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If the tables turned and you were the one going to his house, will he stop you from visiting?
If you have food, give him to eat and if not let him know your situation. But do not stop him from visiting, you might need his help in future.

It is not an ordinary case, that is a spiritual issue and he needs serious deliverance to be free.

quote author=Augustwife post=113047298]I had to open a new moniker so I can rant in peace. My head is full, so it's going to be a long post .

I got married to the love of my life 2017 (we started dating 2009) and we have two wonderful children.
He loves me (I know for sure), doesn't cheat too and my in-laws are the most wonderful people on earth ( my mil especially).

We have a joint business but the bad part :he is addicted to alcohol.

He wasn't like this before we got married, he used to drink occasionally so I can't really tell how we got here.

It's so bad that he can't go a day without it. Once he can't lay his hands on alcohol he will begin to shiver like a malaria patient.

This addiction has gotten us into debts that I had to pay with my savings on several occasions.

I'm talking of debts of 120k, 167k, 136k e.t.c. He's takes several loans from loan sharks , drinks like no tomorrow.

He has wrecked ourbbusiness and only with the help of God was I able to rebuild It by taking loans and paying back.

We even decided he gets a job so he can be more responsible but after working for a year he had nothing to show for it.

Twice his parents had to take him to a therapist but it was all in vain as he would go back to drinking.

My head is scattered,I can't think straight, it's making me hate him. I tried leaving a few weeks ago , I went back to my mother's house but trust my mama, she begged me to go back and my mother in-law too.

I don't even know what to do, my mental life is zero, I have withdrawn from everyone, I'm practically in poverty due to this addiction
He is a wonderful man BUT this addiction is a very big problem. We have prayed, fasted, gone to doctors but it's still there.

I don't know what to do .[/quote]

Our people have a saying ''what you do not know is more than you''. The issue of spirit husband and wife is very real, my pastor and his wife conducts deliverance for such people every time. The thing is once God opens their eyes to see that you have such spirit, you will never leave the church hall that day until your deliverance is completed. I have seen raw manifestations of children, girls, women, manifesting and in acrobatic display as the spirits in them is being commanded to get out and they usually get their freedom. Please if you have such a problem, the flier is attached, for a program coming up in May 19th - 21st 2022 tagged ''Night of Settlement'', whether you are in Lagos or outside the state, come and see the power of God in action. Everything is free of charge, they are not after your money but for you to get solutions to your problems in any area of your life and that is why it is called solution ground.
I tell you the truth, since I joined this ministry, things have changed for better. Just come from wherever you are and God will give you freedom, salvation and wonderful testimonies.
The address and contacts are on the flier, you can call the number at any time.

Oyinmiebiagric:
I only got the ones I felt were important to me, besides I don't think I'll ever need them again.

Now that makes perfect sense

I have been patiently reading your story; wrong choice of friends or association, bad decision, ignorance, youthful exuberance and the consequences. In all, God has a plan for you, that is why He kept you alive. You can only find peace and fulfil that purpose when you find Jesus and surrender totally to Him. The marks and the covenant you had with the cult has to be broken by the Blood of Jesus, a new mark of Christ will then be placed on you like it was in the life of Apostle Paul. That is when you will be able to breath fresh air and have the peace that the world can not give.

I have one question though; where you able to get back your original documents? How about you get a good job opportunity now, what academic qualification will you present?

Shallom!

There is nothing God cannot do, she needs deliverance. If you are in Lagos, just send me a DM. I will tell you what to do.

Congratulations!
You can query them and copy the appropriate authorities, if they do not respond then remind them in the email trail and they will have no choice than to respond.

Why do they act surprised when a guy proposes? What do you expect after dating for some years? May we not waste our time with people who have nothing to do in our life and destiny. There should be a purpose for dating or relationship, if not it is better to be single.

You have to find a Bible believing church for prayers and deliverance. It is a spiritual attack to frustrate you from having a life partner. Some people might think it is a joke, but the spiritual controls the physical and there are many hidden things we don't know which only God can reveal.

It is your composition and choice of words that made her uninterested. There is a way you will chat with someone, they will want to talk with you more.

Find out how much interest has accrued, the default charges then do the math and tell them to restructure the total balance according to your current economic capacity or cashflow. Even if they take you to court or police station, you will be asked to state how you intend to pay down the loan. So you take the step to ask them to do a loan restructuring, so that you will be able to clear it.

It is not normal for the dead and living to be relating in dreams, that is the activity of familiar spirits. You have to pray against the occurrence because when it keeps happening, it will have a spiritual implication that will affect you.

My dear don't be carried away by your emotions; saying he loves you and yet beat and insult you, he is not good for you. He will not change as they tell you and when the marriage becomes hell those people encouraging you now won't be there. It is better you save your self the stress now and wait for the right person. Never think a man is doing you a favour by marrying you, rather you are the one doing him a favour. A man who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord as the scripture says, so anyone treating you like trash now when he is still asking for your hand in marriage is not your man.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

ImaIma1:
Many people debate on dis issue a lot. for some its ok but for some others its like "are u kidding me? No sex?!! so seriously what do u guys think about a relationship wit no sex?

Based on biblical injunction, a Christian can not be involved in sex before marriage, it may seem old fashioned but what God says is the best and for our own good!

iamadonis2:
My Girlfriend still reaches out to her Ex Boyfriend for financial assistance. I admit it gets me really upset.

I want the best for her and want her to grow financially, but I feel help from an Ex is going too far and quite disrespectful.

Please advise, guys, is my anger justified and reasonable?

I wonder why you guys give yourselves unnecessary stress over a woman who is not yet your wife. Keep your money, develop yourself and save it for your future.

*ENCOURAGING THE ENCOURAGER*
I remember brother J today. Everyone knew him in the church we attended many years ago. He was an encourager.
If he knew of someone with a need, he wouldn't rest until he met it or until he got someone who could.
He wasn't a pastor, but most people thought he was. He visited. He counseled. He prayed for people.
No one could miss church two weeks in a row without having brother J visit him.
He was one smiling, energetic brother who was always smiling and available. He didn't seem to have a care in the world.
As busy as he always was in helping people, I never heard him complain about anyone. I had seen him respond to the most abrasive insults with good natured jokes and sweet laughter.
I returned from a trip and noticed that brother J wasn't in church. I asked some of his 'friends' why, and they couldn't give me a definite answer.
One said maybe he had travelled to see his family. Another said maybe he was busy doing something important. All I got was maybes, and more maybes from his 'besties.'
I asked some guys who had been helped by brother J, and they couldn't tell me anything useful. Even those in leadership couldn't tell me anything important.
During the week, I decided to look for brother J. It took me two days to find his house. I was terribly shocked. This gracious brother was living in the most inhospitable condition.
A boy showed me his room, the room he used to live in.
Brother J had died four months earlier.
None of his brethren was aware. Not even those he helped.
This gracious brother had fallen on hard times in the past eighteen months and had lost so much. This made him to move to this terrible neighborhood of gangs, living in unsanitary conditions.
He had been asthmatic, but his trials and living conditions seemed to aggravate his ill health.
Brother J was sick, and was in his room for a week. He died in that room.
The boy that took me to his room told me brother J sent him to one of the brothers in his church group at the height of his sicknes. That one said he would tell the others. My investigation revealed that he told a couple of people and they all agreed to visit him sometime. They never did.
His neighbors took his body to the morgue and did what they could to find his extended family members.
Brother J had been quietly forgotten by the people he loved.
I cried.
Brethren, don't ever think that the people around you who seem to be very strong don't need encouragement.
The brethren who neglected brother J were probably good people who took his strength for granted. You know that smooth presumption that makes you think, "I know it's too late and daddy should be home by now, but I am sure he can take care of himself. Let's go to sleep."
They believed brother J was usually fine, and would be fine this time, too.
Encouragers need encouragement. To encourage you, they sometimes have to ignore their own troubles, which may be much bigger than yours.
You may think they are very rich, but they may have issues in their lives that money cannot handle.
You may think they are always happy, but they are only smiling for you. They may be trying to lift you up while they are down.
Those who are strong for others sometimes need someone to be strong for them.
The people you go to when you feel like giving up on life... when you are neck deep in financial or marital challenges, who leave everything to spend hours with you on the phone, pray with you, visit you and nurse your battered confidence back to health...
Your mother, father, brother or pastor may be the strongest person you have ever known. What they have shielded you from hit them hard, and left some marks on them.
You don't know about these because they chose not to tell you.
Sometimes the little errors they commit are due to the pressures on them. You sometimes judge them too harshly because you haven't been where they have been.
I call on you today to encourage your encouragers.
Call them and thank them. Tell them how much you appreciate them. Tell them you have not taken them for granted, and then pray for them.
Some of us are alive today because of those who left their challenges to attend to our troubles.
Do not abandon your brother J. He is probably battling a giant right now that a word from you can help him defeat. Letting him know you care for him may be all he or she needs to hear.
Don't be offended if he seems to have withdrawn from you. He is probably hiding his challenges from you, not wanting to burden you with his troubles.
Encourage your encourager!
# youneedtoknow

hopefulLandlord:
If even a fool has figured it out what's your own excuse?

It means no one in his or her right senses can say God doesn't exist. Looking at your self and the world around you, you should know that there is someone who made it all happen.

hopefulLandlord:
wetin go hit am? a mythical dead Jew who couldn't save himself from ordinary 3 nails yet called himself god? then his 11 idiots he runs around with stole his body and claim he rose on the third day? is it that jew? or is it the mythical Jewish god who doesn't have any problem with slavery as long as you don't enslave his chosen people, the Jews?

Foreign religions should stay in foreign lands especially idiotic religion called Christianity which originated in Israel but the Jews themselves don't believe in
do these Nigerian Christians know that there are far more Muslims and Judaism adherents in Israel than there are Christians?

The religious affiliation of the israeli population as of 2011 was 75.4% Judaism, 16.9% Muslim , 2.1% Christian and 1.7% Druze , with the remaining 4.0% belonging to minor faiths such as Samaritanism, Baha'iism or no religion

these are people whose ancestors lived during the time and saw this Jesus live and die but they don't believe he was dying for them

but a Nigerian read from a book and concluded that 97.9% of the Jews are wrong because logic favours storytelling over experiencing something, Amirite you must know Obasanjo more than the people living with and around him because you read Punch newspapers and check internet for news about him.

The worst part is the book they read and conclude on is a slavery endorsing book handed to their ancestors by their pink skinned slavemasters. a book that didnt even acknowledge your existence; or where in your Jewish mythology book called Bible is it written that Noah left israel, traveled down to the deep jungles of Africa to warn your forefathers of an impending "global" flood?

This socalled pastor is here spreading the stupid and invalid news of Christianity out of ignorance (I presume)

Every Nigerian Christian is either ignorant or endorses self deprecating stupidity

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Ignorance... only a fool says there is no God!

iammolise:
I had this strange dream yesterday; I sat in a king-Like chair... at my right jeff bezos served me groundnut, my left Bill Gates brought me table water, standing behind me dangote massaged my head to make sure I was relaxed, standing next to dangote was otedola who told me jokes to my appeasement and in front of me was Trump on his knees, stretched a basket of fruits for my refreshment.

Please I'm confused, what does this dream mean

You have malaria

Pleasure of a few minutes and all is gone. When the Bible warned against fornication and that anyone who defiled his body destroys himself, people don't understand.

Ronaldo24682:
I felt like sharing so others will learn, this might also create awareness as I feel a lot isn’t done to educate people about the insidious HIV.

I will try to be as brief as possible. Sometime this year I had a fling with a girl, I have always been careful as to use protection when I ever I have sex, unluckily for me my condom broke, I realized this immediately and pulled out, got a new condom and continued, wasn’t up to three weeks or so I fell ill, malaria like symptoms and all, during that same time I started having some hiv symptoms like.

Had to go for a test it came out negative, this was around week 4 or so. Despite this test I knew I was positive, I just had the feeling I was, the doctors and lab attendants were just playing it down, no disrespect but most lab scientists here have really poor knowledge on HIV test kits and all.

IS THERE A COW IN YOUR LIFE.....
Once upon a time, in a faraway land, there lived a Chinese wise man and his disciple. One day during their travels, they saw a hut in the distance. As they approached it, they realized that it was occupied, in spite of its extremely poor condition . In that desolate place where there were no crops and no trees, a man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. At one point, the wise man asked: “This is a very poor place, far away from anything. How do you survive?” “You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going,” said the head of the family. “She gives us milk, some of it we drink and some we turn into cheese. When there is extra, we go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for other types of food. That’s how we survive. ”The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple:“Go back, get the cow, take her to the cliff in front of us, and push her off.” The disciple could not believe what he was hearing. “I cannot do that, master! How can you be so ungrateful? The cow is all they have. If I throw it off the cliff, they will have no way of surviving. Without the cow, they will all die!” The wise man, an elderly Chinese man, took a deep breath and repeated the order:“Go ahead. Push the cow off the cliff.” Though outraged at what he was being asked to do, the disciple had to obey his master. He returned to the hut and quietly led the animal to the edge of the cliff and pushed. The cow fell down the cliff and died.
As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One spring day, the guilt became too much to bear and he left the wise man and returned to that little shack. He wanted to find out what had happened to that family, to help them out, apologize, or somehow make amends. Upon rounding a turn in the road, he could not believe what he was seeing . In place of the poor shack, there was a beautiful house with trees all around.Three good-looking teenagers and two adults sitting happily outside. The heart of the disciple froze. What could have happened to the family? Without a doubt, they must have been starving to death and forced to sell their land and leave. At that moment, the disciple thought they must all be begging on the street corners of some city. He approached the house and asked a man that was passing by, about the whereabouts of the family that had lived there several years before. “You are looking at it,” said the man, pointing to the people outside the house. Unable to believe what he was hearing, the disciple walked through the gate and took a few steps closer when he recognized the man from several years before, only now he was strong and confident, the woman was happy, and the children were now good looking teenagers. He was dumbfounded, and went over to the man and asked: “What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place. There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in such a short time?” The man looked at the disciple, and replied with a smile: “We had a cow that kept us alive. She was all we had. But one day she fell down the cliff and died. To survive, we had to start doing other things, develop skills we didn’t even know we had. And so, because we were forced to come up with new ways of doing things, we are now much better off than before.”
My question is, WHO OR WHAT IS THAT ‘COW’ IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU NEED TO PUSH OFF THE CLIFF? Many a time, we have let our dependence on certain people, things or situation, create a comfort zone and limit us from achieving greater things. Some of us are very ‘cautious’ in nature and it takes us a lot to let go and climb to another level. We may feel terrible at first, but in the end, it will all be worth it. The man explained that they had to develop skills and do other things when their only ‘source of survival was dead’. A times we need to lose that job to realize that we can actually do well in business. Sometimes that business needs to fail, to realize that we can do well in other things. Sometimes a situation in our lives may have to fail for us to realize that we deserve and can get better. Is there a cow in your life that is keeping you miserable? If so, push that cow down the cliff and please do not be tempted to go after it!

THE SEX LIE
Anytime you expose your self or let a man or woman who is not legally married to you see your unclothedness, you loose your value. When you go further to sleep with someone you are not married legally to, you place yourself under a curse.
Yes! Let God open your spiritual eyes to see the damage you do to your soul and destiny because of 3 or 5 minutes sexual pleasure. Many men, women, girls and boys you see today are weapons of mass destruction in the hands of the devil, many are secret agents of Satan sent to destroy souls and alter destinies. They may be very close to you but you don't know who they are, they may be your boyfriend, girl friend, sugar daddy, sugar mummy or toasters but you don't know they have a secret mission to destroy your life, you see them as caring and loving but you loose virtues anytime you have sexual contact with them. Many souls and destinies are crying for deliverance spiritually because of this. Please avoid such life style, if you want sex, marry and focus on your husband and wife - at least that's what Apostle Paul recommended for those whose body keep scratching them.
Please understand this fact, any man or woman who can't wait till after marriage to see your unclothedness or sleep with you is not worth your time or affection or attention. Sex is not love, love is not sex, so it is not a proof of love, don't let anyone deceive you. Flee fornication and adultery because it will destroy your destiny and send you to hell!

WHO IS YOUR HUSBAND? ELKANAH OR ISAAC?
In marriage, my sister, you need to be prayerful. You cannot afford to joke with prayer. Some women can go away with it but it is not every woman that can afford that. It all depends on who your husband is. It depends on whether your husband is an Elkanah or an Isaac.
In case you marry an Elkanah you cannot afford to live a prayerless life. Elkanahs are very religious people but they are not spiritual. They love to do the religious activities that come with fanfare. They are quick to do their offerings or take the communion even though they may not know the spiritual implication of what they do. Every year they will go to Shiloh without miss. Every Sunday they will go to Church but they are not praying people. And so an Elkanah would not pray for himself let alone pray for you and for your needs (physical, spiritual, emotional or psychological). If you finally realized that you need to take your destiny into your own hands and rise up and pray, he would discourage you or even prevent you. He would complain about why you attend prayer meetings. He would tell you it is not necessary. Even if you tell him why you have to pray, he would tell you he should be more valuable to you than any need in your life.
When Hannah could not have a baby and was seriously praying for it, Elkanah asked her in 1Samuel 1:8 that “Why are you crying, Hannah? Why aren’t you eating? Why be down hearted just because you have no children? You have me- isn’t that better than having ten sons?”
If your husband is an Elkanah who thinks that you should not have any other need or priority but rather you should be satisfied because you are married to him then you better be on your knees daily. He does not recognize that you should have a need. Even when he knows your need he would play it down by describing it as JUST. He trivializes your most important need. By the way he talks, you should know that he would not pray about your issue for you. He does not see your need as important. He thinks that he should be the most important thing you ever wanted in this world.
But If you are married to an Isaac, lucky you. You can afford to go to bed and sleep comfortably because an Isaac, unlike an Elkanah, will be on his knees for you. Isaacs are not religious people but very spiritual. They are very sensitive to things of the spirit.
In Genesis 25:21, the Bible says that “Isaac pleaded with the LORD on behalf of his wife, because she was unable to have children, and Rebekah became pregnant with twins”.
An Isaac is an intercessor. An Isaac would recognize your deepest need and will not rest until it is fulfilled. They do not go to Shiloh every year like Elkanahs but they are connected to the Throne of Grace and when they pray, heaven responds with more than you can carry results. His prayers produced twin, the first of its kind in human history then.
Who have you married or who are you planning to marry? Do you know whether he is an Elkanah or an Isaac?
Every woman would be looking forward to marrying an Isaac but in case you marry an ~Elkanah~, be a Hannah, rise and pray.

"... PRE-WEDDING PRAYER RETREATS"

Hello funky believer, please can i talk to you for a minute?

Listen, I know that pre-wedding photos and bridal showers are awesome, I know it creates good memories for the couples and helps them bond intimately. I know how exciting it is to dress up in matching outfits with your spouse to-be and just have fun creating lasting memories with amazing photos and night parties with your gang. It is totally cool, but I just hope you also understand that as believers things are always a lot different for us, we don't just rush into a trend because everybody else is doing it, or because it is cool, what comes first is how much that fashion or trend adds to our christian life, i mean, how spiritually relevant is it to our love walk with God?

Please forgive me if I am sounding like a killjoy, but rather than surround yourself with friends who will dress up in white outfits and take photos with you in a hotel room to post on social media, why don't you keep a small circle of fire-branded friends that can join you in a pre-wedding prayer and fasting retreat, and still stick around to pray for your marriage whenever you need them?

Rather than going out on a bachelor's night party with a gang of friends who will tease you all night about how you'll be getting stuck with one woman for the rest of your life, why don't you have a bachelor's vigil with friends who's prayers and personal walk with God you can trust?

Hope you don't think I am trying to kill all the fun you have been dreaming to have, all I want you to see is how we can turn these exciting worldly interests into our spiritual advantage. When our friends are doing bridal showers, we can do bridal fasting and still have fun. When others are doing bachelor's night, let's do bachelor's vigil instead, is anybody catching this?

Start building up an army of friends you will need on that marriage journey, not the ones that don't have the spiritual capacity to go with you beyond the I DO. Start choosing your WAR FRIENDS carefully, start gathering spiritual guarantors who can stand in the gap for you in the place of prayer.

I encourage everyone to add this to their wedding plans, schedule a pre-wedding prayer retreat with fasting and tarry if your strength can carry, the pre-wedding photos and bridal showers can come later, but first, plan a retreat with your church, or a personal retreat at home with a few close friends whose prayers you can rely on anytime. This is a long term spiritual investment, this is what Sustains the marriage long after the swagger of the bridal showers and bachelor parties has expired, I wish alot of us can learn this.. And if you don't have a few good friends whose prayers you can rely on, then I beg you to start building one now.

"The most important pre-wedding exercise is not the beautification of your wedding, BUT the edification of your marriage.

Hope this speaks to somebody, we are the chosen generation God will boast about!
#confessionsofagoodman #allisonhyacintho

Women like to hang on to the dude who deflower them, that is why she is saying she can't leave him. It's so sad that who she trusted did that to her and the more reason she shouldn't marry him. Such men can even rape their daughters in future.

Richy4:
This sounds to me like a bad scripted movie...

The dude raped u..and u chose to keep it bottled up...

You said u can't leave because u love him... ok

If you don't want to marry him, and the thought of marrying him has not crossed your mind what in God's name where you doing with him for one year?

You can't have all the package at a go dear.. you said he was financially ok, educated, promising.. etc but not God fearing.. I guess you were thinking that you might change him....and he ended up changing u..
If u loved him as u claimed, accept him with all his faults.. don't let any one decide for you whom to be with..

If you don't want him, you should have ended it long time ago.end it.. don't marry him because you were no longer a virgin...that will be suicidal..
A lot of men would still want to be with you not because of your virginity...

Please next time don't go to a man's house when you know that you won't play ball even if he is an angel.. always meet at a public space.. even when you were hugging him, give some room for Jesus between the two of you..

Women like to hang on to the dude who deflower them, they should why she is saying she can't leave him. It's so sad that who she trusted did that to her and the more reason she shouldn't marry him. Such men can even rape their daughters in future.

Richy4:
This sounds to me like a bad scripted movie...

The dude raped u..and u chose to keep it bottled up...

You said u can't leave because u love him... ok

If you don't want to marry him, and the thought of marrying him has not crossed your mind what in God's name where you doing with him for one year?

You can't have all the package at a go dear.. you said he was financially ok, educated, promising.. etc but not God fearing.. I guess you were thinking that you might change him....and he ended up changing u..
If u loved him as u claimed, accept him with all his faults.. don't let any one decide for you whom to be with..

If you don't want him, you should have ended it long time ago.end it.. don't marry him because you were no longer a virgin...that will be suicidal..
A lot of men would still want to be with you not because of your virginity...

Please next time don't go to a man's house when you know that you won't play ball even if he is an angel.. always meet at a public space.. even when you were hugging him, give some room for Jesus between the two of you..

THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE

When younger we make various choices without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.

1. Marrying the wrong person

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

2. The opportunities you did not seize

When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.

3. The bridges you burned

When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.

4. The child you aborted

You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

5. The child you rejected

Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

6. The marriage you destroyed

So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

7. The God you disowned

When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.

8. The body you messed up

You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.

9. The time you wasted

The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.

10. The dreams and talents you shelved

Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to self, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.

11 The name you defamed

When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.

12. The wealth you threw away

Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"

13. The good love that got away

Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"

14 The parents you despised

When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value.
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Is it right for a 33 year old man to be in a love relationship with a 17 years old girl? No sex involved, she will be 18 this year and in her church the rule is that girls must be at most 20 years before they are allowed to be given out in marriage. He intends to marry her but he is still contemplating that she may be too young for him even though she loves him very much, they both love each other.

Please your comments, advice, suggestions, bashing are allowed. A brother needs to have more sense