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Sheisenough:
I understand your condition. It's a simple equation. First what's your relationship with the lady at the office? Do you need to stay in touch with her all the time?

IF NOT, BLOCK HER EVERYWHERE. This one that you are saying your oga has two wires in her brain. Chances of it going in your favour ARE SLIM. Cut off all contacts with the lady when she sees you are not joking anymore she will mellow.

I won't call you a wuss because you have been able to stand your ground and not let your dick control you. I trust some guys here every weekend appointment don sure.


FAMILIARITY BREEDS NONSENSE AND DISRESPECT.

I swear with everything in me we don't have any communication aside hi hi at work. I don't pick her calls nor chat her. She's blocked everywhere even FB. She reported me sef that my number don't go through when she calls but others don't have same issue. Told her I'm pissed with her kind of person and she still shamelessly begged me.

Gaggi:
When it comes to women, I don't play. I don't do familiarity. They call me all sort of names behind my back but I don't care. My policy then was, you are either a girlfriend or a bedmate or we ain't friends, just hello and hi. I know they are nice girls out there but most want to exploit and so I just stay at arms length. .

If you want to earn respect, put your foot down henceforth and learn to say no. Nigerians don't appreciate nice guys. Play play dey cause see finish.

This one na parasite, ones you get small money eh...she go dey all over you. Insult her, abuse her mother, slap her father....she go still tell you sorry. All she ever thinks of is getting married to a rich man. Especially when you mention abroad. Haaaa ....she no wan know if na Afghanistan, she go begin worship you.

Amakavula:
You should stand your ground and ask for your money back, not sex or hanging but just your money.your are too soft for my liking.

I wish say I soft sha. Person wey I go shout for and give attitude till everyone in the office feels it's because I've had sex with her. I scolded her on a particular day and even told her in the presence of everyone in the office that she's not my spec and can't have shits with her just to get her angry and call my bluff but na lie o...she greeted me the next morning and smiled that I'm too hard on her. I just weak...she no just get shame ni

donstan18:
Spending a dime on a woman who is not your mother, daughter, sister or wife is a total WASTE!!

You don't do that, if you are a careful and wise spender.

In my opinion, keep "gentleman" aside, follow her aggressively with threats. Make her hate you, that's the only way that money will come out.

Women are scared of who they hate.

No be say I get sense like that but this babe no get single shame. Give her attitude, ignore her, scream at her over lil mistakes and she will still greet with smile the next morning.

This is not a thread for gender bashing except there's a need to make ladies a bit reasonable. Pardon my English too, I'm just a regular Oshodi breed not a Cambridge grad
Ok! The thing is ... I was transferred from Lagos to my company's branch in Abuja last year. After reporting and waiting to get my departmental posting, I assisted a lady who equally works there in fixing a work-related problem, she was elated and asked if I can work in her section which I accepted. Her name is Christina (pseudonym). She's a junior colleague but the sectional head is a woman too and her personal instructor in women related affairs. She convinced her sectional head and I was accepted. Permit me to give you a brief description of my now sectional head. She's a beautiful woman in her mid-forties, never married, very rude, let's just say she's everything bad in women of her age with fat account to boast of (awon feminist, men-are-scum-screw... ) We call her Madam. Two months after working in the office and settling gradually, Christina approached me for a sum of money which I declined but it was evident I have it and the pestering was becoming too much including emotional sighs and all. I decided to borrow her with agreement of her paying back after salary, I even agreed she splits the sum into two so she can be able to pay comfortably for two months. A week after, she told me she's free for the weekend and won't mind spending it in my new apartment. As Lagos boy now I declined and told her I'll be busy. This babe almost drained my battery with calls throughout the weekend till I switched off my phone. Firstly, I knew right there that getting my money back will be an impossible task and secondly like some guys will expect, do the do in other not to loss in two ways but I've outgrown that part in life. Amorous affairs have cost me the best parts of my youth and the damages of being ladies dream guy robbed me of personal development. So exchanging money for kpekus was totally out of it! We met at work the following Monday and it was rants upon rants but I told her I wasn't with my phone. This same scenario played out for two more weeks before month end but I stood my ground. So the D-Day came! Salary got paid I reminded her of my money and she said and I quote "how many times I dey call you for weekend wey you no dey pick my calls, I no know which money you dey talk". With confidence o. I just froze. I kept it to myself and never mentioned it and she equally acted like nothing happened though I was pained. Last December, I was to deliver an i-watch to a customer (personal hustle) so I came with different colors and series. She saw it and was even advertising. I sold 4 in the process and she took one too and promised to pay by month end just like everyone. Now the problem is....after I dodged her during the last Xmas holidays, she's back with stories of not having money to pay now that I should wait till another month end. I honestly wish I can report her but Madam na 2-way traffic. It's either she blows things out of proportion or tell me to forget it as a 'big boy' and that will be the end of it. I'm just so so angry but confused. Now she's reminding me of Val on hourly basis like it's significant to my life. I've heard so much about Owerri babes but this one just confirmed the ills peeps say about them. I'm trying to be a gentleman but e dey hard me ....Responsible ladies and gentlemen....how'd you handle situations like this? Don't abuse me o...I have headache already

Just be hopeful but I wasn't fortunate when I tried same with a female colleague last year April. She begged and begged that she will refund when salary gets paid only for her to keep pestering me about coming to spend a weekend with me which I stylishly declined. When month end, she said and I quote 'how many times I dey call you for weekend wey you no dey pick my calls, I no know which money you dey talk'. Being newly transferred to the office, I just swallow am to avoid dramas. So bro ...ready to forget if she comes up with stories.

Tallesty1:
I think the GoodNews Bible (image below) contains these books and they're called the deuterocanonical books.

Thanks bro. Can you help with the soft copy?

Religiously blinded people will soon start shitting out their myopic reasonings. Come up with facts to counter the OP or just read, try to understand and ask sensible questions where necessary.

Please tell your dad first thing in the morning. Let him handle the rest.

Are there really men like this? Or I'm just the only one finding this impossible? Haba!

Ogilinsaka:
She's married and happy and obviously playing with your spirit man. Wake up bro!

Don't mind OP. She's just using him to feel attractive.

From your write up, I can deduce where she's from and her background which I know very well. My brother, just overlook her and the baby for now, you can send money for your kid sake but forget any good coming out from her. Once you come across a family where the mom or dad patronizes this wolis and alfas, just run for your dear life. Same Alfa/Woli will give them stuffs to attract a husband and still give them other substance to make them find a better catch for more financial gains. Stop consulting Alfas and Wolis too...they will ruin you.

Kids everywhere

Aunty with the sauce

Shibaraba:
I don't cheat, but I don't think you can ever catch me if I did. As in girlfriend come meet punna for my house. Ogbeni na lie be this one. I Don see men Wey control 4 babes, still lash them that same day and them no meet.
This one just wan talk

Legend Except na discharge strategy

Smartchoiice:
Fvck mates? The only thing she understands.

Haba bro!

Maynation Lets be friends, just friends

Lol..u never see anything. Gave a lady a lift and we got talking. She was even the one that suggested we exchange number when she was about alighting. She called during the day to check on me and later called towards evening that I should pick her on my way home. I was surprised and asked her how she's sure we taking same routes home and she said we stay around each other. Me I just played along till my colleague told me I'm about entering one chance as Abuja girls will turn me to a driver pretty soon. I just ignored her and went home. By 9:25pm, I heard a knock on my door. Initially, I didn't bother cos I wasn't expecting anyone but the knocks increased. I quickly went out and saw the lady dressed in a nightie and holding a folded wrapper. I was surprised like how did she know where I stay and she said she stays close and have been seeing me but knew my apartment cos the position my car was parked. I just told her it's to late that I need to sleep, she tried persuading me to at least let her in but I insisted that she needs go home. Na so I dodge bullet. Later got to realize she stays just few house from mine. I didn't grow in Lagos for nothing...make I still come enter one chance unto kini level ...no be me same street for that matter

Romanoff:
E be like say OP just dey enter Abuja for the first time.

Don't mind the OP. He's on something strong

maynation:
Stay strong my dear, help is coming soon.

Yinmu....

maynation:
Impressed for the first time?
I hope you ain't suffering from depression?

Uncouth as expected

maynation:
OP has broken rule 17.

Impressed.....for the 1st time

Onyi22:
Where is the beauty?

Open eyes na.... ma'am

ultimate77:
what is the difference between 30 & 29¿

Reality!

Lagos to Akwa-Ibom and Calabar Lost count of times I've embarked on such journey. All in the name of moving the ministry forward

Gina2019:
Lol. I am in Abj.

Virgin in AbJ.....just passing anyway

Auntyesther:
Without much hesitation, I am convinced that this the lady that collected my ass from angel gabriel and left me all flat and bony

Some of us prefer it portable

Can I have her please.

SlimyJ:
Haa
No8??
una do well bro

it is well o

Babe...e no easy like that now o. Philandering is now very expensive. Left that to fuckbois

SlimyJ:
The only issue we had was in October,a lady has been frequently tagging only him on his Facebook wall,I jokingly ask him who that lady was,cause to me I believe if I don't know you better I can't be tagging only you,he said she is his ex girlfriend and I sparked up that why would his ex girlfriend still be tagging him ,he was very angry that he said the Facebook account belongs to him and anybody can tag him on any post. I was so annoyed that I changed my phone password from the one he knows,and anytime he wants to access my phone I do tell him that it also belongs to me,since then I stayed off his social media activities cause I don't want to appear too jealous..

Chai! Things we guys do eehh..but women too do same anyway. Just get busy..get a chat buddy...not Bleep buddy o. Don't allow yourself get used o. You'll be fine. This reminds me of a corper I dated years back, we were cool and she was even begging me to cement the relationship so she can stay. I told her to at least go back and spend a month with her peeps b4 thinking of coming back. You wont believe I saw her wedding pictures on FB 2weeks after. I just congratulated her and laughed it off cos she's like No.8 on my list. But your own case weak me I swear..Be fine please

SlimyJ:
yes, that exactly hurts me most,he just got himself a comfortable sit in my life and started wasting my time

Are you sure you guys never had any quarell in the past that bothers on trust? He might say he's forgiven you but left you to date yourself. Just thinking from a guys perspective..m

A church-going lady alone is a turn off to me, not to talk of 'seeing her pastor or nothing'. Abeg that one never ready to settle down.