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GodnGold:
Op,pls don't write this type of thing again.

Why? Please Educate me.

yvelchstores:
A man will read this n think to himself, " this is how my silly wife is" then goes home and gets angry at her for no reason causing a fight. Op, this thread, what effect will this thread have on relationships?

Are you insinuating that Men Dont know what they have or what they want? The thread if you read through the line's ain't for everyone but for people who have contentious women. How will a man go home, get angry for no reason and start a fight? But in our words if he says this is how my silly wife is then she must be a contentious woman.

[quote author=postmann post=44080469]A contentious woman is a sand in the mill.
She lacks grace and style
A pack of grudge and unresolved bitterness plague her
Her home is a heap of mess
Her husband prefers the cold hands of a stranger to hers

She's incorruptible; until she takes her husband down, her soul knows no let up
Never be jealous of her if she's outwardly beautiful
She's only a painted mud house
Her foundation is shallow
Watch her wrinkle away in anger
As she perishes under the weight of her own misery [/

You got a talent for poetry and philosopy

Friend you just have to live with what you have, its not going to get better until you decide to manage your problems, the honest mistake of ignoring the red flags before marriage has been done so what you have left is HOW TO LIVE WITH HER ISSUES.
work hard s you do, get a maid/steward to help you do somethings, if you can afford it, open a shop eg food stuff biz for her to keep her busy, then travel alot if your business allows that and clear your mind. if you leave this relationship, there is no guarantee the next one will be awesome.

Dyt:
He's a saint na
A very white one at that, no single stain
All he wrote had proven that black woman is just being a typical Nigerian woman

He even sounds egoistic and proud
I can imagine him telling his wife to behave or he brings in another wife


#dunno what's wrong with me these days sha, aproko woman

i already know how your home is like, you have actually heard those words from ur hubby too.

If you you give her little trouble …….. It's gonn be exponential

dangotesmummy:
Mr narcissist I have spoken and I am NOT sorry for anything I wrote. Get help before you die depressed wimp!

No need to comment further. Accept my sympathy

dangotesmummy:
Finally before I leave this smelling NARCISSIST ic thread for those that end up their lives with things like op aka a sorry excuse for a man

I had welcomed your concerns earlier on and its well received. kindly note that i consider this forum very educative hence the need to reason in constructive equilibrium to avoid extremes.
while calling out this idea a narcissist one please note that there is healthy narcissism which makes every individual to appreciate him/herself.
kindly ensure you get yourself diagnosed of BDP [ Borderline personality disorder] as its symptoms are in every statement you just made. thank me later

pacino26:
The day you willingly take that leap and wait for her by the altar, just know she's coming with all the pre-programed junk you can think of.

God created man and rested but after eve, neither God nor man has known rest.

There's no formula!

Pacino, how is lawnshe?

While I agree this information is very educative, I have always wondered how mods choose topics that should make front page.
I am a learner on nairaland but I have seen comments from users who wonder why snakes and stuff like that make FP while matters of importance miss front page.
Pls Seun and moderators I am not against you but I will love to be educated on how threads make FP so that myself and the likes of me Dont ask such questions anymore.

Tallesty1:
Naija chick will bite your lips.

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You are right bro but u just have to do all that yo can do to stand before you are labeled a woman beater. These chicks watch romance movies and try to recreate it without localizing it.

Tallesty1:
At least twice? I disagree.

A perfect gentleman is the one who knows when not to be gentle.

Hit me once and I will reset your head.

Brother pls Dont act too fast. Oyibo movies have scenes where they guy grabs the chick during the first beating and kiss her. It may work.

Dyt:

You are pained abi

Can't be pained over nothing, just making sure u understood your post

Dyt:
You men like mumu submissions
Hianus

Just the way you women like mumu attention, mumu care, mumu die for me love.

Dyt:
And how does she live with his problems?

My dear, I must admit we all have issues but she can live with his problems by not trying to change him as he will never change under the pressure of nagging but under the weapon of stooping to conquer in submission.
She can NEVER win fighting.

I have read many threads and comments here about avoiding errors in making choices of your spouce hence this my first thread on how those who now live with a contentious and nagging wife can survive.

Once the knot is tied and the butterflies fly away and reality sets in , its now time to take the bull by he horn and survive or DIE.
Note- these women have good intentions for being contentious women. They are protecting their man. Wants him to come back home straight from the office, to always look away when he sees a beautiful woman, calls and calls to know where you are and still calls even after a million explanations until you can't take the call again, try to stop you from hanging out with friends over a bottle of beer, try to correct everything they perceive as an error you made, goes the extreme with you as in- why call consistently when i have told you what's up, then you hear OK I will NEVER call again. Ahhh the list is endless.

The typical Naija man is a hardworking hustler who doesn't want to be slowed down with the rules to make a woman happy while he withdraws into a shell.

1. Never keep pleasing her to displease yourselves- if you keep playing by her rules she will still complain.
2. Never neglect your network of friends especially guys you discuss business with just because she doesn't like them.
3. Never raise your hands on her except she has beaten you atleast twice- ie. Her first beating could be a mistake, second beating, she has anger issues, if she tries to repeat it, Brother deliver her but carefully so you Dont give marks or injury for she still remains your wife.
4. Provide all you can but never get into debt to please her.
5. You can never talk sense into a contentious woman if you try you hurt both yourselves more so resort to short syllabus words- Love you, thank you, excuse me, fine, etc.
She will never stop checking your phone and will still fine faults even when there is nothing there so always lock yours and never look at hers.
6. She will manipulate to into jealousy- Never give into any kind of manipulation no matter how it hurts.
7. Ignore her rantings and concentrate on raising your kids.

8. Live with your problems, get used to it, and you will walk through victorious where others have failed.
9. Always remember that the man who contends with more problems/ issues and challenges is always a better man.

Name callers are welcome- constructive critisiam is well come above all matured experienced contributions very welcomed.

Mrkingzz:
I took this picture when i was running to get shelter inside UNIZIK, i promised to share this with Nairalanders, he is a student of Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka, He hid inside a tunnel just to hide from rain, is he wise? Lol, really so funny .


http://www.9jamasses.com/2016/03/see-extend-this-guy-went-just-to-hide.html

OP that ain't a tunnel. Its a ring and can be used in making a tunnel.

tuscani:
I tot we dealt with this topic before. well this is my response again

Almost all the posts here are saying similar thing. if you really love this woman, take her for anger management/ therapy first. I have a guy now who is wishing that only if he knew about nairaland before getting married. You case will be more pathetic because you have been warned by your peers. After marriage you will soon realised that Love is not only the ingredient required to sustain a marriage.

THE ANGER OF A WOMAN

What is a contentious woman? One that likes to contend – who likes to argue, criticize, disagree, fight, oppose, or question. She is full of questions, reminders, and suggestions – all to help, of course. Rather than dote on you, she will nag; rather than sweetly agree, she will question and suggest alternatives , she is critical, moody, opinionated, or questioning– until you wish you were single in the woods.

The odious woman cannot smell herself. She thinks she is helpful by prodding, asking questions, stressing over details, giving reminders, expecting perfection, or disliking a choice. If you were to ask her, she would say she is a good woman and wife

What is an angry woman? She cannot rule her spirit and likes to fight. She is easily angered, dissatisfied, irritated, negative, or resentful. She can find something negative about any event, and she frets and talks most about that. She is not satisfied. She is hardly ever content, seldom your sweet lover, but always irritated and stressed out.

You are sure a psychologist by experience. The best description ever of women that men can never live with. They are really good women from the outside trying to make things work but in reality they are sending their spouse to the corner of the roof top, the wilderness or another woman's arms and they later start asking " what have I done wrong? How haven't I tried to make this relationship work?

I am black and proud but I have always told people that blacks got issues.

Copying technology has been an almost impossible feat for the black race. Dont argue that we have the best this and the best that, as long as they cannot create whatever they do in diaspora in Africa then its nothing. How can the consumption mentality stop and we start thinking about projecting into the future to secure a working system for our children and children's children.
We need a mental revolution out of the slavery of superstition and canning all we get.

Democracy of stunts and imitations.
Pls Oga senators propose bills to change the lives of Nigerians and your constituency.

What is this group all about and what exactly are they asking for and who are they speaking for? They only spoke for themselves for recognition. Naija a political degenerated Country

Brother DO NOT ignore any RED FLAG of anykind that you cannot live with. Nothing will change! People rarely change, there is a man somewhere who can contain that anger perfectly, let her find peace with su h a man. As for you never try to manage an attitude/ Character hoping it will change with time when married, brother it only gets worse.
Let him who has ears hear what the spirit says.

There is so much grammer in this world to either blame or console you. Please note that nothing is right or wrong here but different schools of thought expressing what they feel is right and the truth be told , thee is no formula to get things right.

This is about the 3rd/4th generation of Nigerians who have polygamous parents or grand parents. Ever wondered how they lived peacefully without all the stress the today man experiences in a monotonous family?.

I respect your courage in trying to seek for solutions as 80% of men have same issues and are very shy to admit it.
Men cheat and men get caught and women decide to male the home hell for the men.
Solution- remove your mind from the love contraction and concentrate on making more money. Convert all energies spent on worry, love and sex into aggression to expand your business. Apply the principle of love transmutation and In s short while you will be KING of your house hold again.
If you were a Dangote, an Otedola or an Adenuga, your wife will only express her dissatisfaction concerning the cheating and a simple baby I am sorry it will not happen again and remember you are the best would take care of the situation.

The truth is that she will never really forgive you but she can be all over you when you got stuff nobody else can give. Keep getting rich again and again and that's it.

Idrico:
What happened when PDP rigged for Wike?

Truly I cant imagine that you guys posts such even seeing that its obvious that the country is nose diving.
How much are you paid for such treachery?

How is democracy a government of the people, by the people and for the people and the people allowed this and still allow it and are still not ready to do anything?
I thank God for all that is happening as it is a learning process.
One day the people will come to the realization that this power actually is in their hands and they will ensure public office holders are accountable for their stewardship.
wake up now people of Osun or remain slaves in your own land by your own making.

A government is meant to take care of the needs of the citizenry especially the down trodden.
what i want to see in this country is a working plan and efforts that will bring results.
what we have today is still strange to me. while driving home my mp3 player entered the fela thread and my dear i was listening to stuff that happened in the 80s as current music.
may god help us get out of backwardness and fly us into the future.

Saraki may be a very big thief but if the case against him is falsification of assets an using state funds to pay for personal loan then lets think again.
How man politicians in power have not falsified their assets declaration?
The dossiers against other persons are kept for a time when you must play ball or go down.
How can we wash a thief clean before we send him to catch other thieves?
when will Nigerians come down from this merry go round trip and say "Enough id Enough".
until we wake up and take our destinies in our hands to create a better Nigeria for ourselves and our children, these Old fools woll just be making useless news for us while we just read and comment.

lets start acting NOW.

I have always wondered what is wrong with our women. The sorry level of jealousy they exhibit these days is getting out of hand.
they bleep up and down any yet they want to tie a guy to their sorry lives. if you are a good woman, even when a man cheats on you, your reaction will make him never try that ever again coz of the discovery of being a godly woman. if you keep revenging, you will only be digging a pit you will fall into. i wonder if women in polygamous homes go for such revenge mission.
please can somebody tell those wicked women to stop killing our men coz if they continue these species will be extinct and bestiality will be all they have left.

Not supporting the guy though. but wetin that woman find go for phone? submit your own phone for check............

Padi padi government.
One Christian and one moslem
Any where the Christian dey rain Na best friend to Bishop Na em be director.
Any where the Moslems dem dey reign Na Senior Alhaji Na em be Director.
Animals in human skin putting on ties and wearing Agbada.
You are probing immigration fraud and u are doing the same thing. Will EFCC ever probe this government when they leave power?

There is still hope in Nigeria via the Judiciary.

mooremedia:
Bottom line
Ladies password your phone
Rip to d dead

Do you think such a guy wouldn't kill her for passwording the phone?

Dikko Umaru-- Umaru Dikko Na paddy paddy government we dey ooo.