but just your money.your are too soft for my liking.

I wish say I soft sha. Person wey I go shout for and give attitude till everyone in the office feels it's because I've had sex with her. I scolded her on a particular day and even told her in the presence of everyone in the office that she's not my spec and can't have shits with her just to get her angry and call my bluff but na lie o...she greeted me the next morning and smiled that I'm too hard on her. I just weak...she no just get shame ni

donstan18:
Spending a dime on a woman who is not your mother, daughter, sister or wife is a total WASTE!!

You don't do that, if you are a careful and wise spender.

In my opinion, keep "gentleman" aside, follow her aggressively with threats. Make her hate you, that's the only way that money will come out.

Women are scared of who they hate.

No be say I get sense like that but this babe no get single shame. Give her attitude, ignore her, scream at her over lil mistakes and she will still greet with smile the next morning.